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(B) Shark Tank’s Kevin Harrington on Building Your Dream Team

August 25, 2020 by Lace Gilger in Influence & Communication, Money & Finance, Career Development

In this episode, we explore the power of mentorship to transform your life with our guest Shark Tank’s Kevin Harrington. 

Kevin Harrington is an entrepreneur, author, an original "shark" from the show Shark Tank, the creator of the infomercial, pioneer of the As Seen on TV brand, and co-founding board member of the Entrepreneur's Organization. His work behind the scenes of business ventures has produced more than $5 billion in global sales, the launch of more than 500 products, and the making of dozens of millionaires. He’s authored and co-authored several popular business books including the most recent Mentor to Millions: Secrets of Success in Business, Relationships, and Beyond.

  • How Kevin went from a kid sitting on his couch to one of the most successful direct to consumer entrepreneurs in the world.

  • How do you finance your business when no one will lend you or give you any money?

  • An easy place to find a mentor - start with asking your advisors, lawyers, bankers, and vendors to help you. 

  • Bring in a retired banker as an advisor to help you raise money for your deals. (Kevin found a retired bank president) 

  • Going from a college dropout with nothing to a $500mm company. 

  • Leapfrogging your biggest challenges. Mentors can be an absolute game-changer. 

  • 2 big breakthrough moments in Kevin’s career

    • Getting in the door at the local cable provider to create and shoot infomercials 

    • Finding a financial mentor to help him raise money

  • How to create the right “dream team” to help you achieve any goal. 

  • A dream team is a shortcut to achieving your goals. 

  • Begin with the end in mind.

  • Creating a billion-dollar asset in 90 days 

  • Ask yourself: who can help you best in what you’re trying to do?

  • Strategy: Source from trade associations and look at thought leaders, industry providers, etc who may be able to be mentors or advisors for you. 

  • Associations, publications, existing relationships, legal advisors, bankers, etc. Leverage your network. There is often huge untapped value sitting in your existing network, you have to tap it and unlock it. 

  • What should you do to be a great mentee?

    • Be the mentors BEST student

    • Execute on the action items that your mentor tells you to execute on

    • Be thankful and appreciative. Show them that you’re thinking of them and you’re thankful

  • “Don’t tell me you don’t have the time when you want some of my time"

  • Homework: Write down the date you would want your mentor by, and the qualifications you want in that mentor. 

  • "Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, vividly believe, and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass."

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General

  • Kevin’s Website and Wiki Page

  • Kevin’s LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter

Media

  • Article directory on Forbes, Medium, and Thrive Global

  • Green Market Report - “Shark Tank Original Kevin Harrington Talks About Joining Cannapreneur” by Debra Borchardt

  • Forbes - “The Original Shark From 'Shark Tank,' Kevin Harrington, Is Ready To Take Pitches Onto the Blockchain” by Andrew Rossow

  • Globe Newswire - Inventor of the Infomercial and Original Shark Tank Investor Kevin Harrington Joins Goldenseed Advisory Board

  • PR Newswire - Shark Tank's Kevin Harrington Partners with Recovery Drink The Plug

  • Crunchbase Profile - Kevin Harrington

  • Yahoo Finance - “Kevin Harrington Joins Cannapreneur Partners as Investor and Strategic Advisor”

  • [Podcast] Influential Person Brand Podcast - How To Produce A Winning Infomercial with Kevin Harrington

  • [Podcast] John Livesay - TSP 098: Shark Tank Pitch Secrets with Kevin Harrington

  • [Podcast] The Dan Lok Show - Kevin Harrington: Entrepreneur’s Journey

  • [Podcast] The Pitch Queen - Top 3 Tips About Financing A Venture from Kevin Harrington from Shark Tank | Episode 077

Videos

  • Kevin’s Youtube Channel

    • How To Find A Mentor For Success in Business (and Life)

  • EdMylett - How to get MORE CLIENTS | Kevin Harrington

  • Grant Cardone - Kevin Harrington and Grant Cardone Talk Mistakes in Business - 10X Growth Con

  • Lewis Howes - Kevin Harrington on Shark Tank, Inventing the Infomercial and Billions in Sales with Lewis Howes

  • TEDxTalks - How to take public the Intellectual Property of YOU ("IPU") | Kevin Harrington | TEDxFultonStreet

    • StarShop CEO going public with curiosity overload | Kevin Harrington | TEDxCincinnati

  • GDS Insights - Kevin Harrington: the three business decisions that made me

Books

  • Amazon Author page - Kevin Harrington

  • Mentor to Millions: Secrets of Success in Business, Relationships, and Beyond by Kevin Harrington and Mark Timm (Release on Sept 22, 2020)

  • Key Person of Influence: The Five-Step Method to become one of the most highly valued and highly paid people in your industry by Kevin Harrington and Daniel Priestley

  • Put a Shark in Your Tank by Kevin Harrington , Brian Harrington , Rob Kosberg , Kevin Hutto, and Brandon Adams

  • [Audiobook] Act Now by Kevin Harrington , Robert Pavlovich , Audible Studios

  • The 100 Best Spare-Time Business Opportunities Today by Kevin Harrington , Mark N. Cohen

Episode Transcript

[00:00:04.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to the Science of Success, the number one evidence-based growth podcast on the internet, bringing the world's top experts right to you. Introducing your hosts, Matt Bodnar and Austin Fabel. 

[00:00:18] MB: Hey, it’s Matt. I’m here in the studio with Austin. We’re excited to bring you another business episode of the Science of Success. We just launched Season 2 of our business episodes. If you want to learn more about what these are and why we're doing them, be sure to check out the Season 2 teaser that we recently released. With that, Austin, tell us a little bit about how these episodes are different than our traditional Science of Success episode.

[00:00:42] AF: Yeah, it’s important to note that you're still going to get all the great contents you've come to know and love from the Science of Success every Thursday. These are bonus episodes with added value, specifically centered around business. We've interviewed some true titans of business and multiple industries from multiple walks of life and what we're going to focus on are the habits, routines and mindsets that made them successful titans that they are today.

That said, these are lessons, routines, stories, best practices that anyone can learn from and apply to their life. You don't have to be a business owner. You can be an employee. You can be a student, or you can, of course, be a business owner. Come check them out. You're going to come away with a ton of valuable takeaways, but we do have a bit of a business focus on these specific business episodes in Season 2.

[00:01:25] MB: With that, let's get into the episode.

[00:01:28] MB: Welcome to the Science of Success, the number one evidence-based growth podcast on the Internet with more than 5 million downloads and listeners in over a 100 countries.

In this episode, we explore the power of mentorship to transform your life with our guest, Shark Tank's Kevin Harrington.

Are you a fan of the show and have you been enjoying the content that we put together for you? If you have, I would love it if you signed up for our e-mail list. We have some amazing content on there, along with a really great free course that we put a ton of time into called How To Create Time for What Matters Most In Your Life. If that sounds exciting and interesting and you want a bunch of other free goodies and giveaways along with that, just go to successpodcast.com. You can sign up right on the homepage. That’s successpodcast.com. Or if you’re on your phone right now, all you have to do is text the word smarter, that’s S-M-A-R-T-E-R to the number 44-222.

In our previous episode, we brought on neuroscience expert, Rick Hanson, to share incredible insights about how your thoughts can change the physical structure of your brain and so much more.

Now, for our interview with Kevin.

[00:02:47] MB: Kevin Harrington is an entrepreneur, author, an original shark from the show Shark Tank, the creator of the Infomercial, pioneer of the As Seen On TV brand and Co-Founding board member of the Entrepreneur’s Organization. His work behind the scenes of business ventures has produced more than 5 billion dollars in global sales and the launch of more than 500 products. He's authored and co-authored several popular business books, including his most recent book, Mentor to Millions: The Secrets of Success in Business, Relationships and Beyond.

Kevin, welcome to the Science of Success.

[00:03:25] KH: Hey, Matt. Great to be here. Thanks for having me.

[00:03:27] MB: Well, I think you have the honor of being the first shark from Shark Tank that we've had on the show.

[00:03:31] KH: I love that. You mean, I beat Mr. Wonderful to the punch?

[00:03:35] MB: That's right.

[00:03:37] KH: He's a funny guy. I always joke, you know why he calls himself Mr. Wonderful? Because nobody else will.

[00:03:44] MB: That's a good one. I like that. Well, that's awesome. Well, we're obviously super excited to have you on. You're a tremendously successful entrepreneur and have done so much and built so many different companies. One of the things that I’m earlier in my career than you are and I think a lot about mentors and who are the mentors in my life? What does it take to find a mentor? How do you even define a mentor? I’m curious, in your journey in your career, have you had any mentors that were really impactful for you personally and helped you really shape your journey?

[00:04:16] KH: Great question. I’ll go back to the earlier days when I was an entrepreneur. It's crazy. When I was in high school, my dad said, start a business. I started a business in driveway ceiling in Cincinnati, Ohio. Then I started a heating and air conditioning company in college. The earned incomes, I had to pay for my own college and room and board and car and insurance. One day, I’m watching TV and I was watching Discovery Channel and it went dark for six hours. When I called the cable company to see what was wrong, they said, “Oh, Discovery's a new channel. It's just an 18-hour a day channel. They don't have a budget for 24 hours.”

That's when I started putting products on Discovery Channel and cutting a deal with them. All of a sudden, the world of infomercials and As Seen On TV was created and took off and boom, boom, boom. In the beginning of all of that, I was a very headstrong entrepreneur. Wanted to do it all myself. Thought I knew everything. We were having success and was a good salesman and all of that. What happened is we were getting all these orders for products. We had the Jack LaLanne Juicer, we had the FoodSaver, we had Ginsu Knives, Tony Little Fitness.

I was having to finance all the inventory. I was going to banks and I was going to investors and couldn't get money. I started thinking, well, what's the problem? I had a 50 million a year company making more than 5 million a year in profits. We were young in startups, so we were still spending money on first-time cost things. I mean, had a nice profitable business, young entrepreneur, doing good, but nobody would touch me for money.

I said to a few people, “I need some help.” I started reaching out. One of my connectors, I believe that we all have potential mentors and in the business I was in, I write checks to accountants, to lawyers, to phone services, to media companies. I said, who do I write checks to and I should be able to call them and ask for advice, because I’m paying them, right? My lawyer said, “You need to get a good fundraiser in there. Maybe somebody that worked in a bank at a high-level, and maybe a retired banker that could help you.”

I was at a Chamber of Commerce meeting back in my hometown and I’m out talking to people going, “Hey, I need to raise money.” Boom, here I am, sitting in front of a retired bank president. He looks at me and says – I give him the story and he said, “So, how much were you trying to raise?” I said, “I’ve been to five banks. I’ve talked to dozens of other investors. Can't get a dime. I’m trying to raise 3 to 5 million dollars.”

We sat and he looked at the business and he looked at it. He said, “I’ll tell you what, I got a deal for you.” He said, “I’m going to raise you the 3 to 5 million. Let's start with 3 maybe.” He said, “I think I can raise it from one of the people that's already turned you down.” He said, “I’m not going to charge you a dime for any of that. There's going to be 3 million dollars sitting in your account and you're going to then come to me and say, “Man, I need this guy to be part of my company.”

I said, “If you can do all of that, we're going to be sitting down and you're going to be part of my company.” Four months later, I had 3 million dollars in the bank. I made him COO of the company and we grew the company to 500 million dollars from there. This was a time for me that I had to seek a financial mentor, because I didn't graduate from college. I dropped out of college, not because I was stupid, okay. I had a 3.85 GPA, but I didn't like school and I was building a business. I had 25 employees my junior year and I said, “But I never had the skill set of business planning and raising capital and all of that.” Make a long story short, that was the first move. It was a great move and ever since, I’ve decided I need mentors in all the areas of my business that I don't have the skill set for.

[00:08:19] MB: Such an incredible story. There's a couple things I want to break down from that. I mean, even just the simplicity of that idea. It's incredible, find a retired banker, or in your case, it was genius to find a bank president, somebody who's already been immersed in that world, who knows people, who has the connections, who speaks the language. What a fantastic way to leapfrog what was one of your biggest challenges.

[00:08:41] KH: Yeah. I love it. That's in other areas of my life. I have probably, I’d say half a dozen mentors and coaches in my life and some of them are free. They don't charge others. I pay. Because at the end of the day, if you've got to get to the right person and they can do amazing things for your business or your life, it's worth cutting a deal to compensate them for the process. Because at the end of the day, I have an attitude of if something's for free when they're available and on their schedule and their game plan, whereas if I can actually cut a deal to have a contract for having somebody in my life and X amount, I mean, I’m a mentor to dozens of companies. I sign deals, in some cases, where I’m going to do X amount of weekly interactions, X amount of quarterly phone calls, personal meetings on an annual basis, etc., etc.

I can share some of the successes I’ve had with some of the companies I’ve mentored if you'd like at some point here, but the bottom line is I have more than finance mentors. I have them in legal and operations and personal finance, investments, etc., etc. Having a mentor can be a game changer. For me, put me into a very successful club of having quite a few business successes. I love it and it and I recommend everybody out there to explore it, if they're in a point in their life where they need it.

[00:10:18] MB: Great advice. I want to back up and get a little tidbit from this story, because it's such a fascinating journey to begin with. How old were you when you pitched Discovery Channel on, selling their empty ad space?

[00:10:29] KH: I was in my 20s. I don't remember the exact year. I’m 63 now, so it was close to 40 years ago. I think I was in my mid-20s.

[00:10:39] MB: Okay. You're in your mid-20s, you're sitting on the couch watching Discovery Channel, how do you one, get in the door, how do you have the credibility to present to them and how did you ultimately position yourself to close that sale?

[00:10:52] KH: Cable first launched back in the early 80s. I ordered their 30-channel package. I go through all 30 channels, CNN, news 24 hours a day. ESPN, sports 24 hours a day. MTV, music 24 hours a day. Discovery Channel was number 30, the 30th channel, nothing on six hours a day. I just called the local cable operator and said, “Hey, there's a problem. I’m not getting Discovery for six hours a day.” They're like, “Oh, it's only an 18-hour a day channel.” On the phone I said, “Well, if I had something to put in there, would you be interested?” They said, “Absolutely. Come on down.” It's just unsold media.

I went down and then I found out that the local cable company was Warner Cable in Cincinnati and this is back in the early 80s. They had a mandate when they signed the contract to provide cable service that they had to put one channel that was a local access channel, that provided access to the local entrepreneurs, restaurants, whoever it might be, to be able to put their – could be high schools who want to show sports. It was a local access rule.

When they're telling me this in the meeting, I’m like, “How does that work?” They said, “Well, we have a big incentive to deal with local entrepreneurs.” I said, “Well, I’m a local entrepreneur and I want to take some of your time.” He said, “You won't believe this deal that I got.” I said, “All right. I want to fill the time.” They said, “With what?” I said, “Let's do some commercials for some products and put them in there.” They said, “Okay. But look, you got six hours. Let's not do one-minute spots. Why don't we make these like TV shows?”

We're talking through this and yeah, I’ll interview people and have products. We'll demonstrate the products and then we'll sell them at the end. That's how it all started. I was the host. The very first deal, I said, “Okay. I want to shoot a 30-minute show.” They said, “Great.” I said, “And I want to run it.” They said, “Well, we have six hours a day. We'll come back to you with a proposal.” I get the proposal a couple days later for $800. They were producing, shooting, editing, producing in their studio, all-in, $800. I thought, “Wow, what a deal that is.” But wait, there's more. They're going to run it 30 times for the same $800, okay. They're going to shoot it and run it.

They're going to give me 900 minutes of air time and all the production for a 30-minute – we didn't call it an infomercial, because that word didn't exist. 30-minute advertising commercial to sell products. We sold for $800, $26,000 worth of goods. That's when my life changed, because I said, “I no longer want to be in the heating and air conditioning business, or whatever I’m doing. I’m now going to be putting things on cable television.” That was the beginning.

Then I went to Discovery National. This was just local in Cincinnati. After I had credibility, the local operator was like, “You have created a new industry here.” I said, “Can I talk to somebody at corporate, cut a deal with corporate?” They gave me six hours a day on Discovery, 365 days a year for a 1,000 bucks a day, $365,000 under a multi-year contract on Discovery Channel. That was doing 20 plus million dollars in annual sales, that block a time. Pretty good investment. Again, $365,000 investment for 20 million dollars in sales.

This was the game changer. This launched the infomercial industry. This was the early days and that's when we started going for all the Billy Mays, Tony Littles, Jack LaLannes, George Foremans, everybody that had a product, we were rocking and rolling. By the way, this was years before Amazon, nine years before Amazon went B2C, many years before QVC ever started. This was the pioneering days, the early days and had a lot of fun creating some great product successes.

[00:15:14] MB: That is insane, the amount – why were the production costs so cheap to film these infomercials and why were the stations, both the local station and Discovery Channel broadly willing to part with that media for such a low cost?

[00:15:27] KH: Because this got down to this push from their ordinance. They had a contract with the city of Cincinnati for an exclusive cable contract, but they had to provide local access on one channel to local entrepreneurs. To this day, this exists still in many of the cable contracts, by the way. I can go into 150 markets around the country and get 30-minute time blocks for a $100 to a $150 across the entire city on local cable access. They were incentivized and they needed good PR, because when cable first hit, there was a lot of bad stuff out in the market about cable and how this and that.

They needed to show the community that they were embracing local entrepreneurs and hey, for me, it was a great thing. I was there featured profiled entrepreneur that they were helping build some amazing stuff through local cable access. It wasn't about making money for them at that point. It was about being good to their agreement with the city to provide assistance to local entrepreneurs.

[00:16:38] MB: Totally makes sense. You had this tremendous opportunity, where you saw something and came across this unsold media that nobody was monetizing, nobody really even understood, and that's in some sense, why it was so cheap for you to then turn around, looking at Discovery Channel, for example, for you to then turn around and pay $300,000 a year and monetize it for 20 million worth of sales.

[00:17:01] KH: Exactly. Let's put it this way, Matt. I know we've been talking about mentors and why people need a mentor. If you get the new book that I have coming out called Mentor to Millions, it talks about how to get a mentor, what to look for in a mentor, also, how to be a good mentee. Because I’ve mentored some people that I did after a session or two, didn't want to have anything to do with them anymore, because they weren't following up on my advice and instructions and just wanting to do it their own way.

This is why I think a good resource guide for people that are in business, that are entrepreneurs, that are seeking some help would be to pick up a copy of Mentor to Millions, because there is where we pretty much lay it all out for you, the how to's of getting the right folks in your camp and being mentors to your business. Plenty of stories to tell along the way here, but it's obviously very powerful if you get – I call it creating the right dream team. If you can do that, which I’ve now been able to do successfully in many situations, it's a long way to success without a dream team.

With a dream team, it's a shortcut, because the people have been there. I’ll just give you one example also. The bank president guy that I brought in, he actually had some exit experience also. I always say, when you're launching a business, you always got a program with the end in mind. What's the end in mind? To have some an exit. In many cases, this is what a lot of people want. It's good to get somebody on your team that knows how to sell a business and knows how to make it happen. That's a powerful way to do it.

[00:18:49] MB: Absolutely. I want to dig into both some of the lessons for how to find mentors and also how you can be a better mentor and be a better mentee. Before we dig into some of those specifics, I’m curious, tell me a little bit about what was another either challenge that you personally faced, where a mentor was really valuable and helpful, or a company or someone that you were mentoring and how you helped them really leapfrog through whatever the major hurdle was that they were dealing with and overcome that problem?

[00:19:21] KH: Was this for one of my own companies, or for somebody else?

[00:19:23] MB: Either one. Whatever you think is going to be more interesting and impactful.

[00:19:27] KH: I’ll give another example of a big challenge we had. Then I’ve got examples of maybe we could do both, but let me start. I built – this business was very successful. We were north of a 100 million in sales. A 100 million in sales, we're doing 2 million a week in sales, 50 weeks a year. We didn't have a lot of cash sitting in the bank, but we had millions of dollars that would turn week-to-week to fund the media and the inventory and things like that.

One Monday morning, most of our sales came from the weekends, because that's when a lot of the unsold media was Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Monday was always a big day. We literally for the weekend, would be sitting on a couple million dollars in sales, generally. That money would hit our account on Monday. One Monday, the CFO came in to me and he's like, “Hey, we got a big problem. The bank did not send us the 2 million this Monday. They're holding it and they're not going to let it go. They're holding it for reserve against returns in our business.” I’m like, “What do you mean they're holding it?” He said, “Well, they cited a clause in our contract with them. We've had some higher returns happening and they're concerned as a bank that they have to give the returns to the people, because they've cashed the credit card and they want an extra 2 million.” They're just going to sit on our money until some future date that they may choose to give it back to us, okay.

Now imagine that. 2 million dollars swept out of your account almost is what it is really technically what happened, because it was sitting in our account. Instead of them sending it to us, they swept it to them. Now I’m sitting on the verge of closing the company down, because that's my operating capital. Now we ended up taking a look at what was happening and where the problem was. What it was, we had 12 products that we’re running on various levels. 95% of our business was solid, but we had one of those products that represented 5% of our company that we were having big defective issues, because the manufacturer had delivered us a bunch of product that had not been quality-assured properly.

Now these people were calling the bank, charging back, asking for their money back. On that particular product, our returns went from a normal 10% up to 30%. It was such a small part of our business, for us, it really didn't affect us, but the bank was getting this onslaught of nasty calls and chargebacks. That's why they instituted this policy. Boom, we're going to grab Kevin's 2 million bucks.

Now I got a mentor. We checked it out. What are we doing wrong? How do we solve this? I brought lawyers in, accountants in all around. Make a long story short, we presented to the bank the fact that just this one product was causing the problems, why put us out of business for this? This is our solution. We want a separate merchant account for every single product, so we can't lose our whole company when we have one apple to spoil the whole bunch. That's what we did. They bought into it. They released 1.6 million and we then gave them an extra 400 grand for reserve, but we were able to survive and live through all of this.

Make a long story short, this was another situation where we needed to come through this in as good of fashion as possible and we did. We survived. We didn't close the company down, but we were close. That was a pretty amazing story. Again, some great advice, some great mentors came in. When you think about it, Matt, I don't know if you've ever been in the product selling business, but you should have a separate merchant account for each product, because things can blow up. This is a high recommendation I have for any entrepreneur out there listening right now, separate in separate silos, so that you can't lose your whole company because of one issue.

[00:23:40] MB: Yeah, that's a great piece of advice. I's amazing. Any business success story, when you look back, there's always a series of moments where it seems like everything was on the line and you had to find a solution and it's never as easy as it looks from the outside.

[00:23:56] KH: Exactly. You said it best.

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[00:24:33] MB: I’d love to quickly hear as well a story of how you were able to with one of the companies that you were mentoring or advising, helped them overcome a big challenge as one of their mentors.

[00:24:43] KH: Okay. This was in the book, Mentor to Millions. It's about a company I got involved with a few years ago called Celsius. Have you ever heard of a company called Celsius? It's a healthy energy drink.

[00:24:56] MB: I have not.

[00:24:57] KH: Okay. Well, a few years ago, nobody had heard of it because it was a startup. I came in as a board member and energy drinks, Red Bull, Monster, etc., they're sold in retail stores. That's where you buy them. I got involved with this company and I said, “Retail. That's great. Yeah, you can go down that path. That's one way to sell.” I’m in the business of direct to the consumer. I said, it would be great if we could start putting direct to the consumer programs in place, influencers, micro-influencers, fitness influencers, celebrities.

I started down that path of creating additional revenue streams for the company. The company was a little public company that had a couple million-dollar value. I joined them at the startup mode, when they were pretty much just getting off the ground, a couple million bucks in assets. We're going retail, but we're also going to be direct to the consumer, which includes Amazon and direct sales.

Now let's fast forward. We built this company. It's taken off. It took off like crazy. Doing well. It grew to over a 100 million and then a 120 million. Then all of a sudden, we got into here we are, COVID hits. We're in May of this year and the stock was around $3 a share. The market value at $3 a share still built the company now to a couple 100 million dollars, okay. We went from literally zero to a couple hundred million by implementing a lot of the ideas that I was just talking about direct to the consumer, as well as retail, influencers. We brought in Flo Rida, Khloé Kardashian, all these little fitness influencers, etc.

Now during COVID, stores were closing and people said, “Wait, I can't get my Celsius.” But wait, there's more. Yes, I can. Because we've implemented all these direct to the consumer channels, we were crushing it on Amazon, etc., etc. The word got out that Celsius was on fire and the stock hit $14 today over a billion dollars in value, went from a couple hundred million to a billion in the last 90 days. I’m not familiar with any other company that's had any turn like that that's unbelievable.

Here I am, one of the co-founders of the early days of this company and of course, I made a few bucks along the way, because we created a billion-dollar asset. You just can't sit and wait. It's not always going to be the same way. You've got to go for it and figure out new ways, think outside the box as I say, direct to the consumer, fitness influencers we're crushing it. We've got a really solid business. It's called Celsius. The symbol is C-E-L-H. Amazing team. They have an amazing board, amazing CEO. John Fieldly had a great CEO that started that was involved with the company for many years. Jerry David.

Look, as I mentor, I’m on boards, I’m never going to sit here and take all the credit for anything. It's always a collaborative effort. A lot of folks had a lot to do with that. I will tell you, the direct-to-the-consumer strategy and that's the business I’ve been in for 40 years, that was the real hook that created a major juggernaut at Celsius.

[00:28:31] MB: That's amazing. That's a pretty rapid amount of value creation and especially during such a turbulent economic time. I want to come back to some of the practical ways to start implementing this. How did you think about and having been in business for so long and been so successful, how do you think about going about finding a mentor? What are the best strategies for finding one? Even maybe zooming out a little bit, what exactly is a mentor? I mean, as a mentor someone who you have coffee with once a week? Is it somebody who you speak to once a year? Is it somebody who gives you one piece of advice one time? How do you think about what a mentor is and then how do you really think about the best strategies for actually cultivating and finding and building relationships with them?

[00:29:12] KH: Great question. By the way, this is all discussed in our book, Mentor to Millions. Anyone that is listening can hear my response, but they also have a chance to go get the real detailed process in the book. Bottom line is this, it's all of the above, Matt. It might be a one-shot deal. It all depends on what you need and what the mentor is looking for.

I have a gentleman I’m mentoring right now, for example. His name is – I’ll think about in just a second here. Been mentoring him for about eight months now. An amazing guy. His name is Matt George. He runs Children's Place in Peoria, Illinois. It's a home for homeless children. They feed and house 1,800 children on a monthly basis that go through the doors there. They have a massive budget.

Matt George is an amazing guy who really cares about the kids and he's been successful raising money for children's home. Sometimes you hit a plateau. I said to Matt, “Look, this is going to be my give back for your group.” I’ve been working with him, helping him build some ideas, because at the end of the day, having a good visibility is important in a community. Matt has been out there, but I said, “You've done such amazing things, Matt. You should write a book. You should start putting a profile, raising your profile in the community, because you do so much for so many people that I think it's important you should start putting your own podcast together.”

I mean, the first question you ask, how do you get a mentor? Go to your chambers of commerce, go to all the associations you're involved with. I’m a co-founder of an organization called The Entrepreneur’s Organization. It's called EO. We have chapters in 50 countries, a 150 cities. When you join EO, we give you a board of mentors. It's called your forum. To get a board of advisors that are going to be your advisors going forward.

There's all kinds of ways to get mentors. One of the things I mentioned earlier, who do you write checks to? Ask them who might be able to help. I have five law firms I write checks to. I write checks to credit card processors, to fulfillment centers, to media companies, to TV networks. You reach out. Hey, you don't have to say, “I write you a check. I need some advice.” Just, “I’m one of your customers. I need some advice. Could you help me grow bigger? I need a guy in finance. I need someone here. Do you have any connections? Any ideas? Boom, boom, boom.”

Anyway, make a long story short, I got the finance mentor at my chamber of commerce meeting. I also belong to lots of organizations. Joe Polish has a group called Genius Network. and Roland Frasier has a group called War Room. These are mentoring groups that you can join. Board of Advisors is Mike Calhoun. You can join Board of Advisors and get great advice from the other members. These are all the different places you go. At the end of the day, it's a one-on-one discussion you have with the mentor.

Some mentors don't want to do anything more than say, monthly. Others don't mind weekly. Some want to meet you on a regular basis. Others want to do it via phone or Zoom. Now today, obviously with COVID it's a lot different. Everybody's staying away from other people, so it's a little bit tougher, but it's generally virtual in today's world. Lots of great places to get mentors and you can't do it sitting at home. You got to get out and start turning those rocks over to find the mentors.

[00:32:53] MB: Yeah, that makes total sense. I think the big takeaway from that is this idea that what a mentor is is something that's highly flexible. It changes. It could be there's a huge, really broad definition. You can find mentors across, whether it's an organized mentor group, which I’m a big fan of something like War Room. Roland Frasier's actually a previous guest on our show. Roland is the man. Whether it's something really structured like that, or whether it's finding somebody locally, it seems like what you're saying is that there's a tremendous amount of ways that you can find a mentor, what you really have to do.

Obviously, it's a little harder in some ways with COVID, but it may be easier in other ways, because you don't ever have to leave your house. Is you have to get out there. You have to start turning the rocks over. You have to start connecting with people. You have to put yourself out there and be willing to ask for help and call up the other people that you're already doing business with and see who they know that might be able to help you in some way.

[00:33:44] KH: Yes, exactly. Perfect. It's a process. I’m going to say this at one time, you're the only one as the entrepreneur running the company that can do it. You can't go to somebody and ask them to go get you a mentor necessarily.

One quick last story, a guy that was needing some help. He was in the business of selling products to the military. I live in Tampa, Florida. He's like, “Can you give me some help?” I’m like, “Yeah, I can.” I said, “Part of my help is bringing a dream team to your company.” I said, “I know MacDill Air Force Base is right here in Tampa and they have all these retired generals.” I said, “What is a retired general? What's his business model? He wants to consult companies, get paid some fees and use the credibility he has to be a former general inside the US military.”

MacDill Air Force Base is central command for the United States. I said, “Let's go out to MacDill and see if we can meet some ex-generals.” We did. We got Chip Diehl. General Chip Diehl had just retired. He was looking for some relationships. He joined our board of advisors, opened up amazing doors inside the military down at [inaudible 00:34:57] down in Dallas.

Again, if you're in the business selling to the military, who can help you best? Somebody high up in the military, is no longer in the military. Because if they're in the military, they can't consult you or advise you. That might be a conflict. You just got to think outside the box. I could tell any person really how to go get a mentor for their own particular business. Again, my book Mentor to Millions, we teach you all of that in there. I think anyone out there listening should go get a copy for sure.

[00:35:32] MB: Yeah. That's in many ways, that actually shares a lot of commonalities with your own – one of your first big mentors, the retired bank president that you found. Seems like maybe a really rich vein to mind when you're searching for a mentor is to figure out who used to be really prominent, really successful in that industry, or that particular niche and they've since retired and go try to seek those people out and get in front of them. It seems like they have a really potent mix of powerful rolodex and also, they're in the stage in their life, in their career where they're not as busy. Maybe they're looking to give back a little bit more. They're looking to help and teach people and pass on what they've learned and what they know.

[00:36:08] KH: Exactly. Yeah, you hit it. Thank you.

[00:36:10] MB: Is there any way, or any strategy in particular, I mean, you've mentioned things like local chamber of commerce, just networking through the people you know, etc., but to find – If I said today, “Hey, I need to find the retired, let's just say, bank president to help me scale my business to the next level,” how would you go about finding that person?

[00:36:29] KH: Well, let's take the industry that I’ve been, was part of for 35, 40 years, the As Seen In TV industry. There's a trade association in As Seen In TV that was started. I was one of the co-founders. It's called the Electronic Retailing Association. Now that existed for about 30 years, very successful. It ended up morphing into something else now recently. The bottom line is that there was hundreds and hundreds, maybe thousands of members of what was called ERA, Electronic Retailing Association.

If you were Procter & Gamble and you wanted to get a mentor in the world of As Seen In TV and electronic retailing of which Amazon was a member in eBay and QVC and HSN, there's a board of directors of ERA. Then there's a listing of suppliers and service providers. A lot of people would call ERA, “Hey, I’m Procter & Gamble. I got a shampoo that I want to do an infomercial for. I need some advisors, mentors. Who do you have?” “Oh, well we have these lawyers, we have these producers, we have these, this.”

I mean, associations are one of the great places to start. I do a ton of business in the world of housewares and hardware. I go to the house for a show, the hardware show and I network with the International Houseware Association. One other place that's really good, there's a publication called HomeWorld Magazine, that is the publication that exists for the world of anything housewares. There's a guy named Peter Giachetti that's the publisher and editor and chairman of HomeWorld Magazine. I’ve known him for 35 years. If I need anything done in the world of housewares, I call him. “Hey, I need a good manufacturer for toasters. Who should we be talking to?” Get an answer right back.

Bottom line, associations, publications, your existing relationships in legal and accounting, all kinds of great ways. You'll never run out of them. I always say, just you got to keep going until you get the right ones. Once you find the right ones, it's going to blow you away. It's really powerful.

[00:38:46] MB: Yeah, that's great advice. There's often so much untapped potential in your network that if you're not asking, if you're not putting yourself out there, if you're not trying to uncover who do they know that might be really helpful for me, you're really leaving a lot of value on the table.

[00:39:01] KH: Absolutely. Yeah. You know it. Absolutely.

[00:39:04] MB: Really quickly, what are some of the key things that you need to do to be a great mentee?

[00:39:09] KH: That's a great question. The first thing I say is you should be the mentor's best student, okay. Because when you think about it, I think I mentioned earlier that it's not exciting for a mentor to – I’ll give some advice and I’ll say, okay. Here's four action plan items before we talk next. Now, the first thing I do when we start the next conversation is let's go over the four action items and how did you do with those. “Oh, well. Got the two of them. I didn't get the other two. Sorry.”

It's like, well, what's wrong with this picture here? That's not a good mentee. I want a good student. I want somebody that's really eager. I don't mind a challenge, or why is what you're saying the right way to go, you're certainly allowed to do that. Don't tell me you just didn't have the time, but you want more of my time. It's important that you communicate well, that you thank mentors, you're appreciative, send them nice notes, maybe a little inexpensive gift every now and then. It could be a Starbucks card for 20 bucks value or something.

Just that you're thinking about them and things like that, or a donation to their charity. I had a grueling three-day event that I did in Vegas and 80 meetings over three days. I keynoted two of the days. I was scrambling to get through the airport, to get home on a late-night flight. I’m sitting in the airport eating a quick bite before I jump on the plane and a young kid comes up to me, handed me a $100 bill. He said, “Mr. Harrington.” He said, “I was at the event. I watched you the whole time. I tried to get to you a dozen times. I never could. I’m just a young entrepreneur starting out. I need some help. I’m not looking for anything for free. I’m going to give you a 100 bucks, because I’ve got a couple questions I’d like to ask you. I don't even need your time right now, because you look busy, you're eating. Take my 100. Can I call you some time and ask you a question?”

I was blown away by that. Number one. Secondly, handed him his 100 back and said, “Look, you approached me the right way. I’m going to give you the answers to your question and I’m not going to charge you a dime and I really appreciate what you did and God bless you.” I mean, those are the things for a 100 bucks, you got to deal with a shark, okay. That was a very smart young entrepreneur, I’ll tell you that right now.

[00:41:41] MB: Kevin, I know we're wrapping up here, but where is one place that listeners can go to find the book, to find you, to find your work online and what is one action step that you would give them to begin implementing some of the things we've talked about today?

[00:41:54] KH: Okay. Great question, Matt. Go to kevinmentor.com and that's got all the information about the book. You can pre-order it. We got copies are just coming out soon. Book will be out in no time. We actually have eBook versions also. Lots of great stuff there. Kevinmentor.com. Also, my website is kevinharrington.tv. Tt's another place they can get some great information also. Kevinmentor.com is a really good place to start.

This is what I’d like to challenge everybody out there right now to make a step. This is for the people that don't have a mentor. I want you to write down a date that you'd like to have a mentor by, and I’d like for you to list the qualifications that you would like in that mentor. Now, I have a saying I wake up every morning to this. Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass.

That was a saying by an old mentor of mine way back. It's just powerful and I just have to say that believe in yourself, believe in your idea and the steps that I mentioned, vividly imagining, that's easy. People can imagine themselves getting a mentor. Ardently desire, you desire it. You vividly imagine it. You ardently desire it. You sincerely believe that you need a mentor, that you want a mentor, but you don't enthusiastically act upon it. This is where most people fall down.

Now, put a plan of action together and with my book and a plan of action, you're going to have great success. You'll get your mentor and you're going to turn things around in your business. On that note, Matt, I want to thank you for having me. Been a great event here to share some of the ups and downs that I’ve had over the years. I shared a couple stories that sometimes I don't like to share about how tough it was for me. but I really appreciate you having me today and I hope anyone out there can go to kevinmentor.com to get some information about getting a mentor in their life.

[00:44:08] MB: Kevin, thank you so much for coming on the show, for digging into some of your incredible backstory and sharing all of these lessons about how we can find mentors.

[00:44:16] KH: Thank you, buddy. Talk soon.

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August 25, 2020 /Lace Gilger
Influence & Communication, Money & Finance, Career Development
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(B) Zero to $25mm of Revenue in 18 Months with Oliver Schmalholz

August 11, 2020 by Lace Gilger in Career Development, Money & Finance

In this episode, we get a behind the scenes peek at what it truly takes to rapidly scale a massive company - learning the inside lessons that enabled our guest to build his telecom startup from zero to twenty-five million dollars in recurring revenue in 18 months, with our guest Oliver Schmalholz.

Oliver Schmalholz is the co-founder and CEO of News Quantified. News Quantified provides powerful analytics to generate insights from market-moving news, earnings, and other corporate events. For the past 15 years, Oliver successfully built four start-up companies, raised over $50m in venture capital, AND grew a US equities trading firm to over $1b trading volume in three years. When the European Telecom market de-regulated, he signed the first interconnection agreement in Austria leading to an acquisition by a Fortune Global 100 company.

  • Lessons from scaling multiple startups (some good, some not so good!)

  • Choosing the market to focus on when opportunity strikes

  • How to use comparative analysis to find really powerful market opportunities that others might miss

  • How to scale a company from $0 to $25mm in ARR in 18 months

  • Key lessons of rapidly scaling any companies revenue

    • Recurring revenue businesses are essential

    • Manage and keep your churn rate low

    • Leverage a sales and marketing strategy focused on having low fixed expenses. 

    • No advertising expense, having a “no-cap” commission plan, leveraging variably compensated 

    • Leverage third party distribution deals. 

  • “SDR” - Sales Development Reps - being fed prequalified leads and set up appointments. 

  • Have a performance-based, uncapped sales team that works the leads generated by the SDRs. 

  • Leveraged a “partner” strategy to partner with big telephone producers and gain access to their customer base, in exchange for giving them an ongoing residual. 

  • The pitch to big providers was "You make one intro to our sales team and you get an ongoing commission going forward."

  • The importance of having a fearless approach to sales and business development. 

  • How to generate huge value from your sales team using these strategies. 

  • Pay your salespeople a higher upfront commission, front-load it, and also offer them endless, uncapped residuals on the back end, with a right to buy them out at the end of the contract with 12-24 months worth of commissions. 

  • Lead generator / SDR Role"

    • Basic quota: 3-4 meetings/day (part of your fixed comp) ($2500-$3000/month)… you can double it with great performance. 

    • Any production beyond that, you get $10-$50 per appointment set. 

    • Make sure appointment sticks, a canceled appointment gets pulled back out of their bonus.

  • The 3 keys to rapidly scaling a business:

    • Recurring Revenue

    • Efficient Distribution (leveraging variable compensation & performance-based metrics)

    • Operational Excellence

  • How do you think about positioning yourself into the industries that have the biggest potential for substantial growth and scale?

  • Pay attention to platforms and multi-sided marketplaces. 

  • Homework: Pay attention to recurring revenue opportunities and see if you can turn your opportunity into one that has recurring revenue?

  • Homework: Call up 100 potential customers and pick their brains before getting into their space. Be fearless with your business development approach. 

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General

  • Oliver’s Website         

  • Oliver’s LinkedIn and Facebook

Media

  • Crunchbase Profile - Oliver Schmalholz

    • News Quantified

  • Finance & Markets - Product Review: How to Trade the News with News Quantified by marketsfinance

  • [Podcast] Cashflow Hacking Podcast with Casey Stubbs - Special Report: Oliver Schmalholz Interview by Finance & Markets

Videos

  • Oliver’s Guest Appearances on Timing Research Youtube Channel

  • Dana Derricks - Oliver Schmalholz Review Dream 100 Course

  • Stephen Bigalow - Public Stock Chat August 16th, 2018 with Guest Speaker Oliver Schmalholz Trade Thirsty - Oliver Schmalholz Sept 2018 Toast to Traders

August 11, 2020 /Lace Gilger
Career Development, Money & Finance
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(B) Feeling Bold, Powerful, Confident, and Alive with Evan Carmichael

May 19, 2020 by Lace Gilger in Career Development

In this episode, we share how to feel bold, powerful, confident, and alive and get the motivation you need to finally take action and make your goals and dreams a reality. Learn to believe in yourself with our guest Evan Carmichael. 

At 19 Evan Carmichael built and then sold a biotech software company. At 22, he is a venture capitalist, and he runs a YouTube channel for entrepreneurs with over 2 million subscribers and 300 million views. Forbes called him one of the world's top 40 social marketing talents and Inc. called him one of the 100 great leadership speakers and 25 social media keynote speakers you need to know.

  • Everybody has Michael Jordan level talent at SOMETHING.. but they don’t believe in themselves.

  • Why don’t people believe in themselves?

    • We are surrounded by people who don’t believe in themselves. 

  • Awareness is powerful. 

  • Why are people too afraid to take action towards their goals?

  • We have moments of boldness, moments of courage 

  • Scary, difficult, hard, afraid = you have to do it. 

  • Make yourself go from idea to action ASAP. 

  • Tie your self worth to the PROCESS and the EFFORT, not the RESULTS 

  • Pat yourself on the back for trying

  • Overcome fear by creating a greater fear of regret

  • Make it an inside game. Be proud of your effort. 

  • How can we start believing in ourselves more?

    • Eliminate the negativity in your life. 

    • Eliminate the people that bring negative energy into your life. 

    • Create boundaries with these negative people in your life. 

    • Fill that void with positivity.. go to events, listen to podcasts, meet new people

  • Find the thing that makes you feel BOLD, POWERFUL, CONFIDENT, ALIVE, and make it a part of your day every day. 

  • People have a routine that sets them up for success by having the right motivation every single day 

  • Switch to MOTIVATION from education 

  • Your purpose comes from your pain. Whatever you struggle with the most as a human... whenever you’ve felt the lowest… there are tons of people who currently are where you used to be. 

  • We are built to serve - serving and helping others this the same part of your brain as having food and having sex. We like giving more than we like receiving. Most people just don’t know how to serve. 

  • How do you serve other people?

    • WHO?

      • What’s your one word / one idea that is your CORE belief?

      • What’s your most important core value?

      • What’s the rock to stand on?

    • WHY?

      • Your purpose comes from your pain. Whatever you struggled the most with, that’s where your purpose comes from. 

    • HOW?

      • How I got out of it is TEACHABLE, so now go teach it to other people. 

      • The "how" will change many times. Don’t get tied to the mechanism. 

  • If you’re mission-driven, you keep finding ways to do it. 

  • Momentum is the thing that most people are missing. 

  • Believing that you’re here to have an impact is how you start to get momentum. 

  • To continue your journey you HAVE TO HELP OTHERS 

  • Your brand is an EMOTION. What is that one word? What is that emotion?

  • Homework: Find one person who is struggling with the thing that you’ve struggled with and offer to help. 

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General

  • Evan’s Website

  • Evan’s LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook

Media

  • Medium - “My Interview With YouTube Star Evan Carmichael” by Jas Takhar

  • The Techie Guy - “Stop reading the Top 10 Rules for Success by Evan Carmichael” by Liron Segev (loved this one!)

  • SalesPop! - “Developing Self-Awareness” by John Golden

  • ProductiveMag - “Interview with Evan Carmichael” by Michael Sliwinski

  • FreshGigs - “Don’t Fool Yourself with Evan Carmichael” by Emma Bullen

  • Observer - “The Four Limiting Beliefs Stopping You From Creating a Business and Life You Want” By Evan Carmichael

  • Forbes - “The One-Word Secret To Creating A Life That Matters” by Kevin Kruse

    • “The Big Why And The Little Why With Evan Carmichael” by Murray Newlands

  • Crunchbase Profile - Evan Carmichael

  • [Podcast] Underdog Empowerment - UE 205 – EVAN CARMICHAEL – BUILDING AN AUDIENCE OF OVER 2M

  • [Podcast] Don't Keep Your Day Job - 200th Must Listen To Episode! with Evan Carmichael

  • [Podcast] Monumental w/ Evan Holladay - ADDING MASSIVE VALUE TO CREATE 2 MILLION YOUTUBE SUBS WITH EVAN CARMICHAEL

  • [Podcast] EOFire - How Evan Carmichael Will Help 1 Billion Entrepreneurs and Change the World

Videos

  • Evan’s YouTube Channel

    • AMAZING - Flash Mob - Started by one little girl - Ode to Joy

    • The 5 LESSONS In Life People Learn TOO LATE

    • The #1 THING You MUST DO if You WANT SUCCESS! | Steve Jobs | Top 10 Rules

    • IF You GET THIS, Your LIFE Will CHANGE! | Simon Sinek | Top 10 Rules

    • "You Can Work HARDER Than That!" | Kobe Bryant (@kobebryant) | Top 10 Rules

  • MotivationGrid - Evan Carmichael - Believe in Yourself

  • Lewis Howes - Keys to Success with Evan Carmichael

  • Team Fearless - How Successful People Think - The 5 Key Traits - Evan Carmichael

  • Practical Psychology - Your One Word by Evan Carmichael - Successful Business Startup Tips

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Books

  • Built to Serve: Find Your Purpose and Become the Leader You Were Born to Be  by Evan Carmichael

  • Your One Word: The Powerful Secret to Creating a Business and Life That Matter  by Evan Carmichael

  • The Top 10 Rules for Success: Rules to Succeed in Business and Life from Titans, Billionaires, & Leaders who Changed the World  by Evan Carmichael

  • 254 Confidence: Your daily guide to building unstoppable confidence in your life, work, and relationships.  by Evan Carmichael

  • 3 Point Landing Journal: Your powerful companion to go from just watching another video to actually taking action in your life. by Evan Carmichael

Episode Transcript

[00:00:04.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success. Introducing your host, Matt Bodnar.

[0:00:11.8] MB: Hey, it’s Matt. I’m here in the studio with Austin and we’re excited to bring you another business episode of the Science of Success. We just launched season 2 of our business episodes. If you want to learn more about what these are and why we’re doing them, be sure to check out the season 2 teaser that we recently released.

With that, Austin, tell us a little bit about how these episodes are different than our traditional Science of Success episode.

[0:00:35.7] AF: Yeah. It's important to note that you're still going to get all the great content you've come to know and love from the Science of Success every Thursday. These are bonus episodes with added value, specifically centered around business. We've interviewed some true titans of business in multiple industries from multiple walks of life. What we're going to focus on are the habits, routines and mindsets that made them successful titans they are today.

That said, these are lessons, routines, stories, best practices that anyone can learn from and apply their life. You don't have to be a business owner. You can be an employee, you can be a student, or you can of course, be a business owner, but come check them out. You're going to come away with a ton of valuable takeaways. We do have a bit of a business focus on these specific business episodes in season 2.

[0:01:19.4] MB: With that, let's get into the episode.

[0:01:23.0] MB: Welcome to the Science of Success, the number one evidence-based growth podcast on the Internet with more than 5 million downloads and listeners in over a hundred countries.

In this episode, we share how to feel bold, powerful, confident and alive and get the motivation you need to finally take action and make your goals and dreams a reality, learn to believe in yourself with our guest, Evan Carmichael.

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In our previous episode, we shared how to face down your fears and we uncovered what happens when you do. We heard the incredible story of how our previous guest, Michelle Poler spent 100 days facing down her biggest fears and showed you what you could take away from her journey.

Now, for our interview with Evan.

[0:02:51.8] MB: At 19, Evan Carmichael built and then sold a biotech software company. At 22, he became a venture capitalist and now he runs a YouTube channel for entrepreneurs with over 2 million subscribers and 300 million views. Forbes has called him one of the world's top 40 social marketing talents and Inc. has called him one of the 100 great leadership speakers, as well as one of the 25 social media keynote speakers that you need to know.

Evan, welcome to the Science of Success.

[0:03:21.7] EC: Thanks a lot, Matt. Great to be here, man.

[0:03:23.9] MB: Well, we're really excited to have you on the show today. There's so many things I want to dig into. For starters, I was looking at one of your bios recently when we were doing some research for the show. I noticed that you said that the biggest problem that humans face is that we have so much untapped human potential. I thought that was so interesting, because our mission for the show for years has been to unleash human potential.

I really wanted to start the conversation with that, because in many ways, we are on this common journey together to try and help people become unstuck, to help them unleash all that potential that they have, but they're often not realizing.

[0:03:59.9] EC: Yeah. I think people just don't believe in themselves enough. I think everybody has what I call Michael Jordan level talent at something. You're the greatest in the world at something, but chances are it's not what your parents did, or what's currently happening in your community or the people around you, and so people fall into two camps; one, they don't believe that they're the greatest in the world at something, and so they continue on with their life and never chasing down anything big. Or two, they do believe in it, but they're too afraid to actually go chase it down.

Whatever you think the world's biggest problem might be, people listening; cancer, great. I think the woman who solves cancer right now is a manager at McDonald's, because she didn't believe in herself enough to chase it down.

[0:04:42.8] MB: I love that. Such a great example. Let's dig into both of those things. Why don't people believe in themselves?

[0:04:49.7] EC: I think one, we're surrounded by people who also don't believe in themselves. If you think about who your parents are and the people at your school and how you're grown up, are you around people who are living their purpose and absolutely believe in themselves? Probably not. Which is why successpodcast.com, right? It's like, why we're trying to change that. You're trying to change that. I'm trying to change that. We're trying to be a voice to say, “Hey, the people around you, even though they're not living their best life, you can go live yours too.”

One is just awareness that is possible, because most people don't think that it's possible. Just planting a seed can be really important. Then two, is having the courage to do something about it. The more that you can nurture that seed, if somebody's listened to your podcast and they're coming on and every week they're listening and downloading more episodes, if they listen to an episode every week for the next year, they're going to grow. It's impossible not to grow, from all the people that you're bringing on, and advice that you're sharing.

If you make Matt a part of your regular routine, you're going to start to think a little bit more like Matt and the guests that he has on his shows. Most people don't do that enough. If they think they have talent at something and they believe in themselves a little bit, it's in these start and stop moments. I can do something more, but then now I'm too afraid and I fall back. You have these moments of boldness and courageousness and greatness and then you fall back to your regular life, where the people who continue to succeed and continue to go off and do great things, they demand that excellence from them on a daily basis.

[0:06:21.3] MB: That's such a great point. One of the things that I've found really interesting about your work and everything that you do is the emphasis on taking action, right? Capturing those moments of boldness when the inspiration strikes, because the reality is even the people who are really successful, they have those moments too, where they have doubt, they have fear, they don't know what they should do next. They don't feel like doing anything. Sometimes they feel like everything's falling apart, but they take action despite all that stuff.

[0:06:51.6] EC: Yeah. I think fear is fantastic. I think if there's nothing in your calendar that makes you afraid, you hate your life. It means you're just photocopying the same day over and over and over again. That's unfortunately most of America. We wake up and just photocopy their life over and over and over again, you know you can build more, but you're not doing enough to actually do something.

I've tried to train myself that scary, difficult, hard, afraid. If I hear myself saying that, then I have to do it, just because and teaching yourself to go from idea to action and tying yourself worth to the effort that you're putting in, as opposed to did you get results the first time out. When you can make that shift, because most of us tie our self-worth to the results, did I get X number of downloads on my episode? Did I get X number of likes, or comments, or revenue, or whatever you're chasing down?

When you don't do it, you feel like a failure. If you only chase down results and you're going to do the things that you know you're going to get a result at, therefore you place them all for life. If you tie your self-worth to the effort that you're putting in every single day, you'll end up failing a whole bunch, but accomplishing way, way, way, way, way more than the people around you.

[0:07:56.9] MB: Another piece of that too that you just touched on that's really important is if you want to take big swings, if you want to see big results, you almost glossed over this part that you're going to fail a whole bunch in that process and you have to be able and willing to fail.

[0:08:12.4] EC: Yeah. It's tying it again back to I was willing to try. People are out there making fun of people who are failing. I'm willing to try. I'm willing to go off and do it. I pat myself on the back for trying. If I'm coming on this podcast and I'm afraid and I'm nervous to be on this podcast, one, I'll tell myself, “This is going to be the greatest podcast in my life. This podcast is going to be the thing that blows up my career and takes it to the next step. If I don't do it, I'm going to regret it forever,” right?

Overcome the fear by creating a greater fear of future regret. Then two, even if I come on the podcast and I just blank out the whole time and I bring no value and I vomit on my microphone, it's the total disaster of an interview, I'm still going back, patting myself on the shoulder saying, “I'm so glad that I tried.” Because if you woke up every day and put out your max effort, you're proud of you, not what people are saying about you – it's an inside game. Are you proud of what you did today, the effort you put out? Because if every day you woke up and you were proud of your effort, even though it means failing a lot, are you proud of the effort in the failures? Because you're going to end up doing such amazing things. Most people aren't proud of themselves, because they don't believe in themselves.

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[0:10:56.8] MB: You touched on this and many of the things we've already talked about, tie into this, but I want to come back to this idea of how we can start believing in ourselves more. Tell me how to do that.

[0:11:08.8] EC: One, the environment makes a giant difference. It starts with eliminating the negativity in your life. Who are the people that are bringing you down, that make you feel low-energy, that tell you that you can't do certain things? Sometimes, you just have to let go of them. Just because you are friends with somebody in high school or elementary school doesn't mean that you should still be friends with them now.

A lot of us are in a relationships out of convenience, as opposed to developing a life for ourselves. We're just afraid of making new friends and trying to get new circles. Those negative people maybe your parents. In that case, you may not want to get rid of your parents, although some people do that, but just limit access to topics, set up boundaries. We don't talk about certain things. I'm not talking about this with you. You stick to the topics that you know you can knock it into fights and arguments about.

Once you eliminate the negativity, now you have a void and people are afraid of the void. We'd rather stick with friends who bring us down, because at least we have friends. We don't want to be lonely and have nobody. You need to fill that void with positivity, like listening to this podcast, like watching my YouTube channel, like going to events and trying to meet new people. Filling it with positivity and then making that consistent.

It's great that maybe you listen to this one episode and you're fired up and crushing it, tomorrow you're going to fall back. What are you going to do tomorrow to stay on top of your game? Most people just aren't consistent enough. When you find a thing that makes you feel bold, you've had moments. Everybody listening has had moments, where you felt bold, powerful, confident, alive. What led to that? Then finding a way to put that as a part of your daily routine, so you start your day with it.

Nobody wakes up. Matt doesn't do it. Austin doesn't do it. I don't do it. We wake up it’s like, “Yes! Today is going to be amazing!” Right? That's not how people wake up. The difference is people have a routine that sets them up for success, because you've reverse engineered what is the thing that makes you feel bold, powerful, confident, alive and you demand excellence on a daily basis.

[0:13:08.3] MB: Such a piece of advice and tying that back into figuring out in your own life, what makes you feel bold and powerful and confident and then tying that back into your routines on a daily basis. One of the things and I'm curious if you've thought about this that was really a – it's weird, because I've been doing this podcast, been into personal development for years and years and years and I made the shift 6 to 8 months ago, of thinking about personal development content less from a form of education, because I feel like a lot of the stuff is pretty simple at the end of the day; take action in the face of fear, get comfortable with discomfort, all that stuff.

It's not thinking about personal development content in the sense of educating yourself, but really switching the context and being like, I could listen to the same thing 10 times as long as it's motivational. Really using it as fuel and that I listen to a certain piece of content, or a certain podcast, or YouTube, or whatever and then that fuels me to be like, “All right, now I'm ready to go crush it, because I'm fueled up.” Baking that into your life, that was a really big revelation for me personally.

[0:14:04.8] EC: Yeah. If I could add a layer on to that, I would say baking in service to feel like you're here not because of listening to Matt do an interview, but you're here to serve, you're here to try to help other people. This is something that can help get people unstuck is understanding that your purpose comes from your pain. That whatever you struggled with the most as a human, where you felt the lowest self-esteem, self-worth, understand that there are tons of people who currently are what you used to be and they need help. They could see you as hope, as inspiration that it's possible, that even though you're not done growing, you're still on your path. Every time you take a step up, you can reach back and pull somebody up to the level that you're at.

If you can default the thinking about service, so that today – I mean, you're sitting there in your studio recording. I'm here in Toronto recording here. We're just by ourselves, but there's an audience of people listening. If you felt like every day the work you were doing was meaningful to somebody, made a difference, was having an impact on their life, that gives you courage and confidence and the willingness to step forward, even though you're afraid.

[0:15:16.4] MB: Let's touch on that a little bit more. I know you've got a new book coming out, Built to Serve, that really talks about how we can find our purpose. I get probably one of the most frequent questions I get from listeners of the podcast are all around that same topic of hey, I don't know what to do with my life. I'm not sure what to do next. I'm confused. I'm distraught. I don't know where I should be going from here. How do you think about and what would you say to people who really need help?

Because I think everybody is bought in on this idea, yes, you should find your purpose, but how do you actually from a really concrete perspective start to actually do that and really not only discover it, but then live it?

[0:15:56.9] EC: Yeah. I mean, I wish everybody had bought in under the idea that you have a purpose. This audience for sure, you're not listening to Matt without having bought in on that, but I think most of America hasn't bought in on that yet, so I'm trying to change that narrative. If you have, understand that the book is called Built to Serve, because humans are built to serve. Serving others, helping others hits the same part in your brain that did functional MRIs on people's brains and serving others hits the same part of your brain as having food and having sex, which are also both pretty important as humans.

We like giving more than we like receiving. Most people just don't know how to serve. I found that there's two types. One is the group that likes to serve the world. You and I want to have a big message. We want to impact the world. We want to touch millions and billions of lives. Chances are your audience is mostly in that camp as well. That's the entrepreneurial, big ambitious people. The other group though are the people who don't have a big mission, but they want to serve the 25 closest people to them, people like my wife. No giant mission, but love, staying in touch with people from elementary school and still helping them and showing them love.

If you're not happy, it's because you're not serving, either the world or the 25 closest people to you, whether it's 20 or 25 or 30, just that inner circle. Now how do you serve? Well, concrete steps. It starts with one, figuring out – I go through a process, that’s who, why, how. Who, your one most important core value. If you had to guess, Matt, what's your most important core value as a human?

[0:17:25.7] MB: Wow, that's a good question. Honestly, I know your whole big focus on the one word. I don't know that I have a good answer for it. Let's say my one core value would be unleashing human potential based on what we're here on the show.

[0:17:38.0] EC: Awesome. Just take potential as an example. Anybody who now you're going to bring onboard your company, has to believe in potential. You could have the greatest producer, the greatest editor, the greatest website developer, but if they just have the skillset but they don't have that same belief system as you, you're just not going to get along. That's great. That's fantastic to know, like that should be part of the process. You want to be around people. You're bringing on guests who believe on unleashing potential. You're bringing on a team that believes in unleashing potential. You want to have friends, relationships who believe in unleashing potential, right?

Even just having that awareness is more than 99% of America. If you feel like you're constantly pulled in a lot of different directions, it's because other people have an agenda for your time and you don't know what to say yes or no to, because you don't have the rock to stand on, right? Your most important core value, your who is the rock to stand on. If it's going to help unleash potential in the world, Matt's in. If it's not, he doesn't care. Having that boundary makes it a lot easier to make decisions. That's the who.

The next is the why. Why is personal development so important to you? You've been doing this for a while. This isn't your first episode here and what you're doing even before the podcast, why personal development? Who cares? How did it save you?

[0:18:56.1] MB: I mean, I think for me, I was lost, I was struggling. I didn't know where to turn and I just picked up a couple random personal development books and over the course of 10 or 15 years, radically transformed my emotions, my life, my health, my happiness, everything.

[0:19:11.1] EC: What was the worst moment inside that being lost for you?

[0:19:14.6] MB: Dealing with a bunch of anxiety and depression and fear and not knowing what to do, or where to turn.

[0:19:21.0] EC: That's the thing, right? How long ago was that? 10 years ago? Seven years ago?

[0:19:25.6] MB: Yeah, something like that.

[0:19:26.8] EC: That's going to fill you up for life. You're going to be 95-years-old and somebody who's even around the same age going to come back, who's in their 20s, feels lost, has anxiety, has depression, feel like there's no hope, they're going to talk to you. You're going to in a conversation, shift the perspective, you're going to see their eyes light up and now there's hope, you're still going to get a high off of that when you're 95-years-old.

Your purpose comes from your pain. Whatever you struggle the most with, you want to help other people through. Everybody's been through some pain. Everybody's had these moments. Now you've built this amazing community up and you've got your podcast and everything else that you're doing, awesome. In 10 years, maybe it's on a podcast. Maybe Matt's beaming into your living room with holograms and virtual reality, but the purpose doesn't change. That's going to fill him up for life.

It's the same for everybody listening. You can follow the process. Whatever you struggle the most with – There are lots of people who were like Matt who don't get out. They are like Matt and they never get out. That depression and anxiety leads to a lifetime of regret, hatred, maybe suicide and just that one interaction with Matt could be the flip that ignites the switch for them to go off and make a change in their life.

Having that clarity about both those two, like the who and the why, the unleashing potential and helping people who are lost and have anxiety and depression will never get old for the rest of your life. I want to help people get that clarity.

[0:20:59.6] MB: Yeah, that's such a great piece of advice. It's funny. I mean, without getting into it, I can just see in my behavior and the way I react or interact with certain people that there's absolutely things that fit into that mold that I'll just spend countless amount of time or energy on, even one fan or one listener, whatever, if they have an issue, I'll spend as much time as possible to help them with it. Then I’ll be like, “Oh, my God. What was I just doing?” But it makes total sense. The third piece of that, you said was how. Tell me how the how it plays into that, or is that where you're talking about the podcast is the how now, but it may change?

[0:21:30.9] EC: Yeah. How you got out of it is not just some random thing that happened just to Matt. How you got out of it is teachable. You got out of it by studying success, by reading certain books. Well, it's no surprise that if you go to successpodcast.com, there's a link at the top that says Bookshelf, right? How you got out of it is teachable. You've got your books, you've got your podcast, you've got all the advice that you're giving. A lot of people think, “Well, I was just a fluke how I did it.” It’s like, no. That's something that you can now show other people the process, so that they can get out of it as well.

On your journey, you've learned so much, you've developed so many skills. Helping somebody launch a podcast, for example, will be fun for you. You have a lot of knowledge and domain expertise and you can really help somebody launching a podcast. If somebody comes up and they're facing anxiety and depression and they feel lost and you can spend 15 minutes to talk to them and you see the eyes light up, that's going to fill you up so much more than just helping somebody launch their podcast.

We're built to serve. We love helping other people. But there's a big difference between just holding the door open for somebody, or helping them with their podcast, or buying the coffee for the person behind you in line to these little moments, versus actually deep down, seeing that person's life change, because they're going through the thing you went through and you just inspired them.

[0:22:48.9] MB: That's such a great way of framing it. I've always thought that podcasting is the medium that I fell into and happened to be doing, but it was always the vehicle and not the end game. I didn't approach it from the perspective of, “Oh, hey. I really want to start a podcast. By the way, it's going to be about this.” I was super into this stuff and then someone was like, “Hey, we should start a podcast and talk about it.”

[0:23:10.1] EC: Yeah. If you're mission-driven, you're going to want to unleash potential for the rest of your life. There's no way you're 75-years-old and you're like, “You know what? I'm done with unleashing potential. I'm just going to sit on my rocking chair for the next 20 years.” That's not going to happen. There's no way. That's not going to be Matt. That's not going to happen.

Not being tied to the mechanism, right? The how is going to change many times between now and when you reach 95-years-old, and so being able to adjust because all you care about is unleashing potential and helping people through anxiety and depression and people who feel lost. In 2020, a podcast is a fantastic way to do it and then 2030 is going to be something else.

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[0:25:19.4] MB: The other beauty of this system that you put together in really a lot of your content and your work is taking these principles and making it extremely simple and actionable, right? If you have one word as a core belief that sometimes you think, “Oh, I got to figure out what are my values, my beliefs and put together this half-day seminar and workshop and do all this stuff.” There's a real beauty in making it super simple to really crystallize it.

[0:25:41.9] EC: Yeah. I mean, in the book goes through the process of figuring out what your who is, your one word, whether yours is potential or something else, it's not going to be the opposite of potential. You're not that far off picking something like potential. I think momentum is just the thing that most people are missing. Finding your purpose doesn't have to be some crazy 18-year journey with meditation and journaling. You can figure it out right now and start making momentum immediately happen. The biggest thing missing for most people is just lack of momentum.

[0:26:13.2] MB: Your contention is that finding your purpose helps you start to build that momentum.

[0:26:18.7] EC: Believing that you are here to have an impact. You already know it. Everybody knows the love that they feel when they've helped somebody out, but believing that you could have a bigger impact and help people who are like you, you may not believe that you can save the world yet. There's a lot of people who may not feel like, “I can go and have this life-changing mission.” You know there's a lot of people who also have what you have. If Matt was just getting started and just got through the early stages of now he's not in the depths of depression, and just seeing you help one other person will light that spark.

If you look at AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, they have their 12-step program. One of the 12 steps is you have to be a sponsor for somebody else. The change doesn't stick, unless you're serving and helping other people who are behind you. For you to continue your journey, me to continue my journey, we have to give back and help. When you figure out what that thing is that you struggled with and then you see yourself helping somebody else, that gives you energy, that gives you momentum, that gives you hope, that helps you believe that you can continue and do more.

[0:27:25.7] MB: That's a great piece of advice. The whole idea of having to help somebody else in the journey the AA example is great. I mean, even if you look at things like the way they do, training and med schools and that stuff, it's all about teaching other people and helping other people is a great way to really internalize that learning, internalize those things. That's a really powerful piece of advice.

[0:27:48.8] EC: Yeah. It's not that hard to find a lot of people who are struggling with what you struggle with. If you're helping people with anxiety and depression, okay, how many people in America have anxiety and depression and feel lost? A giant crap ton of people. How you then end up going through it, so for you it was learning from successful people in books and that started giving you the spark.

For somebody else, maybe it was going to the gym and working out. For somebody else, maybe it was picking up soccer, or learning how to play the piano. It could be any number of things. If it was learning soccer, that's the thing that got you more confidence and got you having friends and changing your life, then you could go and become a soccer coach and start a soccer business, where you're not just teaching people how to dribble, you're teaching people how to change their life and have more confidence. It's having a purpose-driven business, purpose-driven life, because you are built to serve and how you got out of it is teachable to other people.

[0:28:46.6] MB: Such a great piece of advice. I love the soccer analogy, because you can just see it and feel it that some – I can envision the soccer coach teaching kids and instilling all these wisdom and values and everything and it's not about the soccer. It could be karate, it could be art, it could be anything. It's really about helping people build confidence and passing on what you've learned and helping other people on the journey.

[0:29:07.2] EC: Your brand is an emotion. The emotion should be your who, your one word. Anything that Matt touches has to be through unleashing potential. Even if Matt launches a course on how to start a podcast, something super practical, tangible, he's got experience, he knows what he's doing, it's all going to be wrapped in to unleashing your potential. You have insane potential, you have a message. I'm going to help unlock that. Here's a tool to use, it's called the podcast, right?

Same thing for any business. I own the largest salsa dancing school in Canada, maybe North America, and it's about belonging. It’s about giving people a place to come to where they can belong. The guy who I brought in to run it, that's his most important core value, because he never felt like he had anywhere to go where he could belong.

Yes, you're going to learn steps, you're going to come out of the classes learning how to dance salsa, but we're not really teaching salsa. We're teaching you how to belong and gain confidence and feel better about yourself.

[0:30:04.3] MB: Amazing. Evan, what would one action step be that you would give for listeners to start concretely taking action on the things we've learned about today?

[0:30:15.1] EC: I would try to find one person who is struggling with the thing that you struggled with and offer to help. Maybe you know somebody already, maybe you just post to Facebook and you tell your story. Say, “Guys, I've never talked about this, but for the past 20 years, I actually struggled with depression and boom, boom, boom, boom, boom,” and you tell your story and see what comes back and then hop on a call, or go for a coffee with somebody who is currently struggling with that and just feel your heart light up. For some people listening, that may be the first time ever that you felt your heart light up so much, go find somebody who is struggling with the thing you struggled with and help them.

[0:30:53.6] MB: Great piece of advice. Evan, where can listeners find you and all of your content and all of your work online?

[0:30:59.7] EC: If you want the book, just go to Amazon. Easy to spot. Otherwise, Evan Carmichael on any social media platform and I'm there.

[0:31:07.6] MB: Well Evan, thank you so much for coming on the show, for sharing all this wisdom. We packed a lot into a 30-minute interview. It's so many great pieces of advice and tactics and strategies for the listeners.

[0:31:18.4] EC: Appreciate you, man. Great questions and I'm pumped to see you continue to expand your journey as well. Thank you for having me on. It's been an honor.

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Stay Social While Staying Distant - How to Strengthen Your Network During COVID-19

April 09, 2020 by Lace Gilger in Career Development, Influence & Communication

In this episode, we explore the science of networks and human relationships, uncover how people you’ve never met have a huge impact on your life, and look at how we can respond effectively to the COVID-19 pandemic with our guest David Burkus.

David Burkus is a best-selling author, speaker, and associate professor of leadership and innovation at Oral Roberts University for over 10 years. He is the bestselling author of four books, most recently the Audiobook Pick a Fight: How Great Teams Find a Purpose Worth Rallying Around. David’s work has appeared in the Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, USAToday, and more. David has been ranked as one of the world’s top business thought leaders by Thinkers50 since 2017.

  • Get good ideas out of the ivory tower and drag them into the corner office. 

  • Don’t make life-changing decisions based on a sample size of one. 

  • The difference between what we think and what research actually says

  • We delude ourselves into thinking our results are the result of our own performance and skill much more than they actually are. 

  • Our results are much more driven by teams and people we surround ourselves with. 

  • You are NOT the average of the five people you spend your time with. 

  • “The three degrees of influence” - everyone you are connected to, and everyone they are connected to all have an influence on you and your life. 

  • A friend of a friend of a friend has an impact on your obesity rate, your habits, your happiness, and your career. 

  • The Framingham Heart Study - studying 30,000 people to understand what causes heart attacks… lead to some incredible understandings of networks.

  • People you don’t know have a statistically significant impact on your health and happiness.

  • We don’t know WHY the three degrees of influence phenomenon exists. 

  • We need to re-frame networking... no one likes going to networking happy hours.

  • Meeting random strangers is one of the least valuable ways to network. 

  • The two BEST things you can do to maximize the value of your network

    • Develop a system to check-in with people (weak ties) on some kind of regular basis

    • It’s much better to grow your network through the “Friend of a friend” than meeting strangers cold. Help people get connected. Build new connections through existing connections. 

  • Which weak ties should you re-ignite? What friends and lose connections in your network should you reach out to?

  • “No reply needed, I know you’re busy right now."

  • You don’t need to have something on your calendar to reject someone’s request to meet, just say you don’t have the “capacity" to do it.

  • What are the lessons we can learn from the global response to COVID-19

  • Ask yourself “what are we fighting for?"

  • The big question we must ask ourselves is - what do we do when this is all over? What is normal? What looks like normal?

  • America is the most polarized we’ve ever been… perhaps this crisis can bring us together. 

  • “The ally fight” - here’s who we are helping

  • “The revolutionary fight” - changing a norm

  • The best leaders in history don’t cast a vision, they put everyone else’s vision to words. 

  • Ask yourself 2 simple questions:

    • What do we do as a business?

    • How does what you do help us do that?

  • Collect stories that convince them they are in the right fight. 

  • “Job crafting” and cognitive reframing:

    • The tasks you do - do you do them differently?

    • Your relationships both internal and external - how does the work that you do help their fight?

    • Cognitive reframing…  

  • People are more motivated when they hear CUSTOMERS and people who are AFFECTED by the work via their stories - than hearing the CEO said the company mission for the 1000th time. 

  • Company culture is about:

    • Stories.. stories that get shared about the way you served a particular customer. 

    • Rituals...

    • Artifacts..what artifacts do people encounter on a daily basis that reinforce the culture?

  • Homework: By the end of the day, scroll all the way to the bottom of your text messages and say hi. 

  • Homework: If you are in a leadership role, now is the time to start asking your people

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Want To Dig In More?! - Here’s The Show Notes, Links, & Research

General

  • David’s Website

  • David’s LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook

  • David’s Podcast Radio Free Leader

Media

  • Ideas.TED - “At work, it’s not just about who you know; it’s how well you know them” by David Burkus

  • TED speaker profile - David Burkus

  • Article directory on Forbes, INC, Quartz, HBR, 99U, Thrive Global, Medium, 

  • Paul Axtell - “Q&A with David Burkus, author of Under New Management”

  • Mac’s List - “Why You Don’t Need to Go to Networking Events, with David Burkus” by Mac Prichard

  • [Podcast] The Learning Leader Show - Episode #255: David Burkus – The Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life (Friend Of A Friend)

  • [Podcast] The 1-3-20 Podcast (Daniel Pink) - Networking that Works - with David Burkus

  • [Podcast] Diane Hamilton - FRIEND OF A FRIEND: UNDERSTANDING NETWORKING WITH DAVID BURKUS

  • [Podcast] Jordan Harbinger - 36: David Burkus | How to Become a Networking Superconnector

  • [Podcast] Good Life Project - David Burkus: Upending Everything You Knew About Business

  • [Podcast] ELEVATE WITH ROBERT GLAZER - David Burkus on the Science of Networking

Videos

  • David’s YouTube Channel

    • Keynote Speaker David Burkus On Delivering A World-Class Conference Keynote

    • OUR GLOBAL FIGHT: OPTIMISM AND INSPIRATION AMID THE COVID-19 CRISIS

  • TEDx Talks - How To Hack Networking | David Burkus | TEDxUniversityofNevada

    • Why you should know how much your coworkers get paid | David Burkus

    • Why Do We Keep Our Salaries Secret? | David Burkus | TEDxUniversityofNevada

    • Why Great Ideas Get Rejected: David Burkus at TEDxOU

  • Talks at Google - David Burkus: "Under New Management" | Talks at Google

    • David Burkus: "The Myths of Creativity" | Talks at Google

Books

  • [Audiobook] Pick a Fight: How Great Teams Find a Purpose Worth Rallying Around by David Burkus and Audible Studios

  • Friend of a Friend . . .: Understanding the Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life and Your Career  by David Burkus

  • Under New Management: How Leading Organizations Are Upending Business as Usual  by David Burkus

  • The Myths of Creativity: The Truth About How Innovative Companies and People Generate Great Ideas  by David Burkus

Misc

  • [Video] ConnectedtheBook - The Spread of Obesity in Social Networks

  • [Research Article] The BMJ - “Dynamic spread of happiness in a large social network: longitudinal analysis over 20 years in the Framingham Heart Study” by James H Fowler and Nicholas A Christakis

  • [Research Article] PNAS - “Cooperative behavior cascades in human social networks” by James H. Fowler and Nicholas A. Christakis

Episode Transcript

[00:00:04.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success. Introducing your host, Matt Bodnar.

[0:00:11.8] MB: Welcome to the Science of Success; the number one evidence-based growth podcast on the Internet with more than five million downloads and listeners in over a hundred countries.

In this episode, we explore the science of networks and human relationships, uncover how people you’ve never met have a huge impact on your life and look at how we can respond effectively to the COVID-19 pandemic with our guest, David Burkus.

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In our previous episode, we discussed how to ask better questions, shared lessons from solving some of the world's most interesting challenges and talked about why you need to think about the job to be done with our guest, Bob Moesta.

Now for our interview with David.

[0:01:36.2] MB: David Burkus is a best-selling author, speaker and Associate Professor of Leadership and Innovation at Oral Roberts University for more than 10 years. He's the best-selling author of four books, most recently the audio book, Pick a Fight: How Great Teams Find a Purpose Worth Rallying Around. David's work has appeared in The Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, USA Today and much more. David has been ranked as one of the world's top business thought leaders by Thinkers50 since 2017.

David, welcome to the Science of Success.

[0:02:04.4] DB: Oh, thank you so much for having me.

[0:02:06.0] MB: Well, we're really excited to have you on the show today. One of the things that I really like about your work is similar to what we focus on here at Science of Success, you have a big focus on having evidence-based research and applying things from science and research and actually making them really applicable, which I think is just such a great perspective and something that not enough people are doing today.

[0:02:29.5] DB: Oh, no. Thank you. This show, you guys are speaking my language, right? We were on that crusade from a long, long time ago. The way that I always describe it is I'm trying to get good ideas out of the ivory tower and drag them into the corner office, where nowadays the co-working space, or the spare bedroom, wherever work is getting done in 2020’s economy. We're trying to drag those evidence-based ideas into that to let you be able to do your best work ever.

[0:02:52.1] MB: It's such a great perspective and it's something that literally informs the mission of this entire podcast, because I feel there's so much – to me, research and science and evidence, it may not be a perfect foundation for knowledge and there's certainly flaws and things get revised and that stuff. To me, if you're going to look for some foundation of truth to build your understanding the world on, it’s a pretty darn good place to start.

[0:03:15.4] DB: Yeah. I mean, I agree. The thing that has always boggled my mind is how much we tend to latch on to the inspiration and motivation that comes from one person's story. Those are great. I mean, they make great movies and that thing, when we hear the rags to riches stories or those things. In psychological literature, which is my background or in any science, we would call that a sample size of one. You really shouldn't be making life-changing decisions based on a sample size of one.

Once you zoom out, I mean, the thing that I don't think a lot of people realize is that you can read the biography of a famous CEO, or you can read a study of 200 different CEOs, some of whom became famous and some of whom failed, compare the successes to the failures. Ironically, more people want to read the sample size of one than want to read that paper, but there's a whole lot more insights in that one that's looking at 200 different CEOs.

[0:04:04.7] MB: Totally true and such a great perspective. Meta studies and looking at bigger datasets is a critical component of really trying to actually understand reality, as opposed to just deluding yourself, or looking at a story that has survivorship bias and all kinds of other things baked into it.

[0:04:19.3] DB: Yeah, absolutely. Even just the idea that if you go to that person, like one of the analogies I use sometimes and I don't like this at all because I'm a Philadelphia Eagles fan, but the analogy I always use is if you had to learn football, would you call Tom Brady, or would you call Bill Belichick? I mean, obviously if the only person that'll talk to you is Tom Brady, great. But I don't want to learn from him, right? I want to learn from his coach. Even though his coach is an out-of-shape guy who hasn't been on the football field for anything other than coaching for decades, right? [Inaudible 0:04:47.4] mind, because he's studying multiple different players. He's studying beyond even his team. Sometimes he's doing it quasi-legally. He's studying lots of different things, and so he has a much better perspective than the person on the field.

We have this celebrity or hero-worship culture, where most people I think would actually want to hear it from Tom and that's a huge mistake. I would much rather train with the person that made Brady Brady.

[0:05:11.3] MB: At a high-level, what are some the biggest meta takeaways that you've been able to pull out of academia and really make very applicable that are evidence-based to improving yourself and being successful in life and then business?

[0:05:24.8] DB: Yeah. I mean, I think the biggest one and probably if there were a through-line through all of the different books, every book that I've written has tried to say, here's what we think, but here's what the research actually says. The big unifying thread through a lot of them has to do with teams. I don't know if this is a Western thing, an American thing, but I sense that it's actually a global thing, that we really tend to believe that our results are just the result of our own performance and our own skill far more than they are.

I mean, everything from creativity and innovation to your health, to your success in life is usually a result of the team that's around you. Some of this has been in that motivational speaker, right? We pay lip service to the idea that oh, you're the average of the five people you meet. Most of us never really act on that. First of all, realize that it goes way bigger than five. It's also not the idea that those people just push you. It's the idea that information flows through those people to you. The way that you see the world and the decisions that you make is dependent on those people in your team, but we tend to prize that solo idea a lot. The world and your success, all of it runs on teams.

[0:06:27.9] MB: That's a really good insight. You touched on one of my favorite findings and then things that you shared in your work when you mentioned that you're the average of a lot more than just five people that you spend your time with. I'd love to explore that topic just a little bit deeper.

[0:06:40.9] DB: Yeah. A lot of this comes out of my book Friend of a Friend. I'll tell you the most nowadays the way that it's worked, I get out a lot of hate mail from – this quote is originally from Jim Rohn and I actually have no problem with the quote. I wrote a Medium article, maybe two years ago about how he's wrong. I get a lot of people mad at me, because if you search for the Jim Rohn quote now, my article is the third thing you see. We get a lot of traffic to it and then I get a lot of people that are angry at me.

The truth is it's much bigger than that. We've known this for about 20 years now. 15 to 20 years, these two researchers Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler. It’s actually really fun. Nicholas Christakis has become one of the trusted voices as we navigate this COVID-19 pandemic crisis, because he's a network scientist. He studies how networks work.

One of the things that he and his co-author, James Fowler, found is that they call it the three degrees of influence. Yes, the people that you're closest to influence you. It's not just the five that you're closest to. Everyone you are connected to influences you and not just there. Everyone they're connected to influences you and everyone they're connected to. Your friend of a friend of a friend, right? Three degrees of separation or as they call it, three degrees of influence, still has an effect on everything from your obesity rate, or your level of physical activity, whether or not you have destructive habits like smoking or drinking, your happiness level, your career, all of those things are influenced by the community that you're a part of, not just the five people you’re interacting with most, right?

By all means, the research to support the idea that mastermind groups and really trusted teams are important and they help you in your success, but you also need attention to if you're going to invite someone to be an influence on your life, you should probably pay attention to what community you're pulling them out of, because that community is going to have an influence on you, whether you know it or not.

I mean, candidly as a parent, this is something we instinctively know, because when we're deciding who we want our kids to hang out with – We're not judging the kid. The kid doesn't know anything. We're trying to learn as much as we can about the parents. That's one degree of separation, or the community. It sounds really snooty for me to say this, but come on, we all do it because we all realize that that kid is going to influence my kid, but he's going to be influenced by those parents, so do I like those parents and that determines whether I'll let my kid hang out with him. We know that as parents. Very few of us act that way in our own life though, which is a big problem.

[0:08:57.9] MB: So interesting. I want to hear a couple of the stats, because there's some amazing – the level of impact is truly astounding, even on people who were a friend of a friend of a friend, or three degrees of separation away from you.

[0:09:08.6] DB: Yeah. Specific to the studies that Christakis and Fowler have done, there's three that I think are most interesting and I hinted at them. The first is obesity rate. To back up, if you will, because this is one of the few shows where I can get super nerdy like this. What Christakis and Fowler did was they used data from this thing called the Framingham Heart Study. My wife is a physician, we know all about the Framingham Heart Study because it's how we figured out what causes heart attacks basically.

Medical researchers in the New England area chose Framingham Massachusetts and set up shop there and studied basically the entire town, 30,000 people and counting have been a part of this study. We're almost three generations now. What it is is they basically recruited volunteers in that town and checked in with them on a regular basis. Not an annual physical, but multiple times a year and they took a lot of health data, right? The body weight and whether or not you smoke and cholesterol levels, blood pressure levels, all that sort stuff.

They also took a lot of social data. They didn't know what they were going to do with it. They just collected it. They asked questions like, “Who would you go to if you had an emergency? Who do you interact with the most?” All of these questions that Christakis and Fowler realized they could use to create a model of the network of the community of Framingham Massachusetts.

Because the study at the time that they found this data had been going on for 30 years, they could actually build a model that would change, that would progress. They could see the way new connections were made or people moved out of the community and all that stuff. It's actually really cool. If you're listening and you want a really fun thing to Google, Christakis has a TED Talk where he shows the video. You can also find the video on YouTube of this network changing in real-time.

Now they've got this network of people that are connected to each other and they've got the health data, so they can study how those two things interact. Their first finding was that your friends make you fat. I mean, you know what he said? We said it before. It sounds rude to say it. If you were around people who are obese, you have a statistically significant likelihood of becoming obese in your future. This is not correlational data. This is causal, because we're watching it develop over 30 years. We can see the link.

The same thing with smoking rates. Actually, the rates were cessation. Is that how you say it? Cessation of smoking. If you were around people that are non-smokers, you are more likely to quit smoking. If you're around people that do smoke, you're not going to quit in that 30-year period of time.

My favorite and this is where I get nitty-gritty on even percentages is was of happiness. There were questions in there. They actually used a survey. It's the reverse. They used a survey meant to figure out what the rates of depression were, but there were four questions in this larger, I forget how many questions, it’s either 10 or 12. There are four questions that have been used as a proxy for happiness or life satisfaction questions.

What they found is that if you are surrounded by people that are happy with their life, you are more likely to be happy with theirs. Your friend of a friend of a friend, so someone three degrees of separation, if the majority of those people that you don’t know, that you haven't met yet, but you have three links back to you, if the majority of them say that they're satisfied and happy with their life, you have a 6% greater likelihood to say you're happy with yours.

This sounds weird if you're not into the research. You're like, “Oh, big deal. 6%. That's nothing.” Well, it's actually a huge deal. There's very few things that can decrease your happiness or your chances of being happy by 6%. For example, if I gave you a $10,000 raise tomorrow, really a nice thing to do actually in today's current environment. I'm going to give you extra money. If I gave you a $10,000 raise tomorrow, that would only increase your chances of saying you're happy with your life by about 2%.

We've got three times. I mean, you really can't in the data say $30,000 worth of happiness, because it doesn't really work like that, but it's pretty close to that. We've got a massive, massive impact on your happiness that would take tens of thousands of dollars to buy just by the people that you are around.

Similar studies, I haven't dove into the research but, Christakis and Fowler, that research got picked up by a lot of different people. Literally if you google three degrees of influence, you will find all sorts of teams of researchers finding this to be true in so many different areas. It's fascinating

[0:13:00.3] MB: It's so crazy that people who in many cases you've never even met, who are friends of friends of friends of yours actually have a impact on your health. You made a really key point a minute ago, which is this isn't just correlation. It's actually a causal relationship as well.

[0:13:16.0] DB: Yeah. This is not a cross-sectional study. It's a longitudinal study, if we're going to get to nerdy terms. Cross-sectional is when I just do a screenshot capture, right? Here's what it is on this specific day. The longitudinal research allows you to build that model, watch it change and you can – now it's not as strongly causal as say, double-blind placebo-controlled study, like we do in medicine or something like that. You really can't do that study. This is as causal as a social network, or even an economic study can be, because you're watching it develop over time, which I think is huge.

The other thing I should say is what I find really funny about this phenomenon of the three degrees of influence is we don't know why yet. There's about four different theories of why this three degrees influence thing is – The best that I've ever heard explained and it was explained by Christakis is the idea that it's about norms. If you think about the bodyweight thing, what's an acceptable amount of weight to carry around your waist? What's an acceptable portion to eat in a meal? You're subtly influenced by watching the people around you and that shapes your norms and your senses of abilities.

We haven't proved that yet. That's just the leading theory. We still don't know why it is. I mean, I think it goes back to before we were civilized people. We are a tribal people, even from the beginning, and so it just makes sense that we take our cues about things from the people around us. What we don't realize is that if we're doing that, the people around us are also doing that, which means they're taking the cues from people we don't see, which really means to be honest with you, we need to start seeing them. We need to be able to explore that fringes of the network. We need to realize it's not our network. It's the network and we're just a part of it.

[0:14:46.9] MB: So interesting. I want to take this concept of network science and let's zoom that out a little bit and apply it to the current climate that we're interacting with. As we record this, we're right in the midst of the COVID-19 outbreak and this episode will most likely go live while it’s still happening. I'm really curious from that perspective. What do you think about this and how are people looking at it?

[0:15:09.9] DB: Yeah. I mean, there's a couple different things. Like I said earlier, my wife is a physician, so there's the sheer shock of how devastating this thing is and I don't want to make light of that in any fashion. From my world and my background, the last two books that I worked on, one was on networking and one was on how do you bond a team through that sense of purpose? Both of them were seeing play out in real-time. Here's what I mean; one of the biggest arguments that I made in Friend of a Friend, which came out in 2018 was that we need to reframe networking.

None of us want to go to those networking mixers, those unstructured events. We don't want to mix it up at the conference, right? Barely anybody stays for the happy hour at the end of the conference. We all think, “I need to escape back to my hotel room and check e-mail.” We don't want to do it anyway. There's a small group of people, let's say 10% of the population, the mega extroverts that like to do it and the rest of us like to hate those people. Just being totally honest.

The good news is that when you look at the act of networking, the verb of networking from a network science perspective, you find out that's not all that effective anyway. It's actually a better strategy to do two things really well. If you do them really well, you can skip any of these unstructured meeting strangers events.

The first is developing a system to be checking in with people on a regular basis, what we would call checking in with your weak ties, or dormant ties. These are specific terms. We're all really good at checking in at our strong ties, the people that we see every day, the people that we live with, the people that we work with, the people that we’re friends with. We're really good at checking with those people. Some of it happens by accident. Those people influence us more than anyone else.

The problem is we also think a lot alike, because of everything we've been talking about; the closer they are, the more they influence you. When you want new ideas, new information, new referrals to meet new people, if you go through that group, you end up having a very homogeneous network, because everybody thinks alike, acts alike, etc.

I mean, there's research and I covered in this the book that we are not a country of red states and blue states, or even red cities and blue cities politically. We are a country of red neighborhoods and blue neighborhoods. On the county or zip code level, people are segregating by that, which I think is fascinating because nobody – I mean, I guess around election cycle, we put the signs. Well, I don't, but some people put the signs out on their front lawn.

It's actually little things. If you drive a Ford F-150, I have a pretty good idea of who you're going to vote for in November, right? If you drive a Subaru, I have a pretty good idea of who you're going to vote for in November, right? We pick up on these little things and we chase that comfort. The people that are close to us and the people that they could potentially introduce us to, that's more of the same.

Your weak ties, the people you know but you don't really know all that well, you don't see them all that often and your dormant ties, which are people that you knew for a time, but for some reason or another, they fell by the wayside. These are your college friends, your former co-workers, those people that just life happens and you don't see them as often. They're a potent source of new information, new ideas, new opportunities, new referrals, because they're somewhere else in the giant network connected to a different group of strong ties. You get the opportunity to go through different from them.

Now why I think this is a really – I'm optimistic in that regard of networking is that this is actually a really good time to skip the meeting strangers thing, because you can’t, right? The events are canceled. We're all at home. This is a time to reach back to those weakened, dormant ties. The number one objection I normally got for two years when I would say you need to reach back out to those people we haven't talked to anymore – I mean, Matt, can you guess what the number one objection to, “Hey, Matt. You should be reaching out to the people you haven't talked to in a year or two years?” What do you think the number one objection is?

[0:18:37.9] MB: Hmm. Don't have the time?

[0:18:39.1] DB: Don't have the time. I mean, that's one and we have all of them. One more. One more.

[0:18:42.5] MB: I don't know what I would talk to them about?

[0:18:44.0] DB: Yeah. It's just so awkward, right? What am I going to say? I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say, and so I'm just not going to do it. I started calling it the clock of awkwardness, or the stopwatch of awkwardness, right? You talked to somebody and then the stopwatch starts. The longer you go, the more awkward it is the next time you reach out to them.

The crisis that we’re in literally affects everyone. I was on a Zoom call yesterday with someone in South Africa. We were talking about how South Africa is handling it. The day before, I was talking to somebody in Australia and we were talking about how Australia – Anyone in the world is at least thinking about this crisis, which means that it is totally appropriate to send an e-mail, or a text message, or even a phone call to anyone in that dormant tie category and just say, “Hey, I was thinking about you today and I wanted to check in. How are you holding up?”

You can even pro-offer help or anything like that, but just the act of saying, “Hey, wanted to check in and see how you're doing,” is a little touch point that can turn into a bigger conversation. Obviously, if they want to do it, right? If they don't want to talk, then that's fine. You can't bring everyone back into your circle. Now is the one time that all 7.7 billion people on this planet have a reason to reach back out to each other, to send goodwill to each other and it won't ever be seen as awkward, because why wouldn't you check in on the people that you care about?

In a weird way, that actually gets me encouraged that this thing that I've been telling people to do for a number of years now, pay attention to those weak and dormant ties and reach back out to them is something we all have the potential to do. Like you said, the first objection you gave me was don't have time. A lot of us have that time now as well.

[0:20:15.2] MB: Such a great strategy. I want to make sure I caught both pieces of this. You said the two best things you can do, one is to check in with people with your weak ties on a regular basis. What was the second thing?

[0:20:26.2] DB: Ah, yeah. I never got to it. Sorry. I got on my little rant about how now's the best time to reach back out to them. The second thing is that it's much better to be growing your network through the friend of a friend than meeting strangers, which is why the book is called that. I call that your one degree of separation, your hidden network, your friend of a friend, whatever you want to call it.

I think now is actually a pretty good time to be not only checking back in with those weak and dormant ties, but being generous with your network and potentially introducing people that are in your sphere of influence to each other and then also asking for introductions, or pro-offering introductions, that idea of getting people connected. That's more a time function than anything else.

The number one reason introductions between two people don't necessarily work is that we try and make them and we run out of time to follow up and they never actually have that chat. Now is a pretty good time to do it. We were talking about before recording, I'm overwhelmed at this point with it, but it's encouraging because it means people are doing it. I'm getting invited to these Zoom or Skype happy hour conversations on a almost daily basis, which is basically the smart people are doing it this way. I'm going to reach out to 10 people and say, “Let's get together on Friday at 4.”

I know that some of them know each other and I know that some of them don't, but I'm trying to create that community, trying to create those introductions for people. Now is a good time to do that as well. Like I said, this is the same one, when the book came out that I was arguing. If you do those two things, reach back out to your weak and dormant ties and then try and build new connections through your existing connections. You'll find that that's so effective that you don't have to worry about meeting strangers, which is great because it's really hard to do right now.

I mean, there are some people that are taking this time and using it to send cold e-mails to Mark Cuban to try and get his attention, which was wrong before the crisis and is definitely wrong now. That idea of trying to just cold outreach and convince people, or going to that networking meetup and trying to meet everybody, it didn't work all that effectively then, it's even less effective now. The two strategies you can use are the ones you should have been doing anyway. Weak and dormant ties and going to that one degree, that friend of a friend introduction piece.

[0:22:25.3] MB: I want to come back to the Zoom happy hour thing, because there's a question about that that I'm really curious around. It applies well beyond that, but we can use that as a specific example. How do you think about saying no in the context of networking, social engagements, that kind of thing and how do you think about which weak ties are the ones that you should reignite?

[0:22:46.2] DB: I mean, I'm not actually all that choosy. I'm going to answer in reverse order. I'm not all that choosy on which ones you should reignite. There are some people in your life, there are definitely some dormant ties, people you haven't talked to in two years and there's a very good reason you haven't talked to them in two years, right? We're not talking about those people.

Pretty much anybody else, it's worth doing. In my mind, there are all sorts of software now and things you can do to build a habit and say, “Oh, it's been 90 days since you talked to this person, or it's been six months since you talked to this person.” Reach back out. I don't like that, because I don't find it as organic. My goal for people is when they pop into your head for whatever reason, you should reach back out to them, right? I sent an e-mail today to some people, I would call them weak ties. We almost did some business together, but then we didn't for various good reasons. I'm not sour about it. Just didn't work.

They're in Seattle and I was reading a story about how Seattle is handling the COVID crisis and I thought, “You know what? I should check in with them.” I sent an e-mail to two of them and just said, I mean, literally exactly what I was encouraging people to say is, “Hey, I was thinking about you today, because I saw this. I just wanted to check in and see how you're all doing. If I can help in anything, let me know, etc.”

Actually, what I often do with these people too is I write, “No reply needed. I know this is a rough time.” People reply anyway. The reason I write ‘no reply needed’ is I want them to know I don't have an agenda. I'm just legitimately checking in and trying to send them well wishes. If they have the time, I'd love to talk to them. If they don't, no worries. I'm not offended by that.

In that is actually the answer to your first question too, which is so much of this right now I think is a function of time and whether or not you have the capacity. When we all suddenly watched our entire late March and April calendars just reset and every out appointment was cancelled and all that stuff. Some people, probably the mega extroverts, because they were going to go into with people withdrawals in this situation.

Some people started organizing a lot of this stuff right off the bat just naturally, which is great and super encouraging. For some of us, it created a problem of time now. I have too many things to do between my live-streamed yoga class and my Zoom happy hour and homeschooling my kids. I have too much stuff to do now, so I have to say no.

I think time is really the function that most people ought to be using for no. The weird thing is we think that when we decline an invitation because we don't have time, we need to specifically have something already on our calendar at that time in order to legitimately reject the request. I don't do that. I got to give a caveat here, because this is a Science of Success Podcast. I don't have data for this. This is all anecdotal what I'm about to say.

What I've taken to doing is I will say, “I'm so sorry. I don't have the capacity to make that work in my schedule right now.” I could have nothing on my schedule for that afternoon. I just would feel overwhelmed that I needed some downtime, right? That's what I mean when I say capacity. I'm not really blaming, like I can't do it right now because I'm booked, because that only works if you're not booked.

What I often say is I can't do it, because I don't have the capacity to do it right now. Then either pro-offer, like we could circle back a little bit later or something else. That's the polite way that I've learned to decline people. To be honest with you, if that came from as soon as I was an author getting all sorts of requests to like, “Hey, would you write this unpaid piece for our newspaper article to promote your book?” At first, you do it because you want the book out and then people keep offering and eventually, you have to be like, “No, I don't have the capacity to write that much stuff. I just don't.”

I've learned over time, again no data. This is a sample size of one, so I'm breaking my own rule here. That's what I've learned is when you're turning people down, don't lie and you don't even have to say, “I'm booked.” You can say, “I don't have the capacity to do it,” which is highly dependent on the individual person what your capacity is, so it's never a lie.

[0:26:13.1] MB: I love that strategy and really the permission to say just because you don't have a meeting on your calendar, doesn't mean that you don't have the attention, the time, the energy, whatever to take that meeting is a great – really, really great mental model or heuristic to think about that.

It reminds me of a story, one of my favorite little anecdotes from Tim Ferriss is he talks about he has the time for his mom to call him for one minute every hour, but he doesn't have the attention to deal with that. It's the same principle in some sense, but I really like that word ‘capacity’, because it's a great way to simultaneously give yourself permission to say, “Okay, just because I don't have a meeting at 3:00 doesn't mean that I can just take this call or take this meeting that's going to distract me and draw me away from what I'm really trying to focus on.”

[0:26:59.5] DB: If you're the type of person that can get away with being like, “No, because I don't want to,” then great. That works really, really well. I think that offends more people than it doesn't. It's basically saying the same thing, right? The reason I don't want to is 99% of the time, it's not because I don't like the person inviting me, it's because if I do that, I realize that I'm going to over stretch myself, or I'm going to have to give something else up or whatever. I've started leaning on that word capacity pretty profusely. I found that I've never gotten, “Oh, come one. I know you’re free this afternoon.” I've never gotten that. I've just gotten a, “Yeah. Yeah, I totally understand. A lot of us are stretched,” and that works really well.

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[0:29:23.8] MB: I want to zoom out even further and talk about some of the broader social implications and lessons that we can extrapolate out of dealing with this whole crisis.

[0:29:34.7] DB: Yeah. I think this is a massive time where we're seeing – we were talking right at the top about how that big misconception around individual talent, your results are the result of your just individual strengths and weaknesses, knowledge, skills and abilities, whatever. Really, it's a function of the team. We've never seen that at this global level.

The other reason I'm almost – I don't want to say encouraged, because I'm not encouraged. People are dying. It's not that type of thing. But I'm inspired by our ability to meet that challenge, because I don't know that we've ever seen a truly global – I use the term fight, because the most recent book is called Pick a Fight, but we've never seen a truly global struggle. The results of it have actually been amazing.

The way that communities and countries are sharing data and working together and collaborating on stuff, I mean, the thing that really made this apparent to me was in the initial days of this crisis, if you follow the whole thing, let's say. I mean, started before this, but let's say Jan 1, people started seeing what was going on in China and going, “Oh, this is pretty serious.” Most of us at that point were still, “This is pretty serious. I hope they find a way to recover.”

Most of us weren't thinking about ourselves and our own country until late February, early March. Even then, we weren't taking it seriously. Then around mid-March when we truly realized that this is something that could kill millions of people, we started seeing borders come down, even though they were closed. Travel-wise, they were closed. Information-wise and collaboration-wise they were open like never before.

We started seeing people doing research on – I mean, there's no cure for a virus, but people doing research on what medicines could lower the symptoms faster and get people in recovery faster. Normally, I mean, you know this because this is the academic community. Normally, you don't want to get scooped, so you do your research and you hide it and you play it really close to the chest, because you don't want anyone with this.

Instead, we saw doctors and researchers creating websites to post their paper and going, “We don't have time for peer review in the hidden world of journals. Our peer review will be putting up a website and letting you look at our data. If it helps, you could do it.” That's how we found what medicines we should be using and all that stuff.

We're seeing companies that have manufacturing capacity, but don't manufacture what's actually needed, re-learn and even work with each other. The thing that I think is the craziest is Ford Motor Company working with GE and 3M, which are two other major manufacturing things. Ford going, “We have the capacity to produce ventilators, but we don't have the know-how.” 3M and GE being like, “Oh, we have the know-how here. Let’s figure out how to do it together to create more ventilators, which is something that we desperately need.” We're seeing this on such a huge level.

Ironically, this is the main thesis of the book that I came out with a month ago. Now, I have to say I did not predict this at all and my evidence of that is that I published this book as an audio book only on the assumption that leaders, just like that our podcast listeners are also audio book fans and that they would prefer to read this on their commute to and from work, that no one has anymore because no one's commuting to and from work.

Not the best medium, but the message is about how when there is a global threat, when there is a global struggle or a need for reformation or revolution, really disparate communities find a way to bond very, very quickly. There's a ton of research out there about team building and that stuff and all of it is about working together and better understanding, etc. None of it really paid attention to this fact that if you can point to a threat and you can say that thing is an evil in the world that will affect us all if we don't work together, humans have always actually been good at putting all of those differences aside in those moments and working together. We've seen it throughout history.

I don't know that we've ever seen it on a global level like this. Even World War II was half the world fighting the other half of the world. Humans do that all the time. The other thing that I saw that was encouraging, it made me want to write Pick a Fight, is that we know about purpose, we know about start with why, we know about why we need to be purpose-driven companies, or people, or all that stuff, but how you define purpose is really, really vague.

The argument in Pick a Fight was that if your people or you can answer the question, what are we fighting for? Even if you don't use fight language ever, but if I ask you that question and you understand what I mean and can give me back an answer, then you have a sufficiently inspiring, actually motivating purpose. If you have something other than ogro revenue or shareholder value or something like that that doesn't motivate people. This isn't again one of those examples, where the entire world old is united in one global purpose, because if you ask anybody, I mean, literally I don't think people frame it like this as often, but if you thought about it for three seconds, if you're staying at home, if you're not listening to this in the car this week like you normally do because you're working from home, you are engaged in this fight to save the lives of your fellow humans. We are all fighting for this.

Even if it doesn't feel like it. Even it feels like only doctors and nurses and people making ventilators are fighting, we're all fighting together by this. You are literally motivated to do that work of staying home. I mean, Tiger King on Netflix helps, but you're motivated to stay home because you see it as this is this thing that we are all fighting together and we need to overcome. We need to put up aside all of those differences. If it means stay at home, it means stay at home. If it means mask up and get to work, it means that. We're all motivated and inspired by that, because we all have this purpose that meets that what are you fighting for litmus test.

[0:34:40.5] MB: Yeah. Great insight. There's a couple different avenues I want to explore coming out of that. Ine of the most interesting things that I was looking at and I don't know if this directly applies to your work, but I think it's worth getting your perspective on. I saw some research recently that was talking about how you hear these people talking about the collapse of society and the probability of that – could that happen, all this stuff. Actually saw a really interesting study that was talking about during times of crisis, humans actually become more pro-social and band together. It's really the opposite of that doomsday scenario. The reality is that these are the exact times that we stick together and we team up and we support each other.

[0:35:19.2] DB: Yeah. I mean, you almost always see, natural disasters tend to be the ones that are the most pro-social, because in those situations there's no one to blame. This is actually one of the points we put out in the book. In normal times, your fight can't be you against some other competitor, because that doesn't actually motivate people. I mean, it does, but it motivates them to act unethically, or in anger, or things that aren't actually overall productive.

We tend to see that in natural disasters where we would predict, “Oh, there's going to be this and that.” In reality, people act more pro-social. Now that's not everyone, right? In hurricane situations, there is still looting because there are some jerks there. There's a whole lot less than they should be.

I live in the middle of the country where that's been the big thing since this whole stuff started is people are stocking up on guns and ammo. I'm like, “Guys, you're not going to need that.” If you're really worried about people breaking into your house, put a sign that says, “We're in COVID-19 quarantine,” on the front of your house and no one will break in, right?

[0:36:10.5] MB: That's good insight.

[0:36:12.5] DB: In reality, what happens throughout history when we feel whether it's attacked, like September 11th, I think it was Hirohito. I'm bad in my history on this, but after the Pearl Harbor attack in World War II, it was either the emperor or was General Hirohito have said we have awakened a sleeping giant. Because what they didn't realize was that now these people feel even more threatened, and so they are going to bond together even more.

We almost always do that. I mean, this was the impetus for Pick a Fight was I was upset that we talked about that as a, “Huh. Isn't that interesting?” What we don't say is that while we understand the importance of purpose and of having a good why and having a cause and a mission and a vision and all of that stuff, we're not actually leveraging that bigger thing which is we as a people love to fight for a just cause. We'd love to fight for something to remove an evil in the world, even if it's an evil that hit us and we come back late down.

What's the Tony Stark line from Infinity War, right? We're not the defenders. We’re the Avengers, so we need to go and actually avenge this. We act that way. Sometimes we're the defenders and sometimes we're the avengers. Whenever those negative events happen, that is our natural response is, that pro-social behavior.

Again, there's biological reasons or sociological reasons we could talk about us as a tribal creature for, but I just think it's because one of our huge underlying motivations is that we want to make an impact in the world. When we're in times of crisis, it becomes easier for people to see what that impact they can make is, and so they do it.

[0:37:44.3] MB: What are some of the – and you touched on one or two of these already, but I want to explore deeper some of the lessons that we can learn and start to apply as leaders from both this global response to the pandemic and also from all the work and the research that you did for Pick a Fight and your other work.

[0:38:02.4] DB: Yeah. I think the big thing that we need to be asking is what do we do when this is over, right? As we're recording this, this is the time to talk about it. For the first couple of weeks, I get it. Every leader, every team leader, everyone was trying to figure out how this thing was going to reset their lives. We're at a point now where we have a pretty good hand. I can't tell you what's going to happen, but it feels like things are settled. We have a plan of action. Life's not going to go back to normal tomorrow, but we can look a few months out and see things going back to normal.

The big question for leaders is do we want to go back to normal, right? We've seen the way that this outside crisis and we saw this September 12th, 2001 was the best day to be an American. I mean, the tragedy that happened the day before was horrible. It was horrific. The way that we were bonded on that 12th was amazing. Unfortunately in lack of a threat over 20 years, we've now moved back into we're the most polarized we've been well in 20 years, right?

I'm not saying the prescription is to hope for another crisis or another attack. I think the prescription for leaders is to use that ability to influence and inspire to point to some other crisis in the world. On an international level, there are a host of global crisises, yeah, that's the way to plural that, that we could go after. Even in your own company. One of the things I've been encouraged to see is as I was writing the book, I was working with a couple different companies, large and small, really just stress test these ideas before I put them out there in the world. So many of them have come back and actually said, in this time we redefined our fight, or we double down on it.

One of my buddies is an entrepreneur that runs a chain of personal training studios in Canada. Just like there as here, every gym, every person, all of it is closed. His entire business is forcibly closed. No mistake he ever did. If you asked them before what are we fighting for, we're fighting to get people healthier, we're fighting to keep people alive, because we know that actually, even in the midst of the COVID-19 crisis, we know that if you are relatively healthy, you are at much less risk, right? We're fighting to keep people alive through health. That didn't change when the government forced their gyms to closed.

In a matter of a week he said, “You know what? We're still fighting the same battle. How do we fight it in this current environment? All we have to change is our strategy. We don't have to change our fight.” Within a week, they had pivoted to this entire system where if you were a former client, you can still get on and work personally with your former trainer that you just do it over distance, over video call, etc., right? Because they were still willing to fight.

That's I think the big thing for leaders, if you had a good answer to that question, what are we fighting for? Then what you need to be worried about is how the strategy changes because the environment changes, but the fight doesn't change. If however you're like a lot of organizations, I mean, 8 out of 10 people in the world are disengaged or actively disengaged in their job, so there's a lot of organizations that might say they have a purpose or a mission statement, but really don't have a fight. Now is the time to point to that thing.

I outlined a couple different templates of fights in the book. I think the one that works the best for a lot of organizations is either the ally fight, which is what things like Ford are taking advantage of now, here's who we helped by continuing to exist. Or the revolutionary fight, which is this is a norm that our industry has accepted and we refuse to accept that any longer. Those are two that are really, really solid for refocusing people's attention on bigger things. It's not about market share or profitability. It's about changing the environment to bring more justice to it, or to bring a better outcome for our customers, our clients, whatever it is. It's about changing that.

I mean, it's literally a revolution. I think now is the time as we're looking to the rest of this year and to the future, to pull that lesson back and go, “Yeah. My people have known what it is to help fight for something now, so I need to point to that bigger fight moving forward.”

[0:41:45.6] MB: If you feel you don't have a fight, how do you start to think about one?

[0:41:51.9] DB: Yeah. I have to answer this on two levels. There's a leadership level and the individual level. On the leadership level, one of the grand ironies that I found is that what you – it’s not just enough to say, “I don't think we have a fight.” You might actually be better off in that situation. The bigger problem is thinking you have a fight and realizing that your people think they're fighting a different fight, right? You think that you do a good job.

This is a big misconception about leadership in general. Leaders don't cast a vision. We talk so much about that; casting a vision and getting buy-in on the vision and mission. The smartest leaders in history don't do that. What they do is put to words the vision that people already had, right? Martin Luther King gave an amazing speech to the Million Man March about his dream, but the 600,000 people that tuned in to hear, what they actually heard was their dream. He just put it to words.

I really don't like that it's called the ‘I Have a Dream speech’, because literally what he's doing is he's saying everybody's dream. he's finding a way to put it – Well, not everybody, but everybody was their dream. He's finding a way to put it to words. Your biggest thing in my opinion is to look at what resonates with your people. There's a bunch of different ways to do it. There's activities that we can do to do it or whatever.

The quick-and-dirty is this, find some time over the next two weeks to ask everybody on your team, pull them aside for 90 seconds. Tell them they're not in trouble. This isn't a pop quiz. Your job doesn't depend on this answer. Ask them two really simple questions, what do we do here? What business are we in? What do we do? Then how does what you do help us do that? What you'll find is that depending on their answer, they’ll either talk about how your company exists inside the industry, or how your company exists with customers, or how it plays against competitors and all of those things are going to give you a hint at what template, like I was talking about the revolution and the ally fight, what template you can use.

If they talk a lot about the industry and how they're different from the industry, then what will probably resonate most with them is that revolutionary fight. If they talk a lot about the customers, then it's probably the ally fight. Your job at that point isn't to come up with your own vision, it's to put to words that vision that they already have. Then after that, it's to collect stories that convince them that they are fighting the right fight. You don't have to keep spouting the vision.

I mean, I can't tell you how many times I've rolled my eyes, because I've worked for a company where the senior leaders are great at saying the mission statement and no one else remembers what it is. We hear it, we roll our eyes, because we know it would be different in 18 months when they read a different book. You know what I'm talking about. We've all been there. Your job shouldn't be to do that. Your job should be to collect the stories that tell people they are in the right fight. That's on the leadership side.

On the individual side, it's actually the same questions, but what we call in the psychological literature, this is referred to as job crafting. It's that cognitive reframing. You want to pay attention to three different areas in the work that you do, the actual tasks that you do. Do you do them differently than other people because you found a better way to do it? That might be a little mini-revolution. Are there some that you do and they totally drain you?

You might even think about taking them off of your list, because you don't see how they answer that question what do we do here and how does what I do help us do that? You also want to look at your relationships. Not only customer relationships, but the people that you work with that would be your internal customers. Can you see a real through-line about how the work that you do helps their fight maybe?

Then lastly, there's that cognitive reframing, which is really flows out of the tasks and relationships piece and is really about that idea of okay, if I look at these different templates and I look at what I do and who I do it for, what's the best way that I can reframe that? The best example of cognitive reframing is that John F, Kennedy line where he is touring around NASA and he talks to the janitor and he says, “Oh, so what do you do for NASA?” He says, “Oh, I'm helping put a man on the moon.” He is, because he's helping feed into that system. He's done a great job of cognitively reframing what he does. The task didn't change, the people didn't change, but the way he thinks about it didn't change.

Again, depending on if you're in a leadership role and you have the ability to do that survey and set, here's what I think we're fighting for, you definitely need to be doing it. If you don't have that, or you're a solopreneur or something like that, then we just need to look at it that individual level and how can we job craft in so that we feel the work that we do answers the flight that we're called to fight.

[0:45:48.7] MB: Great piece of advice. I want to come back to the idea of collecting stories to help convince people they're in the right fight. Because you touched on something that is very common phenomenon in the workplace, which is somebody reads a business book and then they come in and the mission is this. Then six months later, it's a new mission, etc. How do you avoid that mission creep, that purpose creep, the shifting sands and really stay focused on the fight?

[0:46:13.2] DB: Yeah. Well, I mean, so first of all, you stay focused on the fight. This actually makes me a little sad. If I can nerd out for a bit, one of the mega professors of our generation is Adam Grant, right? We know him as the give-and-take guy. We know him as the originals guy. There was a study that he led on I think it was something to the effect of the salience of purpose, or the salience of mission. Basically, it looked at whether or not employees of a company were more motivated by hearing their leader talk about what they did, or were more motivated by hearing customers of the organization talk about how that company helps them,

and you know where I'm going with this. It wasn't even close, right?

We are naturally more motivated when we hear it from people who are directly affected from our work, than the people who are leading our work. I think the big thing there is either staying on mission all the time, or stop. It's not your job to say the mission all the time. Then that'll help fight mission creep right off there. Your job is to affect company culture. If you run an organization that is large enough to where you don't directly touch every employee, they don't directly respond to you, then you need to rely on company culture to shape their behaviors, not your own charisma.

I mean, there's a bunch of different research on company culture, all sorts of different models and that stuff. I'll boil it down to this. It's about stories and rituals and artifacts. Stories are exactly we've been talking about; the stories that get passed around about the way that you serve that one customer. The nerdy example and it's a little outdated, but there's this example about Nordstrom, which is a huge customer service company and they tell this story about a person who came in and wanted to return his tires.

Then because customer service is super important, the Nordstrom employee said, “Yeah, yeah. How much did you pay for them? We’ll refund your purchase.” Nordstrom doesn't sell tires. They're not Sears, right? They just sell clothes and a couple other luxury department store goods, but he did it anyway because that would have been what satisfied the customer. That's what I mean when I say stories. Or that story of the person that's been anything, that's been positively impacted by your fight.

Artifacts are those visual images, those physical things that you can point to that really help convey that sense of mission. One of my favorite companies in the universe is the WD-40 company, not just because I love their products, but because they have been really focused on if you ask them what they're fighting for, they'll actually say each other. They've been really focused on we just happen to sell WD-40, but our real reason for existence is to create a community and a culture where everybody can thrive.

They use the term ‘tribe’. Depending on where they are, what offices – I mean, they’re a global company. They have usually first-world, or aboriginal, or there's a teepee in the front of their home office, which is cultural appropriation, but you get what they're going at, because they're using all these visuals to reinforce the idea of try. That's artifact.

The last thing is rituals. What are those little things that we do? I have a good buddy of mine that runs a minor, minor, minor, minor, minor, minor league baseball team in Georgia called the Savannah Bananas. Their big fight is they're fighting for the fans, because baseball is basically ripping off fans. The tickets are too expensive. You get nickel and dime, you get in there, the game itself is boring. They have this little ritual where they say they stand for their fans.

If you went in in the normal week and you walked into the box office to buy tickets or something like that, every employee that sees you walk in will stand as if you're the president, or a Supreme Court justice or something like that. Just a little ritual, but it reinforces that idea of what we're fighting for.

That's your real job as a leader. It's not to get up there and bloviate and spout this thing. This is where I think the era of casting a vision has dealt us wrong. It's not about your own charisma at that point. If you run an organization that's large enough, it's about how do you collect stories, how do you determine what artifacts people are going to encounter on a daily basis and what are the rituals we can use to reinforce that idea of this is what we're fighting for. That is what builds up company culture and that is your real job as a leader.

[0:49:53.5] MB: Fantastic advice. We've touched on a number of really valuable strategies, ideas, insights, etc. What would be one action item that you would give to listeners to take some concrete action to implement, one of the things we've talked about today?

[0:50:09.6] DB: Yeah. I'll give you two, because we’ve talked a lot about this networking piece in a world of COVID and we talked about the purpose piece. The first on the networking side is by the end of the day and the easiest way to do this actually, take your smartphone if you've got one, if you got a dumb phone, you could still do this, but it's easier. Open your messages app, your text messages app, scroll all the way to the bottom, because if you didn't know this already, it's sorted by frequency of interactions.

The person you haven't talked to in the longest is right there at the bottom of all of your messages. Send that person a text message and just say, “I was thinking about you today. How are you holding up in the midst of all of this?” Just say that and see what they say back. It will probably provoke a larger conversation and it'll be great to catch up with that person. If it doesn't, do it again on the next most one until you get that.

Now is the time to be doing that, because first of all – I don’t want to say we all have the time, because our capacities are different, but we will all receive that message as a beneficial message, as a non-awkward message, so now is the time to do that.

On the leadership side, if you are in a – or on the purpose side, if you are in a leadership role, now is the time to start asking your people. Just the one-on-one randomly, ask one of them. Every time you're on a call with them this week, ask one of them to stay and just throw them that 90-second question. “Hey, what do we do here then how does what you do help that?” If you're not in a leadership role, that second question is the more important. What do we say our purpose as a company is and then how does what I do help that?

You may have never actually thought through that and that's actually all you need is to figure. The fancy term in the research literature for this is ‘task significance’. All you really need to do is draw that line between the work that you do every day and the person who's helped from that. That's often enough to increase your productivity, your motivation, your inspiration, even just your general feeling of well-being as a result of doing that. Now we've got a little bit more capacity in our schedules to do that deep reflection. Ask yourself that question. How does what I do help with that larger organizational mission?

[0:51:56.9] MB: David, where can listeners find you and all of your work online?

[0:52:01.7] DB: Yes. I'll tell you, if you're listening to this and you've been listening to this all the way through, then the single best place would be the show notes for this episode. Scienceofsuccesspodcast.com. Matt and his team do an amazing job with details of this whole interview, but then also all the links. I mean, my last name is really hard to spell and weird and didn't you're not going to pull over and type it in anyway. Just double tap the cover art, right? Or go to the show notes for this episode, because you already love Matt's work and I'm there. I hope you do, because I hope we keep this conversation going, but that's probably the one best place on the entire interwebs if you're listening to this. That's the best place to connect with me.

[0:52:33.4] MB: David, thank you so much for coming on the show, sharing all this wisdom, some great advice and some really interesting insights.

[0:52:40.5] DB: Oh. Thank you so much for having me.

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March 26, 2020 by Lace Gilger in Influence & Communication, Career Development

In this episode, we uncover the truth about networking. Why most people do it wrong, how you can do it right, and the key ingredient that’s been missing in your networking efforts with our guest Dr. Ivan Misner.

Named “Humanitarian of the Year” by The Red Cross, Ivan Misner Ph.D. is a people scientist. He is the author/co-author of multiple business networking books and he’s been called a “Top Networking Expert” by Forbes and the “Father of Modern Networking” by CNN. Ivan is the Founder of the world’s largest networking organization, BNI.com. He is also most recently the co-author of Who's in Your Room? The Secret To Creating Your Best Life. 

  • What is networking? Why do people misunderstand networking?

  • Don’t jump right into sales mode. 

  • “The networking disconnect"

  • The “VCP” Process

    • <Invisibility> 

    • Visibility first

    • Then Credibility

    • Profitability

  • You communicate differently depending on where you are with 

  • Networking is more about farming than it is about hunting, it's about cultivation 

  • The 24x7x30 follow up process

    • 24hrs: follow up “It was great to meet you, I hope our paths cross again."

    • Within 7 days: Connect with them on social media where THEY like to play not where YOU like to play

      • Ask in conversation - where do you hang out on social media?

    • Within 30 days, reach out to them and follow up for a face to face or a phone call and “learn more about what you do"

  • GOLDEN RULE: DON’T SELL TO PEOPLE WHEN YOU FIRST MEET THEM

  • Once you get to credibility, start going deeper, ask how you can help people with the projects that they are working on, etc. 

  • You need a network that is both wide and in places deep. 

  • How do you decide which contacts to go deep with?

    • Start with self-awareness and your personal values. 

    • What are your top personal values?

    • If you don’t know your values, you don’t know what kind of life or business you want to create. You have to work with people whose values align with yours. 

    • Find people whose values connect with your values, you can connect with them on a personal level 

    • They don’t have to be the same values they just have to be resonant or similar to yours

  • Here’s a good way to start with your values - begin with your deal breakers. What is the behavior you absolutely don’t like in a business person or friend?

  • “Follow up is the secret sauce to networking"

  • It’s all about touchpoints with people. It’s a lot easier to stay in touch with people via social media than it used to be. 

  • What do you think about what your touch points should be?

    • Find ways to help people

    • “Givers gain” - find ways to help people. 

  • If there is any force multiplier in building a relationship it's your skill in asking “how can I help you?” 

  • “How can I help you?” It shouldn’t happen when you're in the visibility stage of the relationship. 

  • When you’re networking “up” you need to not impose what you want on the other person. 

  • Can it hurt to ask? If you ask too early in a relationship you may never have the opportunity to ask again.

  • How do you manage your CRM?

  • Manage your CRM using the “VCP” funnel/pipeline because you should have a different communication strategy for each part of the funnel 

  • "You can network anywhere, anytime, even at a funeral."

    • BUT - you have to honor the occasion. 

  • Networking secrets for introverts

  • How do you scale a business from your garage to a global enterprise?

    • You must have systems.

    • You have to know your numbers.

      • You have to get granular with your numbers.

  • Do you want to be successful in business? Do six things 1000 times. DON’T do 1000 things six times.

    • What activities should you pick?

    • Let MENTORS (or virtual mentors) guide you.

    • What are your key success factors? The handful of things in your business, that you can measure, that massively contribute to your success. 

    • Be a dog with a bone. 

  • Work in your flame, not in your wax.

    • People are on fire, they are excited, they are passionate, they are engaged. When they are working in their wax they hate what they are doing. 

    • As soon as possible hire people whose flame is your wax. 

  • Learn how to delegate effectively. 

  • You have to learn how to reinvent yourself. Hire people to do the things that you’re getting tired of. 

  • Hire slow, fire fast. 

    • "I’ve lost more sleep over the people that I’ve kept, than the people that I’ve fired"

  • Culture eats strategy for breakfast. To create a great culture you MUST know your businesses and your personal core values. 

  • The processes in your business become your “traditions” and they can become your core values. Think about the process and the stories that you tell. 

  • Homework: Get to know your values. 

  • Homework: Start building your relationships. 

  • It’s not WHO you know, it’s HOW WELL you know each other. 

    • If I called that person, would they take my call, and would they do me a favor?

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Want To Dig In More?! - Here’s The Show Notes, Links, & Research

General

  • Dr. Misner’s Website and Wiki Page

  • Dr. Misner’s LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook

  • BNI Website and Podcast

Media

  • Author Directory on Entrepreneur and Muck Rack

  • “OMG, I’m an Introvert!?“ by Dr. Ivan Misner

  • Forbes - “Pick Your Network Like Your Life Depends On It -- This New Book Says It Does” by Caroline Ceniza-Levine

  • Exchange 4 Media - “Networking is a 24x7x30 exercise around the globe: Dr Ivan Misner” by Priyaankaa Mathur

  • Brand Quarterly - “Premature Solicitation – Don’t Get Caught Out” by Dr. Ivan Misner

  • Fast Company - “Getting Across The Great Gender Divide In Business Networking” by Dr. Misner (2012)

  • [Podcast] David Bryson “Why Can’t You?” - Dr. Ivan Misner

  • [Podcast] Social Capital - 130: Do 6 things, 1,000 times - with Dr. Ivan Misner

  • [Podcast] Dose of Leadership - 232 – Dr. Ivan Misner: Founder & Chief Visionary Officer of BNI

  • [Podcast] How to Be Awesome at Your Job - 184: Building Your Network Before You Need It with Dr. Ivan Misner

  • [Podcast] The Danlok Show - Dr. Ivan Misner

Videos

  • Ivan’s YouTube Channel

    • Jordan Adler shares “Why BNI”

    • Richard Branson Talks to Ivan Misner about the 'Plan B' Concept

  • BNI international - Top 10 Traits Of A Master Networker - Ivan Misner And BNI

  • BNI Global Headquarters Official Channel - Ivan Misner Reflects on 30 Years of BNI®

  • Thomas Höller - Dr Ivan Misner Who's In Your Room

  • Jaime Masters - “HOW TO GET REFERRALS FAST, FREE” - Master Networking with Millionaire “Ivan Misner”

  • Eric Worre - Network Marketing Pro - BNI Founder Ivan Misner On The Power Of Network Marketing - NMPRO #1,123

  • Javier Rivero-Diaz - Amazing Keys for Success - How to Network Effectively with Ivan Misner, Founder of BNI - Best tips!

Books

  • Who's in Your Room: The Secret to Creating Your Best Life by Ivan Misner Ph.D., Stewart Emery L.H.D., and Rick Sapio  

  • Networking Like a Pro: Turning Contacts into Connections Paperback – November 14, 2017 by Ivan Misner and Brian Hilliard

  • The 29% Solution: 52 Weekly Networking Success Strategies by Ivan Misner and Michelle R. Donovan 

  • Healing Begins in the Kitchen: Get Well and Stay There with the Misner Plan by Ivan Misner PhD, Beth Misner, Eddie Esposito, and Miguel Espinoza MD 

  • Avoiding the Networking Disconnect: The Three R's to Reconnect by Ivan Misner, Ph.D. and Brennan Scanlon 

  • ROOM FULL OF REFERRALS® …”and how to network for them!” by Dr Tony Alessandra, Dr Ivan Misner, and Dawn Lyons

  • Business Networking and Sex: Not What You Think by Ivan Misner, Hazel M. Walker, and Frank J. De Raffelle Jr 

  • Masters of Sales: Secrets From Top Sales Professionals That Will Transform You Into a World Class Salesperson by Ivan Misner

  • Masters of Success: Proven Techniques for Achieving Success in Business and Life by Ivan R. Misner and Don Morgan

  • The World's Best Known Marketing Secret: Building Your Business with Word-of-Mouth Marketing by Ivan R. Misner and Virginia Devine

  • Business by Referral : A Sure-Fire Way to Generate New Business by Ivan Misner and Robert Davis

  • Masters of Networking: Building Relationships for Your Pocketbook and Soul by Ivan R. Misner and Don Morgan

  • Truth or Delusion?: Busting Networking's Biggest Myths by Ivan R. Misner

  • It's in the Cards! by Ivan Misner, Candace Bailly, and  Dan Georgevich

Misc

  • Dr. Misner’s talks w/ Richard Branson

    • Richard Branson Shares his Circles of Support Concept

    • The Power of Undivided Attention

    • A Burning Question for Richard Branson

    • Richard Branson’s ‘Plan B’ Initiative for a Better World–How You Can Make a Difference

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Episode Transcript

[00:00:04.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success. Introducing your host, Matt Bodnar.

[0:00:11.8] MB: Welcome to the Science of Success; the number one evidence-based growth podcast on the Internet with more than five million downloads and listeners in over a hundred countries.

In this episode, we uncover the truth about networking, why most people do it wrong, how you can do it right and the key ingredient that’s been missing in your networking efforts with our guest, Dr. Ivan Misner.

Are you a fan of the show and have you been enjoying the content that we put together for you? If you have, I would love it if you signed up for our e-mail list. We have some amazing content on there, along with a really great free course that we put a ton of time into called How To Create Time for What Matters Most In Your Life. If that sounds exciting and interesting and you want a bunch of other free goodies and giveaways along with that, just go to successpodcast.com. You can sign up right on the homepage. That’s successpodcast.com. Or if you’re on your phone right now, all you have to do is text the word “smarter”, that’s S-M-A-R-T-E-R to the number 44-222.

In our previous episode, we shared the universal secret to growing any business, how to build a unicorn startup and what the real definition of an entrepreneur is, as well as much more with our previous guest, the Square Co-Founder, Jim McKelvey.

Now for our interview with Ivan.

[0:01:37.9] MB: Named Humanitarian of the Year by the Red Cross, Dr. Ivan Misner is a people scientist. He's the author and co-author of several business networking books and has been called the top networking expert by Forbes and the Father of Modern Networking by CNN. Ivan is the founder of the world's largest networking organization BNI. He's also most recently the co-author of Who's in Your Room: The Secret to Creating Your Best Life. I hope you're staying healthy out there. Ivan, welcome to the Science of Success.

[0:02:08.8] IM: Thank you. It's a real pleasure to be on.

[0:02:11.2] MB: Well, we're so excited to have you on the show today. You have an incredible background and have been tremendously successful. I can't wait to learn about networking and hear some about your success story and what you've been working on lately.

[0:02:23.8] IM: Thanks, Matt.

[0:02:25.2] MB: Well, let's start with something simple and it's a question you've probably been asked and answered a million times, but what is networking and what do so many people misunderstand, or get wrong about networking?

[0:02:38.1] IM: Well, to me networking in its simplest form is about developing relationships. I think that a lot of people get networking wrong. They view networking as a face-to-face, cold-calling opportunity. “Hi, Matt. My name is Ivan. Let's do business.” They jump right into sales mode. Years ago, I did this big presentation. There are 900 people in the audience. I don't know what possessed me, but I asked – it was an all-day affair, a lot of networking. I was the keynote.

I asked everyone. I said, “How many of you are here today hoping to maybe just possibly sell something?” Matt, 900 people raised their hands. They all raised their hands. I thought that was good. I said, “Great. Second question, how many of you are here today hoping to maybe just possibly buy something?”

[0:03:21.6] MB: Nobody?

[0:03:22.3] IM: Nobody raised their hand. Not one single person. This is what I call the networking disconnect. People show up wanting to sell, nobody's there to buy. Then they go, networking doesn't work. Well, networking works fine. You're doing it wrong. If you're there to sell, you're doing it wrong. Why go? I believe you go to networking events, to work your way through what I call the VCP process; visibility, credibility, profitability.

Visibility is where people know who you are and they know what you do. When you get to that point, you move to credibility where people know who you are, what you do, they know you're good at it. Then and only then can you get to profitability, where people know who you are, what you do, they know you're good at it and they're willing to refer other people to you. That process takes time.

Networking is more about farming than it is about hunting. It's about cultivating relationships. That's I think how people get it wrong is they go right into sales mode, rather than relationship building mode.

[0:04:16.1] MB: Yeah. So much wisdom and there's a couple things I want to break down and explore from that. I've always thought the VCP process is so simple and yet, really powerfully describes what so many people miss about networking.

[0:04:29.8] IM: Yeah, no doubt about it. What's interesting is that once I explain the VCP process to people they go, “Okay, I get it. I understand that.” It goes all the way down to the way you communicate with people. Let's take the two ends of the extreme, the visibility versus profitability. When you send an e-mail message to somebody that you're a profitability with, if you knew me really well and we had a good relationship, I could send an e-mail to you and say, “Hey, Matt. Would you put this out to your social media that I'm doing an event on such-and-such a date?” You’d go, “Yeah, I'd be happy to do it.”

If I sent that to you and we weren't even at visibility and I say, “Hey, would you promote this?” People are like, “That’s spam. No. I'm not going to do that.” You communicate differently with the people that you're at depending on where you're at. There's actually a fourth phase that I haven't mentioned yet. It comes before visibility and that's invisibility, where they really don't even know you and they're asking for something.

When that happens, by the way in one of my books, I wrote a book on the difference between men and women and how they network, we call that premature solicitation, which you don't want to say fast three times, it'll get you in trouble.

[0:05:36.4] MB: I'm curious. Tell me a little bit more about this idea of premature solicitation and even this this concept of, let's say, this is a good example. I went to an event a couple days ago and when you go to any event that has a networking component, an industry conference, etc., how do you think about approaching that from the perspective of if you have zero visibility, etc., how do you start from the ground up and start to cultivate some of those relationships?

[0:06:03.8] IM: It's all about follow-up. A couple of my books, Networking Like Pro is one of them. I talk about the 24/7/30 follow-up process or system. 24/7/30. Within 24 hours, you should reach out to them and say, “Hey, it was really nice meeting you at the Chamber function, or at the BNI event. Really nice meeting you recently and I hope our paths cross again.” You could do an e-mail if you want, but a handwritten note, or I love send out cards. I'm a user. I don't sell it, but I love it. It's a great way online for you to send a printed card through the mail.

You reach out to them within 24 hours and say, “Hey, it was great meeting you. I hope our paths cross again.” Whatever you do, don't sell to them. It's like sales Tourette's. People just – and they blurt it out and they sell. Don't do that. It's 24/7/30. Within seven days, connect with them on social media. What's really important to understand is you got to go where they like to play, not where you like to play. I learned this from my kids, because my eldest, she's 33 now, but when she was 17 or 18, if I called her on my phone, she wouldn't answer. If I texted her, boom, she'd respond right then.

Then my second daughter when she was a teenager, early 20s, and this is maybe she's 28 now, so it was maybe when she was 18, 19, I would call her, nothing, text her, nothing. I went to my wife and I said, “Well, what do I do? She's not responding.” She said, “Oh, we got to WhatsApp her.” Now this is eight years ago and I'm like, “What's WhatsApp? I don't even know what that is.” My wife had to show me WhatsApp.” Call her, nothing, text her, nothing, but if I WhatsApp her, she responded immediately.

Then came my son; call him, nothing, text him, nothing. He didn't like WhatsApp. He was a gamer. I figured this one out on my own. I knew he used an online platform called Steam. I downloaded Steam and I bought a game. I was in my 50s. I bought a game, because they had an instant messaging feature. I knew if I instant messaged him, boom, he'd respond immediately and he did.

You want to go where they are. I learned a little bit of networking from my kids, because if I wanted to communicate with my children, I needed to go where they were. Not where I want. Me, I'm old-school. Pick up the phone and call you, but that's not what they wanted. Same thing here, go where they are. When you're having a conversation with them, ask them, “Where do you hang out on social media? LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter? Which one do you like?” Then find that out and then go connect with them and make touch points and don't sell to them. “Hey, this is Ivan. We met at the BNI event and I love some of the stuff you're posting.” Or comment on posts.

Then within 30 days, 24/7/30, within 30 days, reach out to them and say, “I'd love to get together with you face-to-face.” If you can't do a face-to-face because they're too far away, Skype. Buy a cup of coffee if it's face-to-face. “I'd love to learn more about what you do.” Get together and spend an hour talking about what they do, a little bit about what you do and even then, don't sell to them. It's about building the relationship. At 30 days, you're just at visibility. You're not even at credibility.

[0:09:15.7] MB: That's a great framework in the analogy, or the example of the different social media platform is so true. I have nieces and nephews that are teenagers and I have to Snapchat them and all kinds of different things. You got to find the right way to get in and then they immediately start interacting with you. It's a perfect analogy.

The point, I love the example of calling it sales Tourette's, right? The point not selling, just being really genuine, trying to build a rapport, trying to build a relationship is really, really smart and makes total sense.

I want to come back to this other concept. I think you've touched on this, but it's almost a different perspective too, or a different piece of the same answer. You mentioned this idea of focusing on farming, instead of hunting. Focus on cultivation, instead of going out and constantly generating new context. Tell me more about that distinction and how we can do it well and how we can maybe do it poorly.

[0:10:09.4] IM: The whole process of coming across like you're hunting is when you go to networking events and you're trying to sell. Instead of that, what you should be doing is trying to build relationships. Let's go back to the VCP process. If it's someone you're meeting for the first time, it's really all about just getting to know them well enough where you can go through the 24/7/30.

Let's say you're at visibility. Maybe you've already had a one-to-one with them. You them at another event, that's a chance to touch bases with them. “Hey, it was great talking to you a couple of months ago when we met.” You just keep that connection alive. If you're at credibility, that's where you want to start going deeper with the person and say, “Look. Tell me more about the projects you got going on. How can I help you with that project? What can I do for you?” If you’re at credibility, that's the question you should be asking them.

Now if you're at profitability, it's a whole different ball game. “Hey, that referral you gave me last month turned into a sale. I really appreciate it. I've got somebody for you. Let's connect tomorrow, because I want to refer them to you.” Different kinds of conversations based on the different people that you meet, most of them will probably be at pre-visibility or visibility when you go to some networking events. Some won't. I mean, in BNI you're meeting a lot of the people over and over again, so it's really working the credibility and profitability level. It depends on who you're talking to. Does that make sense?

[0:11:30.9] MB: Yeah, that totally makes sense. I want to talk a little bit in a second about some of the strategies for cultivating, maintaining and organizing your network. Before we even get into that, maybe in the specific context of a networking event, or more broadly thinking about managing our networks, how do you think about the relationship between breadth and depth, if that makes sense? In terms of having a ton of really shallow relationships, versus a few deep relationships and where do you try to strike that balance?

[0:12:01.0] IM: Sure. If your network is a mile-wide and an inch deep, it will never be very powerful. You need a network that is both wide and in places deep with people that you've made a connection with that you really like. You need to go deep with those people. I live in Austin, Texas now, but I really grew up in Southern California. In Southern California, every year they have the Santa Ana Winds, which are these really big winds that hit Southern California.

It was always amazing, because during that season which was usually September-October, news at 6, you would see all of these huge eucalyptus trees that had blown over in Southern California every year. What's interesting, the eucalyptus trees come from Australia, so they weren't – they're not native to southern California. The problem with them is they have these root system that's really wide. When it gets hit by wind, the trees knock over.

I would equate that to a recession. If your network is really wide and not deep, when you get hit with financial difficulties, your business is going to fall over. If you have a network that has a lot of contacts, but has some really deep contacts, you can weather difficult times, because friends don't like to fire friends. They'll fire a vendor, but they don't like to fire a friend. They don't like to stop doing business with a friend. You have those relationships with people and you can weather difficult times.

Just one last thing I'll tell you on this. I had a huge debate with a gentleman who I highly respect. He's a great guy. He argued with me, it's all about the number of people. It's not about how deep you go, or the quality of – It’s numbers. It's a numbers game. I argued with him, now it's more of a people puzzle than a numbers game. Yeah, you have to have a certain number of people, but it's about building those relationships.

Boy, it's the biggest argument he and I ever had. He had a network-like business. That network-like business is out of business now. I think the reason for it was he was so focused on numbers, he forgot about going deep with people. Very few people did he go deep with. I think that's a huge mistake.

[0:14:16.7] MB: How do you think about which contacts, or which people in your network are the ones that you should go deep with, versus the ones that you shouldn't?

[0:14:25.3] IM: I think and I talk about this in my most recent book, it's really important that you go – that you get good with your values. If you don't know your personal values, you don't know the answer to that question and you don't know the answer to a lot of other questions. When I talk to people about their values, it's like looking at somebody, a deer in the headlights.

Sometimes I'll really catch people off-guard. I’ll say, “Give me your top seven personal values.” Their eyes get wide and is like, “What?” “Give me your top seven personal values.” “Uh, really?” “Yeah.” They'll think for a moment and they’d go, “Honesty.” “Okay, great. Give me six more.” They're stumped. They have no idea. Well, if you don't know your values, you don't know what kind of life you want to create, you don't know what business you want to create.

When you know your values, you look for people who have values that resonate with yours. They don't have to be the same, but they have to be congruent. They can't be incongruent with yours. I talk about this in Who's in Your Room. There's a great example. I'm not a musician, but I've seen this done. If you have two pianos and put them side-by-side and you have a person at piano one and you have them hit the middle C key, and person at piano two press the sustain pedal, the second piano’s strings will vibrate, even though you didn't hit the key. You hit it on piano one. The second one will vibrate. That's resonance.

People are much the same, I would argue, that if you find people whose values resonate with your values, then you can really connect with them on a very personal and professional level and develop a great business relationship. When you have people that have values that are dissonant with yours, it's just not going to work.

[0:16:09.8] MB: Yeah. That's a great piece of advice. The importance of being aware, self-aware of what your own values are, what's important to you, where you're trying to go and making sure that the people you surround yourself with are aligned with those values makes total sense.

[0:16:23.6] IM: Yeah. They don't have to be the same values. They just have to be resonant. They can't be completely opposite or different than yours. A lot of people have a hard time with the values. There's a lot of instruments online where you can start to think about your values. Here's a great place to start. Begin with your deal-breakers. Now when I ask somebody what their deal-breakers are, boom, they've got it. They can tell me in an instant. What is a behavior that you just absolutely do not like in another business person, or in a friend? What's a behavior that is a deal breaker? You don't want that relationship. Start with your deal-breakers and that helps you then start thinking about your values. It's a great technique.

[0:17:00.1] MB: Yeah. That's a really good way to start and it makes it much less intimidating to go down that journey. I want to come back to something you said a minute ago, because I want to follow up on it because it's so important, which to me one of the biggest distinctions that I've seen between, especially in sales-oriented roles, but people who are successful and people who aren't is following up and the power of follow-up. Tell me a little bit more about how important follow-up is in terms of building effective relationships.

[0:17:30.0] IM: Well, I think follow-up is the secret sauce to networking. You've got to effectively follow-up. I gave you the 24/7/30 follow-up system and I think that's a great way to do it. Beyond that, I think it's important to have touch points, where you're constantly in one way or another connecting with people that are in your personal network; people that you're a profitability with, you ought to be having personal phone calls with, or meeting them face-to-face. That's a relationship that you need to really cultivate.

People that your credibility with, you don't necessarily need to meet as much, but you should stay in touch with them. People that you're a visibility with, you want to see if there's a – their values resonate with mine. Does their business resonate with mine and they may move to that second and third level. It's all about touch points. Staying connected. Social media has helped with that. It's a lot easier to stay connected with people through social media than it was when I started my business.

If I wanted to talk to somebody, it was telephone or I had to type up a letter. Now through social media, it's a lot easier. That's a great tool for today's business professional to continue those touch points and follow up.

[0:18:38.7] MB: When you're in the early stages of building a relationship and I think you gave some really good guidelines with the 24/7/30, but even beyond that, or once that's established, how do you start to think about what those touch points should be and finding meaningful ways to connect with somebody, or to ping them?

[0:18:56.1] IM: The best way to really build and go deep on a relationship is to find ways to help other people. In BNI, our principal core value is givers gain. If you want to get business, you have to be willing to give business to people. I suggest to people that if you really want to – if there was any force multiplier in building a relationship, it is your skill at asking, “How can I help you? What can I do for you?” Being prepared to do your best to help them in some way. It may be – I don't mean sell them your product or service. I mean, really genuinely help them in some way.

It may be referring them to someone else that can helped them with a particular problem they have. It may be if they've got an interview that they just did and they want that put out on social media, you put that out on your social media for them. For me, oftentimes I get people who say “Would you do an endorsement on my book?” “Absolutely. Send me the book. Let me look it over, but assuming that it's all in alignment with my values, I'd be happy to do an endorsement.” That takes a lot of time.

I probably get – I bet you I get 50 endorsement requests a year. That takes a lot of time, but I'm happy to do it because that's a relationship builder. It really depends on who you are, what you do, what your expertise is, but find ways to help other people, then they really appreciate it and that's – they're going to reciprocate.

[0:20:24.4] MB: I wholeheartedly believe and agree with that advice and it's something that I've taken in and very deeply internalized in the way that I interact with people. Do you think that there's – I feel that advice almost has gotten too popular in the sense that it's lost some of its meaning and people ask it in a perfunctory way without really meaning it. It’s like, “Oh, what can I do to help you?” It almost feels like a forced ask sometimes.

[0:20:49.9] IM: I couldn't agree more. It shouldn't happen when you're working on visibility.

[0:20:54.6] MB: Yeah, that's a great distinction.

[0:20:56.4] IM: Yeah. I mean, it's meaningless. I mean, if you don't know me and I ask you for help, it's like, you don't even know who I am, you don't know if I'm good at what I do. I could be a scam artist. You don't know. I never ask that question. I rarely ask that question when I’m pre-visibility or visibility with somebody. It's only when I'm at credibility with somebody.

By the way, it doesn't matter where I think I am in the relationship. What matters is what does the other person think that I'm at in the relationship. We both have to feel like we're at credibility. You know when that's happening, when you're having deep discussions about what you do and you're starting to talk about how you might be able to help each other in terms of referrals or whatever. It's at that point that I'm at credibility that you got to ask the question, “So how can I help you?”

One of the ways I do it is by saying, “Hey, tell me some of the challenges that you've got.” I usually ask that with somebody I know. What are some of the challenges you’re going through now in the business? They'll tell me and I'll say, “How can I help you with that? Or, I know somebody that might be able to help you with that.” Either of those two are a great way to help somebody and do nothing, but move the relationship forward.

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[0:24:03.8] MB: You've brought something up twice that to me is one of the cornerstones and most important learnings about building relationships that so many people never understand, which is this idea of meeting people where they are and framing things in terms of the other person, as opposed to imposing on them what you wish that they would be, or what you want them to be, or where you want to go, right? From the example of social media, from the example you just gave. It's such an important meta lesson about building relationships and I just wanted to underscore that, because I think it's critical.

[0:24:36.5] IM: I couldn't agree more. I think that's really extremely important when you feel you are networking up. Anyone who's listening to this, if you feel you're in a position to network up, to network with somebody above your weight class in terms of success, it is so important to not impose what you want on them, to not ask for business. I have so many people who say to me, “Well, come on. It never hurts to ask.” Wrong. Totally wrong. Completely wrong. If you ask too early in a relationship, you'll never have an opportunity to ask again, especially if you're networking up.

If you're networking up with somebody who's really, really successful and the first thing you do is ask them to buy your product or service, you have just joined 90% of the rest of the people who meet that person for the first time, because everyone's trying to sell to a successful person and it gets old.

If you want to make a connection with that person, the best way to do it is to find a way that you can help that person. I mean, I've been to Necker Island a couple of times, about three times. That's Branson's private island.

I was just there two weeks ago. He has a new book called Finding Your Virginity. Look, I could have gone to him and say, “Hey, Richard. Would you mind doing a video with me about whatever.” He'd have probably said yes, but it was way more effective I think to say, “Richard, tell me about your new book. Tell me something. In run a network.” He remembered what I did. “Tell me about something that I might be able to teach my members.” He talked about his concept of circles, circles, which is the first circle is you. Get your life together. If you don't have your life together, you can't go to the next circle. The next circle is your family, the next circle might be your neighborhood and then it might be the state and the country and the world and you go through these circles. He has that in the book.

I said, “I love that. How can I help you promote that concept?” He said, “I don't know. What do you have in mind?” I said, “Would you like to do –” We did a video last time I was here. “Would it be a benefit for you to do another video about that concept in your book?” He said, “Yeah, I'd love to do it.” He did love to do it. I mean, he really was into it, which is great, but it was all about me finding a way to help him.

I didn't even use the words, “How can I help you?” I did say, “How can I get that out for you?” Which is a variation of it. If you can find a way that really resonates with that person to help them in some way, guess what? It helped me too. I had a video with Branson, which is on my blog by the way, in February 17th. You can see it on my blog.

[0:27:18.9] MB: Yeah, that's awesome. Was that the same as the Plan B video, or are those different?

[0:27:23.7] IM: That was different. I'm impressed you know the Plan B video.

[0:27:25.7] MB: We came across that in our research. Yeah.

[0:27:29.0] IM: This is a follow-up and we start by – in the new video, we start by me talking about Plan B and saying – last time I saw Richard, we talked about Plan B and Plan B is that business can be noble. B stands for business. Business can be noble, business can make a difference. I told him, “Based on my conversation with you five years ago, we created a movement in BNI called business voices for the foundation.” It was where BNI members can volunteer their time for schools to help them achieve things that the school wants and to support schools. I said, “That came out of that video, and so I wanted to thank you for that.” Today we're going to talk about circles and I led into the circles conversation. Yeah, it's a new video.

[0:28:13.3] MB: That's awesome. Well, I'll have to check that one out.

[0:28:16.1] IM: Yeah. I'm pretty sure it's February 17th on my blog. I'm sure you're going to put the blog in the show notes.

[0:28:22.1] MB: We will find that video and include it in the show notes.

[0:28:25.0] IM: Yeah. I'm looking at – It's actually February 13th.

[0:28:27.6] MB: Got it. Coming back to networking, I have one or two other questions about that. Obviously, you're one of the world's foremost experts in it, so I think it's worth picking your brain a little bit more. How do you think about and this is another topic that I've heard a lot of different answers, I've seen a lot of different strategies, how do you think about organizing, structuring, managing your network through whether it's CRMs, contact lists, etc. What are some of the best practices you found for really optimizing that?

[0:28:59.0] IM: I mean, I think any Salesforce or any CRM system that you want to use is fine. The one thing, I would do a twist on it. I would create a category in your contact management system for VCP, actually even pre-VCP, pre-visibility. I'd have four categories. I'm at pre-visibility, I'm at visibility, I'm at credibility, or I'm at profitability. Why? You do that, because what we talked about earlier the way you communicate, don't communicate with people that you're in visibility with like you're at profitability. “Hey, would you promote this for me?” Don't do that.

If you have a large list, it's important to differentiate between the people you have a deep relationship with and the people that you don't. Whatever system you use, you need to have the ability to put in there where you're at in the VCP process and that changes over time, so you need to be able to edit it as time goes on.

[0:29:53.4] MB: Yeah. That's a great way to break up the funnel and think about. Because you're right, there's such a different communication strategy and you already shared some really good examples around that for each different piece of the VCP funnel.

Another quick question about networking that I found interesting and this is something I think I saw you say on YouTube, or maybe it was an interview a couple years ago around how you should always be networking, whether it's in-line at the grocery store, whether you’re picking your kids up from school, whatever it is. Tell me more about that philosophy, because that's one that I've always been a little bit hesitant about, or unsure of.

[0:30:29.8] IM: You'll get real uncomfortable with my answer for at least a moment or two. I originally had this in a book I wrote years ago called Truth or Delusion, where we walked through what I felt were the truths and the delusions of networking. One of the questions – we posed it as question and then we'd give the answer. Here is the question. You can network anywhere, anytime, anyplace, even at a funeral. The answer was truth, but there's a caveat that's critical. That caveat is you must always honor the occasion.

To show up at a funeral and start passing out your business cards is a really bad idea. That's not honoring the occasion. If networking is and this is where we started the conversation, if networking is about building relationships, then where exactly is it wrong to network? If networking is about finding ways to help people, where is it wrong to network? As long as it's genuinely helping people.

I'll give you an example. I was at a church function years ago. It was somebody who I'd met a few times, didn't know him real well, but I knew him well enough to ask him. I asked him a lot about his business, went a little deeper. It was one of those potluck things, sunny afternoon. I had an opportunity to go a little deeper with him. I said, “So what are some of the challenges?” Which I told you is a question I like to use. “What are some of the challenges you have in your business?” He gave me the most unusual answer that allowed me to help him. He said, “You know, I have a really weird challenge.”

He said, “I have a very successful business. My biggest challenge is that some years, I make a ton of money and some years I make good money. Those years I make tons of money, I want to give it to charity, but I don't want to give it all away at once. I'd like to create a foundation, but I'm not quite big enough to have my own foundation.” That's a strange problem and I'm not found a solution for it. I said, “Wow. Have you ever heard of community foundations?” He said, “No. What are those?”

A community foundation is a really big foundation where you can have directed funds, donor-advised directed funds. For I think back then, it was for $10,000 you can open up, and this was in the California Community Foundation, you could open up a donor-advised directed fund that's part of a 501c3 charity and you could give that money away to any other 501c3 charity through the California Community Foundation and you don't have to run it.

He's like, “Oh, my goodness. I've been looking for something like this for years. Would you mind introducing me to the vice, or to somebody in development at the community foundation?” I'm like, “It would be my pleasure.” He handed me his card. “Here's my card. Call me up this week, because I really want to set up a fund.” I did and I put him in touch with somebody and he opened up a fund. Now if I wanted to meet with him, to talk more about my business, do you think he would have taken my call a couple weeks later?

[0:33:32.0] MB: Absolutely.

[0:33:33.1] IM: Yeah, he would have. I mean, I didn't need to. I was able to help him, that was good enough, but he would have definitely taken my call. Instead, what people do is they launch into sales mode, instead of helping mode. It doesn't have to be, “How can I help you?” It can be, “Just tell me about some of the stuff that you got going on.” I'm always amazed at what I discover by asking those kinds of questions.

[0:33:54.4] MB: Do you think it's worth it to –

[0:33:57.8] IM: Can I ask you that you believe now that you can network anywhere, anytime, anyplace?

[0:34:01.2] MB: Even at a funeral.

[0:34:02.8] IM: Even at a funeral, as long as your honor the event.

[0:34:05.5] MB: I like that. I like that.

[0:34:07.1] IM: All right. I cut you off. Sorry.

[0:34:08.2] MB: No, you're good. I was just going to ask, in some ways, you answered this in a meta level, but less from the question of are you able to network in the situation and more do you think it's worthwhile to network in the situation? Let's say you're waiting in line at the grocery, would you turn and talk to the person behind you and start to strike up some relationship? Or do you think that if you end up doing that, you clutter your life with too many miscellaneous or random connections that end up not being meaningful?

[0:34:35.9] IM: My answer may surprise you. I run the world's largest face-to-face networking organization, but I'm actually a little bit of an introvert. To just talk to a stranger is maybe a little bit of a stretch for me. I know that sounds crazy, but I did another blog on my blog called OMG. I'm an Introvert. That's when I discovered. I took a test and my wife was saying, “No, you're not an extrovert. You're an introvert.” I think, “You're crazy.”

I took this test and show that I'm a situational extrovert. That when I'm talking about a subject that I really feel good about, I come across as an extrovert, otherwise, I'm an introvert. Go apologize to your wife. I probably wouldn't. My wife on the other hand is a total extrovert and she strikes up conversations with people everywhere. We're in an elevator and she's talking. We're in a grocery store and she's talking to people. There's nothing wrong with it. You just got to feel comfortable with it. If you don't feel comfortable with it, do it in places where you feel comfortable.

[0:35:28.5] MB: I think that's great. That puts it in context and makes total sense. I'm definitely surprised. I would have totally pegged you as an extrovert.

[0:35:35.7] IM: Yeah, I'm a situational extrovert. Check out that blog, OMG. I'm an Introvert.

[0:35:41.0] MB: All right. We'll put that one in the show notes as well.

[0:35:44.0] IM: Yeah. You know why it's valuable? Because there's a lot of people who are introverts who say, “Well, I'm not good at networking. I'm an introvert.” I would argue that both introverts and extroverts have strengths and weaknesses at networking. Extroverts can talk to anybody, but they can't shut up. They just go on and on. What's their favorite topic, you think?

[0:36:05.1] MB: Themselves.

[0:36:06.3] IM: Themselves. Yeah, it’s absolutely right. Extroverts are really good at meeting people and talking, but they're not good at listening. Introverts are better at listening. I've said for years, a good networker has two ears and one mouth and should use them both proportionately. They should be like an interviewer. You're asking me questions and you're allowing me time to extrapolate, to explain, to tell stories. That's a great networker.

A great networker is a great interviewer and introverts are better at that than extroverts. Extroverts have to learn how to listen and ask questions. Introverts have to learn how to introduce themselves at events and not be a wallflower.

[0:36:48.4] MB: Yeah, that's a great insight. I consider myself an introvert, that's why I like to do the podcast, because I get to ask a question and then learn as much as possible from the wise folks like yourself.

[0:36:58.5] IM: Oh, thank you.

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[0:38:31.4] MB: I want to change gears and talk about something that we talked about a little bit in the pre-show and you showed me a really fascinating graph that's basically BNI’s growth since 1985. It looks basically like a hockey stick. We'll throw it on the show notes page as well for listeners to actually see it. You were talking about this concept that you're working on about as you called it garage to global, which I think is fascinating and what enables businesses to scale from the early stages, all the way up to the world stage. Tell me more about that concept and what prompted you to start writing about it and what you think about it.

[0:39:07.0] IM: Well, I'm going to be writing it with my CEO of BNI. I'm going to be doing the how do you take it from garage to the early parts of going global and he's going to pick it up from the global organization that you really want to continue to scale. There are a lot of things that I think are critical in those early days. For any one new, one of them is you got to have systems. You have to have systems in place and put in processes in place and you've got to write everything down.

I mean, there's just so many things in those early days. You got to know your numbers. I mean, really know your numbers. If you don't know your numbers, you could be selling products and losing money. I get a daily report as of today, BNI had 9,503 chapters in over 70 countries. We 272,140 members. You've got to get granular with your numbers.

Now maybe you can't get a daily report if you're a small business, but you got to know your weekly numbers; certainly, certainly monthly numbers. If you want to be successful in business and this is one of the most important lessons I learned. You want to be successful, do six things a thousand times, not a thousand things six times.

So many people I meet, they do a thousand things six times. They're constantly chasing bright shiny objects. “Oh, look. Let's try this. Oh, look. Let's try that.” By the way, it doesn't have to be six. It could be five, it could be seven, but you do a handful of things and you do it a thousand times. Now what things do you pick? I'll tell you how to pick them. Find mentors. Mentors might be people that do you know, that you have a relationship with. They might be virtual mentors. Podcasts like yours are a perfect place to find virtual mentors.

When somebody hears one of your podcasts and someone is saying something that really resonates with the listener, that listener should go look that individual up. They should use that person as a mentor, a virtual mentor. Hey, who knows? Maybe you'll meet them and become – and they'll become a face-to-face mentor. I've got at least two there were virtual mentors for me, because I read their books and years later met them and they became friends and personal mentors. Do six things a thousand times, not a thousand things six times.

Here's another one, work in your flame, not in your wax. Work in your flame, not in your wax. I wasn't taught this in college, but it's so critical. When people are working in their flame, they're on fire. They're excited. They love what they do, what they're doing. They're passionate about it. You can hear it in their voice. You can see it in the way they behave. When they're working in their wax, they just hate what they're doing. You can hear it in their voice and you can see it in the way they behave. It's why one of the first things that if you start a business, one of the first things you should do is figure out, “What’s your wax?”

Then as soon as possible, hire people who their flame is your wax. One of the first people I hired for my company, for BNI, was a bookkeeper. I can do books. I know how to do books. I hate doing books. It's my wax. I remember I hired her and it was totally her flame, totally her flame. She absolutely loved bookkeeping, Matt, which is mind-boggling to me, but she loved it. One day she came up to me and she said, “Oh, gosh. I spent two hours. The books weren't balanced by 5 cents. I spent two hours and I found the 5 cents.” I said, “Hey, well done. Congratulations.”

Now I told a friend that and he said, “Did you reprimand her?” I said, “Why?” He said, “Well, two hours. You paid her two hours to find 5 cents?” I said, “Not only did I not reprimanded her, I complimented her.” He said, “Why would you do that?” I said, “Because what if it were 50 bucks? If it were 50 dollars, I'd go, close enough. It's a rounding error. That's all right. She would have stayed there till she found it. What if it were $500? Man, she wouldn't gone home until she found it.” That's her flame. Find people where your wax is their flame, bring them onboard. Those are a couple of the concepts that I talk about in garage to global.

[0:43:10.5] MB: I think all of those are great. The one that I've seen so many times and personally definitely resonates with me is this idea of doing six things a thousand times, versus doing a thousand things six times. It's so easy to get distracted by shiny objects. How did you force yourself to focus and make the tough choices and trade-offs and really get into the handful of things that were the most important?

[0:43:38.6] IM: I think you start by really taking a look at what are your key success factors, just a handful of things that you can measure in your business that you know are indicators of success. Then everything you do should be to work towards those key success factors in your business. That becomes certainly many, if not all of those six things. Then you've got to be a dog with a bone.

You just got to be really persistent with it. If I have any superpower as a business person, it's that I am a dog with a bone. I can work it and work it and work it and work it and find the solutions that I need. It's really important to I think find those key success factors and work those extensively if you want to be successful.

Over time, it's okay for you to have different roles. I mean, when I was early in BNI, I was much more hands-on on the day-to-day process. As the company grew, I had to step back, learn how to delegate effectively, which is another one of the key elements in garage to global is how do you delegate. I had to learn how to delegate effectively. Then I learned, I had to reinvent myself, because a lot of the stuff I did for years, I got tired of. That's one of the problems for entrepreneurs, they get tired of something. You find somebody to take that on and you reinvent yourself and have a different role than you had in the past. Before, I was the king leading the charge. Today, I'm the Colonel Sanders of BNI. I'm the spokesperson of the organization. I reinvented myself, so that I could stay in my flame.

[0:45:12.7] MB: Yeah, that's great advice. At what point and this is getting at the question of I think how you reinvented yourself, at what point the in organization's trajectory did you feel the need to bring in someone else to be the CEO?

[0:45:29.8] IM: Yeah. I was CEO for a good 20 years. I brought in somebody who really started as the national director for BNI, then I promoted him to the COO, and then I promoted him to the CEO. He was CEO for a number of years. About five years ago, I actually brought in partners. My main partner is the CEO with the company. It was at least 20 years before I started down that road. It doesn't have to be 20 years. You can do it in five or 10. I really was very hands-on for a long time.

One bit of advice that certainly you've heard of before and I'm going to put in the book is you hire slow and fire fast. That was a lesson that took me too long to learn. Hire slow and fire fast. I had lunch with Harvey Mackay a few years back. I don’t know if you know Harvey. He wrote the book Swimming with the Sharks Without Getting Eaten Alive and Dig Your Well Before You're Thirsty. He's a great guy.

He said to me once over lunch. He said, “I've lost more sleep over the people that I've kept than the ones that I fired.” I didn't quite buy it when he said it to me, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized I've lost way more sleep over the people I've kept that I should have let go. Be slow to hire, fast to fire.

[0:46:50.5] MB: Yeah, that's great advice. The piece about losing more sleep over the people that you keep, that makes total sense and that definitely resonates with my experience as well.

[0:46:59.2] IM: Hey, I earned all these gray hair I have. It comes honestly.

[0:47:05.5] MB: Well Ivan, for somebody who's been listening to this conversation and wants to start to put in practice or concretely implement some of the stuff that we've talked about, what would be one action step, or one piece of homework that you would give them to begin putting these ideas into practice?

[0:47:21.5] IM: I think what you want to do is start by really thinking about the culture that you want to create in your organization. I believe culture eats strategy for breakfast. In order to create a great culture, you need to know your core values, both your personal core values and your business core values. What are your core values? If you don't know the core values of the business, if you don't have them, if you don't have your core values written down and teach every new person who's working with you, what will happen is a culture will be created without you. It might not be the culture that you're proud of.

It's very important that from an organizational perspective that you really learn how to build your culture. I write about this and I've never seen anyone do it quite the same way. I think culture is created by taking at look at the processes that work in your business. Those processes become traditions. They're the stories you talk about. “Well, when we started this happened and that happened and we learned this.” Those are your traditions.

Your traditions can become your core values. When you start thinking about core values, think about the processes and stories that you tell. Those are your core values. Your core values create culture. Then teach everyone that culture. That's the answer on garage to global. For networking in general, just remember it's all about building relationships. If you forget everything I've said, it's all about building relationships. You know the old saying, it's not what you know, it's who you know. I don't believe it's either. I don't believe it's what you know or who you know, it's how well you know each other that really makes a difference.

I may have a great contact in my database, but so what? The question is can I call that person? Would they take my call? If I asked them for a favor, would they be willing to do it? It's not just who you know, it's how well you know each other that really makes a difference. In order to do that, you got to go deep and build a relationship.

[0:49:14.4] MB: Great advice. I love that perspective on shifting it from it's not – what it's not who, but it's how, how well do you know them.

[0:49:21.7] IM: How well, yeah. That you both know each other. It’s can you make that – can you reach out and ask for that favor? If you can do that, then you've got a really good connection there. It's not just a contact. It's not just the person in your database. It's a connection. It's a relationship.

[0:49:36.0] MB: Yup. Great perspective. Ivan, where can listeners find you, your writing, your work and your new book online?

[0:49:45.6] IM: Yeah. I wrote a book called Who's in your Room? It's about your life and the life that you create and that really, that the secret to your success is highly dependent on the people in your life. It's a great little book. It's a quick read. You can see it on my blog IvanMisner.com. I've been blogging since 2007, twice a week since 2007, so I've got literally more than a thousand posts and videos up on IvanMisner.com. Of course, anyone that's interested in BNI, the referral organization I started, bni.com. We’ve got chapters all over the world.

[0:50:19.0] MB: Well, Ivan. Thank you so much for coming on the show, for sharing some great stories, some really insightful wisdom and for taking the time to spend it with our audience.

[0:50:29.5] IM: Well, listen Matt. My pleasure. You've probably heard this before. You're one of the most well-prepared hosts that I've done an interview with ever. Well done.

[0:50:39.7] MB: Thank you very much. I really appreciate that.

[0:50:41.7] IM: My pleasure.

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The Secret To Growing Any Business, Building Unicorns & Crazy Ideas with Square Co-Founder Jim McKelvey

March 19, 2020 by Lace Gilger in High Performance, Career Development

In this episode, we share the universal secret to growing any business, how to build a unicorn startup, what the real definition of an entrepreneur is and much more with our guest Jim McKelvey

Jim McKelvey is an American serial entrepreneur, artist, and philanthropist, best known for his popular invention, Square. He has founded around seven businesses in the technology and craft field. In addition to Square, he founded the non-profit LaunchCode and Third Degree Glass Factory. Jim is also an author having written two computer programming textbooks while in school, the bestselling book, The Art Of Fire, on glass art and most recently The Innovation Stack: Building an Unbeatable Business One Crazy Idea at a Time, on entrepreneurship and creating lasting world-changing businesses.

  • From glass blowing to co-founding Square - the winding path that leads to the co-founding of one of the most successful Silicon Valley unicorns. 

  • It’s possible to do something for which you have no official qualifications. 

  • “None of the stuff I’ve done have I had any formal qualifications or credentials for."

  • You will almost always be unqualified if you're doing something truly interesting. Something that has not actually been done before. 

  • Almost everything in business is a copy of something else - good results mostly come from replicating what has already been done and been learned from others. 

  • In business, most of the time the best thing to do is to find an expert and teach them how to do it, or steal their ideas, or hire them.

  • Copying and replication is the smartest business decision you can make, 99% of the time… BUT if you’re doing something that is NEW, that has never been done before.. you can’t copy... at that moment you feel supremely unqualified and alone. 

  • “Does anyone know how to land a 737?” That’s the feeling of being a true innovator and solving the toughest business problems. 

  • It’s possible to be successful even with ZERO qualifications, but you have to get over the fear of being unqualified to do something. If you’re doing ANYTHING interesting, you won’t be able to copy anyone else. 

  • The great universal secret to any existing business - the answer to almost every single business problem.

  • There is no checklist for something no one has done before.

  • COPY!!! Do what everyone else does. Figure out what everyone is doing to do the same damn thing. Hire their people away. Copy their stuff. That ALMOST ALWAYS works… the ONLY time that doesn’t work is if you’re trying to do something truly NEW.

  • Failure is the basis of all comedy. When you do something that’s never been done before, you have to fail. 

  • “Maps are for tourists, not explorers"

  • “What is an entrepreneur” vs a businessperson and why is entrepreneur such an overused word today?

  • “Intelligently copying what has been done before is a good formula for getting rich."

  • Thrill and terror are two sides of the same coin of entrepreneurship.

  • The word entrepreneur is not always a compliment. It’s someone out on the fringe, pushing the boundaries, solving the unsolvable problems. 

  • “I love problems because problems are easy to see."

  • Opportunities are hard to see, but problems are very visible.

  • How to discover the “perfect problems” that you can found a business to solve. 

  • You have to work on a problem that you CARE about.

  • If you’re doing something truly entrepreneurial - you will be lonely, you will get negative feedback, people will ignore you and ridicule you.

  • Should you be bold or should you focus on humble perseverance?

  • There’s a HUGE difference between being BOLD and being COMFORTABLE when you’re SCARED - being comfortable with discomfort.

  • Don’t believe entrepreneurial hero stories about boldness - it’s much better to get comfortable with being scared. 

  • Don’t worry about overcoming your fear - the trick is to begin the journey.

  • A lot of the business advice you hear is crap.

  • Our evolutionary relationship to fear short circuits our brain’s perception of threats - the reality is that in business you won’t die, so get comfortable being scared and take the risk. 

  • There is no specific advice on being an entrepreneur - by definition, there is no advice that you can be given if you’re solving a problem that hasn’t been solved before. 

  • Do something that makes you really uncomfortable. Hang out with your enemies, put yourself in situations that make you uncomfortable. 

  • If you’re going to be an entrepreneur, almost by definition you will be uncomfortable.

  • What is an innovation stack and how can you use it to solve new problems?

  • How did Square survive an attack from Amazon?

  • Amazon’s playbook for killing any company

  • Undercut the competitor by 30%, copy their product, and watch them die. 

  • You won’t find one new solution - you will find a stack of innovative solutions that all work together. You will have a chain of problems you have to solve that all eventually stack together into a competitive and differentiated business. 

  • Homework: Look at your personal energy score. Figure out what increases your energy, which decreases your energy, and does more of what increases it and less of what decreases it. 

  • When does an entrepreneur fail? 

  • “Dude, the product is never gonna work."

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General

  • Jim’s Website and Wiki Page

  • Jim’s LinkedIn and Twitter

Media

  • STL Today - “Square's Jim McKelvey signed to write 'how I did it' book” by Joe Holleman

    • “Wash U renaming engineering school after Square co-founder Jim McKelvey” By Jacob Barker

  • INC - “Why Square's Co-Founder Says Be Wary of Advice From Successful People” by Lisa Calhoun

  • Washington University in St. Louis - “New era in engineering to begin at Washington University” By Julie Hail Flory

    • “The problem solver” By Terri Nappier

  • Bold Business - “Bold Leader Spotlight: Jim McKelvey, Founder Of Square, LaunchCode, And Invisibly” by John R. Miles 

  • Missouri Business Alert - “Jim McKelvey’s startup Invisibly raises $20 million” by Elliot Bauman

  • E&T - “‘Shut up and build it!’ - Jim McKelvey, Square co-founder, on bringing ideas to life” By Jonathan Wilson

  • SigEp - “Square co-founder Jim McKelvey won’t quit” By Beaux Carriere

  • Entrepreneur - “Persevere, Laugh at the Absurd and Let Nothing Get on Your Nerves” by Jim McKelvey

  • TechCrunch - Articles tagged Jim McKelvey

  • [Podcast] Dorm Room Tycoon - Learning to be a Craftsman with Jim McKelvey, Square

  • [Podcast] Unfiltered - Jim McKelvey: Lessons from serial entrepreneur and "renaissance man" with $2.9B IPOs and $27B valuations

Videos

  • Missouri Partnership - Jim McKelvey Talks About Square - Past, Present and Future

  • WashU Engineering - 2019 McKelvey Engineering Recognition

  • Bold Business - Square Founder Jim McKelvey Discusses the Characteristics that Make a Leader BOLD!!! (Subtitled)

    • Square's Jim McKelvey Unveils the new Model for Digital Content Monetization - INVISIBLY (Subtitled)

  • Presidents Institute - Jim McKelvey on "Fear Drives Innovation"

    • Jim McKelvey on "Things I’m Unlearning"

  • Webrazzi - Lies of Success - Jim McKelvey @Webrazzi14

  • The Aspen Insitute - edX CEO Anant Agarwal and Square and Launch Code Co-Founder Jim McKelvey

Books

  • The Innovation Stack: Building an Unbeatable Business One Crazy Idea at a Time by Jim McKelvey

  • ART OF FIRE by James McKelvey

Episode Transcript

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In our previous interview, we shared the power of the experimental mindset. How can you use experiments to make better decisions and improve your life? What makes for good experiments? We shared all of this and much more with our previous guest, Stefan Thomke.

Now for our interview with Jim.

[0:01:38.4] MB: Jim McKelvey is an American serial entrepreneur, artist and philanthropist, best known for his popular invention, Square. He has founded seven businesses in the technology and craft field. In addition to Square, he founded the non-profit LaunchCode and Third Degree Glass Factory. Jim is also an author, having written to computer programming textbooks while in school, the best-selling book The Art of Fire on Glass Art and most recently, The Innovation Stack: Building an Unbeatable Business One Crazy Idea at a Time.

Jim, welcome to the Science of Success.

[0:02:11.1] JM: Thank you, Matt. This is going to be fun.

[0:02:13.0] MB: I'm so excited to have you on the show today. You have an incredible career filled with so many interesting stories and a fascinating journey from the world of glassblowing, to the Federal Reserve, to co-founding Square, which is a massively successful company. Tell me a little bit about your story and your background and how you've woven together so many disparate and different things.

[0:02:35.4] JM: There was no plan. I went into college not knowing anything I was going to be doing. I had a conversation with my father, where he recommended that I not be an engineer, because he thought engineering was too solitary of practice. He thought I'd be more interested in liberal arts. He recommended I study economics. I said, “Okay, dad. I'll be an economist.”

I studied economics. Got halfway through my freshman year and realized that econ was boring and it was actually more solitary than the engineering classes, because the problems that the engineers were working on required teams to get them right, whereas, the econ stuff was easy enough that you could do it by yourself.

Ironically, I found that doing really hard science was a more social activity, so I gravitated towards that and ended up doing all sorts of crazy stuff during college that I had no qualifications to doing. My God. I wrote a couple of computer textbooks. I guess, you mentioned those, when I was a freshman in college.

I was not one of these kids that loved computers when I was a kid. I never played with computers. I never had a computer. I basically saw my first computer when I got to college and I was so overwhelmed by how difficult it was to work with these machines. Then on top of that, I was really frustrated, because the professor from my class had written the textbook and this thing was just garbage. It was terrible and it was out of date and the programming examples didn't work. I was so pissed off that I said to my roommate, “I could write a better textbook than this.” He turns around and he goes, “Well, why don't you?” I was like, “Okay, I will.”

Basically on a bet, I decided to replace my professor’s textbook with a textbook that I have written. Yeah, again, I had no qualifications for this. It turns out, it's not that hard to write a programming textbook. You just have to do a lot of work. You don't have to come up with a plot, there's no characters. If you're willing to just grind it out and figure out what works on the computer and what doesn't, anybody could do this.

I did it. The book got published and this was back in the days before self-publishing. You had to actually interest real publishing house. The publishing house took the book; asked for another book. By the time I was a sophomore, I had more publications than a lot of my professors. It was this really early lesson that it's possible to do something for which you have no official qualification.

That's in the base note of my career, because again if you – Matt, if you think about all the stuff you listed out, none of the stuff that I've done have I had an official credential to do. I mean, even these days. I'm on the Federal Reserve. I vote on interest rates and I've got an undergraduate degree in economics. I mean, let me vote on interest rates. I don't have a PhD, or a master's degree. I couldn't draw the Phillips Curve if I had to. It's amazing to me the things that a person can accomplish, even without an official credential.

That's the thing that ties my career together. Then glassblowing was something else I did. I've done it for years. I'm actually heading into the studio right after this interview and got to make some Christmas gifts. Wow, it's just this crazy, weird hodgepodge of stuff that I do.

[0:06:00.9] MB: So interesting. I love this concept of not having the qualifications, or doing things without being worried or concerned about whether or not you're qualified to do it. In some ways, it seems that stifles so many people from even trying, or beginning their journey.

[0:06:17.1] JM: Oh, absolutely. One of the reasons I wrote this book – as a matter of fact, the primary reason I wrote this book was to reach out and tell people, “You will almost always be unqualified if you're doing something interesting.” By interesting, I mean something that has not been done before. Because think about it, okay, most of the stuff that we do in our lives is a copy of something else. As a matter of fact, that's what school is, right? You most of the time in school are learning to do what other people have learned to do. Good behavior and good grades come from replicating stuff that has been learned by others.

If you think about what we do in business, most of the time the smart thing to do is find an expert, find somebody who solved that problem. Hire McKinsey. Get somebody who has done what you need to do and have them teach you how to do it, or steal their ideas, or I mean, replication, replication, copy, copy, copy. This is the base note of our lives. We are copying machines.

I've got a little daughter at home, she's 2. She is just a sponge. She copies anything we say, anything we do. You want to make a kid hop in a circle with one hand above your head, like at my house, you just do that and this little girl will come in, just hop for no reason in a circle with one hand raised, because that's what humans and animals and businesses do. We copy stuff. It's the thing that is the smartest decision. We copy because it works. Sometimes if you are doing something that is new, that has never been done before. If you're trying to solve a problem that nobody else has solved, you don't get to copy.

At that moment, you are going to feel supremely unqualified. You will be one of those – Remember those old movies where the pilots die and they run into the back of the plane and goes, “Does anyone know how to land a 737?” I mean, not a 737 MAX, but a normal 737. That's everybody's fear is that they're going to be called out of the captain and put in the cockpit. The stewardess is going to say, “Land this sucker,” right?

What I've learned is just through this weird – I wouldn't even call it a career. Whatever I've done, the different types of work I've done, I've learned that it's possible to be successful if you're not qualified. The reason I wrote the book is I want to encourage people to get over that fear of being unqualified, because if you are doing anything interesting, by definition you don't get to copy the solution. Therefore, you were going to feel unqualified. In other words, you're trying to figure out something that nobody's figured out before. The first thing that's going to hit, at least, I mean, just speaking from mind first, the first thing that hits with me is this little voice in my head that says, “Jim, you have no idea what you're doing. You have never done this before. You have no experience.”

The first thing I always do is I look for somebody who's done it before and I try to copy what they've done. Sometimes there is nobody. When we were starting Square, nobody had built a payment system for tiny, tiny merchants and individuals. It just didn't exist. Jack and I, we’re out on our own. We had nobody to copy. When we were starting a launch code, which is this non-profit that's actually now around the nation and various cities, but we were trying to solve a problem that nobody had ever been able to solve before.

At my current company, Invisibly, we're tackling this problem that nobody's been able to fix this. We don't even know if the solution is possible, but we know that we are supremely unqualified to do what we're doing.

[0:10:12.3] MB: So interesting. There's a number of really important points that come out of that. One, which I thought was such a fascinating insight from the book was I think you call it the answer to almost every business problem is copying and replication.

[0:10:25.2] JM: Yes, yes. The book. Okay, so this is great. I wrote the book completely. I didn't know if it was any good or not. I didn't even know if I was going to publish it. At some point, I was like, “Okay, I got to show some publishers.” I got a book agent; great guy, Jim Levine. He took me around to all these fancy publishing houses.

One publishing house wouldn't even read it, because they'd flip through the book and there were no checklists. They're like “We can't publish a book without checklists.” I was like, “Wait a second. Did you read it?” They go, “No, we didn't have to read it. There were no checklists.” I was like, “Wait a second. How do I give you a checklist for something that nobody has done?” The editor just looked at me and she's like, “If you want a business book, you have to have a checklist.” There is no checklist in my book.

I was feeling guilty as I was writing it. I was like, “Oh, my God. I got to give them one thing.” I gave the universal checklist, which is a one bullet point checklist to solve any problem in any existing business. Here it is. This is the great secret. The Science of Success Pod, you will live up to your title better than you have ever lived up to the title of this whole series at this moment. I am about to reveal the universal secret of success in any existing business. Copy. Just do what everybody else does. That works. Figure out what everybody else is doing, do the same damn thing. Hire their people away, copy their stuff. Just do the same thing. That almost always works.

The only time that doesn't work is if you are trying to do something truly new. What I spend the rest of the book is for those people who don't want that one bullet point checklist, because let me tell you, Matt. When you are doing something that is different from what has been done before, it feels so weird and a different set of rules apply. The rules that you're used to using, the ones that serve you every day as a human and as a person who's working, or as a friend, as a family member, all the stuff that we do has this base note of copying.

We are so comfortable copying. We are so good at it. We are literally genetically programmed to do it. That when you stop doing it, you are going to feel strange. I wanted to write a book for those people who have the ability to do something new. I mean, really new, and just feel weird, because they are going to feel weird. I always feel weird doing it, but I figured maybe if I find some examples and give some principles and tell some funny stories, because believe me, when you do stuff that has not been done before, failure is your friend and failure is funny. Failure is the basis of all comedy.

Look at any great comedic persona. You know what they're talking about? The time it didn't work. When it works, that's boring. Boy, sometimes I give speeches and I always give my audience this choice. I say, “Would you rather have me tell you the story about how Jack Dorsey and I finally after a year and a half of trying, convinced MasterCard to change their rules on card-present aggregation,” which was the single most important decision that allowed Square to exist. I mean, if MasterCard had not done that, I wouldn't have a company right now, there would be millions of merchants who couldn't process credit cards.

That was the single make or break decision. That was probably the single biggest business triumph in my life and a great success. It's an interesting story. I can tell you that story, or I can tell you the story about the time I failed to notice that one of my blind dates had an Adam's apple. Which story do you want to hear, right? Failure is this funny companion. In the book, I talk a lot about failure, talk about how people throughout history have dealt with it and I try to keep it funny.

[0:14:39.8] MB: Yeah, that's a great point about how failure is the foundation of comedy. The overarching point you're making around not having a map, not having a checklist. If you're going to truly innovate, if you're going to solve as you call it and I wanted to get to this more as well, a perfect problem. The quote that really jumped out at me from one of the early parts of the book was this quote that “Maps are for tourists, not explorers.”

[0:15:06.0] JM: Yeah. I mean, we tend to confuse words in the English language and I think we tend to inflate words. Like, “I'm going to explore Lake Tahoe this weekend. No, I'm not. You know what I'm going to do? I'm going to go to Lake Tahoe this week, okay.” Tahoe has been explored. Tahoe is in Google Maps. It's right there. People have been there.

There may be some rain forests in some country that I couldn't find on a map that needs exploring. There's certainly parts of the ocean floor that I need exploring, but most of what we do as travelers is be tourists. I live in the city where probably one of the greatest explorations of all times began. Lewis and Clark started in St. Louis, Missouri to map the western part of the United States. They did not have a map when they started, okay. They had a river and a compass. A bunch of guys, many of whom were going to die, okay. That's what it's like exploring. You don't get a map. If you're an explorer, it's a different type of traveling, okay. As you go further into the wilderness, you're drawing the map as you go.

[0:16:26.2] MB: I thought that was just such a powerful image and analogy. It really gets to your definition of entrepreneur and entrepreneurship, which is quite distinct and comes back to what you said a moment ago about how words today have had their meanings diluted.

[0:16:44.3] JM: Yes. I needed a word to describe something other than business, a business person, somebody who's a business person. What's a business person? What do you call somebody who doesn't copy in the world of business? Most of the time, you call them a failure, right? Most of the time if you don't copy what works, you end up dead. There is a small group of people who don't copy and survive. Those people, I didn't have a word for.

I started looking at my history. It turns out that the original use of the word ‘entrepreneur’ was that meaning. The entrepreneur of 150 years ago when Joseph Schumpeter, whose an economist that basically gave us that word entrepreneur, he started using that word. The reason he started using that word was to describe this weird behavior. It was not business as usual, because business as usual is very rigid. It is slight refinement. It is replication. It's smart. By the way, I'm not knocking people who intelligently copy what's been done before. That is a good formula for getting rich. That is a good formula for success.

What if you don't do that and what do we call that person? It turns out that the original definition of entrepreneur was somebody who did crazy things. I looked at the word ‘entrepreneur’ in its current usage and I was like, “Oh, my God. Everybody at my world uses business person and entrepreneur interchangeably.” I've got a friend. He started a coffee shop, okay and he says, “I'm a coffee entrepreneur.” By today's definition, he's absolutely right. He started a coffee chain. You know how many other people have started coffee shops? More than 10, okay. More than 10 people, more than a 100, probably more than a thousand.

He's doing something and he is starting a business, but he's starting a business that is known and he can order his cups and the La Marzocco coffee steamer machine. I don't know that much. I'm not a coffee person. Believe me, there's almost a checklist for what he is doing. I needed to use the word ‘entrepreneur’, but I needed to use it in its archaic definition.

Throughout the book, I use the word entrepreneur, but I spend a paragraph and a half basically saying, look, when you read this word, I don't want you to think business. I want you to think crazy. Okay, I want you to think somebody that people are pointing to and laughing at and ridiculing and going, “What the hell were they thinking getting people to ride in strangers’ cars?” I remember when Uber was starting. Uber and Square started at the same time and they're our roommates and we were in the same building in California and we bumped into them, a bunch in New York.

I mean, they were one of our classmates, right? People don't remember what it was like in the early days of Uber, because these days everybody takes Uber and they take Lyft. You're totally comfortable getting in the car with a stranger. When I was a kid, they would tell us at home and in school, “Never get into a stranger's car.” That's what they teach you from the time you can walk, “Don't get in the car with a stranger.” If you did, you were a hitchhiker, right? You were a hitchhiker at your peril.

We first saw Uber and Lyft coming on the scene and a company called Sidecar, which nobody remembers Sidecar, but these guys were radical because their idea was well, you can get in the car with anybody. They were like, “No, you can't. That's hitchhiking.” We thought they were crazy. That's what I want the word ‘entrepreneur’, at least for the purposes of our conversation and the book that I wrote to be used in that, because I need a way to label that person. Because that person who's doing those crazy things has a totally different set of rules that apply, and learning those rules and sharing those rules is what I wanted to do.

[0:21:00.3] MB: I thought it was a great perspective. Using the word, subbing in the word ‘crazy’ instead of the word ‘entrepreneur’ helps to break apart the rigid and modern definition of it and really open up the perspective of realizing that the innovation you're talking about is really more somebody who's way on the fringe, who's pushing the limits, who's doing something that you don't – by definition, don't even know if it's possible to solve this problem.

[0:21:24.6] JM: Yeah, yeah. That's part of the thrill and it's part of the terror. Thrill and terror are really close. Thrill is just terror that's been constrained a little bit. It's been contained. Terror is when it breaks out of its container and just trashes your brain. Yes, I use the word ‘crazy’, partially because we haven’t denatured the word ‘crazy’, okay. The word ‘entrepreneur’ has been so recycled by industry and by well, frankly, the publishers of the world, of the podcasts of the world and the people of the world who are selling products to people who want to be entrepreneurs or want to be business people.

It's like saying, “I don't want to be a tourist. I want to go on an adventure. Well, really. Do I? Because I'm traveling with my family this week and I don't want to die, or have one of my kids eaten by some creature. I probably don't want an adventure. I want to do something cool and I'd like to think of myself as an adventurer, but you know what in the end of the day, I'm probably going to sleep someplace that's got a pillow.”

Even though we've worn out the word ‘entrepreneur’, the word ‘crazy’ still has this negative connotation. Now some people are like, “I like being crazy.” I mean, if you're talking about the word ‘crazy’, it's not always a compliment, right? I like this idea that we still have this word that has a little edge to it and a little bit of the being ostracized, that little idea of being kicked out. “You're not part of this club. You're not behaving like the rest of us, so you know what? You're not welcome here. You're crazy.”

We venerate these people in hindsight. When they succeed we say, “Oh, hey. Great idea. We were with you all along.” You know what? They weren’t. They show up when the exploration, when the adventure is over.

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[0:25:18.6] MB: That makes me come back to the other side of the coin, or the other piece of this equation which is to be an entrepreneur, you have to be solving a problem that hasn't been solved, something that's on the frontier and as you call it, a perfect problem. Tell me a little bit more about what that is and how to discover one.

[0:25:38.9] JM: Okay. I talk in the book about my concept of the perfect problem. The perfect problem, it was just a thought experiment that I did. I said, okay, imagine every problem in the world, okay. There are lots of problems. I love problems, because problems are easy to see. If you say, “Here's an opportunity. I can't tell you if it's an opportunity or not.” If you say, “Jim, this is a problem.” I will say, “Oh, yes. That's a problem. Oh, no. It is.”

Problems are these beautiful, discrete things. Problems have this beautiful characteristic of being visible. Then I said, “Okay, let's consider all the problems in the world, okay.” Many of those problems have already been solved, okay. For instance, I'm going on vacation this weekend. I'm going to go to Lake Tahoe. A problem I am expecting to have in Lake Tahoe is I'm going to need food, okay. I expect that somebody in the Greater Tahoe area has solved the problem of feeding me and my family. I just assumed that's a solved problem. Haven't been there, okay. Can't prove it. Well, I guess I could probably prove it if I could go online. I'm pretty darn sure that that is a solved problem.

Imagine every problem in the world that's already been solved doesn't count, because if you want to solve one of those problems, all you got to do is find somebody who solved it and copy what they did. Those are copyable solutions, so let's eliminate those. Now, say those problems are on the left side, because I’m a visual person. Those are on the left side of the screen. Okay, now over on the right side of the screen we're going to throw every problem that is currently unsolvable. “I'm sorry, we do not know how to fix that. We do not know how to cure that cancer. We do not know how to make that car levitate. We do not know how to clean up politics.” They’re the unsolved problems, okay.

Then if you eliminate the problems that are unsolvable, they just – we don't have the tools yet to solve them. What you're left with in the middle are what I call the perfect problems. These are problems that are solvable problems, but their solution cannot be copied. In other words, this is something that you, or your team, or some other group of dedicated, hard-working people could solve if they tried. They can't solve it by copying somebody else's solution, but by God, if they try hard enough, those are solvable problems. That's what I focus on.

I look for these things called perfect problems. The perfect problem to me is something first of all, that you care about. To me, a perfect problem has this other criterion which is that you care deeply about it. Because if you're doing something that is entrepreneurial and entrepreneurial in the traditional sense of the world, i.e. you're doing something crazy, you are going to be very lonely and you're going to receive a lot of negative feedback and a lot of teasing and ridicule and basically, just people will ignore you. It's lonely and terrible.

You're going to need to sustain your energy through that period. Where does that energy come from? The answer that I found motivates most entrepreneurs is they care deeply about a problem and then they don't want to die, okay. Caring deeply about a problem is when Lewis and Clark say, “Okay, we are going to head west into this unknown territory. We don't know how big it is, we don't know how long it's going to take us. We're heading west, okay.”

Once you start on the path, then motivation is really simple. Don't die. What the hell is that? Oh, my God. It looks like a bear, but it's five times bigger than any bear we've ever seen. It's a grizzly bear. You've never seen a grizzly bear before, congratulations, here's a grizzly bear. You've got a new problem. You don't have any motivational issues, right? Run, shoot. I don't know. Outrun the other guy. Scale a tree. I don't know how you get away from the grizzly bear, but believe me, when Lewis and Clark first saw the grizzly bear, they didn't sit there and say, “Oh, let's have a motivational moment here.” They were like, “Run.”

You get this wonderful energy from a perfect problem that allows you to begin a journey. Then from there on, baby it's survival instinct. You just don't want to die. You refuse to give up and let the bear win.

[0:30:10.0] MB: That's a great analogy and reminds me of something you said in a speech a couple of years ago around the difference between being bold and humbly persevering, or humbly preserving.

[0:30:21.2] JM: Yeah. Here's the thing about being bold. I have never been bold. I may have been crazy, but I am not a bold person. I'm not a guy who does stuff that's risky. For instance, I fly planes. I'm a pilot and I have occasionally flown into situations where I was terrified, okay. If you're in a tiny little plane, 1 inch in, I mean, like crummy old plane from the 1960s, okay. It's a Mooney M20C. Great little plane. Really solid. Built during the space race. I mean, it's old, it’s clunky. It's not a good plane to fly into a storm with, okay. You're an idiot if you fly into a storm. You're an idiot if you fly near a storm.

One day I was an idiot. I got almost caught in a storm and I was terrified. I mean, just terrified. It turns out that I've done enough stuff in my life where I have been terrified, that I'm actually able to function even though I'm terrified. I was able to fly the plane not because I'm a bold pilot, but because I'm actually good at being a terrified pilot. If you scare the crap out of me and then say, “Here, Jim. Land this. Watch your airspeed, watch your altitude. Talk to the controllers. Get the plane on the ground safely. Get out of the situation. Even though my hands are sweating and I am probably as scared as I've ever been, I can still function.

I hear a lot of people give advice, sometimes from stage. I sometimes hear entrepreneurs, or people who have been very successful give advice to audiences and they tend to spin it a little differently. They tend to tell these hero stories about how they were so bold and how they were so brave and how when everyone turned against them, they didn't care. Well, I mean, I care, okay. I don't like that stuff.

What I've been able to do and recommend as a solution for those of us who are not bold is don't worry about being fearless. Don't worry about boldness. Don't worry about overcoming your fear. I would say the trick is to just begin, okay. Begin the journey. Understand that you will take that first step and the second step and the 27th step. At some point, you will be on the path. Once you're on the path, then the only question is will you keep going? When do you quit? At what point do you run out of energy, or resources? When do you give up?

If you don't quit, even though you're scared, you don't need to be bold. Boldness, done in or into it. You can be terrified. As long as you can function in a state of terror, that's fine. I tell this story often when I'm asked to give a speech about a time I was terrified and had to keep going. I guess, you saw one of those speeches. That's to me the essence of what the rest of us need in order to solve problems, because look, let me tell you this. This is the reason I love your podcast, okay. The people who listened to this podcast are interested in bettering themselves, they're interested in building new things, they're interested in somehow moving the world forward.

Now they may be interested in just moving their careers forward of copying and you get no judgment from me on that. That's cool. That works. By the way, you're smarter than those of us who are probably going to do stuff that might not work, okay? Now let me address that second group, the people who are going to do stuff that might not work. Because if you're in that group, you're going to feel really scared alone. I wanted to reach out to that group and say, “Look, a lot of the advice you hear is crap, okay? Because what about the person who has the ability to solve a perfect problem? They know what they want to do. They want to do it. They're going to go up against incredible odds and they're afraid.”

They say to themselves, “Oh, I'm probably not qualified to do this, because I'm afraid. I know when I'm afraid, I'm afraid for a good reason. I'm not going to get into a car with a stranger, or I'm not going to do this thing.” I'm telling you, that's a load of crap. You've been told your whole lives to be afraid for a very good reason. That fear saved your life hundreds of times growing up and it saves your life probably several times a year just as a sentient adult. Sometimes that fear stops you. The time to be afraid is when there is a known problem.

If it's an unknown problem, your fear is still there, but it is now irrational because how do you know? Nobody's been there. By the way in business, nobody kills you. Well, like in most businesses. Any business I get into – I almost got in a business that would kill me. I was in a roofing business for a while. That almost killed one of my guys. We fell through a roof, 20 feet through a roof. Bam!

I got out of that business, because like, “Oh, I don't want to do business that actually could literally kill me.” Square could have failed, but Jack and I would have still – we'd still be alive now. A lot of the stuff that I do, failure means well, the company loses a bunch of money and you've wasted a bunch of time. Usually doesn't mean accurate death, but again, your brain is not good at differentiating death fear from just lose your money fear, so I've tried to address that.

[0:35:59.9] MB: That's such a great point. The fact that the way that our brains evolved means that we can't really distinguish between existential mortal threats and business threats. It's such a great piece of advice to really start to get comfortable with discomfort and get comfortable being afraid when you're facing a tough business challenge, because not only are the stakes not as low as your brain often makes them feel like they are, but the reality is and this to me is one of the most important things that you've said in this whole conversation is this idea that there's a huge difference between boldness, or even what boldness looks like from the outside and with being comfortable with being uncomfortable.

[0:36:41.1] JM: Yeah. Yeah. Look, remember, a lot of people who preach how bold they are, I know some of these people, okay. I knew them before they were bold, okay, or at least I don't remember them being that way. There was a little bit of inflation. Once you're successful and they hand you the microphone, it's easy to be bold. Yeah, being comfortable with discomfort, that sounds like such a contradiction.

I think of Harry Houdini, one of the greatest escape artists in the history of the world; one of the greatest magicians. Fantastic guy. Used to lock himself up, have other people lock him up and then he would – he had this all these ways of picking locks and he was really good at getting out of locks. He would sometimes have them chained him up and chain him in a box and then throw the box in a river. Rivers are like 60-degree water sometimes, so he would have to deal with not only picking a lock underwater in the dark holding his breath, but he would have to do so in the cold, right?

Houdini as just a regular practice, every day took a cold shower. Have you ever taken cold shower, the first 10 times you do it, it sucks. If you do it every day, at some point you get used to it. You just go, “Oh. Well, now I'm going to take a shower.” The fact that the water is 50 degrees, doesn't freak you out anymore. Most of us never get to that point, because most of us live in civilized dwellings.

Houdini used his cold shower to become comfortable with a discomfort that he knew he was going to fix. Being thrown on the river, all of a sudden he doesn't have to deal with the fact that his body's cold, because he's like, “Oh, yeah. Just like in my morning. It's every day.” It's actually familiar to him. One of the things that I recommend and Matt, at the beginning I guess you asked me for some suggestions for your audience. I think okay, I really can't give you any specific advice on entrepreneurship, because by my definition, entrepreneurship is something that hasn't been done before, so I have nothing to offer you, like zero. I'm sorry. Nothing.

What I can tell you and this has been really effective for me personally is occasionally, do something that makes you really uncomfortable. Go talk to a stranger, or give a public speech, or dress in a way that nobody else is dressing, or go someplace that you don't like, or eat some weird food, travel, or hang out with your enemy, okay. I wish Washington would do this a little bit more. Why don't they have Republican and Democrat mixers anymore? I mean, just open up a bottle of gin and see if we could solve some problems.

I really believe that a person can get used to the feeling of discomfort and then the feeling of being able to still function when in that state. Believe me, if you're going to be an entrepreneur, you will be uncomfortable. Your physiology, your brain, the way you are evolved is going to tell you something is wrong. You need to have enough familiarity with that feeling to go, “Oh, well. That's just me being terrified. Oh, that's just me feeling really uncomfortable. Or oh, that's just my need for positive reinforcement.” You can get over that stuff.

Now I'm not saying being a total jerk, okay. I'm not saying going around and just making a public nuisance of yourself, but up to a point, yeah, sure. Do something that you're not going to just get heaps of praise for, because believe me, if you're one of these people and I'm one, okay. If you’re one of these people that craves praise, that lives for the, “Oh, that's a great job. We love it.” You're going to feel so weird when you actually start doing something that is new, because you're not going to get any praise. It just doesn't come. Nobody knows how to praise something that hasn't been done before. We lack the vocabulary.

[0:40:42.1] MB: I want to come back to the broader question, or problem around innovation. The name of the book is The Innovation Stack. Tell me a little bit about what is an innovation stack and how do you think about as somebody who's innovated and built incredible companies and organizations across a huge array of verticals and areas, how do you think about what innovation is and what is an innovation stack?

[0:41:08.4] JM: To me, the idea of the innovation stack is a series of independent and interdependent solutions to new problems. What I realized when I started doing my research was that this cascade of solutions was in itself, this massively powerful business tool. I discovered it by accident. What happened in our case was Square got attacked by Amazon. Amazon is the scariest company on the planet, as far as I'm concerned.

If you want to name a company that's going to attack you, it better not be Amazon. Amazon is the deadliest. I know Google's terrifying and Facebook can scare you if you’re a tech, but nobody has worked with Amazon, at least for us. Amazon did to us what they did to many other companies, and that is they copied our product, undercut our price by 30%, they are offered a bunch of features that we didn't have and then they said, “Okay, we're now going to take over your market.”

By the way, this works for Amazon in so many areas, okay. They are the kings of taking over other people's markets, to that formula that I just gave you. Oh, there. There's a second checklist, okay. If you happen to be Amazon, you now have – well, they already do that, but maybe somebody from Baidu's list, they can do the same; undercut the competitor by 30%, copy their product and watch them die, okay. Beautiful. There is another checklist for you.

They did this to us and we didn't die. As a matter of fact, we survived and eventually, Amazon retreated. When I saw this happen I was like “Why? How did we win? What happened?” That's actually the research that started this book, because I couldn't figure out why we won. I knew what we've done, but I didn't know why it worked. I started looking for other examples and looking and looking, looking. It took me three years to find a pattern. Then once I saw the pattern, I was like, “Oh, my God. The pattern is everywhere. It's so pervasive that it in fact exists at the beginning of almost any significant industry.”

What that is is a stack of innovations, a series of interrelated discoveries and new applications for old discoveries. For instance, the easy one is the Wright brothers and the airplane, right? When you think about the Wright brothers and you think about their airfoil designs, okay. The fact that they had a wind tunnel and could test their designs. A lot of history of the Wright brothers talks about how important that was. If you think about the airplane itself, there were so many things that they had to figure out and they do.

They had to figure out how to make lightweight structures. Well, they could copy some of that for gliders, but gliders behave differently because gliders didn't have to have engines, so they had to have an engine, but the engine had to be light enough to turn a propeller. What's a propeller? Because nobody have built a propeller before? They had to develop a propeller. Then once they got in the air, well they had to figure out how to steer and nobody knew how to steer, because nobody had been in the air before, so they had to figure out how to maneuver. Then well, they had to figure out how to land, because eventually, the plane had to come landing. Well, nobody figured how to land because nobody figured how to fly. You don't learn how to land until you first figured out how to fly. They had all this stuff at the same time.

What they ended up doing was not one or two things differently, but they did 15 or 20. That to me is what an innovation stack is. It's this inner-locking, interdependent solutions to problems. The way these evolved is so interesting. I look in the book at innovation stacks throughout history and starting a 100 years ago and then working up to present day, how these things tend to evolve in different parts of the world, at different points in history, in different industries, but they all follow these patterns. That's what we discussed. We talk about the patterns.

The hope is that somebody who is building a solution to a new problem, or to an unsolved problem, to a perfect problem is most likely not going to find one solution.

What they will do is they will start with one thing and they'll fix that. Then the solution to that problem will probably cause other problems, okay. Take the Wright brothers. Well, they need to make the plane move, so how are you going to do that? Well, how about our propeller? Okay, but, well now you got to turn the propeller so you got two sources of power, you either got the human, you can make him pump a bicycle pedal, I mean, and the Wrights were – they owned a bicycle shop, so they thought, “Well, human power works. Works for bicycles.”

If human power isn't enough, well, you have an engine. Well, now we got to make an engine. Okay, so they got an engine, problem with the engine is it weighs 50 pounds, so now your whole aircraft has to support 50 pounds of engine, so now your light little glider just turned into a much heavier structure and now your wing spars have to be heavier and all your control surfaces have to be stronger. Solving one problem causes other problems.

What happens in the course of solving these new problems issue end up in one of two places, you either end up dead, because you fail to solve some problem at some point. If the Wrights have not been able to strengthen the frame of the airplane to the point where it would support the engine, well the plane would not have flown. It would have broken in half, but they solved that. Then the other option is you end up solving all your problems and eventually, come up with this stack of interlocking innovation. That is what I call an innovation stack.

[0:46:53.3] MB: All right. Correct me if this is a mischaracterization, but the idea is that when you start to solve a really unique difficult, as you would call it a perfect problem, you initially come across one innovation that then unlocks another problem or challenge and then you create another innovation to solve that. Eventually, these stack together in a way that you've built a backbone, or some competitive differentiated structure, as you called an innovation stack, that then helps that business even stave off or defeat some brutal competition; in the case of Square, Amazon coming in and trying to destroy the company.

[0:47:30.1] JM: Oh, yeah. In every case where I studied one of these companies that had evolved in innovation stack, these companies were viciously attacked. I mean, what happened to Square, we were just attacked by Amazon, okay. That was not nearly as bad as what happened to some of the other companies that I studied. We weren't banished from our home country, okay. We weren't kicked out of the United States. That happened to one guy. We weren't attacked by the federal government, that happened to another guy. There are worse things than being attacked by Amazon and I Chronicle a lot of that.

The durability of the innovation stack is amazing. It's not just one thing leads to another, but it's this gnarly mess of interrelated defects, so that for instance if you make one change to one thing and that changes let's say, the way your customer has to use your product, well now you've changed how the customer interacts with your product and you may have changed the way the product is delivered, which may change something else. All of these things eventually interrelate.

[0:48:38.0] MB: There's some great examples. I know we're running out of time, but there's some really good examples in the book of how these innovations all stack together and build on one another from the cheap hardware component of Square and how that enabled you to have lower acquisition costs and lower barriers to onboarding, to Southwest and the standardization of their fleet and all of the synergies that came out of that. So many interesting insights from this business model, this perspective. It's a great way to approach solving any difficult problem.

[0:49:06.7] JM: Yeah. I think it's a good framework to have. I've got two young kids and the first thing about being a parent is your kids never listen to you. I thought, “Well, my kids are never going to listen to my advice. Maybe if I get hit by a bus or something happens to me and I wanted to pass one or two messages into the future to my children, this would be what I'd want to pass.” I'd like to have my children feel that they are powerful enough to do things that have not been done before. I wanted to pass that onto everybody, not just my kids. When I was writing it, I had this idea that somehow something had happened to me and these were the only words that I could leave behind.

That's a tough lesson to pass on. What I wanted to do was make it as funny as possible to read and then to confess that yeah. I mean, I've had a lot of stuff go right and hopefully, some more stuff in the future will go right. Boy, the real skill that I want to get people comfortable with is when things go wrong and how do you handle that and what do you do and what have people before in history done and how do they feel about it.

[0:50:23.1] MB: To bring this all the way back and you shared some great strategies throughout this conversation, but for listeners who want to concretely implement one thing that we've talked about today, what would be one piece of homework, or one action item that you would give them to start taking action in some way?

[0:50:41.3] JM: I don't think I've discussed this in the book. I honestly don't know. I don't know if this is in the book or not. It was there for a while and then I think I cut it out. I have this idea of personal energy score. I always think of things that I do, either increasing or decreasing my energy. For instance, get a good night's, sleep increase your energy, eat well, increase your energy, get some rest, hang out with people that make me laugh, increase energy. Go to long meetings, decrease energy, get a subpoena, decrease energy, be in a room that's too cold, decrease energy. I'm constantly looking at my day and my week and I guess, more than that as things that either add to my energy supply or decrease my energy supply.

By the way, if this is not in the book, I promise on JimMcKelvey.com, I will put this essay, because I know I've written about it. It's a great trick. Matt, you want to trick. Here's a trick; personal energy score. Manage your energy. The idea here is that you want to do things that increase your score and consciously catalog them. For instance, I have terrible taste in music. As a matter of fact, my taste in music is so apparently bad that I don't even tell people what I listen to. As a matter of fact, I'm embarrassed by it. I jealously hide my Spotify playlist sometimes. The songs I listen to psych me up. I will often listen to that if I'm going into anything. The idea is I just get a little more energy from. I get a little boost.

The real question of when does an entrepreneur fail, to me is when does the entrepreneur quit? It's the same question. Because I don't think of failure as this thing of oh, the product doesn't work. Dude, the product is never going to work, okay. If you're an engineer and I was trained as an engineer, you never get to work on a product that functions, right? If it functions, you hand it over to the marketing department. You're done as an engineer, okay. Me, my life, my career, I never get to work on stuff the functions, because if it functioned, I wouldn't be working on it.

What do you do in the case of a day when you have to constantly confront failure? The answer is you have to have enough energy to keep going. That energy comes from somewhere. The interesting trick is that sometimes, the cereal that I eat for breakfast, or the TV show that I watch the night before, or a conversation that I had with my wife a week ago is the thing that makes or breaks my performance on the job.

If I have this family problem and I'm worried about one of the kids, or I'm stressed out about the fact that my car doesn't start or something, there's a cost to that. I don't think of it as affecting my work performance, but it really does, because I come to the office with a little bit less energy and a little less resilience. Then some giant problem shows up and I'm depleted. I can't solve it. That problem just knocks me on my ass. I like this idea of a personal energy score, because it forces me to actively think about the things that I do that allow me to do the things that I do.

[0:54:07.2] MB: Jim, where can listeners find the book, find you and your work online?

[0:54:11.9] JM: I put up a website, JimMcKelvey.com. I apologize to everybody, I'm not on social media. Actually, one of the ways I manage my personal energy, getting back to personal energy, is I don't use social media. I don't use Facebook. I don't use Twitter. I don't use Instagram. I have a LinkedIn account. I don't use it ever. I mean, it's there and maybe once or twice a year I'll check it. I may have to start doing it now that I've written the book, so that may change by the time we broadcast this.

Generally, you're not going to find me on social media. Why? Because I find it drains my energy. I find it stresses me out. I find it's one of those things that at the end of the day has taken energy from me, as opposed to giving energy to me. If you want to find me, JimMcKelvey.com. Then the book is published by Penguin and I'm sure will be for sale on Amazon. This is the great irony of starting a book, where your lead story is being attacked by Amazon. Because writing it, I was like, “Oh, man. These guys are going to have to sell my book.” 

I didn't hold back. I figured they're big enough. They're not going to care what one guy says. Actually, Amazon was really cool about the way they handled one Square one, because after Square beat them, they mailed everybody a little Square reader. Great end to that story.

[0:55:28.9] MB: Yeah. That's just one of many really fascinating and great stories throughout the book. By the way, big respect for not being on social media. I think that's such a great decision and one that people are continuing to migrate towards in many ways as we see how dangerous it can be for us.

Either way, Jim, I just wanted to say thank you so much for coming on the show and for sharing all this wisdom.

[0:55:51.0] JM: Oh, Matt. Man, I love what you do. Your listeners may not know that you and I actually met under totally different circumstances in a different organization that I'm also part of, FINTOP Capital. Our paths have crossed and I've got tremendous respect from you and what you do and also for your listeners, because the people who listen to these things are trying to better themselves, are trying to do new things and they're trying to come up with ideas and that's admirable. Go. That's fantastic.

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How To Build a Remarkable Company Culture with Dee Ann Turner

January 21, 2020 by Lace Gilger in Career Development, Influence & Communication

In this business-focused episode of the Science of Success we share how to recruit extraordinary talent and build a remarkable culture for your business with our guest Dee Ann Turner.

Dee Ann Turner is a Communicator, Consultant, and Coach. She was Chick-fil-A’s first female officer and was instrumental in building and growing their well-known culture and talent systems for 33 years. She is also the author of the best-selling It’s My Pleasure: The Impact of Extraordinary Talent and a Compelling Culture and most recently Bet on Talent: How to Create a Remarkable Culture That Wins the Hearts of Customers.

    • What are the building blocks of a remarkable company culture?

    • The most important element of a remarkable culture is a MEANINGFUL purpose

      • Why does your organization exist?

      • It’s not just about a business. It could be a sports team, an educational institution, a non profit, or even a family

    •  “I’m not in the chicken business, I’m in the people business."

    • A purpose isn’t very meaningful if it doesn’t have any actionable results.

    • The second most important part of a company culture is a challenging mission.

    • The third most important thing to a powerful culture are “demonstrated core values” - the behaviors that exhibit the corporate purpose.

    •  Why do so many companies fail to live and demonstrate their core values? If your core values aren’t demonstrated, they don’t mean very much.

    •  How do you discover your organization’s purpose?

      • Ask why. Dig in. Figure out WHY you’re doing what you’re doing.

      • Figure out what sticks.

      • Sometimes it takes years or even decades of trial and error.

    • Purpose first, then core values, then mission.

    • Why do so many companies and organizations struggle to actually live and implement their core values?

    • You have to nurture your culture every day. You have to be principle driven above all else. Truly great organizations are willing, no matter what the price, to stick with their principles.

    • When building your culture - should you focus on rules or principles? What’s the difference and why does it matter?

    • When you have a great experience at a business - was that organization “rules-based” or “principles-based?"

    • Focusing on rules creates a toxic culture. Focusing on principles creates a strong culture.

    • Select talent that can thrive under a set of principles. Select people with good judgment who know how to apply a principle. Selecting people who can only follow rules won’t thrive in that kind of environment.

    • What’s more important, culture or talent?

      • If you don’t have a real foundation of principles and core values, then you won’t recruit there right kind of talent.

      • You won’t attract and keep extraordinary talent without a strong culture.

      • It takes extraordinary talent to execute a strong culture.

    • “We select talent, we don’t hire people."

    • Remarkable Culture + Extraordinary Talent + Amazing Customer Experiences

    • How do you actually LIVE and DEMONSTRATE your CORE VALUES?

    • Leaders have to live out the values or NO ONE else will.

    • Criterion for selecting talent

      • Character first

      • Then competency and ability to execute

      • Then chemistry that matches the team

    • Your culture is made up of the conglomeration of the character of everyone in the organization.

    • How do you select and recruit the most talented people for the job? How do you compete in a full-employment economy?

    • The organizations that win over the talent in the toughest economies are the organizations that nurture and grow their culture and make themselves a place where people want to work.

    • Take a more long term view of attracting talent. Stay the course, invest in your people, and make your culture and company a place that people want to stay.

    • Know your people individually and tailor what you do

    • The concept of “truth-telling” and why its important when you’re stewarding talent

    • The difference between being nice and being kind. Care more about the person you’re helping than about what they think about you.

    • When you tell your employees the truth, they can self manage and it makes the leader’s job much easier. The employee respects the leader more for telling the truth.

    • The difference between having an abundance mentality and a scarcity mentality - and how to use that distinction to become a better manager and leader.

    • Try to accomplish things one small bite at a time.

    • Homework: Start with your WHY. That informs everything else that you do. What will your business do? What will it be about?

    • What should you do in a toxic culture? Start with yourself. Start with where you have influence.

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General

  • Dee Ann’s website

  • Dee Ann’s LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram

Media

  • Article Directory on Fox Business and Global Leadership Network

  • Choice PR - Dee Ann Turner media coverage directory

  • The Human Capital Group - “Transformational Leadership Talks Dee Ann Turner, Author & Former Talent Architect at Chick-fil-A” by David Alexander

  • Yahoo Finance - “Dee Ann Turner: Is your workplace toxic? How well-intentioned rules can reduce employee motivation and kill productivity” by Dee Ann Turner

  • Modern Restaurant Management - “MRM Talking With: Author, Leadership Coach and Chick-fil-A Veteran Dee Ann Turner” By MRM Staff

  • Threewill - “10 Takeaways from It’s My Pleasure by Dee Ann Turner of Chick-fil-A” by Danny Ryan

  • [Podcast] Thinking Like A Boss - Episode #48: Dee Ann Turner

  • [Podcast] Gut + Science - 022 – Going the Second Mile For Your Culture | Dee Ann Turner

  • [Podcast] Future-Proof - 70. The Culture Key: Bet on Talent | with Dee Ann Turner

  • [Podcast] Dose of Leadership - 249 – Dee Ann Turner: Vice President, Human Resources at Chick-fil-A, Inc.

  • [Podcast] The Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast - CNLP 294: Dee Ann Turner on How Chick-fil-A Created Amazing Customer Service and Created a Culture That Replicated It Among Tens of Thousands of Employees and Customers

  • [Podcast] Jenni Catron Leadership Podcast - JCLP Featuring Dee Ann Turner

Videos

  • Elevate Publishing - Dee Ann Turner Interview with Fox & Friends

  • Dee Ann Turner’s YouTube Channel

    • Dee Ann Turner Speaking at Propel Lead, May 2017

  • Dee Ann Turner - [OFFICIAL TRAILER] It's My Pleasure

  • Books A Million - Bet on Talent by Dee Ann Turner

  • Cheddar - Former Chick-Fil-A VP on Creating a Strong Workplace Culture

  • Brandon Smith - Top Tips for Building an Awesome Company Culture with Dee Ann Turner of Chick-fil-A

  • WLMB-TV 40 - What Should Businesses Do to Win Their Customers? | Dee Ann Turner | Main Street

  • Dr. Jason Brooks - Dee Ann Turner joins Dr. Jason Brooks Leadership Podcast

Books

  • Bet on Talent: How to Create a Remarkable Culture That Wins the Hearts of Customers  by Dee Ann Turner and Patrick Lencioni

  • It's My Pleasure: The Impact of Extraordinary Talent and a Compelling Culture  by Dee Ann Turner

  • The Dream Manager by Matthew Kelly and Patrick Lencioni

  • Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler

  • Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek

Episode Transcript

[00:00:04.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success. Introducing your host, Matt Bodnar.

[00:00:11] MB: Welcome to the Science of Success, the number one evidence-based growth podcast on the internet with more than 5 million downloads and listeners in over a hundred countries.

In this business-focused episode of the Science of Success, we share how to recruit extraordinary talent and build a remarkable culture for your business with our guest Dee Ann Turner. 

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In our previous episode we looked at what happens when you peer into the dark underbelly of the human psyche? How should you react when we uncovered the raw truth of human nature, emotion, sexuality and racism? We explored all of this and much more in a fascinating interview with our previous guest, Dr. Seth Stephens-Davidowitz. 

Now, for our interview with Dee Ann.

[00:01:40] MB: Today, we have another exciting guest on the show, Dee Ann Turner. Dee Ann is a communicator consultant and coach. She was Chick-fil-A's first female officer and was instrumental in building and growing their well-known culture and talent systems for more than 33 years. She's also the author of the best-selling It's My Pleasure: The Impact of Extraordinary Talent and a Compelling Culture, and most recently her book Bet on Talent: How to Create a Remarkable Culture That Wins the Hearts of Customers. 

Dee Ann, welcome to the Science of Success.

[00:02:11] DAT: Thank so much, Matt. It’s my pleasure to be here. 

[00:02:14] MB: Well, I'm really excited to have you on the show today, the success story of Chick-fil-A and especially the talent and human capital-focused components of the Chick-fil-A business model are in the restaurant industry especially clearly a standout leader. It's such a remarkable organization. I’d love to start with the overall question or idea of culture and both how you think about what really helps build a remarkable company culture and what’s some of those building blocks were at Chick-fil-A.

[00:02:50] DAT: Sure will. The most important elements of remarkable culture to me are three things. The first one is a meaningful purpose. It’s why an organization exists at all. It’s not just about a business. It can be about a sports team, or a club, or even a family. It’s like why are we here at all? What is our very purpose for being?

I learned this really from Truett Cathy, the founder of Chik-fil-A when he started his business in 1946. He didn’t have a written purpose, but there was no doubt that his focus was on impacting the lives of others just by his actions, and you can go back and look at the history of the things that he did for other people using his small, little tiny business in Hapevilla, Georgia as a platform, an opportunity to do those things for people. He said, “Hey, I'm not in the restaurant business. I'm in the people business.” 

He carried that forward through the history of the organization to starting Chick-fil-A in 1967 with its first restaurant. Then he got to 1982, and for those people who are around in 1982, there is a major recession at that time. For the first time ever going from ‘46 to ’82, she had never experienced a slump in sales, but he had one that year. Chick-fil-A had a slump in sales, and on top of that he had built a brand-new corporate headquarters south of Atlanta. 

Here's a man whose business is declining and he’s deeply in debt, and we know what businesses do when that happens, right? They tend to cut their budgets and might lay people off. But in my head, they’re forward-thinking enough they might have a contest, “How can we get people to sell more?” But he was faced with those challenges. He took his executive committee on to a three-day retreat. The first half day, they talked about budget cutting and all of what that would mean and what they needed to do. But right in the middle of that first day, one of those executives asked a very poignant question. He said, “Why are we here at all?” For the next two and a half days, Chick-fil-A spent that time talking about the answer to that question. 

Well, after the retreat, they came back and they presented the answer to the staff as their corporate purpose, which is this; to glorify God by being a faithful steward of all that's entrusted to us with a positive influence on all who come in contact with Chik-fil-A. 

Without purposely minding the staff, by the way, they loved it. They carved it in bronze. Stuck it on a slab of granite and put it at the front door, because they wanted everybody who came to work each day to understand that they truly weren’t in the chicken business or the restaurant business. They were in the people business, and this was the purpose and the reason for being of why they do their work. 

Purpose isn’t very meaningful if it doesn't have actionable results, this was pretty incredible. Once Chick-fil-A decided their purpose, that was in 1982. Well, it's 2019 and Chick-fil-A’s never had another slump in sales since then. On top of that, they became debt-free in 2012. The thing that I loved and enjoyed about being a leader in the HR talent space at Chick-fil-A was that over the last 30 years or so, Chick-fil-A enjoyed a 95% retention rate of their stuff and 95% retention rate of franchisees, and those franchisees have won the absolute lowest turnover rates in the industry. 

It really makes a difference not only to know your purpose and to write it down, but when you continue to live it out and in every decision you make it becomes a filter, then when that happens, it really helps to solidify that culture. 

The second element of remarkable culture to me is a challenging mission, something that the entire team just rallies around to accomplish. I’ve lots of stories in different organizations with challenging missions, but when I think of a challenging mission, I think of a group of people that are all rowing in the same direction, if you can imagine, to achieve a really big goal. 

Then thirdly, what's important for a remarkable culture is demonstrated core volumes. These are the beliefs that an organization and their leadership hold most dear and decide that they’re going to be the behaviors that really exhibit the corporate purpose, and they adapt those. Most importantly – This is really important, because a lot of organizations go to so much trouble to establish a list of core values, and they brand them, and they post them on walls, and they stencil them into the walls and they put them all over the place and on the website, but they don't demonstrate them. Unless core values are demonstrated beginning at the very top and throughout the organization, then they don't really mean a whole lot. 

For me what I had found is not only in my experience with Chick-fil-A. I certainly learned a lot of that [inaudible 00:07:43] in my experience there, but also working with other organizations. Again, sports teams, and churches, and nonprofits, and all kinds of organizations. Then they take these three elements in they really integrate it into their organization, that's what helps them create a remarkable culture. 

[00:08:02] MB: There's a number of things that I want to explore more deeply. Let’s start back with purpose. How does a company or any organization go about finding their purpose?

[00:08:15] DAT: I think that you have to ask a lot of wild questions. Now, it just so happen the example I gave you with Chick-fil-A, they went off to a retreat and they figured out their purpose in 3 days. In a lot of organizations, they want so quickly to check the box. Let’s bring in the consultant, have them facilitate the meeting. When we leave here, let’s know our purpose, our mission and our core values.

 

Well, most really great organizations, it doesn’t happen that way. You start by asking those "why" questions. Why are we here? Why do we exist? What do we want to be known for? What's bigger than ourselves? I mean, I could not work for an organization for 33 years if it was all about just some chicken. It’s a wonderful profit, but not enough to motivate me. For me, it was about that purpose. It was understanding that the money that this organization made that I help them make went to building schools all over the world, drilling wells for clean drinking water in remote parts the world, feeding the hungry right here in this country, and I could go on and on and on, but that’s what motivated me in my purpose. 

First of all, you have to be very thoughtful about it. Secondly, you have to see if it sticks. Are we really able to live this out and to revisit it again and again and again? Some of the stories I would tell you at Chick-fil-A’s example, lots of other organizations living there purpose out. It was decades of trial and error and being sure we’re on track and going back to that purpose every time you have a significant decision to make or if you had a crisis or whatever it is to go back and go, “Okay. This is the reason we exist.” I think, too often, people think it's about the words. It's not about the words. It’s about the actions that demonstrate the words and the purpose.

[00:10:00] MB: That's a really powerful point. It's all about the actions. Once we’ve discovered our purpose, how do we start to actually put that into action? 

[00:10:09] DAT: I really think that’s where the core values come into play, because core values really demonstrate that behaviors that back that up. UST used Chick-fil-A as example, and actually all of those that I described in their remarkable culture, it developed over years and years. The purpose came first. The core values came next, and then the mission for this organization and their culture. 

The core values were words that really was what Truitt demonstrated in the business, which was excellence, excellence in product and service and experiences. Loyalty, loyalty to customers, loyalty to the employees, loyalty to the brand. Integrity, always doing what you say you'll do when you say you'll do it. How you say you’ll do it. Then lastly, generosity. Truitt set the example of being generous with not just his treasure, but also with this time and talent as well. 

The values really reflected who he was as a person and begin to integrate into the organization. Well, after Truitt's passing in 2014, we looked at those values again and said, “Okay. Where were you as an organization?” The populace doesn't change. Rarely would a purpose every change for an organization is its lifetime. That didn't change, but it was like in this day, with this employees, with this leadership team, with these board of directors, with this CEO in present, who we both knew at the time that Truitt died, where are we now with our values? 

If I describe them, they’re basically the same thing, but they’re described a little differently and they hit the nail on the head, which is we’re here to serve. We’re better together. We’re purpose-driven, and we pursue what's next. It was a nod to thee, and all those things were things that Truitt was as well, but it is a nod to service, and the teamwork, and to our purpose, and to pursuing innovation. It fit where the organization was at that time. 

Developing core values for the season that an organization in is really, really important. Again, it gives a guidebook, if you will, to how you're going to make decisions and then also to what's expected of the people in the organization to demonstrate. It becomes part of your talent systems. If you want to be an organization for people who are here to serve better together purpose-driven and pursue what's next, then you have to look at who you recruit, how you select them, how you promote them, how you grow and develop them, all of those things so that the core values [inaudible 00:12:38].

[00:12:40] MB: Why do you think so many people and organizations create these core values and platitudes in plaster them on the wall and yet it doesn't actually seep into their culture. It doesn't actually create anything, and they end up being another generic bland company.

[00:13:02] DAT: Well, I think it's because we start out with good ideas of what we’d love to be, but when things get stressful, when the market gets tight, when sales drop, when customers go away, when it's hard to find talent or we have too much. Whatever all those stresses are, it's easy first just to fall back in survival mode. Survival mode is how can we squeeze out the next dollar, or how can we get a warm body into a role that we need to fill quickly rather than the thoughtfulness and care that needs to go into if you’re really serious about your culture. You have to nurture it every day. You have to be principle-driven above all else. 

If you're not, then it is just so much easier under stress to drop back into survival mode. I think that's the difference between those generic brands and truly great organizations with remarkable cultures is they’re willing no matter what the price to stick with their principles and their culture and nourish it rather than just slip back into rules and an environment where you’re just trying to survive. 

[00:14:15] MB: That's really interesting insight and touches on another concept that I thought was really interesting, which is this notion of the difference between a rule and a principal. Tell me more about that. 

[00:14:27] DAT: Yeah. That was a big insight that I had between it’s [inaudible 00:14:31] talent was just really noticing that. I came to notice it from a customer perspective. I would go places and I would have these amazing experiences. I think about Publix Super Markets. That would be one of the brands where just great customer service experience. Then I would go other places and it would be horrible, and it became a thing with my husband and I. We’d walk into a place, we’d have experience. It’s like, “Was that a principles-driven organization or a rules-based?” based on the experience that we had. 

What a rules-based culture creates is a toxic culture. When people are just given a set of rules that they must comply to and/or else be fired and keep your head down, stay out of trouble and just follow these rules, it creates a toxic culture. When people are given principles to abide by and the freedom to apply those principles, then they are much more likely to provide excellent customer service, create a remarkable culture for both the employees and the customer. 

Let me give you an example. I went to work right out of college for a brief time for an organization that’s now defunct, which is because they have toxic culture, which is probably why they’re not in business, but there a rule for everything. If I was 30 seconds late for my 30-minute lunch break, I was not paid for those 30 seconds. The rules range from all kinds of things, but possibly the most absurd was that every day after lunch the boss, the owner of the company, took a nap. I’m not talking about a power nap, 10 minutes like we talked about. I’m talking about full-fledged on snoring two-hour nap. He left really strict instructions that he wasn't to be disturbed under any circumstances, whatsoever. 

Here I am, a young 20, 21-year-old, I filled in at the receptionist’s desk during lunch. The suited men with earpieces in their ears walk into the office, and they come to the receptionist’s desk and they asked to see my boss. My response is, “I’m sorry. He’s unavailable.” Well, they pull out their badges and they said, “Let's make them available.” Here I am, this 20-year-old that’s so full of this rules-focused toxic culture that I am more concerned about waking up my snoring boss than I am obstructing federal armed agents at that time, and it’s because of this rules-based culture that was just ground into me. 

Then of course I went to work for another family-owned business that was just the opposite. It was all about principles, and here’s one of the ways they made that successful. They selected talent that could thrive with a set of principles. I remember early on in my career and the president of the company constantly reminding me that we select people with good judgment. We have to select people that has the judgment to know how to apply a principal, otherwise if you select people that are just used to performing in their stack of rules, then they can’t thrive in an environment like that. If you don't select people that are excited about or a working environment with principles, then they'll quickly become frustrated with that. That's a very important differentiation. 

Now, you have to have some rules. I mean, I was involved in restaurant business. You better believe strong food safety rules exist there, and you have to have a very strong line of some of those things if you’re an accountant. You’re likely practicing generally accepted accounting practices. There are all kinds of rules that you have to have around security and safety and strong business practices. But when the rules overshadow the principles and people can’t collaborate, all they do is follow the rules. They forget while they’re there at all, which is to serve the customer. 

I think one of the great things that Chick-fil-A did was free up Chick-fil-A team members to go above and beyond customer expectations, and they did this through an initiative a number of years ago what was happening much like today, but back then there were other brands that were copying the Chick-fil-A signature product, the Chick-fil-A sandwich. 

You might not know this, Matt, but actually Truitt Kathy, invented the chicken sandwich. It was the first. Other people were trying to copy that product. Early on, there were just burgers and Chick-fil-A. There was a lot of competition. The question became, “Well, how will Chick-fil-A differentiate themselves?” What they decided to do was to focus on the customer service experience in addition on the excellent products. The principal that came about was make second mile service second nature.

What that meant was go beyond the 1st mile of just getting the order right and being friendly and serving it in a timely manner and exceed the customer's expectations. Well, I won’t go into all the details in the short-term we had, and I actually write about a lot of it had been on talent. But the team members started being freed up. 

The franchisees freed them up to apply this principle, and they started doing some pretty amazing things for customers like changing tires and jumping up dead batteries in the parking lot to all kinds of ways to serve the customer. They had figured out how to go above and beyond. Quickly, that's really where Chick-fil-A became known for. Not just a great chicken sandwich, but for this customer service that people could expect when they come there and just to feel so appreciated and honored that they chose to spend their money there. 

[00:20:00] MB: You made a really interesting point a minute ago around hiring the right talent that can thrive with principles instead of rules. How much of the success of Chick-fil-A, and more broadly when you look at remarkable cultures, how much of that success is a result of the principles and the core values and so forth and how much a result is of finding the right people?

[00:20:26] DAT: Well, actually, I think if you’re going to win the hearts of customers, they’re both equally as important. If you don't have a foundation of a remarkable culture with these kind of values and purpose and mission, then you’re probably not able to attract the kind of talent that can execute that culture. 

Now, one thing you said is hire, and I'm really careful in my belief is that we select talent. We don't hire people. When we hire people, we’re just thinking about quantity. Do I have enough people to get in there filling shift? Do I have enough people to work in the dining room? Do I have enough people prepared in the back? Do I you have enough people out on the sales floor? 

But when we’re thinking about selecting talent, we’re thinking about, “Do I have people with the capabilities and the skills to do exactly what needs to be done?” That's just a little nuance that I think about the difference, but those things are equally as important. You’re probably not going to attract extraordinary talent and keep them if you don't have a strong culture. 

On the other hand, it takes that extraordinary talent to execute that culture. They really go hand-in-hand, and if an organization – I’ve seen this time and time again, they can put both of those things in place. Then on top that, teach these kind of principles that we talk about, whether it’s in Chick-fil-A’s case, it was make second mile second nature or treat everyone with honor, dignity and respect, or even the language of when a guest says thank you, we say my pleasure. 

All of those types of principles when applied is what wins the hearts of customers. That’s really my formula through the whole thing, it’s a remarkable cultural, plus extraordinary talent, plus amazing customer experiences. We put all that together and you consistently perform it again and again and again, that’s how you become legendary in winning the hearts of customers.

It sounds simple, but don't forget, it took me about 50,000 words and 50 years to make that happen in Chick-fil-A’s case to become the best in customer service in America. It's not simple. It takes diligence, and anybody who's looking for the quick fix is probably not going to find or be able to accomplish that. 

[00:22:47] MB: Yeah. It’s certainly not easy to implement that. The principles make a lot of sense. I want to dig into recruiting talent, but before we do, one last question I may have asked a form of this already, but I really want to dig into it. How do you, from a leadership standpoint at the top levels of a company, how do you think about actually demonstrating the core values and embedding them into your actions as opposed to just having them be these nebulous things on the wall?

[00:23:22] DAT: Yeah. I’ll take that question and to speak from my own personal experience. I failed as often as anybody. People aren’t perfect of being able to demonstrate this every single time. But if I take the core value of I'm here to serve, I love this part about working at Chick-fil-A, is really in terms of job title, the higher up your job title was, and I'm even struggling to use those words in that way, the more you were expected to serve. 

Sometimes it's the flip of that in other organizations. One of the wonderful things about Chick-fil-A is that everybody was there to serve somebody. Obviously, if you were a team member, you were serving customers. If you are Chick-fil-A franchisee, you were serving your team members who serve the customer and serving the customers. If you’re a Chick-fil-A staff member, your role is to serve the people who were serving the customers. 

Very ingrained, and so it’s little things that that even plays out to be walking in a Chick-fil-A parking lot and see trash that a customer had discarded on the ground and to pick that up for the operator. I might be going in just to visit the operator, and today as a customer. I’m not employed by Chick-fil-A anymore, but even as a customer, because I'm so proud of that brand. If I see trash in the parking lot, that's helping, that's serving that operator in his or her team members for me to go by and pick up that trash.

It's always the filter. When I lead a team of people, how am I going to serve them? I’ll go way back early in my career when I didn't do this well and tell you a story. Years and years ago, I mean, when I was really first setting out in leadership. I was not leaving the function at that time, but I was a leader in the department. Another leader in the department and I were responsible for a development day for our department. That development day happened. It involved us going to a ropes course. The physical activity before lunch that day was very, very high. 

After doing all that, you're really hungry. Well, we had not ordered enough food for the whole team. We were short by two lunches. Guess he didn't get to eat lunch? Because we were the leaders. The way I didn’t handle it, yeah, I didn't eat lunch, but I wasn't very nice about it. I look back and I pouted about it. I remember it. I was young. I was in my 20s. But I remember being so – And probably because I was hungry is the real reason, but I just remembered that I didn't handle that very well and hopefully over the years I did a much better job of putting my team first after that learning experience that I had. But leaders have to live them out or nobody else will. 

In my own leadership, recognize that whether it was serving other people, whether it was demonstrating teamwork, my leaders weren’t going to work together as a team if I wasn't working well with my peers, the other officers in the organization. My team wasn’t going to be purpose-driven if I didn't constantly live that out myself. If they could look at me and say, “Well, she’s not living out the purpose, or she's not focused on our purpose as a function and she's not supporting that,” then they’re not going to live that out either. I can’t expect them to be innovative and pursue what's next if they don't see me constantly reading and learning about trends and expressing to them what I am learning about the direction we might go in the future. Then they are not going to follow that either. 

It is extraordinarily important. If you want to integrate values into your organization, then leaders, they have to embrace those and they have to very intentionally, but authentically, demonstrate that on a daily basis. 

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[00:28:40] MB: I want to pivot into talent. We’ve talked a lot about culture. Tell me about Chick-fil-A’s talent strategy and the biggest lessons that you pulled from that. You brought up something earlier that was a really interesting stat and people who aren't familiar with the restaurant industry may not even understand the importance of this, but you said earlier that you have a 95% retention rate at Chick-fil-A, and in the industry, that is one of the most high turnover industries that exists. I don't know off the top of my head. 

You may know what the turnover rate in the restaurant industry is, but it's staggering to have that kind of employee retention, Chick-fil-A is known in the restaurant space as being one of the most legendary experts for building talented people and having an incredibly talented organization. I want to hear about the talent strategy and the talent lessons that you pulled from building that at Chick-fil-A for so many years.

[00:29:38] DAT: Sure. Well, and I will talk about my viewpoint about this, because of course I’ve been gone from Chick-fil-A for about 18 months, and then my last assignment at Chick-fil-A was leading sustainability. It's been a number of years since I've actually – At least five years since I've touched the talent strategy at Chick-fil-A. But I'll tell you what I did for three decades there and what my focus was. 

First of all, my criteria for selecting talent is the same now as it was then, which is to focus on three Cs; Character first, then competency and chemistry. So let me explain. I was looking for candidates whose character match that of the organization. How do I do that? Well, we go back to – Not to beat a dead horse, but back to the culture, that your culture is made up of a conglomeration of the character of all the individuals in the organization. 

I'm looking for people. Their individual purpose and values and mission don't necessarily directly align to the company, but they’re within that sphere of they buy into, “Okay. I want to be – In this case, I want to be a positive influence on others. I can be a good steward of time, talent and treasure that’s allocated to me. Yeah, I believe in these core values. I can support this mission, this goal you all are trying to achieve.” That’s how you’re aligned on character. Very important. Character that matches the organization. 

Secondly, competency. That's a no-brainer. But very specific about competency, is competency that matches the role. Then for me, if I’m leaning in an organization that you're trying to retain talent for the long-term and grow from within, then I’m also looking for people who have the potential for jobs in the future some of which haven’t even been created yet. I'm looking for more than just competency of the current role, but I'm looking long term if I have competing candidates, which I must always did. I'm going to go with that candidate that not only it fits the current role, but I can see what their potential is for the future. 

Then, lastly, chemistry that matches the team. What I'm looking for there is not that everybody thinks alike, but yet people can bring their differences and know how to influence others on the team to think differently. That’s that whole idea of teamwork. In my case, it might be the team on which they're going to work. It might be if it’s franchisee, the market in which they're going to lead a restaurant, or it might be a consultant that's going to work with a group of operators. How does their chemistry match and can they complement that whole team by what they bring to the table? Those were always the three criteria that I was looking for in candidates as I went about selection there and still what I advise my clients now. 

[00:32:33] MB: How do you think about how finding of pool of potential candidates with an organization like Chick-fil-A? You have such a tremendous base of potential people to select from. It's easier to figure out the character and the competency and so forth that you're looking for. For someone who maybe doesn't have such a massive pool of candidates, what advice or strategies or recommendations would you have for them?

[00:32:58] DAT: I think it’s still the same concept for people. I actually go back to what I tell people. Let’s just talk about this current situation we’re in and have been for several years now. We’re in a full-employment economy. Great news for our economy, but really tough on employers. I know your listeners are primarily younger listeners, so I'll share this with you. 

Over the course of my career I've seen this cycle happened three times that we had this full employment economy. It was hard to get anybody at any level, but especially hourly employees that are working in retail and restaurants and just starting out. I will say it's been the worst that I've seen it and there’s three cycles. 

Now, unfortunately, eventually what will happen is the economy will change and the situation will change. Sometimes we’re in the midst of it, all we can do is survive. We just have to do the best we can, employ the principles that we can and do the best we can. But we need to be building for the future, because if I saw it three times in just a little over three decades, it's going to happen again. When it happens, the organizations are going to win over the talent and get the best candidates are the ones that used that season to grow, nurture and strengthen their culture and their leadership to be a place where people want to come and work. 

I've noticed this even in this time and place, I was working with a client this year and the work that they do is provide food service for primarily elementary schools. It that may be K through 12. I'm thinking it was just elementary schools. Basically, the school cafeteria workers, and that seems like that would be really hard in an economy like this to track great talent. But one of the leaders in this organization that had a district, she still had people – Other people couldn't find people. She had people waiting in line to work for her, and it was because of her reputation for the culture of what a great place it was to work and what a great person that she was to work for. 

That's where I encourage people to do in these times of difficulty now, and I’ve observed this too for years and years and years in Chick-fil-A operators. By the way, I use the word operator and franchisee interchangeably. But most franchisees that are able to ride out a season like this where it’s hard to find people, the ones who have invested in the culture of their business and continually invest in growing the talent and have created the reputation for doing so. Even in a time like this, they still can find great talent because they have a long-term view of talent attraction. It doesn’t change depending on the business cycles or the employment cycles. They’re staying the course throughout every season of their business. 

[00:35:54] MB: That's a great piece of advice to invest in your people and invest in your culture and make that a core component of attracting talent to your business. How do you sustain or steward the talent that you’ve recruited and help them mature and grow and thrive within the organization?

[00:36:18] DAT: Well, there are so many ways to do that. Some of the leaders that I’ve seen that do this best is – I mean, I think you need some of those generic systems. You need development. Everybody has a development plan. Some of those generic systems are great, but the people that I’ve seen do this and even the smaller retailers and the one shop businesses, is that they understand what the dreams are of their employees and they tailor it to what that person is trying to achieve. 

One of my favorite books is The Dream Manager by Matthew Kelly. I hope I have that right. The Dream Maker or The Dream Manager. He talks about individually knowing your people and tailoring the development you do towards those people and helping them achieve their dreams. Then on talent, I tell a bunch of stories about, I guess primarily in the book, it’s about Chick-fil-A franchisees that do this, where they identify what it is that their employee wants to do, whether it's – Obviously, a lot of them are working there to pay for college or to buy a car. Some of them are grandparents that are working to pay for their grandchildren's college education. But some of it is some really unique desires that people have. 

I remember telling the story of one Chick-fil-A franchisee out in Utah, and her team member that she had invested so much in and she really believe that she's going to be a future leader not only in this franchisee’s business, and she has two location. She has a big leadership team, but not only was – She taught her being a leader there, but maybe even possibly a franchisee herself. 

She brings her to the home office in Atlanta now called The Support Center and she takes her through training, and on the way home, if I remember I’m telling the story correctly, the young woman really talks to her about a totally different dream that she has that has nothing to do with believing in her restaurant or any other restaurant. A totally different career path. That operator is so invested in helping people make their dreams come true that she find somebody that she can be an apprentice to. Now the young woman is very successful at doing what she always dreamed of doing. 

Now this particular operator didn't necessarily benefit from that, but the example she said in her community and within the restaurant and people who know that she's the kind of person that helps her employees do that, she attracts more talent that way. What seems like a huge investment walking out the door can actually multiply itself in what comes in the door.

[00:38:56] MB: Tell me about the concept of truth telling and why that's so important to stewarding talent.

[00:39:04] DAT: Sure. Well, I don't think that people can make the decisions they need to make about their careers unless we tell them the truth, and it's the hardest thing to do. Leaders struggle with – I think that's why there are so many books written about these critical conversations of giving feedback, and sometimes it's a paternalistic approach when we don't. We just try to take care of people or we don't really want have to have that tough conversation. 

But this is where I learned is the difference in being kind and being nice. When I'm nice, I’m caring a lot more about what you think of me. Nice would be, “Oh! I won't tell you everything you need to know. I won’t explain to you why you didn't get that promotion or you didn’t get that raise or not being considered for that other role, because I want you to keep liking me.” But if I’m kind, I tell you the truth, because kindness is I care more about you than I do what we think about me. I tell you the truth. 

I had a boss at Chick-fil-A, Jimmy Collins, and the favorite quote is he always said, “It’s kindness to refuse immediately what you eventually intend to deny.” You might not like me as much, but I'm being kind to you if I say, “Here's the reason. You’re not going to get this promotion and here's the reason why. I’m so sorry, but you’re not getting the raise you anticipated, and here's the reason why.” 

When I do that, when I directly let them know that there's lots of things they can do. They can manage their own performance and their own career. They can decide, “Well, I received this feedback. I think I can do these things. I think I can improve. I think I can work towards that race or that promotion or whatever. So I'm going to invest and do that.” 

They may decide and say, “You know what? This has been really good feedback. This is not the right role for me. I need to move on.” That helps the leader, because you don't have to be in that situation to make that call at some point for that person. If you've been nice to them all along, it might come as a surprise. That wouldn’t be kind at all. 

I think truth telling is critical to a great relationship with our employees, and when we tell them the truth, then a lot of times they can self-manage and it actually makes the leader's job much easier and I don’t think there's any doubt that eventually even when it's painful at the moment, the employee respects the leader more for telling the truth than just dragging them leading them along.

[00:41:30] MB: That's a really powerful piece of advice, and the notion of being kind instead of being nice is so critical. So many managers fall into the trap of wanting someone to like them as supposed to wanting to do what's best for the employee and for the organization. How did you personally and what advice do you have for others around overcoming that fear or that desire to be nice instead of kind? 

[00:42:03] DAT: What I coach with people is really – I really went back to the book of crucial conversations and understanding that if we’re going to coach people to their optimal performance, if we’re going to be a good steward of all that’s entrusted to us, that includes the talent that’s entrusted to us. Part of living out our purpose would actually be to – We've got to help manage their career. We’ve got to help give them the tools to be successful, and when things aren’t going well, we have to be willing to let them know that, because that’s part of living out corporate purpose. 

If we’re living out the corporate purpose, that also means we’re leaving out that value of being purpose-driven. As I encourage the other leaders to do that, again, it's the painful thing at the moment, but long term I think it's going to help the organization be more successful and the individuals within it more successful.

[00:42:56] MB: Tell me about the concept of an abundance mentality and why that's so important to nurturing talent. 

[00:43:02] DAT: Sure. Well, this was another lesson that I learned from a Chick-fil-A leader and I saw this early in my career. He started teaching this. But when we have a scarcity mentality, that there's not enough for everybody, then we start competing with each other instead of realizing that we each have our own individual calling within an organization and that there really isn’t an opportunity. I tell the story, to give the example of understanding the difference from abundance mentality and scarcity mentality. 

Over the years, I’ve done travels to – Mission trips in Africa and have a special little group of friends there in Kenya. When I would take things to them no matter what it was – Hershey bars are perfect, because they're already stored to share in those little pieces. If I took a candy bar and gave it to one child, he would look at all the different people around him and he would break that into pieces and share all of that, because he didn't have this need to – I mean, he believed there would be more at some point and he didn't have to hard it all to himself. 

Here are people that don’t really have anything believe there’ll be more. The people who are sitting in the greatest country in the world with so many resources, sometimes we have to hoard things away. Hoard our responsibility or hoard the opportunities, because there won't be enough for us if we don’t.

Actually, it's when we have abundance mentality that we believe there's enough for everybody. We can collaborate, and so they’re holding things close to the vest that an organization will really realize its true potential when leaders have decided too, “I have my place. I have my lane. There's going to be more. There's plenty of opportunity to contribute here. So I'm in a collaborate with my peers. I’m going to collaborate with senior leadership. I’m going to collaborate with other people in the organization so that together we can accomplish more.” I see that over and over again. 

But when people start feeling there's a scarcity mentality, holding stuff close to the vest, not believing that there's plenty of opportunity. Then trust erodes. The culture erodes and success will eventually erode in the organization.

[00:45:13] MB: For listeners who have been listening to our conversation and want to concretely implement something that we've talked about today, what would be one action step that you would give them to start implementing these ideas into their lives?

[00:45:27] DAT: Sure, and I love the fact that you said just one thing, because that's always how I tried to accomplish things, is really one small bite at a time. I think that it's overwhelming when you think about, “So, I want to win the hearts of my customers and I’ve got to create a remarkable culture and select extraordinary talent.” 

Again, I said earlier, I observed that taking 50 years and meet 50,000 words to tell the story, and it's really simple if you just do take one bite of the elephant at a time. If I had none of these things – I have my own business now. Let me start there. The very first thing I did was determine my why, because it informed everything else. It informed all the other pieces and elements of my culture. It informed what my business would be about. It informed the kinds of people that I would bring into the business was my why. 

If I'm talking to somebody that has nothing that we’ve talked about, start right there. Start with why. Of course, Simon Sinek wrote the book Start with Why. It is the right place to start. Figure out your why and then take the necessary steps, If I were starting a business as I do it, what I started with was the culture consist first before I ever started aligning myself with any other talent. I started with the culture. 

Some people were sitting in the midst of an organization that’s been around 100 years or five years, but they’re already established and that culture is kind of in places. The whole approach you would take as a leader is very different, because the culture already exists. 

Let's just say you're in a toxic culture. What do you do? Well, you start with you. What influence do you have right where you are? If you don't have any influence at all, you can influence change, and I think you have a tough decision to make because toxic cultures are not healthy for anybody. But if you're in an organization like you believe in and it needs some help and you have some influence, then what I suggest is you start with a team that you lead at that moment, and I’ve seen this happen in many organizations. Leaders that have a mindset for remarkable culture and want to surround themselves with extraordinary talents, and they do it on their team. 

When they accomplish that, they go to the next best buddy in the organization and say, “This is what my team is. This is how we did this.” I suggest you try it in your team. You actually start a grassroots movement of changing the organization, and that can help and that can happen. But if I’m starting out on my own today, I'm always going to start with why. Determine what those elements are that I want to do. Make every decision about how I grow my business based on that culture. Then as I add talent, I’m bringing them into that culture and then putting those two things together. Have much more satisfied customers. 

[00:48:10] MB: For listeners who want to find you and your work online, what is best place for them to do that?

[00:48:17] DAT: I love to hang out on LinkedIn and I'm sure your young professionals do too. Great content. There's a connect with me on LinkedIn. I have a Facebook author page that I also put a lot of content there, and I'm on Instagram, and in all those places I'm @DeeAnnTurner, and my website is deeannturner.com. We can engage there. 

Then my new book that's coming out in the spring of 2021 is called How to Get a Job, Keep a Job, and Grow a Career. The title is not that, but that’s the thing about it. I would love to interact with your listeners, because they’re in the group of people that this is the audience for this book, and so I’d love for them to interact with me as I write that book and look for some engagement and some opinions about those subjects.

[00:49:03] MB: Well, Dee Ann, thank you so much for coming on the show for sharing all this knowledge, some really great strategies for building a remarkable culture. 

[00:49:11] DAT: Well, it is completely my pleasure, Matt. I’ve enjoyed our conversation so much, and thank you for having me.

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From Waiting Tables to Owning a Major League Team - The Epic Journey of Marcus Whitney

December 11, 2019 by Lace Gilger in Career Development, Mind Expansion

In this episode we share how a college dropout went from waiting tables to becoming the owner of a Major League Soccer Team and the most powerful VC in the healthcare industry. We uncover the incredible strategy that can be used to break into ANY industry and become a dominant player sharing the stage with top CEOs, even without any connections or relationships. We share why you don’t have to be an expert to leverage the credibility of others, the power of public speaking, what it means to orchestrate a deal and much more with our guest Marcus Whitney.

Marcus Whitney is an entrepreneur, an author, and a founder or co-founding partner in many businesses include Health:Further, Jumpstart, and the Nashville FC professional soccer team. Marcus is the author of Create and Orchestrate, a book for entrepreneurs about living a creative, purposeful life. He also runs the podcast Marcus Whitney’s Audio Universe. Marcus has been recognized by several business publications including Techcrunch, Fast Company, The Atlantic and many more.

  • How Macrus went from a college dropout with 2 young kids waiting tables to becoming a powerful entrepreneur and owner of a professional sports team

  • Importance of being self taught - most successful people are self motivated and self driven learners.

  • How did Marcus pivot his company Jumpstart from one of the 5000 incubators in the country to the top Healthcare VC in the country?

  • The powerful strategy that can be used to break into ANY industry and become a dominant industry leader, sharing the stage with top CEOs, from nothing.

  • “We didn’t get on stage and profess to know anything, we just threw the party.”

  • How to build a network, develop relationships, and get access to your customers - without knowing about the industry you want to break into.

  • How Marcus got on stage with the #1 CEO on the Healthcare Industry

  • Power of convening and bringing people together and CURATING other people’s content and credibility

  • Public speaking is an incredible arbitrage of time and leverage. You get on stage, you often get paid to do it, and you get PAID to market yourself.

  • How do you build your personal brand? What should you do if you don’t have a platform and credibility yet but you want to bring your brand?

  • Simplify your story into THREE key points, max. The law of threes.

  • Believe, Partner Up, Orchestrate.

  • The power of co-creation and partnering up. Things don’t seem to happen when you do them by yourself.

  • To do anything BIG you have to get a lot of people on the same page, moving in the same direction.

  • The conductor doesn’t actually play the instruments. He keeps everyone aligned so that the collective result is harmonious.

  • What’s it like to have your back against the wall? What should you do if you’re stuck but you want to take your life and career to the next level?

  • Dare to believe a little bit bigger every time. But have achievable goals. Every time you achieve a goal, build momentum and set a new bigger goal.

  • What’s it like to own a major league sports team?

  • The conductor’s job is to make everybody else look like a rock star.

  • There’s incredible value in highlighting and celebrating other people.

  • What is the difference between management and leadership?

  • Leadership is about vision, values, communication, principles, goals, accountability, integrity, and inspiration.

  • Management is an operational function. It’s about delivering things predictably to your stakeholders. Including employees, investors, customers, etc.

  • The 8 core concepts of business (in order of importance)

    • Leadership

    • Finance

    • Operations (including management)

    • Growth

    • Product

    • Service

    • Sales

    • Marketing

  • The Japanese concept of Ikigai. The intersection between what you love to do, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and what you can get paid for.

  • Entrepreneurship is a creative palette. The most important business skill is self awareness.

  • “I’ve had so many failures that have allowed me to have the short list of successes that I have."

  • You’re not good at everything, and you often don’t know until you try. You have to be OK with failure if you’re a creative entrepreneur.

  • Homework: Think about your own story - figure out what themes emerge from that process, dig into self-awareness and figure out WHO you really are.

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Want To Dig In More?! - Here’s The Show Notes, Links, & Research

General

  • Marcus’s Website

  • [Podcast] Marcus Whitney’s Audio Universe

  • Health:Further

  • Marcus’s LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook

Media

  • Nashville Business Journal - “Marcus Whitney, Health:Further ending annual conference” By Joel Stinnett

  • Health Leaders - “Who’s Marcus Whitney? An Emerging Force Behind Healthcare” by Mandy Roth

  • Medium - “MARCUS WHITNEY JOINS NASHVILLE VOICE CONFERENCE LINE-UP AS KEYNOTE SPEAKER” by Paul Hickey

  • Dome Headwear Co. - Marcus Whitney 

  • HFMA - “Marcus Whitney says it’s time healthcare leaders embrace disruption” by Laura Ramos Hegwer

  • Venture Nashville Connections - Articles related to Marcus Whitney

  • [Fast Company] “An Entrepreneur Learned The Importance Of Making Time To Manage Time” by David Zax

  • [Podcast] Navigate - Navigate 010: Learning from Pain - Marcus Whitney's Steps on Turning Pain Into Success

  • [Podcast] Master the Start - 20 – Marcus Whitney Talks True Hustle as a Serial Entrepreneur & VC Investor

  • [Podcast] 360 Entrepreneur - TSE 153: The Game of Entrepreneurship with Marcus Whitney

Videos

  • Marcus’s YouTube Channel

  • How To Own A Pro Sports Team

  • Create + Orchestrate Episode 01: The Introduction

  • Nashville Voice Conference Keynote

  • TEDxTalks - Nashville hustle -- to change your world, you gotta lie a little: Marcus Whitney at TEDxNashville

  • Health: Further YouTube Channel

    • HFMA 2019 Annual Conference Keynote - Marcus Whitney - The Winds of Change

  • Montgomery Bell Academy - Marcus Whitney at MBA Assembly

  • Talkapolis - The Entrepreneurial Mind: Marcus Whitney

  • TechCrunch - Marcus Whitney | Keen On…

  • William Griggs - My Entrepreneurial Journey: Marcus Whitney of Moontoast

Books

  • Create and Orchestrate by Marcus Whitney

Misc

  • [SoS Episode] Limiting Beliefs

  • [SoS Epidode] Use These Powerful Thinking Tools To Solve Your Hardest Problems with David Epstein

  • TEDxTalk - Simon Sinek|TEDxPuget Sound - How great leaders inspire action

Episode Transcript

[00:00:04.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success. Introducing your host, Matt Bodnar.

[0:00:11.8] MB: Welcome to the Science of Success; the number one evidence-based growth podcast on the Internet with more than four million downloads and listeners in over a hundred countries.

In this episode, we share how a college dropout went from waiting tables to becoming the owner of a major league soccer team and the most powerful venture capitalist in the healthcare industry. We uncovered the incredible strategy that can be used to break into any industry and become a dominant player, sharing the stage with top CEOs without any connections or relationships and starting completely from scratch. We share why you don't have to be an expert to leverage the credibility of others, the power of public speaking, what it means to orchestrate and much more with our guest, Marcus Whitney.

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In our previous episode, we asked the big question, how do you find meaning in your life and work? When you're staring death in the face, life's purpose becomes clear. We learned how to harness those lessons to find meaning in your own life and discover a few simple things that you can do every day starting right now, to increase your odds of living a longer, healthier, happier life with our previous guest, Tom Rath. If you want to truly find meaning in your life, listen to our previous episode.

Now for our interview with Marcus.

[0:02:43.8] MB: Today, we have another exciting guest on the show, Marcus Whitney. Marcus is an entrepreneur, author, a founder and co-founding partner in many businesses, including Health:Further, Jumpstart and the Nashville FC professional soccer team. Marcus is the author of Create and Orchestrate, a book for entrepreneurs about living a creative, purposeful life. He also runs the podcast Marcus Whitney's Audio Universe, of which I'm a previous guest. Marcus has been recognized by several business publications, including TechCrunch, Fast Company, The Atlantic and many more. Marcus, welcome to the Science of Success.

[0:03:15.3] MW: Matt, thank you so much for having me.

[0:03:17.4] MB: Well, I'm super excited to have you on the show today. I love so many of the things you're working on and there's so many fascinating strategies that we can dig into and share. Before we get into any of that, I want to start with the beginning of your career. How did you get started? Because you have a really interesting background and it's truly impressive what you've been able to build and create. I want to hear about how it all began.

[0:03:40.4] MW: Yes. My career is almost 20-years-old. My oldest son is a little over 20-years-old. Those two things are connected for a reason. Prior to my oldest son being born, I was out in the wilderness exploring, being a creative person. I was creating music. I was doing a bunch of different odd jobs. Becoming a father was really the catalyst for me taking the development of a career and a skill that would benefit my family economically seriously.

I dropped out of college as part of my creative pursuits. When I did seek to get my career going, I needed to figure out what I could do that would not require a bachelor's degree. This was the year 2000. The one thing that stuck out to me was software development. I spent time teaching myself how to code. This was before software boot camps, or code academy online, or many of the things that are going on today, trying to help people to move into that career.

This was just something that I recognized on my own and I went got books and studied and did all the different practice exercises in the books. Over the course of eight months, taught myself enough to be able to get a job as a junior developer at a company called HealthStream here in Nashville, Tennessee. That really started my career into technology, software and everywhere else I went from there.

[0:05:06.0] MB: It's so interesting. Many of the most successful people that I know are self-motivated learners. Oftentimes, the things that they end up being really successful at are not things that they studied in school, or were taught, but they taught themselves. How did that factor into your career and your journey?

[0:05:26.9] MW: I think it was huge. I think that very first time that I got hired from HealthStream from a – let's call it seven to eight-month process of teaching myself how to code, that was a huge confidence boost for me. It really showed me that I could put my mind to something and that I could make myself seen in the eyes of the public of the business world as being worth investing in. From there, I think I've done many other things that have been self-taught with the same effect.

I just think that when you are teaching yourself something, it requires drive. You have to be motivated yourself. You're coming from a place where you don't know much at all. You have to have a beginner's mind. You have to be humble. At the same time, it's something that you want to do. No one's making you do it. For me, doing things that I want to do, self-direction, autonomy is incredibly important for the way that I spend my time and my life. I definitely think learning how to teach yourself something is an incredible hack for how to be successful long-term.

[0:06:27.6] MB: Today you're a successful venture investor, you're a co-owner in a professional sports team, which we're definitely going to dig into a little bit. How did you go from being a junior developer at a healthcare company to where you are today?

[0:06:42.8] MW: Yeah, so it was a long journey, 19 plus years. The first seven years were all spent in software development. I went from being a junior developer at a large-ish company, to a head of technology at an early stage e-mail marketing company called Emma, based here in Nashville, Tennessee as well. That was really the experience. I spent four years there. I was there from 2003 to 2007. That experience is really where I learned about the startup space and where I learned about managing people and building teams and going from burning cash to making a profit. I learned many of my lessons through that experience.

After the end of four years, the company had gone from five people to about 50 people and it was time for me to go out on my own and explore entrepreneurial opportunities. From 2007 till today, I've been on my entrepreneurial journey. My very first company was completely based in the software development space. It was an agency that offered an exchange of software development services for equity in companies that we worked with. I really liked working with early-stage companies. A real drought of technical capabilities in terms of the ratio of founders to tech co-founders, and so various opportunities to pick up equity stakes. Did that. We had about four or five clients through that process. Ended up really leaning into one of the companies that had raised more money than the rest of them, called Moontoast; went on a four-year journey with them.

We opened offices in Boston, San Francisco. This is at the rise of social media marketing, social commerce. Working with Facebook and Twitter in the early days of their ads ecosystem in that whole transition from desktop to mobile and really, really learned a lot about what it means to build a business on someone else's platform. In parallel to doing that, I was also working nights and weekends with my current business partner, Vic Gatto on Jumpstart Foundry. We launched it in 2009 as a tech accelerator. That was around the two years after Techstars had launched, maybe three or four years after YCombinator.

We were one of the first 100 accelerators in the country. By the time 2014 came around, we were one of 5,000 accelerators in the country. The market got very saturated very quickly. At the end of 2014, Vic and I decided that this was the business we wanted to run. We both quit our positions in our respective companies and went all-in into Jumpstart Foundry and turned it into a seed stage fund in healthcare.

That leads up to today. We've been doing that now five plus years. We've got over 80 companies in our portfolio and we're the most active venture capital fund in the healthcare space in the country.

[0:09:13.9] MB: That's incredible. The story of how you broke into healthcare, I find so fascinating. I want you to tell that, because you went from this incubator to correct me if I'm wrong, but with no healthcare focus, or very few, or if any healthcare companies, and to the leading healthcare VC in the country. What enabled you to break into that industry?

[0:09:39.9] MW: Yes. The reason why we were able to break in so successfully is because of geography. 2014, when we had to accept that the market has saturated to the point where we were no longer going to be able to get great deals, we had to think about what did we have as an advantage. Now if you're in Nashville, Tennessee you have to acknowledge if you're in the venture capital business, you're in the flyover country. You are not in New York, you're not in Boston, you're not in San Francisco and you're not in LA. If you take those four cities, you basically have something like 75% to 80% of all the capital in the venture capital business. The rest of the country splits up the other 20%. Nashville is just in that bucket.

We were never going to be the most attractive early stage fund for just any old tech company, because any old tech company should be on the coast. Nashville has a very strong, robust healthcare ecosystem here. Nashville is the home to Healthcare Corporation of America. Most people think about Nashville as music city and country music obviously is a huge part of this economy, but the number one segment in the economy in Nashville is healthcare.

HCA, Healthcare Corporation of America basically invented for-profit hospitals in the United States. Just HCA alone is responsible for 5% of all healthcare provision in the country. A way to think about that is one in every 20 babies in America is born in an HCA facility. That doesn't even touch Life Point, Community Health Systems, AMSURG, many of our other very, very large healthcare companies here.

There was a very robust ecosystem here, great leaders, and Nashville is a uniquely collaborative city where you can make friends and you can learn about an industry. That intersection of Nashville's community focus and the strength of the healthcare industry was a great place for us to focus. We decided in 2014 as we left the tech accelerator world and went into being a seed stage fund, we could talk a little bit about the difference between those things, but that we would focus exclusively on healthcare.

Spending five years focusing just on healthcare in one of the healthcare capitals of the United States, you can learn a lot. You can learn a lot about how the market actually works. You can learn a lot about which headlines to pay attention to and which are completely irrelevant. You can learn a lot about how the government is going to impact healthcare going forward, because it is a very interesting market compared to most markets in terms of the amount of influence and power that the government has on it. We've been very lucky, because of where we live and where our business is set up that we could accelerate so quickly in the healthcare space.

[0:12:15.8] MB: You had a particular strategy that you shared with me prior to this interview that I thought was an incredible method for breaking into any industry and going from having virtually zero credibility, very few connections and not being a presence, to being a dominant industry presence, starting to shape trends, be on stage with some of the most predominant and preeminent leaders in that industry. You use this to break into healthcare. Tell me a little bit about that methodology and how it works.

[0:12:44.4] MW: Yeah. We backed into this by accident. Now I'll tell you, yes, it is a very good strategy, but it wasn't exactly what we were thinking at first. When we made the shift from a tech accelerator into a seed stage fund, we had one piece of collateral that was left over, which was our demo day. We knew we wanted to get rid of the demo day, but we also knew the power of convening, of bringing people together to build your brand, to build your network and to strengthen the chances of your investments being successful.

We didn't want to get out of the convening business, but we did want to get out of the demo day business, which is where every year, you have the companies you have invested to get on stage and pitch. We just weren't interested in doing that anymore. We had the idea to throw a conference about healthcare innovation. It just so happened that Nashville, even for its very, very strong position in the healthcare industry overall, it did not have a healthcare innovation conference. In 2015, innovation really started to become a topic that all of the leaders in healthcare needed to have an answer for.

We created a brand Health:Further and we threw the first ever Health:Further Summit in August of 2015. To our surprise, the event sold out very, very quickly and it was a smash success. We had leaders and tons of attendees from all the big companies in town there. It was great. We didn't get on stage and profess to know anything, we just threw the party and we invited everybody. They helped us to understand what were going to be the important topics and who needed to speak on those things.

As we did that, A, we built credibility within the industry. B, we learned a lot. C, we started to build relationships with leaders in the industry that we would have never had otherwise, had we gone to these people simply as a venture capital fund saying, “Hey, we've got these companies. We want you to hire them as vendors, or we want you to consider buying them,” we would have been laughed at. By throwing a party and creating value for them, we got to be friends with them and we got to learn a lot and we got to develop our network.

Over the course of four years, we threw that event. Last year, we threw our last one, at least for a while. We put the event on hiatus, because our networks pretty well-developed now. Last year we had about 1,800 attendees. Half of them were coming from outside of the state of Tennessee. We had a 100 people coming from outside of the country. All of this has built our network, has enabled us to better understand what our investment thesis should be and has helped us to even create a path to globalize our business.

[0:15:12.3] MB: I love it. The power of convening as you put it, this idea of bringing people together and even the notion of curating other people and the content the value that they can bring, as you said, especially early on you weren't the keynote speaker, you didn't get on stage and talk about how amazing you are, though you obviously have started to do that now and we'll get into public speaking a little bit more. The power of that event was that you brought these people together and you were the catalyst, though you didn't have to be on the front of the stage and in front of everybody.

[0:15:44.5] MW: That's exactly right. I mean, I can tell you 2015, I didn't know anything about healthcare. It was definitely not my place to get on stage. By last year's summit, I interviewed Milton Johnson who was the former CEO and chairman. At the time he was the CEO and chairman of HCA. You're talking about the number one CEO in all of the hospital business in America and I interviewed him for 20 minutes and I knew what I was talking about. It was a big step from where I was in 2015 and the event was a huge part of that. Going to the event, programming it, curating it.

Every time there was another session that was planned, I needed to understand what that session was about. I really got a crash course that I don't know, maybe it wasn't a crash course. Maybe it was more like a college degree, because it took four years in the way that the healthcare business works. Now as you hinted to, I'm now doing public speaking about where the healthcare industry is and where it's going.

In major healthcare events last year, I keynoted the HFMA annual meeting. HFMA is a 75-year-old organization. It's the leading organization for finance professionals in the healthcare industry and I did a one-hour keynote at that event five years after not knowing anything about the business.

[0:17:04.2] MB: It's an incredible achievement. Tell me more about how you've been able to leverage things like public speaking. Actually, even before we dig into that, you mentioned in a previous interview that I thought was really interesting is that a while ago, you used to think that public speaking wasn't real business, or wasn't real work and you've changed your perspective on that now, see how powerful it can be. Tell me about that shift that you made and then how you’ve started to integrate that into building your business.

[0:17:32.4] MW: Yeah. That shift happened for me when I did my TEDx Talk at TEDx Nashville in 2014. I had done a couple of public speaking things before that. Really in retrospect, mostly panels or technical talks, I hadn't really done the big 18 minute type of TED talk format before. I just did not have enough respect for what went into it. I really didn't. As any TEDx speaker will tell you, when you are selected to do a TED talk, you have to go through a coaching process.

I went in and I showed my deck to the coach at the time and said, “This is what I'm thinking about.” Quite frankly, I was pretty arrogant about it. I was like, “Ah, I'm going to kill it.” I had this talk that had seven different points in it, no good narrative to it. I didn't really internalize that. I needed to have this down, like I wasn't going to be able to read from slides. And they just killed me. They just said, “Hey, this is way too complicated. You need to break it down to three simple points. B, this sounds like something everyone else has said. How are you going to make this unique? C, you have a lot of work to do in a short period of time. You got four weeks before your talk.”

I spend 24 hours being really mad and saying they didn't know what they were talking about. Then I came to reality and said they're right and I have a lot of work to do. I went and looked at a bunch of TED Talks online and thought about where I was versus where those speakers were and I said, “Man, I've got a lot of work to do.” Because once you do a TED Talk, it's immortal, right? It lives online forever.

I spent 40 plus hours committed to working on this talk, writing out an entire script, simplifying it significantly and making sure that I had surprise elements in there, bringing in some pop-culture references, recording it and then listening to it over and over, like you would listen to your favorite song. I listened to myself do this 18-minute talk over and over and over again, practicing it in front of multiple people, then the actual performance, which scared me out of my skin. It was definitely – now I'm much better now. That was the first time I ever had done anything like that, standing in front of a room of 2,000 plus people with the bright lights on you and you can't make a mistake.

It went great and it really set up the stage for so much of what I'm doing today. It set up the stage for my newsletter, for the book that I've been working on for a video series that I've done. Just for me even knowing that me telling my story and the philosophies that I've derived from my experiences could inspire and help other people. I didn't know that. I now have come to really respect public speaking. It's probably one of the most important things that I do. From a strategy tactic perspective, if it's something you're good at and not everybody is good at it, but if it's something you're good at, it's an incredible arbitrage of time and leverage.

You get on stage, people will pay you often to do it and it's marketing and it's brand building and it is a very, very unique thing where you can get paid to market yourself. Most things are not like that. Public speaking has become a very, very valuable skill for me and I have developed a great amount of respect for it.

[0:20:43.6] MB: That's a great frame and a way to think about it that you're basically being paid to market yourself in front of a roomful of people. As soon as you get off stage, you now have this instant credibility of everyone in the room knows who you are and just listened to you for 15 minutes, or however long you're speaking.

[0:20:59.1] MW: Exactly. It's a pretty big hack but it's work, right? The bar is high. There are people out there being paid six figures to do it. If you're going to do it, you're going to have to work at it. TED has really changed the game and has created an art form around public speaking, I would say, as TED on YouTube has just exploded and the number of views that a lot of those videos get. You can think about people whose entire careers have been made by TED. Simon Sinek comes to mind, right? By the way, his talk was a TEDx Talk. It wasn't even a proper TED Talk.

[0:21:28.2] MB: I didn’t know that.

[0:21:29.5] MW: It's a TEDx talk that got elevated to the TED level. Yeah. I mean, I think people don't necessarily take the TEDx stuff as seriously as they should, because you're in the TED network once you do it. If they find a talk to really blow up, then yeah, you could get elevated to a TED level. Go take a look at that talk again and you'll see he's not on the big stage, it's pretty low-budget actually, but the millions of views don't feel low-budget at all.

[0:21:53.6] MB: That's incredible. What advice or strategies would you have for someone who wants to up their personal brand, up their public speaking game, those might be different things, but you've done an incredible job of branding yourself, of building the Marcus Whitney brand, along with building your companies and your businesses. What advice would you have for somebody who is just starting out and doesn't have all of the credibility and the cachet that you do?

[0:22:20.4] MW: I think the place to start is to work on telling your story. That starts by thinking about your story. The TEDx Talk for me was the first time that I actually thought about my story. At that time was 2014, so there were certain elements of my story over the last five years that weren't there. I still had enough to talk about specifically going from waiting tables, to being a software developer, to being an entrepreneur, so that journey that I was on.

Now I can add soccer to it and a couple of other cool things that I've done over the last five years. When I started to think about my story, I started to think about okay, what were the principles that I knowingly, or unknowingly lived by that helped me to achieve the things that I did achieve? That's where I came up with the things I talked about it in the TEDx Talk, which even today are still key pillars that I live by, but also that I create a lot of my content around, this idea of believing, partnering up and orchestrating, which have become the framework for the Create and Orchestrate book and so many other things that I've talked about that.

That framework of knowing your story and being able to simplify what you've learned through your story down to three key points is really money and anybody can do it. I don't think there's any way that that framework can be saturated, because everyone's story is unique. As long as you stay authentic and unique to your own story, you can bring your own unique angle to that framework. There's just truth to the law of threes. People understand things in threes. It's just the way that we're wired. I think just knowing your story, working on writing your story down is where to start.

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[0:25:08.7] MB: I want to dig in to the three-part framework that you just shared; believe, partner-up and orchestrate. I think it's such a fascinating idea. Tell me about each of those components and how they put together.

[0:25:19.8] MW: Yeah. I had to think about how I grew into the person that I was. It definitely started with belief. When I was waiting tables, I was working six and a half days a week. During the six of the six-and-a-half, I was working double shifts. Anyone who's ever waited tables and those were double shifts knows those are hard days. Not just physically hard. They're hard mentally, because some days are good when you're waiting tables, some days are absolutely terrible. Sometimes you get stiffed.

You've got that break in the day and what are you doing during the break? Because you got to go back and work later on. It's really just hard. When I also had a one child and my wife at the time was pregnant with another child, it was just difficult to see our way out of it. We were living in a week-to-week efficiency hotel. There was nothing in my environment that I could see that should have given me any belief that I was going to be able to get out of it, especially by way of software engineering.

I had to believe in myself that I could. I spent so much time seeing myself as a programmer, putting myself in environments that would reinforce that belief. I just find belief to be the fundamental human capability that allows us to become things that otherwise we would never be able to become. That was the first part for me. Then there's been a recurring theme throughout my life of co-creation, where things don't tend to happen very well when I'm doing them by myself. I have to learn this lesson over and over again. I'm learning it again right now and I'm about to engage in another partnership with a new venture that I'm working on. I'm so excited, because all of a sudden, things are moving quickly again.

It is really, really hard to do things by yourself, right? When you have a partner, you just can get that flow of energy and you get to focus on the things that you're good at and that you love to do and that other person can focus on the things that they're good at and that they love to do. There's magic that happens there. I saw over and over in my career the importance of partnering with somebody else in order to make something great happen.

Then the third stage, orchestrate, is just this idea that ultimately to do anything big, to do anything major, to do anything grand, you have to get a lot of people on the same page, moving in the same direction. This has often been something I've had to do through big events, but I think the biggest example I've ever had in my life of this was bringing professional soccer to Nashville. That was something that required more orchestration than I've ever done before. This was getting people on the same page in politics, in the community, investors. Just so many different people had to be marching in the same direction in order to make it possible for a professional soccer to come to the city of Nashville.

Just whenever you're trying to do something big, this mindset of orchestration is key. When you think about orchestration often, you think about an orchestra and a conductor. If you look at the conductor, they look weird because they're up there and they're waving this stick and they're not actually playing any of the instruments and that's the point, right? Is the work of orchestration is not actually playing the instruments, it's keeping everybody aligned and feeding into everybody else, so that the collective result is harmonious and successful. That is a key skill that whenever you want to take anything you're doing to a grand level, I think is very, very important to be able to do.

Those are the three things that I saw in my story come up over and over and over again. They were just a theme. Yeah, it resonated with people when I did the talk, so I decided to name my book after it.

[0:28:58.0] MB: There's so many things I want to break down from that. Let's start with the story about belief. It's such a powerful narrative going from a college dropout, a waiter, to becoming one of the most powerful, prominent, the biggest healthcare venture capitalist in the country, maybe the world even potentially. What advice would you have for someone who is in a similar situation that you were in 20 years ago? Their back is against the wall, they're struggling, they don't necessarily see the path forward. What would you say to them and what would you tell them to do?

[0:29:33.3] MW: The thing that I think was so important about that time and you said backs against the wall, I think backs against the wall is helpful. I think the pressure that's created from having your back against the wall can really push you to do great things. The goal I set while it did not have a lot to do with the life I was living, it was ultimately achievable. It wasn't so outlandish crazy that it couldn't possibly happen. That's something that I've learned is very important, which is belief is very, very powerful. It is a critical ingredient in doing anything really, really meaningful in the world, especially in terms of tapping into your true talents and your true purpose for being here.

You have to believe in something that is attainable and achievable. It needs to be a stretch, but it also needs to be achievable. For me, the stretch of going from waiting tables to being a junior software developer at a company, making $45,000 a year and getting a benefits package, it’s a pretty big jump, but it was attainable, right? You know what I mean? It wasn't completely inconceivable that it could happen.

I then leveraged that to dare to believe the next thing and to dare to believe the next thing. I think over the course of the last 19 and a half years that I've been developing this career, I've probably believed 19 to 20 different things. Probably every year, I've dared to believe a little bit more and a little bit more and the success that I've gotten from each belief that worked out was rolled into the next one and it provided a little bit of momentum. It certainly helped any debate I might have in my mind about whether or not it was possible for me to achieve that thing.

I could always look back at the last thing and say, “Dude, you did that. You can definitely do this next thing.” I think where people get out of alignment with that energy is when they set a goal that is just too far from where they currently are. It doesn't mean they can never do it, right? Because if you take my whole story and you put it together and you say, this guy was a college dropout who waiting tables and didn't know anybody in town and now he is one of the owners of a major league soccer team, right?

Okay, so if you take everything out of the middle, that is completely impossible, right? There's no way I can jump from that first thing that I said to the last thing. If you take all the hops in between, then it starts to make sense and it starts to become more and more plausible. I would have never believed in the year 2000 when I was just trying to figure out how to be able to get into a regular apartment that I could potentially be a co-owner of a professional sports team. That would have never been a realistic thing for me to think about.

I was just trying to take care of my kids. I was just trying to get healthcare benefits, right? I just didn't stop there. Once I got that, I was like, “Okay, great. This is awesome. I've achieved that. Now what's the next thing I can believe that's attainable? How do I build that momentum from the last thing that I did?” I think that's the angle that I see some people get a little bit tripped up on is from where they are and what they want to be, they're skipping steps.

[0:32:54.3] MB: Such a great story. It's time to dig into this. I'm so curious. I think many people's life goal is to own a professional sports team. What is that like and how did you achieve that?

[0:33:09.1] MW: It's like so many other things, right? A, five years ago when the journey started, I never thought this would be the way that it would play out, but I did know there was something there worth spending my time and energy on. The background to the story is Nashville has been growing at an incredible rate for the last, let's just call seven years. We had a pro-am soccer team called the Nashville Metros that had been around for several decades. Unfortunately, just from timing perspective, the ownership group had to close its doors, and so Nashville was left with no competitive soccer team to cheer for.

A young man named Chris Jones saw that and said, “Well, that sucks. I would like to start a community-based soccer team called Nashville Football Club. It's a non-profit and everybody can pay $75 in order to be a part of it and let's see what we can do.” He put it out on Twitter. This whole thing actually started as a tweet.

I saw that and I ended up being the 86th person to pay $75 to be a member of this non-profit. To be completely honest, I was really busy with my own work at the time. I stayed tuned in via social. I would e-mail Chris from time to time, but I didn't have a lot of time to go to the games. I was on planes going to Boston and San Francisco working a lot at that time.

By the end of the very first season that they played, they were having between 1,000 to 2,000 people going to the games. They ended up making the playoffs. Now this was fourth division soccer, right? There's no TV or anything like that. It’s not a lot of money in it, but they'd clearly shown that Nashville had an appetite for soccer and there was the opportunity to develop something really, really great there.

At the end of that season, I reached out to Chris and said, “Hey, let's get together.” We had lunch and he said to me, “Look, we had a great first season, but I think this thing needs some real leadership in terms of tightening up the business. Would you join the board?” I agreed. Pretty quickly after joining the board, I became the chairman of the board. Then pretty quickly after that, there was an article in our local newspaper that said that a professional team, they were in the third division from Pennsylvania had spoken to our mayor's office and was looking at moving to Nashville.

That was an opportunity for us to leverage that story and say to the public hey, if anyone's going to bring professional soccer here, they need to talk to us first. That got the local paper involved and they interviewed us for a story about that. That really started the ball rolling on a conversation about how we would take this non-profit fourth division entity and make it into a professional team.

I knew just from my work in business that there was no way that a non-profit could ultimately run a professional team in America. Just none of the leagues would really support that long-term. I also had experience, because I've been working in the tech accelerator on how to package something up to raise money around it. I shifted my energy to building a pitch and to hosting investor events. In our very first investor event, we found our lead investor, a gentleman named David Dill who then was the president of LifePoint Health and now is the CEO.

David brought along a good friend of his, who's also a healthcare entrepreneur, a gentleman named Chris [inaudible 0:36:39.3]. Then David recruited me to be part of the ownership group. Within 18 months of me joining the board of Nashville Football Club, I ended up becoming part of the ownership group of the group that went and got a pro franchise in the third division, which quickly became a second division for soccer in the United States, a group called the United Soccer League.

Then news came out that major league soccer was looking to do an expansion and was going to add four teams to the league. A group led by John Ingram, who is one of the – let’s just call most successful business families, the Ingram family in Nashville, started that process. We entered into negotiations with John just to unify the bid for Major League Soccer. John then purchased a majority of our franchise, in exchange for us getting a percentage of the major league team should we be awarded it. Then a year later, we were awarded the major league team. We were the first city to receive an expansion team. We will play our first game February 29th of 2020 in Major League Soccer. That's the story. That's how it happened.

[0:37:54.1] MB: The thing I love about that and this comes back to the concept of orchestration, which I want to dig into a little bit more, is that very similar to the lesson you shared about how your career trajectory, it's all about these individual steps, right? You can't necessarily see what the end is going to be and yet, each step and each process and coordinating all these different people and all these different relationships opens a new door and a new opportunity. If you don't take the first step, then you never see the winding path that can unfold before you.

[0:38:27.8] MW: That’s exactly right. I mean, I would call the first step when I joined the board of Nashville Football Club, right? What earned me the right to do that was when I get to pay $75 to be a member. The first real step was when I joined the board. You could not have told me that from the day that I joined the board three years later, we were going to be receiving a Major League Soccer expansion team. That was not even in the cards. In fact, when I first accepted the role of chairman, I put a message in front of – you have to go to the board and state your vision, right? I said, we will reach Major League Soccer in 10 years, right?

[0:39:07.0] MB: You beat that goal.

[0:39:08.3] MW: Yeah. We cut that goal in half. Did I see this ultimately happening because of the momentum of the city and all this other stuff? Yes. Did I know it was going to happen as quickly as it did and then I was going to be playing the role that I played in it? No.

Getting my hands dirty at the non-profit level gave me incredible insight that was valuable all the way through to the Major League Soccer expansion bid. I understood the supporters very, very well. I understood the community. I understood a lot of things that earned me an opportunity to continue to be considered valuable as a member of the ownership group. Yes. I had to do a lot of orchestration along the way.

Yes. I mean, I think that is a skill. I think I might have even heard it on one of your shows, just the importance of the skill of synthesizing things and not necessarily being a specialist in a particular thing, but being able to learn from a variety of experiences and then bring all those experiences together to create more value than you would if you only understood things in one realm. That's been something I've just continued to do throughout my life. Orchestrating really helps that, because you have to communicate with lots of different people coming from lots of different perspectives.

While I've never been in politics, I've had to work with politicians in order to get things done. I have a better understanding of politics than I ever would before having had to work with politicians, right? If that makes sense.

[0:40:37.1] MB: That totally makes sense. The analogy of the orchestra is great, because as you said earlier and this is a really powerful image, the conductor is not playing an instrument. To me that's a really important lesson that many people miss when they think about achieving a big goal, they think about executing and hustling in the day-to-day of it, but the orchestration piece is such a powerful component as well.

[0:41:03.7] MW: Absolutely. The conductor's job is to make everybody else look like a rock star. That's the job. To even in real-time highlight and signal to the audience – Some of the stuff that the conductor does, I'm not even sure it's really for the orchestra, as much as it is to cue the audience, pay attention to this section right now, right? Because they're about to go off. You know what I mean? I think that's part of the deal too. I think there's incredible value in highlighting other people and celebrating other people and making sure that two different groups that will be much better together than it will be apart, understand how much better they'll be together and navigating, getting them to believe that.

Those were things that we had to do through this process, because everyone had their own interests, right? I mean, we all shared a vision. The clear vision was we want to have Major League Soccer here in Nashville. People are coming at it from different perspectives, right? The politicians owe something to their constituents. Different groups of investors want different things. That's just reality. There's nothing good or bad about that. That's just the way that the world works. You have to be able to show people that none of us are going to get what we individually want out of this if we can't make this happen together. There will be lots of compromises and sacrifices that will happen, but ultimately, we'll all get to enjoying this greater vision and ultimately, you'll also really get what you're after.

[0:42:34.1] MB: That makes me think of another comment that I've heard you make in the past that I thought was really insightful, which was the difference between management and leadership. I think you and I share a similar perspective. Correct me if I misstating this, but I think you once said you don't love managing people. I'm very similar. I don't like managing people. I love coaching and inspiring and that thing. The distinction between management leadership, I think is really interesting and I'd love to get your insight on that.

[0:43:00.9] MW: Yes. Leadership I believe is the highest order in any organization. It is about things like vision, values, communication, principles, goals, accountability, ethics, integrity, those are the things that leadership is about. Inspiration, inspiring people. Those are the things that make up a culture. Management is an operational function. I have a framework for the way that I have reverse-engineered business, because I dropped out so I didn't go to business school. I don't have a traditional way of interpreting businesses, but I basically have reverse-engineered it into eight concepts that I've never seen any business not have to adhere to. They actually go in order of importance, but they are all critical and necessary.

At the very top of the – I call them the eight core concepts. At the top is leadership, then finance, then operations, then growth. I'd be happy to talk about what I mean by that. Then product, then service, then sales and then marketing. Those are to me the eight core concepts that every single business has to address. Leadership is the highest order concept. Management falls inside of operations, which to me is the third highest order concept.

Management is about delivering things predictably, ultimately. That is to all your different stakeholders. You have employees that are stakeholders, you have customers that are stakeholders, you have investors that are stakeholders. You put forth a brand promise, you put forth a promise of what value you're going to deliver to all of those stakeholders. Management is about seeing to that actually happening.

Some management is project management, some management is people management. In the case of people management, that's a skill set. That's a very specific skill set. Not the same skill set to me as leadership. I think both are necessary, but I think they often get conflated. They're not the same thing. If you've done management as much as I have and have had the mixed bag of results that I have had, you know what I mean? You've also done leadership and you've had a different set of results for that, you start to distinguish between the two and get clear on what you're passionate about, what you're good at and whether or not leadership and management are the same thing. For me, they're not. For me, I am very, very passionate about leadership and I see management as a skill set that I value highly, but that I am not that interested in personally.

[0:45:48.6] MB: I love that framework and I personally agree with that breakdown and the distinction between management and leadership. I through my own business experience also have a very similar perspective about my own strengths around management, but that's a whole aside, that we don't have time to get into because I know we're running out of time.

For listeners who want to concretely implement something that we've talked about today, we've talked about a bunch of different strategies and ideas, what would be one piece of homework or initial action stuff that you would give them to start taking action towards something we've discussed?

[0:46:25.8] MW: Yeah. Something I've been thinking about a lot lately is the Japanese concept of ikigai, just the Japanese concept of life purpose. It's falling at this intersection of what you love to do, what you're good at, what the world needs and what you can get paid for. I find that to be such a helpful directive framework around how you can really maximize your time on earth.

I think about entrepreneurship as a creative palette. Sometimes, your partner will be the entrepreneur and you will be the creative, right? You can still have lots of entrepreneurial endeavors, but you're not necessarily great at finance, right? Look, in order to be a really great entrepreneur, you got to know finance stuff. It's pretty important.

I think thinking about where you fall at that intersection, what do you love to do and what are you good at and what will the world pay you for and what does the world need? I think that process of self-awareness is so helpful for then figuring out all these other steps. I'll repeat, thinking about your own story, just really going back and jotting down what's happened to you in your life and the way that you remember it and what themes emerge from that process, I think is incredibly helpful.

There are so many different frameworks out there for how you'll put together a business. There's the business model canvas. There's the attraction VTO. There's the lean canvas. There's just so many different ways to get the thoughts out of your head around how you want to launch a business. I think the most important things really are centered around self-awareness, because it's how you position yourself relative to this thing you want to do and who you need to partner with in order to make it happen, and what is going to be your challenge around orchestration. Those are the things that I think are really, really important and that I think everybody can do. My task for everybody would be how do you get more clear on who you really are.

[0:48:31.5] MB: The idea that self-awareness is one of the most important business skills is something that I fundamentally believe and in many ways, guides many of the conversations we have here on the Science of Success. It's so interesting to hear that from someone who's been such a successful business person that you have a very similar perspective as well.

[0:48:51.9] MW: Yeah. I mean, I'm at this point in my career and in my life. I'm 43, I'll be 44 here shortly. I've raised two children. I’ve probably learned more than that than I've learned through business. I've had so many failures that have enabled me to have the short list of successes that I'm very proud of, but I'm not undefeated, right? I've got losses on my record. Even in my successes, I've got losses, right? I think as I look back, it's fine. I learned a lot about myself through those things, but one of the big things that I learned is I'm not good at everything and that's okay, nobody is. Nobody's great at everything.

You don't know until you try. I think that you have to be okay with failure if you're going to be a creative entrepreneur, because that's part of the self-discovery process is going through those failures. Yes. In reflection as I think about my remaining time here on earth and especially the remainder of my 40s and my 50s and my 60s, I want to maximize my impact. That means I'm not going to spend any time doing anything I don't think I'm exceptional and uniquely exceptional. Management would not be one of those things, right? I will manage to the degree that I have to. It's not something that I like doing. I know I have shortcomings in it and I'm happy to accept that. That's totally fine by me.

[0:50:06.1] MB: Another great insight that you can't be good at everything and acknowledging your shortcomings is a critical component to being a successful business person. Marcus, for listeners who want to find more about you, your work and everything that you're creating and doing online, what is the best place for them to do that?

[0:50:24.1] MW: MarcusWhitney.com. I would welcome you to come to my website and please subscribe to my e-mail, The Grind. It is I think the most important work I do. I send it out every week and it is a very, very personal note from me to you, where I am talking about my life and what I am learning from the experiences that I'm having in my life. Then I also keep you posted on things I've got going on, like online content and things of that nature. Just my website and subscribing to my e-mail list is my one simple ask.

[0:50:58.0] MB: Marcus, thank you so much for coming on the show, for sharing all this wisdom. Some great stories, some great insights about an incredible journey and some really fascinating business concepts and ideas.

[0:51:09.2] MW: Matt, thank you so much for having me. It's an absolute honor.

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December 11, 2019 /Lace Gilger
Career Development, Mind Expansion
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Jay Abraham: Growing A Business With No Money Or Customers

November 12, 2019 by Lace Gilger in Career Development, Money & Finance

In this interview we show you how to grow a business with no capital, no product and no service. You will discover how to train yourself to spot outrageous business opportunities surrounding you in everyday life and we give you the strategies for building trust with your ideal clients and business partners. We ask what does it take to become GREAT? In your career, job, business, partnering, relationships we look at exactly how you can achieve greatness in the key areas of your life. All of this and much more with our guest the legendary Jay Abraham.

Jay Abraham is founder and CEO of The Abraham Group, Inc., and is recognized as one of the world’s most successful marketing strategists, business innovators, entrepreneurial advisors, and masters of revenue acceleration. He has spent the last 30+ years solving problems and significantly increasing the bottom lines of over 10,000 clients in more than 400 industries worldwide.

  • How do you grow a company with no capital, product, or service?

  • What does it mean to mine, monetize and maximize relational capital?

  • Whatever your resource impediment or impairment is, someone else has that and you just have to figure out how to ethically leverage it

  • How Jay created 1.5mm in less than 6 months by finding arbitrage between products, services, and audiences

  • Find “strategic investors” - who else benefits from your growth? Complementary or related products, companies that benefit and naturally grow when you grow - and demonstrate to them that your growth is beneficial for them too - and then get them to help you.

  • How do you build trust in a business relationship? How do you get someone to introduce you to all of their clients?

    • Trust - integrate trust building into your behavior

    • Prove your product / service and it’s performance

    • Denominate what that performance should look like, and how it’s measurably superior to what’s out there

    • Show that your performance has an economic value / profit enhancement for the person you’re pitching

    • Find 2-3 companies that are willing to be your guinea pigs / beta testers - do a pilot with them first (potentially funded by an investor)… (then leverage this case study to sell more people)… and give them an extra incentive / bonus for making the introduction

    • The best way to get someone behind your product, service, business proposition etc is to PROVE to them that it performs - PROVEN PERFORMANCE is huge.

  • Before you expend a ton of capital and time on a project - try to get some validation. The only validation that counts is dollars spent, not what a focus group thinks.

  • How to easily validate your business ideas without taking risk on the front end.

  • There’s a huge amount of IP that’s available to license from places like the Navy, the government, etc

  • Find “parallel universes” that aren’t competitive and plug those opportunities in.

  • Never put anything at risk until you’ve de-risked and validated your product, service, or business model

  • What happens when a typical business is STUCK? Figure out what you’re stuck with.

    • In ANY category of expertise that are people who are super expensive on the top end, but there are many many people who are not at full capacity who are still

    • Make a list of 15 potential consults, and give them all the same pitch

    • I have this challenge, if we can quantify the result of the improvement, and turn the fixed expense into a performance based expense - you can achieve and fund any change in your business

  • How can you unlock an “unlimited business checkbook” to fund ANY problem within your business?

  • How someone got paid $1mm and a free Porsche to buy a Porsche dealership with creative deal making

  • Jay’s skillset comes from 2 key things

    • Tons of diverse experiences - so he can see so many different combinations, permutations and options

    • Bringing to an industry the approaches that no one else can see from other industries - the one eyed man in the land of the blind

  • Spend time traveling outside whatever you do and whatever you’re interested in. Study other businesses, study how other products and services market, how they sell, study topics that are outside your domain of knowledge.

  • How to train yourself to spot outrageous business opportunities lying around you in everyday life.

  • How you can make the “money connection” - you don’t need to be brilliant, but you have to have the right “sensors” turned on - and they only turn on when you broaden your understanding of what’s possible

  • What is Greatness? And why do so many people fall short of it?

  • Everyone has the ability to be great - and everyone wants to be great.

  • 98% of people are mediocre - yet they want to be great - WHY?

  • What does it take to become GREAT? In your career, job, business, partnering, relationships - how you can achieve greatness in the key areas of your life.

  • There are 4 keys to achieving greatness:

    • #1 - Get a context of what greatness ACTUALLY looks and feels like. Take the time to understand what greatness looks like and feels like. In your brain, in your experiences, in your life.

    • #2 - Reconcile yourself to where you actually ARE today on the continuum / spectrum of greatness today. You have to know the GAP from where you are to where you want to be.

    • #3 - Figure out the different strategies and options to get you from where you are to where you want to be - figure out the pros, cons, nuances, etc of each different strategy and find the best one for you. A one size fits all dress doesn’t fit most people well.

    • #4 - “The Log Jam” Theory - Usually one category is gonna have more ultimate impact in opening up the positive flow in all the areas - focus on fixing that log jam first.

    • #5 - Understand that it's a process and it takes time. You need support and compassion, coaching, mentors etc. It’s like a kid trying to walk or talk for the first time, it takes TONS of time to gain proficiency in ANYTHING. You need someone to believe in you, be there for you, and hold you responsible.

    • The first time you try to do ANYTHING - you’re gonna screw it up. Your success chances are almost zero.

  • With every improvement in greatness there is an exponential increase in quality and outcome - not a linear increase.

  • Most breakthroughs don’t come from WITHIN an industry - they come from OUTSIDE it.

  • Homework: Be curious, ask people questions, dig into how other businesses and industries do business.

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Media

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  • Stephan Spencer - “Billion Dollar Marketing Tips From the Legend: Jay Abraham” By Stephan Spencer

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  • INC. - “Billionaire Mentor Jay Abraham on How to Be the Ultimate Entrepreneur” by Tracy Leigh Hazzard

  • Entrepreneur - “3 Ways You Can Increase Sales Without 'Selling'” by Chris Jarvis

    • “3 Strategies for Growing Your Online Business Fast” by R.L. Adams

    • “7 Time-Tested Rules for Marketing and Growing Your Business” by Deep Patel

  • Forbes - “The Single Secret To Preeminence, According To Jay Abraham: Think Differently” by Cheryl Conner

    • “Executive Coach Jay Abraham Discusses Turning Other People's Challenges Into Your Own Opportunities” by Daymond John

  • I will Teach You To Be Rich - “Meet my mentor, Jay Abraham” by Ramit Sethi

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  • [Podcast] FROM THE VAULT: TONY ROBBINS & JAY ABRAHAM (Parts 1 & 2)

Videos

  • Jay’s YouTube Channel

  • Jay Abraham - Advanced Strategy of Preeminence

  • Jay Abraham's Four Sure-fire Business Strategies

  • Jay Abraham's speech on The Meaning of Life

  • Josh Felber - The Need for Funnel Vision with Guest Jay Abraham: MakingBank S1E54

  • Grant Cardone - Grant Cardone & Jay Abraham Exclusive Business Coaching

  • Evan Carmichael - The Preeminent ENTREPRENEURIAL and MARKETING Expert ft. @realjayabraham

  • The Wolf of Wall Street - Words of Wisdom with Marketing God Jay Abraham - Jordan Belfort Wolf’s Den

Books

  • Getting Everything You Can Out of All You've Got: 21 Ways You Can Out-Think, Out-Perform, and Out-Earn the Competition  by Jay Abraham

  • 93 Extraordinary Referral Systems: Jay Abraham's Money-Making Strategy Clusters by Jay Abraham

  • The Sticking Point Solution: 9 Ways to Move Your Business from Stagnation to Stunning Growth by Jay Abraham

  • The MasterMind Marketing System  by Jay Abraham

  • Your Secret Wealth: Hidden Assets & Opportunities That Can Change Your Life  by Jay Abraham

  • Learn from the $4 Billion Man  by Jay Abraham

  • How To Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be A Six-Week program With Jay Abraham by Jay Abraham

Episode Transcript

[00:00:04.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success. Introducing your host, Matt Bodnar.

[0:00:11.8] MB: Welcome to the Science of Success; the number one evidence-based growth podcast on the Internet with more than four million downloads and listeners in over a hundred countries.

In this interview, we show you how to grow a business with no capital, no product and no service. You will discover how to train yourself to spot outrageous business opportunities that are surrounding you in everyday life. We’ll give you the strategies for building trust with your ideal clients and business partners. We ask what does it take to become great in your career, job, business, parenting, relationships and more. We look at exactly how you can achieve greatness in all of the key areas of your life. We discuss this and much more with our guest, the legendary Jay Abraham.

I was recently closing a big software deal and I was thinking about how the lessons and themes from the Science of Success have been so valuable to me as an investor and business owner. I realized that I'm leaving a lot of value that I could be creating for you, the listeners on the table. I believe that many of the things that we teach on the Science of Success are some of the biggest and most important business success factors today.

To that end, we're launching a new Science of Success segment focused on business. These episodes will air every other Tuesday and will not interrupt your regularly scheduled Science of Success programming. Everything we teach on the show can be applied to achieving success in your business life. Now we're going to show you how to do that, along with some interviews of the world's top business experts. With that, I hope you enjoy this business-focused episode of the Science of Success.

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In our previous episode, we had one of the absolute living legends of psychology on the show. We discussed the greatest unanswered questions in psychology, the biggest thing people miss understand about flow, what advice young people can take away from our previous guest’s incredible career and what he thinks the absolute biggest takeaways from his own research about flow. All of this and much more with our previous guest, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. If you want to learn about flow from the researcher who pioneered the entire field, listen to our previous episode.

Now for our interview with Jay. Please note, this episode contains profanity.

[0:03:19.0] MB: Today, we have another legendary guest on the show, Jay Abraham. Jay is the Founder and CEO of the Abraham Group and is recognized as one of the world's most successful marketing strategists, business innovators, entrepreneurial advisors and masters of revenue acceleration. He spent the last 30 plus years solving problems and significantly increasing the bottom line of over 10,000 clients and more than 400 industries worldwide. Jay, welcome to the Science of Success.

[0:03:45.7] JA: Thank you, Matt. I appreciate it. My pleasure.

[0:03:48.5] MB: Well, we're super excited to have you on the show today. I'm a huge fan of you and your work and I can't wait to dig into some of the key themes and ideas from your massive body of work and success.

[0:04:00.1] JA: Okay. Let's go at it then.

[0:04:01.7] MB: One of the most fascinating things to me about you is your ability to think laterally and approach problems from a completely different perspective than most people. I want to start with a big question, but it's a question that in many ways your work has addressed in many different ways, which is this idea of how does somebody grow a business if they don't have any money, or they don't have any resources, or they don't have any customers and they feel stuck, or they feel they can't get to the next level because of a lack of X?

[0:04:34.8] JA: It's a great question. It's certainly a broad one. I'll give you a spectrum of answers, okay? There's going to be three scenarios. What you want to do, but you don't really have product service or capital, the way to do it is through strategies that the macro we call is just mining, monetizing, maximizing, managing other people's relational capital. What it means is if you are very, very pragmatic, you can identify that whatever your problem is, whatever your resource impediments as someone else in some other business, or in the same intended business, has what you want and you can basically identify that your ability to achieve that could actually be the fulfillment of a problem, or an opportunity that other person doesn't have.

For example, you might say I've got a product, but I have no distribution and I want to reach heads of IT departments and doesn't matter the industry. Pick an industry. You can find people who have already sold products or services to that decision-maker who have nothing else to sell, but spend an enormous amount of time building goodwill, trust the relationship. If you showed them that they have a sunk cost in that relationship and then you are able to demonstrate proof to them, the value, the qualitativeness, the performance capability of your product or service, you go to them and you ask them to either introduce or outright sell that product to you.

If you needed an office that you didn't have in a city and you had no money, you find somebody else that sells to a similar target audience who has underutilized capacity and you make a deal to sub-office with them. We've done this with tradeshow booths, we've done this with skill sets, we've done this with people who had advertising capability. We've done this with platforms, we've done this with media. That is one way to do it.

Another way to do it which I did one time and we made someone a million and a half dollars in six months as you go to some of the more popular categoric areas of search, you don't go to the first page, you go to the second or third and down and you start finding what I call arbitrage. You find somebody who's got a book that he or she doesn't have a seminar. You find somebody who has a seminar, but doesn't have a book. You can find somebody who has a book and/or a seminar, but doesn't have coaching. You tie all that up, you put it altogether, you take a piece of that. That's another way.

Other ways, you find somebody very successful in a category that does not have the desire to expand nationally or internationally and you set an arrangement, where they let you use basically their IT for either a royalty, or for a percentage. I mean, I can go on and on and on and on. We have a whole book that is called How to Get the Money for Your Great Idea or Startup and What to Do If You Can't. It goes through all the alternatives to capital. Capital impairment is not a reason you shouldn't grow.

There's always going to be somebody. Also, you can go to people that have a business and they have a product or service line, but they do not have certain products, or services that are natural purchases by that same target audience before, during or after that person buys from them. Go to them and say, “I want to create that kind of a business addition and I will operate it through your business. You will market it, because you've already got the clientele and we will split whatever way you want.” I can go on and on and on, but there's a multitude of ways you can do it.

If you have a product or a service and it has been validated, but you want to grow more, first thing that you do is identify what I call strategic investors, people who would benefit more by you being more successful than even you. It could be a product service that would be purchased right after, during. Or it could be a company that if you got large enough, they would like to absorb you. You then figure out how to demonstrate to them predictable, expanded demand. We do that sometimes.

I had a consult, an accidental consult the other day. A gentleman has got a technology using very complex LiDAR technology to identify snow in the mountains and extrapolate what that will mean in the spring and summer to water, to the water management companies. He's trying to raise six million dollars, but he doesn't know how. I explained to him that the easiest way to raise money is to go to a 100 or 200 water management, I guess directors. Show them what you can do, show them what it could mean, demonstrate and correlate the value, either savings time, predictability, budgetary advantage and get them to give you what is called a contingent purchase order. Meaning that if you can do this by such-and-such a time at such-and-such a price and it will prove it can do such-and-such an outcome, we will buy it. If you have 50 or a 100 of those, it's a lot easier to get invest your money. I can go on and on, but there's a couple.

[0:10:09.8] MB: Those are great. I want to drill down on the first example, or one of the most basic examples of this idea of relational capital. Let’s go with what you said. Let's say I have a product or service, I'm selling it to IT managers. I go and approach people who are selling to IT managers already, but selling something that's a complimentary, related product to mine. How do I go about building trust with those people, convincing them, “Hey, you should introduce my product to your client and insert me into your client relationship.”

[0:10:42.6] JA: Well, trust is created many ways. First of all from a clinical standpoint and I'll be happy to provide you with some of this if you want to share it with your audience. There are experts in soft skills. Stephen M.R. Covey, the son of Stephen R. Covey is the preeminent leader and the master at business trust building. There's 13 characteristics that if you can incorporate those into your being, they give you something like 300% more probability at success.

The first thing I'd say is integrate all the characteristics of trust building authentically into your being; that's one. Number two is proof demonstration and pre-emptive overcoming of predictable concerns is the second way. You've got to prove first of all that your product or service performs. Second, you've got to be able to nominate what that performance should look like and how that performance is measured, either tangibly, or intangibly superior to what's out there. Third, you've got to show that that performance has some either economic value in profit enhancement, productive value in either more effectiveness, or more savings, reduced personnel, more reliability. You've got to be able to do that first.

Second, nobody wants to be the first in. You've got to find two or three companies that are willing, or organizations depending on the product or service, willing to basically be your experimental guinea pigs. You've got to basically invest in them. Usually if you can get an investor and ask him or her just to fund the pilot applications, what I normally do is get the guinea pig beta testers some kind of a participatory bonus. If it works and they are authentic and not inaccurate, as long as they're not manipulative and scamming. If it works and they will be our validators, our testimonials, we give them either – and it's fully disclosed, we give them either a percentage of the revenue equity, some consideration or services for three years grant. Something that is worthwhile to them, but not covert. That's another way to do it.

I mean, I always believe that the best way to get somebody passionately and what's the word I want to use? Unhedgingly strongly behind your product, your service, your business proposition, is to prove to them it performs. Many people don't really grasp that. Daymond John who I've done stuff with, wrote a book. It was called The Power of Broke. He was talking about how when people come to him trying to talk about garments they want to put to market, he says, “Take it to a flea market. Open your trunk in a shopping center mall parking lot, see if people will buy it just as it is. If they won't buy it there, they're not going to buy it anywhere.” Prove to yourself first of all.

A lot of people don't understand. They get all excited about a concept that the market isn't excited about. I always recommend before you expand an enormous amount of energy, time, opportunity cost, your own or other’s capital, try to get some true validation. Validation is of two kinds, if you ask people, it's the idea of a – what do they call it when you go and you query a group? My brain is at a gap right now.

[0:14:31.8] MB: Market testing, or market surveys.

[0:14:33.6] JA: I think it was the word for it. When they tell you they like it or don't like it, that isn't necessarily a truism, because they aren't being asked to vote with their credit cards, or their checkbooks, or their purchase orders. The only vote that counts is if somebody is willing to commit. The only truth that counts is if the product or service is able to perform. Performance is a very relative concept. To some people, performance is a great feeling. To some people, it's how they look. To some people, it's just the knowledge that you've got the top of the line, even if it doesn't have.

I'm not sure that a Mercedes at 50 grand outperforms a different car that's not as prestigious at 50 grand, but there's certain value. If you have to know and you have to validate before you make a huge commitment that you can't take back. Because if you blow the commitment, you blow your trust with investors, you blow your trust with industry, you blow your own self-esteem, unless you have a very, very, very strong character and belief.

I always believe in proving before you try to expand. It's a little slower. The power of having documented evidence, the power of having contingent commitments, the power of having a partner who's willing to try it if another investor will at least fund the beta version, the ability to quantify what its performance or benefit, or savings or attributes are gives you a lot stronger advantage than just the radical excitement about the product or service. I don't know if that helps or not.

[0:16:19.9] MB: Yeah, I think that's really helpful. I want to dig down a little bit more about this concept of validation. What are some of the ways that you validate, or experiment, or test ideas and how do you do that without spending a huge amount of time, energy or money?

[0:16:36.4] JA: Well, legalities you have to check out, because they've changed. It used to be you could dry test. I think you still can do a variation of it, where you can literally go to a market with some offering. It can be online, offline, and just describe what it is, describe what it does, describe how it does it, describe the implication, describe when it'll be ready and ask for expressions of interest. That's first stage.

If you don't get any, that's probably a tell, don't you think? If you get them, then you have to explain to them and you can incorporate into your first stage communication the pricing and performance, or you can wait. Then you basically explain and then you try to go from that to a contingent commitment, to either purchase it when it's available, to test it for you and apply it as a pilot, if it's available. Or to even if that's really that promising to co-fund it for you for them with an understanding that they will get a share of future sales outside, if that's applicable. That's one way to do it.

By the way, people don't realize this; I do work with one of the big contracting companies to the Navy War College. There are an enormous amount of technological IP that's available for licensing that's out there. I'm sure every category of government – Jet Propulsion Laboratories have it. Somebody we know from Livermore Laboratory licensed something. I mean, there's so much out there.

Also, you could model anything anybody does and say, “Okay, is there a parallel universe that would apply to that's not competitive?” If the answer is yes, you can go to that company and say, “I would like to take everything you do and translate it to X industry.” It's not competitive at all, but I think I could create a meaningful business or cash flow from it and I will share with you on X type of it.

I mean, when people are stymied, the reason they're stymied is not their fault. I have a very wonderful privilege. I've been involved in over a thousand industries and an incalculable number net of scenarios, strategies, business models, business challenges, competitive advantage creation, value added, ancillary business, repurposing, lead generating, sourcing, positioning advantage, ancillary income. When you have the a broader swath of comprehension of maybe not all, but of let's say quantum times more of what's possible, the idea of being frustrated, or seemingly impaired, or not being able to do something, or thinking I don't have an idea, or I don't have a product, or I don't have the skill, or I don’t have the money, the other thing is there's always out there the relative skillsets that you need.

We did years ago a training program on how to be a contingent marketing consultant. We identified the three or four categories. One are the people who are able to sell the concept to the entrepreneur business, to owner of professional media organization. The other is the ability to basically deliver it. The other is the ability to just manage it. We said there are those types everywhere. There are sales people out there who would love to own an equity and a business but they don't A, have the capital, nor do they have the mental construct.

There are people who are really good operators who would never be able to sell anything and they'd love to be in business, but they can't sell. If you find these people and you put them together and you start hard so that you don't jeopardize anybody's security. I always believe that the first thing you do is never put anything and anyone at risk until you validate it. Some people jump right in and I think that's admirable, but I think it's very wise to try to at least get some validation of assumptions. I'm just saying it's infinite. There's just so many things you can do.

[0:21:00.3] MB: Tell me a little bit more about this idea of [inaudible 0:21:02.8], power partnering, etc., for a skill set or capacity and maybe some examples of people who've done that in the past.

[0:21:10.8] JA: Well, let's take a look at a typical business that is operating, but not opted stuck, okay? They could be stuck with lack of knowledge. They don't know how to market well. They don't know online. They don't have good technology. They don't have systems. They don't have maybe good production. They don't have good channel management. They don't have good distribution control. All of those are skill sets that people sell, right?

Consultants, experts, advisers, most of them sell it by either the hour or the monthly fee, or project. What people don't realize is that in any category of expertise, there are people like myself and I'm very expensive and there are people that are let's say, ordinary, general experts and they're fairly priced, but it's very rare that everyone is fully utilized, that everyone has every hour of their time consumed. If you identify not one, but maybe 15 and you go to them down the line and say, “I have this challenge. If we can quantify what your contribution can mean to it, either an increased revenue, savings, productivity, any denomination that can be converted to me paying you, I will pay you X for Y amount of time in exchange for you investing your expertise.” Now you've turned a fixed expense to a variable, right?

[0:22:37.7] MB: Yeah, that's great.

[0:22:39.0] JA: We do it all the time. We have a concept that I call the unlimited business checkbook. The concept is within about 90% of the categories of impairment, resource impairment, economic impairment, IP impairment, capital, and there's many derivatives of capital; human, relational, intellectual impairment, you can overcome almost all that with a strategic alliance with the power of partnering, with the relational capital move or maneuver.

Then there's a whole other side of it. It's control. It's getting access – having access to people's assets. In other words, you might find that you get access to somebody's buyers and then you can do it with lots of those somebodies in the same field all over and you can have a back-end or a front-end. Just an example that's fascinating and it's very simple one, in the home improvement business, people don't realize it. You have a home, right? You have a house?

[0:23:39.6] MB: I do.

[0:23:40.6] JA: Have you done any improvement to it?

[0:23:42.1] MB: I have.

[0:23:42.9] JA: Okay. Typically not always, but there's a very high statistical probability, Matt. If you are going to improve a function or factor in your home, normally the first one is a kitchen, because that's a focal. If you're going to do a kitchen, once that kitchen is transformed and looks majestic, you start contrasting that to the rest of the house and you go, “Oh, crap. I got to fix the bathrooms, then I got to fix the paint, then I got to replace the carpets or the floors, then I got to maybe replace the doors, or the windows, then maybe the roof, maybe the garage door, maybe the landscaping, many all crap. Maybe I should do some stonework and put either a fireplace or a really nice patio, or a pool.”

There's a progression and it doesn't go that expansive, but almost anybody I've ever looked at there's one or two gradients. If you can strike an arrangement with any ethical home improvement company that does one vertical thing and they will share with you not just their buyers, but their non-buyers, the statistical probability of that group of prospective sources being worth a fortune to you is very high. Does that makes sense?

[0:25:05.2] MB: Yeah, that totally makes sense.

[0:25:07.0] JA: I mean, there’s tons. I mean, I've been very blessed to see correlations, implications, anomalies. I've been able to extrapolate to see all these things. I'll tell you some fun stories and these are derivatives of this, but they're very cool. Probably the most interesting thing that I ever heard of, highlight was very cool. There was a man about 20 years ago who loved Porsche automobiles, but he couldn't afford to even buy one, but he loved them.

He found out that a small Porsche dealer was becoming available for purchase in Northern California. Out of curiosity, he applied. He get the paperwork and review it. Upon reviewing, he saw that there was a stipulation in the dealer agreement that a dealer could make a brand-new Porsche available for trial use for up to, I think it was three months and 3,000 miles and it could still be licensed as new. It was a demo. You know what a demo is, right?

[0:26:09.0] MB: Yup.

[0:26:10.0] JA: With that piece of information, he got a wild idea and he ran ads all over Northern California that said, “Drive a brand new Porsche every year for life for a one-time $75,000 investment.” He got about – it cost, I think it was a million dollars he needed for the dealership, but he got 2 million plus from people who came in, because he was able to make these Porsches available to them. Two things happened, they became his greatest referral sources. Half of them didn't really exchange Porsches. They just bought theirs from him at a discount. He created a dealership and he ended up with a with a million dollar plus capital. He had that one point of interest and he had out one point of equity he gave out for doing it, that's a pretty cool concept.

[0:26:56.4] MB: It's incredible. I love those kinds of stories. There's so many from the archives and the war stories that you have. I'd love to hear if another one comes to mind, another example of that really innovative lateral connecting the dots and thinking in a different way.

[0:27:11.7] JA: Yeah. I had a friend, I don't think he's dead. I just don't have contact with him anymore. I was pretty cool. I'll take a couple cool ones that are all true. Years and years ago, he realized that the Rose Bowl, the big stadium that they play the Rose Bowl in that UCLA plays in was not being used, something like three weekends out of the year, except for at key times.

He went. He negotiated with them to get the rights to use it to create a flea market. He knew nothing about flea markets. Once he got the agreement, he went to the biggest operator of formal flea markets in the country and he flipped the agreement to them for a cash upfront and a percentage of all the revenue they got from leasing the flea markets. He got it for I think 20 years. That was pretty interesting. Probably one of the ones everybody loves is Carnival Cruise. You know what that is.

[0:28:11.9] MB: Yup.

[0:28:12.9] JA: A cruise line that’s got – I think they own now five or six other cruise lines. I knew the marketing guy when they started. The man that started Carnival Cruise had one ship. It was a beat-up used ship. The guy was so capital impaired that he could only afford to paint it on one side. He would have to bring it in on the painted side, so that people coming on would see it and it would look at least reasonable. It would go out I think 800 rooms and would go out half full every week.

The man who owned it had a brilliant distinction. He realized that every week it was going out half empty. Those 400 rooms at that time were worth $800 a week. That's $320,000 worth of buying power down the drain. He got my friend who is now deceased, but my friend who was the marketing manager to go to every radio station, television station, publication and trade them credit for use on Carnival Cruise in exchange for advertising. He actually let them have two years to use their credit, but he used his right now.

His credits drove all kinds of paid cash people. When anybody from the media used their credits, which he absolutely made possible, but a lot of the media used it as gifts to their employees, bonuses, gifts to their clients. A lot of the clients would buy second and third rooms, so they got cash even on the utilization of the credits. When anyone redeemed the credits, the owner of carnival would charge a $39 surcharge. That charge covered the incremental cost of the cold cuts for the buffet, the sheets. Most of them were three-day cruises. He made money from the excursions, from the gambling. That's how he built Carnival Cruise.

The guy that started home shopping and then QVC modeled it was a guy that had a very unsuccessful radio station in a small city in Florida. He literally, very fascinating, couldn't sell advertising, so he would trade to merchants for merchandise. He had all this merchandise and he had to get rid of it. Every Saturday, he would do four or five hours of literally an on-air auction to sell all the electric can openers and all the hair dryers and all the pots and pans that he had. That was the genesis. He started making so much money that he started buying the same timelines and bunches of other radio stations and then he moved it to television stations. Man, go on and on and on and on.

There was a company in Australia, very fascinating. There was a law that you could not do building advertising on the outside of a building downtown, because of aesthetics. There was a guy that was very brilliant. He realized that you could put an ad on the inside of a ground-level window. He bought the rights to do that in an enormous number of buildings, then he went to the big outdoor advertising company and he sold his rights to them for a big fee, plus a piece of all the future advertising. I can go on and on.

[0:31:51.9] MB: It’s incredible.

[0:31:53.4] JA: Yeah. Well, I mean, it's a way of thinking. I've got that classic story that people, your group won't be as aware of this, but the story is pretty cool. Years and years ago, an insurance company called ColonialPenn started out with a focus of trying to create group policies, going to organizations, going to associations, going to unions. They were struggling. They were having a lot of trouble breaking in.

After a couple of years of mediocre performance, one of the very brilliant, brilliant, brilliant directors said, “Let's look at this differently. If we cannot sell a client, a group, why don't we start our own?” They started an organization called the American Association of Retired People, AARP, so they would have a client. Now AARP has something like 16 or 20 million members, it's a huge revenue source, it's a viable big, big company and it produces – Well, they had to divest themselves after about 20 years, because they had a monopoly. ColonialPenn made billions of dollars from it. I can go on and on. It's a way of thinking, Matt.

[0:33:07.7] MB: How do you start to train yourself to think that way, to see these gaps and opportunities that are all around us that seem invisible to most people and yet, someone can just pluck an empty parking lot or an empty stadium and turn it into a million dollar deal?

[0:33:24.8] JA: Well, I'll tell you how I am able to do it and I'll tell you how I've tried to get other people to do it. My skill set comes from two distinctions; one, I've had so many diverse experiences that I can see possibilities, applications, correlations, combinations that I think most people do not get the chance, because they're very vertical in their life experiences. What I've done is two things and not commercial crafts. We've created programs we sell occasionally, not often, that give them this broad spectrum. They have a context.

What I tell the most people is spend time traveling outside whatever you do, whatever you're interested in. Study how other businesses industries operate, study other areas of interest, study how other people market, study other products service offers, get all your friends and your neighbors and your relatives to send you all the promotional stuff that they get from whatever they're interested in, whatever they're signed up on, whatever their industry is.

On Saturdays if you live in a decent city, go to the convention hotels and walk around. There's normally 10 or 15 different events going on. Ask the people at the door if you can walk in for hour watch and expand your horizon. Start learning what you don't know, because that's where your opportunity lies. In business itself, very candidly, my skill has always been bringing to an industry that which no one else in the industry has ever been exposed to. It's the one-eyed man in the land of the blind. I would just borrow success approaches from all kinds of outside industries, combine them and then introduce them to an industry where everybody is doing the same thing the same way. My client gets outrageous advantage, because nobody else thinks that way.

It's a thought process that has to be cultivated. One time, we did a program that we called how to think differently. Actually, it was called do something different. Every week for 13 weeks, we gave an assignment to the people. Very simple. First assignment was somewhat like this, whatever your regimen or protocol is Matt, when you awaken in the morning; you get up, almost everybody has to go to the bathroom, that's natural. Then you have a sequence you normally follow. Maybe you take a shower, maybe you turn on the coffee, maybe you watch CNN, Fox, MSNBC, Bloomberg, then maybe you read a paper. Then you get dressed.

Then if you don't work at – you work at home, you go to your computer and you go on Facebook, or you go to whatever you do. Or if you go to work, you probably take either a service, could be an Uber, can be train, bus, or you take the fastest, most expedient form of transportation, the highway. We would say change your regimen for a week. Get out, but obviously if your bladder is full, go to the bathroom, but do everything else different.

If you'd normally have coffee first, take a shower first. If you normally get dressed last, get dressed first. If you normally read the paper last, read it in the middle. If you normally drive down the highway, drive down the side streets and force yourself to break your pattern. I had lots of things like that we did. It was very profound, because the way that you turn on your receptors and your sensors is to break your rigidity, if that makes sense. We don't even know we have rigidity.

[0:37:11.9] MB: That totally makes sense. Start stepping outside of our daily routines and rituals and also borrow broad-based knowledge from different industries and topics and places and cultivate a broad set of thinking skills, so that you can really start to see things in a different perspective than other people see them.

[0:37:32.3] JA: Yeah. You don't have to be brilliant to see what I call making the money connection. You have to have the right sensory capability. The sensors are only going to turn on as you broaden your understanding of what's possible. I forced myself. I've been very blessed. It's a little bit challenging, but my consulting practice has never been vertical. I've never done one industry, or one category. I take on any industry, any problem that is within the realm of revenue generation, competitive. I don’t do operations and I don't do technology, because it's not my skillset.

Anything else, I usually have enough historic understanding, empirical experience and capacity to adapt, adopt, extrapolate to take it on. If you don't have anything like that, hoping and praying is not the way to do it. Force yourself to be interested in that which is never fascinated you before.

There's a great book that is out recently. It's called Range. It makes the case that in our society today that there are generalists, there are specialists and then there are synthesis. The people that will own and rule the business world are the synthesis, because they have the diverse capability of handling all the new challenges that have no historic precedent. Specialists only have what they know historically. Generalists, worse. Synthesis have this broad spectrum of understanding of so many possibilities they can draw from.

[0:39:19.9] MB: Funnily enough, we and we'll throw this in the show notes for listeners, but we actually interviewed David Epstein, the author of Range a couple weeks ago in this.

[0:39:27.9] JA: He’s really good?

[0:39:28.7] MB: Yeah, he was awesome. I'll shoot you a link to the interview too.

[0:39:32.2] JA: I’d like that, because in fact, if you'd let me, I'll send it out to my list, because it might be very useful. I thought that was – it was a little bit deep psychological. If you get through the depth of it, I thought the message was powerful, didn't you?

[0:39:46.3] MB: Oh, it was amazing. Well, the funny thing is that this is full circle, because I think when we were hanging out in Laguna Beach, you actually told me about Range. Then I was like, “Oh, this book sounds really interesting.” I bought it and read it and then I was like, “This guy is amazing. We got to get him on the podcast.” We interviewed David and now you get to listen to the interview, so that's pretty funny.

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[0:41:22.0] MB: Changing gears a little bit, tell me about greatness. How do you think about greatness, what is it and how do people sometimes fall short in their pursuit of it?

[0:41:32.5] JA: Well, I mean, I have a really interesting, I guess I'd call it a character flaw. I get very excited about a concept for a period of time and I develop it and I explore it and I explain it, then I jettison it off. Somebody said I'm like a intellectual, what do you call it? Gigolo, because I'll have a concept, take it to my room for the night, I have my intellectual way with it and then throw it out in the morning.

A couple years ago, I got very deeply interested in the concept of greatness. I haven’t really revisited it for a while, so this will be fun. I got to dust off the intellectual cobwebs. My conclusion was this; with little exception, every human being is programmed in our DNA to want to be great, unless you have some mental affliction, or physical affliction, or birth defect. You really want to be great. You want to be a great entrepreneur, if that’s your calling, manager, leader, team member. You also want to be a great friend, if you have children, father, you have significant other, whether it's lover or partner. You want to be great at whatever you do as far as hobbies.

Yet, more than the vast, something like 98% of people are mediocre at – there’s eight or seven categories identified. The question is why? Why is somebody who definitely and maybe not desperately, but inherently wants to not be – you don't come home at the end of a day from work, whether you're leading, following, managing and say to yourself, “Self, I went and spent eight or 10 hours and I did a mediocre job.” You don't go out selling and come back and say, “I was really crappy today.” You don't go to your loved one and say, “Honey, I did a really shitty job today. I didn’t do well. I didn't contribute well. I didn't perform well. I didn't advance any attributes in my job.” You don't come home and purposely be boring, or uninterested, or non-contributing. Let your kids run awry. You don't purposely be a crappy friend. Yet, sadly if you look at it, the vast majority people are exactly that in every category.

I ask myself why and what does it take to change. Very delightful and this might be a great conclusion to our discussion for today, I came up with four very wonderfully clear-cut answers. If you can squarely reconcile yourself to them, you can transform yourself in any or all of these eight or so categories.

The first reason that people are not great in any of these categories, career, job, business, relationship, parenting, friendship, skillset, is that nobody really takes the time to help them see what greatness looks like, both in your brain as executed, as expressed and then what it is like validated when it's received by the other side. It's not that hard. If you don't have no reference model, how are you going to get there? Just accidentally? If I say, “Okay, I'm going to go climb Mount Everest.” You have no reference model of how to do it, how not to asphyxiate, or get oxygen deprivation, how to do it, strengthen yourself, how to do it in phases, you think you're really going to do it? Think about it. No.

First thing is getting a context of what greatness looks like in any and all these categories. Second, maybe five areas is reconciling yourself to where you are on the continuum against that. You know what it's supposed to look like. Now you got to say, “Okay, as an entrepreneur, as a leader, as a manager, as a team member, as a friend, as a partner, as a lover, as a parent, as a hobbyist, as a rock climber, as a here where I am on the continuous.” You have to know what I'll call is the gap, because it's basically you're looking at personal performance arbitrage really, isn't it? You're looking at the gap.

There's another word for it and I'll think of what it is. Then you've got to basically figure out what are the different options to get me in each category from here to there. You got to understand what they are, what they require, the pros and cons of each. Because all one size never fits all in anything, but not even close. If you see a woman wearing a one-size-fits-all dress, one woman looks really hot, the rest it's either too tight and ugly, too short, too lose, too long. You got to figure the right strategy in each category to achieve your goal the safest, the fastest, the easiest, the most predictable.

Then and this is where it gets really interesting, I believe in what I call the log jam event theory, Matt. The log jam means you've got maybe these eight categories of let's call of impaired greatness, or greatness deficiency. One of them is going to have more ultimate impact in opening up the positive flow of the rest and all the rest. If you've got a terrible relationship in your personal life, you probably are not going to be able to achieve, realize, manifest greatness than anything else. Does that make sense?

[0:47:27.3] MB: Totally.

[0:47:27.9] JA: You got to figure where the log jam is first. That may seem divergent, but it's actually very strategically astute, because once you relieve all that diversionary emotion and energy dissipation, now you can re-shift it to all the other areas and then you've got to be able to go, “What's my first imperative, second impairment, third impairment.” Imperative. Excuse me, not – and well, it could be impairment and imperatives. Then you systematically, once you've identified the strategy, you work through it. Now that's the second or the third category. I believe you're married and have children, don't you Matt?

[0:48:08.3] MB: That's right.

[0:48:08.9] JA: Okay. How old are your children?

[0:48:11.7] MB: I have an 18-month-old and basically a newborn.

[0:48:14.2] JA: Perfect. Okay. As or when, I don't know, because I can't remember. My children are all adults now, they start walking, trying to talk, trying to eat, trying to poop, trying to walk talk, eat. What else would they be doing? They're not ready to ride a bike yet. Walk, talk, eat, poop, speak, lots of the same thing.

Usually in the beginning, they are not very effective and they fail. When they try to walk, they fall over. When they’re trying to poop, they miss the spot or they can't quite get out of their diaper. When they're trying to eat, the spoon may go in their eye, or their hair, or their chest, but it very rarely initially goes into their mouth. It were it not for the parent being their champion, their advocate, their fan, their coach, their mentor and putting them, standing them back up, putting the spoon back in the right place, taking them and sitting them on the toilet, even though they miss. They go, [Inaudible 0:49:13.9]. That’s great. Then repeating certain things, so they have a better reference, they would never gain proficiency, would they?

[0:49:23.5] MB: No.

[0:49:24.3] JA: Same thing in this. You need to be able to – because the first time you try to execute anything that you might understand intellectually, the statistical probability is you will F it up big time transaction. You need someone to believe in you, what I call a sword and a shield. Can be a mentor, coach, a support person. Somebody that is going to hold not only you responsible, but going to be there for you throughout the transitional process until you achieve, if not mastering a level of greater proficiency.

What happens in all these eight areas is it's not linear. With each level of improvement and progression, the glory, the wonderment, the ecstasy of this is asymmetric. It keeps multiplying exponentially, so you keep growing and your ability growing and your quality growing and your proficiency growing and you're loving that's growing and your bonding with your family growing and your parenting and levels that you can't even imagine, until and unless you go through that. Does that help?

[0:50:41.1] MB: Yeah, that's great. Such a good break down. The point about how the first time you do anything, you're almost guaranteed to fail. Yet so many people try something once, beat themselves up and then give up.

I know we're running out of time. One question we like to ask everybody as a wrap up is for listeners who want to take action on something we've talked about today, it could be any of the topics or themes, what would be one action item that you would give them as a next step to start implementing some of these ideas in their lives?

[0:51:12.1] JA: I'll give you a couple suggestions. It's not meant to be self-aggrandizing. We have a website that as of today it's going to be changed. Right now, you don't even have to opt-in and it's got an enormous amount of stuff on it that doesn't sell anything. Again, you can get it take leave your name, your e-mail. There's a whole collection of stuff on it for be up being preeminent. There's a whole collection of stuff on greatness. There's a document called The Abraham Mindshift Challenge. There are two videos on relational capital. I would encourage people to get them. Or if you want to get the files and put them on your site, I have no problem with that. It doesn't matter. We're not doing them to monetize it. That's the first thing.

Second is start committing yourself in terms of non-linear thinking, to start every day when you meet somebody from another domain, ask them questions, learn about what they do, how they do it, how they monetize, how they operate, what they read. Ask them if they would forward to you some of the things they read. Start going online and just randomly visiting things you're not interested in.

Every time you do that, make a note of one distinction that you gain, that you've never thought about that might have value, or be interesting. Start really looking at biographies of people who are non-linear thinkers. I mean, breakthrough thinking and it's true, there's nothing more than taking elements that are always there and recombining them in new ways.

People like myself, Tony Robbins were not original thinkers. We are original synthesizers. We just take the stuff that's always been there and put them together. Also and this is old, because I have to think about new applications. We used to always talk about the fact that most breakthroughs do not come from the industry you are in. This is just analogy, fiber optics which redefine the whole era of telecommunication did not come from telecommunication. It came from aerospace and was borrowed.

Federal Express built their whole business by using what the Federal Reserve Bank was using, which is called the hub-and-spoke method for clearing checks overnight. The ballpoint pen or roll-on deodorant, one of them borrowed the technique from each other and I can go on and on and on and on, but you'll never get breakthroughs if you don't break out of the rigidity of your limited paradigm. That's why I call it giving yourself a paradigmectomy.

[0:53:50.9] MB: Well Jay, thank you so much for coming on the show, sharing all this wisdom, all this knowledge. For listeners who want to check you out, find all of your stuff online, obviously we'll put some things in the show notes, where can they find you?

[0:54:06.3] JA: Well, I mean, it depends. If you just want to find the resources, which are there in contributions, Abraham.com. Very easy. Abraham.com. The place to go is the 50 shades site and there's some cool stuff. I think there's 8 or 900 hours of stuff, audio, video and there's thousands of pages. As I said, right now it'll change soon, but there's no opt-in required. Not one item sells anything. If you're serious about a business that's very large and can be grown and you're a serious entrepreneur making serious money, running a serious business and you want it to be seriously better, then there's a way to contact me on the website.

Thank you very much. If you want to do more, I'm happy. I hope this has value and I will be happy to take your interview of Epstein and put on my site and reference you. If you send this to my office, we'll put it out for you to a podcast, okay?

[0:55:00.8] MB: Awesome. Well Jay, thank you so much. We'll definitely follow up on the Epstein interview and we'll let you know when this episode airs. I know you got to get to a meeting, so thank you very much for coming on the show.

[0:55:10.6] JA: My pleasure. Thank you, Matt.

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Career Development, Money & Finance
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How You Can Build Your Audience From Nothing with Joe Fier

October 29, 2019 by Lace Gilger in Career Development, Weapons of Influence

In this episode, we discuss how to get started building your network and traffic online. We learn exactly how to build an audience from scratch, insider lessons about the best content marketing approach, how to get your content to go viral, a mind-blowing facebook advertising strategy and why email is still one of the most important marketing channels with our guest Joe Fier.

Joe Fier advises businesses on marketing strategy and sales conversion to increase revenues. He consults and creates long-term selling assets for clients, which has generated over $50 million in revenue online. He runs a marketing and tech consulting company and full-scale content marketing agency. He and his Co-Founder at Evergreen Profits, Matt Wolfe are also the hosts of the Hustle and Flowchart Podcast and authors of The Evergreen Traffic Playbook, hosts of the Hustle and Flowchart Podcast and Evergreen Wisdom: Daily Habits & Thoughts To Optimize Your Business & Life.

  • Producing the best possible content was one of the inflection points for Evergreen Profits

  • Content Creation & Development is the cornerstone of their growth strategy

  • “It starts with content - that’s the inflection point"

  • Attracting the right people to your content hasn’t changed a lot in the last 10 years in the online world.

  • When Joe kickstarted his podcast, he went to his network and got it front of them

  • How do you build up a network or seed your initial traffic?

    • Places like Reddit, Facebook groups, Quora - get involved in a community, get involved in a bucket of an audience, interject or inject value with the content that you produce - and be consistent. You have to be consistently involved in the community.

    • You have to build your own “credibility” in the community before you post your own content

    • Go into the community and spend a few weeks JUST answering questions

    • Just keep adding a ton of value and get the other people to start self-promoting for you

    • Get to know the OWNER of the subreddit or the MODERATOR of the subreddit (same strategy Sol used) that’s the KEY

      • Invite them on your podcast

      • Give back to them

      • Create win-wins for them

      • Help them with content or monetization

      • Build a relationship for them

      • Hop on Skype with them, ask what their needs and desires are, and help them solve it

  • Spend a minimal budget to kickstart a piece of content

    • Reddit Ads

    • Quora Ads

    • Facebook Ads

      1. Dennis Yew’s Strategy

      2. Target the audience of your podcast guests, and spend $1/day for the ads and have a show notes image/link to the podcast

      3. Target their name, their audience, their company, or a related audience, and then sync that up to a piece of content that that audience will love

      4. Promote every single episode with a direct target on FB - promote their show notes

    • Google Ads

      1. Find niche keywords that no one is bidding for

      2. Sync the content to that keyword

      3. Run a low budget ad to an initial piece of content

    • The target goal of the ads = join our email list

      1. Then have retargeting ads after they’ve visited the site

  • Email Opt-Ins for a new audience

    • Run these $1/day ads targeting Brene Brown on FB and point them straight to the show notes page

    • There’s no commitment on their part, and you’re selling them on the podcast

  • Retargeting

    • Warm approach “Exclusive notes on this Brene Brown interview - click here to get them absolutely free"

    • Driven by FB retargeting after they’ve already visited your page

    • Start low and work your way up as you see it working / frequency getting higher

    • They will have a pool of 10 potential ads and they will assign a budget to the pool, and FB will pull the various ads - let FB’s algorithm do the work for you

  • Repurpose episodes into something more visual for FB / Instagram / Ads

  • They try to do the opposite of the “Launch” model

    • Have a longer-term mindset and know that the content you’re putting out in the world will live there for a long long time

    • Create amazing valuable content that will pass the test of time

    • Always try to follow up, the money is made on the follow-up

    • Don’t try to rush the sale, don’t be too pushy, lead with value

  • Homework: Start an email list and create a good opt-in freebie + pair it up with a checklist or short opt-in guide

    • Then set up retargeting + simple FB ad strategy to bring people back to what you’re doing

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Want To Dig In More?! - Here’s The Show Notes, Links, & Research

General

  • Joe’s Website and Podcast

  • Joe’s LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook

  • VideoSalesLab

Media

  • [Article Directory] Joe’s articles on Evergreen Profits, Medium, and ThriveCart

  • Joe’s Quora page

  • [Article] Influencive - “The Ultimate Solution to Break Out of Procrastination and Build Your Big Vision” by Joe Fier

  • [Article] Capitalism.com - “It’s About Who You Know: 7 Powerful Methods for Making Connections That Will Boost Your Business” by Joe Fier

  • [Podcast] The Unstoppable CEO Podcast - Joe Fier | Tearing Your Business Down… And Building It Back Up

  • [Podcast] Sold with Webinars - Weird Ways To Monetize With Webinars with Matt Wolfe And Joe Fier | #56

  • [Podcast] Growth to Freedom - EVERGREEN PROFITS WITH JOE FIER AND MATT WOLFE [PODCAST 214]

  • [Podcast] Business Lunch - Episode 62: How To Make Money Podcasting (Without Even Charting On iTunes), with Joe Fier

  • [Podcast] Bacon Wrapped Business - How To Create Evergreen Profits with Matt Wolfe and Joe Fier

Videos

  • Evergreen Profits YouTube Channel

  • Podcast ep: Marketing Predictions & Lessons For 2019 - Matt Wolfe & Joe Fier

  • Joe’s Personal Channel

  • Matt Wolfe - How To Make Money On Udemy - Miguel Henrnandez & Joe Fier

    • Our New Book - Evergreen Wisdom - Matt Wolfe & Joe Fier

  • Eco Chateau - Health + Happiness HACKS | Episode 13: Joe Fier, Entrepreneur & LifeHacker

    • Health + Happiness HACKS | Episode 14: PART 2 w/ Joe Fier, Mind Altering Substances

  • SoCalMeeting - How To Quit Your Day Job & Interview With Joe Fier

Books

  • The Evergreen Traffic Playbook by Matt Wolfe and Joe Fier

  • Evergreen Wisdom: Daily Habits & Thoughts To Optimize Your Business & Life by Joe Fier and Matt Wolfe

Episode Transcript

[00:00:04.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success. Introducing your host, Matt Bodnar.

[00:00:11] MB: Welcome to the Science of Success, the number one evidence-based growth podcast on the internet with more than 4 million downloads listeners in over a hundred countries.

In this episode, we discuss how to get started building your network and your traffic online. We learn exactly how to build an audience from scratch, share insider lessons about the best content marketing approaches. Talk about how to get your content to go viral. Share a mind-blowing Facebook advertising strategy and discuss why email is one of the most important marketing channels you could still be using with our guest, Joe Fier.

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Now, for our interview with Joe.

[00:03:04] MB: Today, we have another interesting guest on the show, Joe Fier. Joe advices businesses on marketing strategy and sales conversions to increase their revenue. He consults and creates long-term selling assets for his clients, which has generated more than $50 million in online revenue. He runs a marketing and tech consulting company and a full-scale content marketing agency. He and his cofounder at Evergreen Profits, Matt Wolfe, are also the hosts of The Hustle and Flowchart Podcast and authors of The Evergreen Traffic Playbook and Evergreen Wisdom: Daily Habits and Thoughts to Optimize Your Business in Life.

Joe, welcome to the Science of Success.

[00:03:37] JF: Hey, Matt. Thanks for having me here.

[00:03:39] MB: Well, we’re super excited to have you on the show today and dig into a little bit more kind of business-focused content than we typically focus on the show, but I think this is going to be a really insightful conversation for the listeners and I think we can pull a lot of really good insights out of this.

[00:03:54] JF: Yeah, we’re just doing that pre-talk and there’s a lot of overlap.

[00:03:57] MB: Yeah, might have to release the preshow conversation as a little piece of bonus content or maybe we’ll play it after the credits roll for those of you who want to stick around.

[00:04:06] JF: Right on.

[00:04:06] MB: But I’m curious, I mean, it’s such a fascinating skillset. I mean, obviously, we spend a lot of time thinking about digital marketing kind of on the backend of Science of Success as well. But I’m curious, what was the, or was there, kind of an inflection point in your career where things really started to click or you really started to figure out what actually drives growth online. What actually makes companies or businesses scale in a digital way?

[00:04:32] JF: Yeah, that’s good question. It took a while. Ironically, we started with it, but then I kind of diverted a little away from the core thing. I believe it’s content is producing the best possible content, like you guys are with this podcast. We do that with our show as well. We started off blogging just in different niches and kind of learning, and we always shared our results, and that’s exactly what we’re doing with the podcast still, and I know you guys do the same thing.

Giving that value in terms of a good piece of content there and then putting it out to the world and then doing that. That’s our focus, is content development and creation and using that around all of our marketing. Then that just pairs up and then allows our network to grow. Again, the podcast is a perfect part of that as well. But I believe it starts with content. That’s kind of the inflection point.

I diverted a lot into one-on-one stuff, consulting and kind of agency work, and we’ve moved more into like, “Hey, the foundation needs to be content,” because that’s going to attract the right people that you want to work with. Kind of weeds out a lot of the tire kickers that might not be the best time for them to take an action with you. But to the content, at least there’s value that they’re going to get from there and they might tell some of their friends and refer the qualified folks you’re with.

That’s really the key, is producing a great content that really flows from you, not something that you should try to force yourself into. Podcasting is great. We love to talk and that can get produced into videos, and transcripts, and notes, and newsletters, and all sorts of cool things. But that’s where I believe it starts for us.

[00:06:15] MB: I think that’s a piece of advice that you hear a lot and I feel like many people create content that may not be high-quality content, which could be part of the problem and probably is. But I feel like there’re so many content creators out there who create a bunch of content. They think it’s awesome. They kind of put it out there and a lone tumbleweed blows by and nobody really sees it. It’s almost a chicken and the egg type of situation.

If you have great content or you think you’re creating high-quality content, how do you actually get people to start listening to it, start paying attention to it? How do you get it in front of folks? Because I know growing traffic is obviously a huge component of what’s made you guys so successful. You realized that content was super important, and then how did you start to really get distribution for that content and get traffic and get it in front of people?

[00:07:02] JF: Yeah. We started off, and this is where we kind of began. Back in the day, we started about 2010 marketing online and the blogging days. To be honest, the modalities have changed a little it, but attracting the right people on the kick-start content hasn’t changed a lot. We started in for-marketing. Actually giving value, responding to people’s questions, and there we would drop a link to a post that we might have written or maybe it’s in our footer. Something that link to our property where the content was housed.

When we kick-started our podcast, let’s say, we went to our network and we went to all of these different places that we know we have some influence or at least we can attach ourselves to a community that is talking about the similar topics. Today, we’re actually starting to experiment a lot with Reddit. In the podcasting space, that’s something we’re starting to morph more into as podcast marketing. We’re doing some different things in that regard.

On Reddit, Matt’s kind of – My partner, Matt Wolfe, is kind of ahead in this stuff a little bit more, because he just nerds out on that stuff, is giving value in those communities. Reddit is great for that. Quora is amazing. We’ve interviewed a bunch of content producers, and one of the daily actions that a lot of these folks do is hit Quora, give value on there, answer questions and then have a link back to a piece of content that you produced. It could be anything, YouTube videos, podcast, blog, whatnot.

Facebook groups are amazing. If you can create these relationships and these groups that really value good content, and especially on these Facebook groups, people are very protective over the type of stuff that’s posted. Reddit definitely. Quora as well. As long as you can find these buckets of audiences, it always starts with audiences, and then just figure out how to interject some kind of – Or inject some kind of value in there with the content that you produced and then just keep the consistency up. You can’t do like a one shot and then just kind of hope that it’s going to take off.

The idea is to always kind of make it a daily checklist, something on that list that you’re just ticking the box, post something in Reddit, or you just answer someone’s question. That’s really a great way.

Then once you build up a network, so that’s great for someone starting out. The network, for a podcast or if you tag someone in something, always getting someone to share that whole virility factor, it’s extremely valuable. Again, it’s not going to be a massive push. But if you can pair that up with some paid traffic – So that’s what we really love to do. There’s a lot of different strategies you could do on all these places where you can spend a pretty minimal budget just to kick-start a piece of content.

Even with Reddit, there’s Reddit ads, Quora ads, Facebook ads of course, do a lot on Google as well. You could do these for as little as a dollar or $5 a day to kick-start a piece of content. From there, you can kind of just compound your efforts with more content or maybe more ad budget and more value to give to these communities.

[00:10:12] MB: That’s really interesting, and there’s a couple different things I want to understand about that. I definitely want to dig into kick-starting content with a small paid spend, because I think that’s a topic that’s really, really interesting. But before we do, one of the struggles, and this is just something personally that we’ve encountered along our kind of growth trajectory is when we were early on, we haven’t done a lot of kind of Reddit and Facebook marketing, but I’ve spent a huge amount of time on Quora, which we got a lot of traffic from.

But when I would go to a place like Reddit and go into some of the Subreddits that we’re affiliated with, things like Science of Success, and maybe I just didn’t understand the Reddit kit or whatever of how to do it appropriately. I would post something that I think is super valuable. I mean, I truly believe in the content we’re creating. I think it’s amazing. I think it’s really life-changing and we have tons and tons of people who email us and tell us that, and yet I would come in and say like, “Hey, you should check this out. This is a great interview with this world-class expert about this thing. Here’re the things you should do.” I got banned from like three Subreddits for self-promotion.

After that I was just like, “Fuck Reddit. I’m not going to waste any time on here.” I mean, have you ever had that experience or how do you kind of thread that needle to where you don’t get banned from self-promoting, because I feel like some of those communities like Reddit and some Facebook groups are so edgy about like you can’t post the link to your own content, and yet it’s like, “Well, what if it’s actually really good content? What if it’s directly relevant to what you’re talking about?”

[00:11:35] JF: It’s true. Reddit is – That’s probably the most difficult place to self-promote, and that’s where you have to really – It’s interesting. It’s like these are all little communities. You have to build your own cred before you start linking to something of your own, or really anything at that, because you never know how you’re tied in to that piece of content.

With Reddit, definitely every Subreddit has its own rules. Knowing what those rules are. I believe on the right side, if you’re on the browser online, they always have all the different terms that that Reddit owner or Subreddit owner is kind of looking out for in all those other – People who’ve joined Reddit, they’re going to support that. I mean, these people are by the book rules. They’re rabid, man. If you piss someone off, yeah, it’s very highly likely you’re either going to bet booted or downvoted, which screws up your karma on Reddit. That’s kind of how they judge things there.

With us, we’ll go to the podcasting Reddit and just purely answer questions and without any links or anything like that. Really, if you just do that, I would say for just a handful of weeks, and some of that content, the answer should come from your other content that you produced. That’s typically what we do. It’s a weed or repurpose what we’re already creating.

But overtime, we have definitely noticed people start sharing it or they’ll start upvoting it. So it gets a little bit more traction. Some people, we’ve seen now starting to post to other Subreddits. The idea is to kind of get other people that do that work for you, but there’s not a lot of shortcutting, the self-promotion, or you can’t start dropping links left and right. Same with Quora as well.

Facebook groups, same with Reddit groups. I mean, all these things. If you can get to know the owner of some of the moderators and really create a relationship there, because whoever owns that audience, that’s the person you really got to get in with. Of course, you can create your own groups. You can create your own Subreddit and all of that stuff, but then you got to actually work to build your own audience.

If you have your own Subreddit, I mean, you own the rules. We have our own for the podcast and it’s a slow growth, but definitely anything goes if you hold the rules to that group. But I would say there’s a lot of opportunity on Facebook groups for this and it’s probably a little easier than Reddit if you’re just starting up.

[00:13:59] MB: That’s actually a really, really key point and something that I hadn’t thought off from a strategic standpoint, which is targeting and getting to know the moderators or the owners of those, whether it’s a sub or a Facebook group or whatever. I mean, if you’re somebody who has credibility in your space. I mean, if we were to email somebody who has a personal development Subreddit and be like, “Hey, here’s what we do. Here’s who we are. Here’s who we’ve interviewed,” etc. It’s probably pretty easy to have a conversation and just talk to them on Skype for 30 minutes. Build that relationship. Start adding value. Then suddenly, when you get engaged in that Subreddit, they’re way less likely to be like, “Who the fuck is this guy?” Banned.

[00:14:36] JF: Yeah, exactly. It’s all about relationships, and that’s where – Or you can invite some of those folks on the show. We’re always trying to look for win-wins, ways to give back to them. If they’re struggling to make money, which a lot of these group owners are, they don’t know how to monetize, or they don’t have their own content, you can be that content arm for them, or somehow figure out a red split on whatever it might be you bring to the table there.

Any kind of win-win, you’re always looking for. They have the audience you want. That’s your win. You just got to figure out what is the win that they’re really going to freaking jump over, jump backwards over for. I think you nailed it, man. Hop on Skype for just a few minutes. You could bang that out and figure out what are their desires. Then from there, it’s just all about giving value to their people.

[00:15:23] MB: Super smart. I want to come back to the paid ads to content piece, because I’ve heard some previous rules of thumb or ideas around if you spend X on a piece of content, you should spend Y promoting it. What is your thought process or strategy? How do you typically kick-start a piece of content with a little bit of paid promotion? How do you think about budgeting that and what platforms have you seen to be the most effective?

[00:15:46] JF: Let’s focus on Facebook first, and we interviewed a guy named Dennis Yu. This is kind of his strategy, and it’s been morphed around by a bunch of people, but this is kind of our perpetual strategy to target ads to an audience that’s really going to sync up well with the piece of content. So case in point is, our podcast, we have a lot of guests who are targets on Facebook, or their companies are. What we’ll do is we’ll have Roland Frasier, we talked about him on the pre-talk here.

I believe now, he is a target. But prior to that, Digital Marketer was the target that we were using. In Facebook, you can target that audience. So Digital Marketer, or Roland Frasier, and for a dollar a day with these ads, you can put a link, or for us, it’s basically just the show notes image, and that will target their audience. For a dollar a day, Facebook is going to try to squeeze out as much of those impressions for that dollar a day.

Facebook wants you to be successful with their ads, as does any other platform out there. If you could target perpetually a dollar a day for someone or their audience, it could be their company, the name or even a related audience if you can think a little laterally, and then sync that up to a piece of content that those folks are going to love. For a dollar a day, you can kind of appear that you’re everywhere to that audience.

So that’s why we get a lot of messages about like, “I found you from Facebook, because I just saw you kind of stalking me on there.” But that was a strategic target. We’ll actually do that for every single one of our guests who has a direct target on Facebook, and that works really well.

In addition to that, we’d do Google Ads as well. This is a little bit more of an elaborate strategy, but we’ll try to figure out what keywords people are searching for around our piece of content. So we’ll kind of start with a broad keyword, run some ads just to get clicks and then we’ll figure out what keywords are starting to come in a little bit more consistently. Ideally, it’s not going to be a broad keyword, because those are competitive. Spend about $100 to get this data from Google. Then from there, we’ll take some of the keywords that are maybe a little bit more niched down. They’re a little longer. Folks aren’t typically bidding on these keywords, but that’s where we can really shine a light on running ad, and usually we’re the only ones there and our content synced up perfectly. It usually has a similar keyword. We’ll title the piece of content almost identical to the ads so it’s super congruent. You always want to do that with all of your ads.

What I described there on Facebook and then also Google, those are our two biggest strategies. Everyday we’re running low budget ads to kind of like an initial piece of content. If they don’t take an action, which we’re always looking for them to join our email list at a very minimum so we could do our follow-ups. But if they don’t do that, then we have all of our retargeting ads running, again, to very targeted – If they touched our website in any which way, they’re going to see maybe some videos from Matt or I, some other contents, some podcasts.

We’re just trying to grow that trust. So it’s a multi-touch process until we kind of get that conversion or whatever we’re trying to get them to do, either buy a product, or join the list, something like that. I would say those two are like the 80-20. That’s the 80% of where we’re focused on right now.

[00:19:14] MB: Yeah, that’s so smart and it makes total sense. I mean, we’re talking in the preshow I think about a recent guest we had on our show, Brene Brown. She’s obviously a target on Facebook, or I would assume she is, because she’s big enough. If we were to just take our Brene Brown show notes, and I’m curious how you would think about this. Basically, if I’m describing this correctly, you basically take the show notes for the Brene Brown episode, you make sure – I want to unpack a little bit kind of how you sync that up with an email opt-in. Then you basically run a dollar a day Facebook ad targeting Brene Brown, people who like Brene Brown, and, “Boom! Boom! Boom!” You’re there. You’re omnipresent, and obviously those people are already going to be predisposed to liking your content.

[00:19:55] JF: 100%. You nailed it, and that’s what we do, is we now we’re starting to do more of the – We call them cheat sheets, but yeah, you can do show notes. Anything that’s going to grab that audience’s attention, and it’s even better if, yeah, you’d show them, “Hey, here’s an exclusive interview,” or maybe it’s a transcript or some kind of notes from Brene talking about X-topic. More than likely, you’re going to get a lot of people from their audience start to – It’s not a flood. It’s a trickle approach, which is good, because that allows you to test and to kind of optimize your conversions. If you’re trying to get them on an email list, which I would definitely want them to do. If you were to do that, I would definitely suggest doing that.

[00:20:35] MB: Yeah. We had a big, and I don’t mean to interrupt you, but we had a big strategic shift probably two years ago with the podcast where we basically realized, before that, we’re going to conferences and events talking to people and we’re like, “Hey! We’re a podcast. We want to get more podcast subscribers. Build more listenership,” and we basically had this complete strategic flip of the way we perceived it. It was like, “No. we’re a media company and what we really need to do is get email subscribers.” Currently, the way we deliver content and value to them is through primarily a podcast, but not exclusively. So we completely shifted our strategy and went from having maybe sub 2,000 or 3,000 email subs to having almost 50,000 email subs by just pivoting our strategy towards focusing on that.

[00:21:18] JF: Dude! That’s so valuable, and you nailed it. You said a media company. That was actually a shift that Matt and I took maybe two years ago, I would say, because in the podcast, like it is for you guys, that’s at the top of the media company. If you think in media companies, someone’s like, “Oh! How do I have a media company?”

Well, any content is a media thing. You can be on all these different platforms. If you’re leveraging podcast, cool. There’s your media platform there. YouTube, Facebook, Google, all of these things, collectively, they have this reach. Then with that reach, if you could just figure out how to kind of funnel them into with value – We’re always leading with content value, but bringing them to the email list. That’s where all of our money is made, is on the follow-up.

We were talking about – You asked me how we monetize our podcast. That’s exactly it. It’s not usually right there on the first tough. It’s maybe the third seventh touch, and that sounds like a lot, but you can automate a lot of those touches. Just bringing them back to more content, and then sooner rather than later, if you have all of these different entry points on your show notes pages, on the landing pages, anywhere out there on your podcast as well with a special URL to a landing page, that just optimizes your opportunity to capture these folks on a list.

Retargeting is all another bucket too. We call them owned audiences. Anything that you have control and can follow-up with folks, it could be email list, chat bots even, retargeting. Podcasts are great, or even PushCrew, push notifications on browsers. All of these are things that you have control to follow-up with. It’s just going to increase the opportunity for you to convert them into a sale of something, whatever you’re looking to do.

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[00:24:24] MB: I want to unpack a couple of pieces of this and get super granular for a second. When you’re thinking about the ad that you’re running to, let’s say, a show notes page, is that actually straight up the show notes page or is it a landing page that the number one thing is you’re trying to convert them to an email opt-in in order to get access to a guide to the show notes or whatever, or is it, “Hey, here’s the show notes page, here’s the episode. You might like it. By the way, join the email list.”

[00:24:50] JF: Yeah. There are two steps there. Let’s get back to the Brene Brown example that you said. If you wanted to attract new people, these are people who have not listened to the show yet and you’re just trying to attract and a new audience to come listen and then go down the wormhole with you guys. That would be where I would run these dollar day ads, target Brene Brown on Facebook and then use the dollar day strategy and point them to a show notes page. Because there’s no commitment on the person’s part and the new person that you’re attracting there, they have the opportunity to check out show notes page, maybe read it, listen to the episode. They could join the email list if they choose to. They probably won’t off their first touch, but you never know. There is a percentage that will take you up.

But then to bring them back, you have the whole retargeting phase. You want to make sure that you’re following up on anyone who lands on one of your properties, and that’s even clicking an ad if that ad goes to anywhere else, even someone else at site, you could retarget. What I would do is to the warm approach. The cold approach was to use the dollar a day and send to show notes. But a cold approach, what we would do is run an ad that if you wanted to get super targeted, you would do something like, “Here are the exclusive notes.”

This is what we do, is typically we took the notes on this Brene Brown episode for you. If you click this, you’ll get it for absolutely free, and what that would direct them to is to a landing page. Now, only option there is to join our email list to get that thing for free. That would be the warm approach with retargeting on Facebook. You could do that on Google as well, and I believe Reddit, even if you want to experiment with that, it’s starting to come out with some retargeting ads. Those are the two approaches I would take for those.

[00:26:39] MB: Basically, you start out, you drive cold traffic to a dollar a day to the landing page for the general show notes. Then for the people who haven’t joined the email list, you’re retargeting them, “Hey, here’s an exclusive guide, checklist, whatever, show notes, etc. Click here to get them completely free,” and then that’s where you’re sort of hitting them after they’ve been warmed up a little bit. They’ve at least clicked to your landing page previously. That’s when you’re driving specifically for the email opt-in.

[00:27:06] JF: 100%. Yeah. What you could do, and this is a more elaborate approach, but if they’re not taking you up for a certain period of time, there’re a lot of things you could do on Facebook. For certain time periods, run this ad. So let’s say in the first week or so, if they landed on the Brene Brown show notes page but didn’t join the email list, you can run ads with retargeting to just get them with the objective to actually join the list.

But maybe after that point, they don’t take an action. Now you could just kind of follow up with other episodes that you guys released, and those are all retargeting ads. They could point to other show notes pages. Maybe there are some videos that you have you can upload on Facebook. There are a lot of ways to repurpose your episodes and make a good visual around it on Facebook and Instagram, because they’re all connected.

Again, it’s like repetition. The more and more they see your brand, your face, your name, the different guests you’ve had, your podcast logo. Over and over, we hear it all the time, like, “Man! I see your stuff everywhere. You guys are video machines or whatever.” It’s like, “No, we just have a bucket of about maybe 10 to 20 assets and these ads that just rotate in these pool of people.”

If they haven’t taken the desire to action, they’re just going to see our brand. So maybe that one thing didn’t resonate, but maybe one of these other 20 things do, and each one of those things have a low budget. So it’s not like we’re spending $100 per ad. It might just be $2, let’s say, per ad, or even a dollar an ad, and they’re just rotating around. You’re just increasing your odds. That’s really all you’re trying to do.

[00:28:45] MB: So what are you targeting for kind of – I mean, you touched on this a second ago, but what are you aiming for from a retargeting budget standpoint? If you’re spending a dollar a day on the cold traffic, how much are you allocating to retargeting?

[00:28:57] JF: That’s totally up to you. The minimum you could spend on Facebook, for example, is a dollar per day for your budget. We always suggest to kind of start low and then work your way up as you see. Maybe the frequency is getting higher or you’re just not getting the desired action. It’s almost like a pool of ads and you can – For us, we’ll have about 10 at a minimum of any time and then we’ll essentially assign a budget to each one of those ads. So call it a dollar a day to start.

Facebook is just going to kind of rotate around depending on what – In that pool, they kind of decide what ad to show depending on the frequency that it’s been shown and the budget you have allocated. You kind of just let their algorithm do the work for you on the retargeting plan, which is kind of nice. So you can – It’s kind of up to you, again, for ramping up the budget. The more budget you increase, of course, your ads are going to show more.

Yeah, that’s kind of it. There are definitely a lot of nuts and bolts to it. But at a good understanding level, I’d say that’s kind of what you want to be thinking of, is there are these pool, and Facebook, give them enough kind of ammunition to work with or budget to work with, and they’re going to squeeze the most results that they possibly can out of what you give them.

[00:30:13] MB: This is maybe a hyper-specific question, but are you personally executing going into Facebook doing this stuff, or do you have a consultant, an outsource or somebody that you bring in to actually execute the ad setup and everything for you.

[00:30:30] JF: Right now, Matt is the one that heads up all of that. Yeah, that’s what I like in the granular details. He’s going to be the one to really go into the weeds on it. He manages, I would say, about 60% of the ads, but we get direct consulting from a good buddy of ours, Kurt Moley. Kurt Moley out of Austin. He advices a lot of large brands.

Every single week, we’re getting kind of told what to do with the latest things happening on Facebook like, “Hey! Test this video 15 seconds or less. Use it in in-stream ads. This is really killing it right now. Go try this out.” We kind of take direction from them, him and his team, but we’re always experimenting as well from people on our podcast. Like I mentioned, Dennis Yu. Our episode, he pretty much lays out that entire process for the dollar a day ads.

A lot of these stuff is simple enough to just set up yourself and you don’t need to get too crazy. I would say if you could just figure out a dollar a day ads, anyone can set those up and set your targeting and make sure your budgets are right. You’re not going to spend way too much for whatever result you’re trying to get, and then set up some simple retargeting to just follow up and, again, set a budget you’re comfortable with and then let it run for a week or two.

That’s kind of like, again, 80-20. That’s usually what businesses should be doing at a minimum, and most every business owner can kind of learn those basics and do it themselves. But we are starting to transition away from Matt doing the ads, because, yeah, that’s not his best use of time, but he just loves it so much. He has that mind. He just nerds out with it.

[00:32:10] MB: Yeah, that’s fascinating. I’m just curious. I’m always curious about how the actual tactical concrete implementation of this looks on the backend.

[00:32:18] JF: Yeah, he’s definitely – In our partnership, I’m definitely more the visionary. Strategy, him and I both do. But I’ll kind of do more the experimenting, the ideas, the networking and kind of figuring out the general landscape of things. Then once we have something we agree upon, Matt’s the one that has the systems, analytical brain, and he’ll just freaking go down the wormhole. He’ll come up with the strategy, step-by-step. My brain isn’t the sequential thinker that he is. That’s why we make I think a pretty damn good partnership, and others have said that actually.

That guy, Dennis Yu, he’s like, “You guys are like a two-headed dragon.” One can go run away and do this kind of thing while Matt’s over here behind the computer, freaking busting out a crazy automation that we can then replicate and send to our team to kind of manage the day-to-day. That’s kind of how we split up our duties and how we can – It seems like we do a lot, but a lot of it can be automated once you set up the system. That’s usually Matt, the one who do that.

[00:33:21] MB: Yeah, that’s really fascinating. So you touched on this a little bit, but from a high-level standpoint, how do you think about monetizing the podcast audience. I mean, this is sort of a multi-pronged question, but is the podcast the primary driver of leads and opportunities for the entire economic engine that you guys have developed, or is it just a piece that’s sort of a plug and play or a satellite that sits on top of a larger business infrastructure?

[00:33:49] JF: Yeah, good question. The podcast definitely has become our number one driver for all content, traffic, all of the above mainly because it can repurposed in so many different ways. Our podcast, like we’re saying, it’s two times a week the show get released, and they’re about an hour-long on average. From that point, we always have a note taker taking notes on every single one of these things. I don’t know if you ever saw the trafficking conversion notes that get released. We basically took a note taker that used to work for that company and she now works for us to take these notes. These are like four-page notes. These things can get repurposed into all sorts of different content on social media, shareables and repurpose with all these different apps. Transcripts are part of that as well.

That then turns into – From the podcast, we’re always trying to direct people who listen to our show notes page and sometimes we actually send them to just the companionship, kind of starting to experiment with that. It’s tough to track from podcast, which I’m sure you’re very well aware. It’s kind of an interesting space where we’re always experimenting and figuring out what works best, but at a minimum.

We’re always trying to direct people from the podcast to our show notes page, because once they land on the show notes page, they have the opportunity to opt in to our email list. They can click on anyone of the many links of resources we mentioned on the show. But also it allows us to retarget those folks, and that is the number one way we get people on an email list to then follow up with them with affiliate offers. We also have a membership that’s a monthly reoccurring product, 15 bucks a month.

We’re trying to do a very low-level subscription so we’d get some reoccurring income for ourselves that we control. But then on the backend of that, there’re all sorts of different affiliate offers, which we typically average about $100 per commission, a little bit more depending on the actual offer. That is kind of our monetization right there. That’s kind of the process. We have the podcast all the way into show notes with a call to action on the podcast that directs them to the show notes. Them from there, the idea is to get them on an email list, and that’s kind of our traffic. That’s our content generator. That’s our machine right there.

[00:36:17] MB: If you were to say, and if you’re comfortable sharing this, it’s totally fine. But I’m curious at a very high-level, what percent of your monetization is affiliate offers, versus sort of house offers, versus consulting and work outside of offers made to the list?

[00:36:32] JF: Yeah. No, that’s a great question, man. I’m happy to answer. For the longest time, I’d say for two years when we’re kind of starting the show and figuring this all out, affiliate income was about 80%, which is cool, but also scary as hell, because we’re kind of building someone else’s business and we’re at the whim of if they change an offer, that conversions could tank, meaning our income can tank too. Luckily, that never really happened. We get some little blurbs here and there. But right now, it’s about 50-50. We’re actively trying to, like I was saying, dip people in this membership dip, which allows us, and this is what gets a little interesting and this is something we’ve learned from Roland actually, is if we can create all these different buckets and control attention more or less starting with the podcast, now we’re bringing them into a membership site, which we can follow up with just our customers. Show them exclusive content, maybe some affiliate offers, and it also allows us sponsorship opportunities. If we’re going back to the media company concept, we now have the opportunity to get a sponsor for not only the podcast, but we have banners on our sites that we can rotate and we can limit the amount of impression. So if we’re guaranteeing a certain amount, we can say that and we can actually show them proof of it as well.

But then we also have our membership area. We can create a sponsor to area, which we have with the piece of content and a special offer. The same with our physical newsletter that we send in the email. We can give inserts in there or they can even purchase a spot to mail that list with our endorsement. It’s interesting, because we can create now sponsorship packages and show the value, and the results are much better than if someone just bought ad space on the actual website with banners, or even on the podcast. The results are much, much better with all these different buckets that we have influence over.

It’s really cool. The idea is with this media set, we’re creating all of these different opportunities for us to essentially monetize without us needing to do a lot more work than we’re normally doing. It’s kind of found money if you set yourself up for that kind of opportunity. The idea is to get away more and more of the affiliate. That’s more of a byproduct is the idea. We want it down to probably 25% ideally of our income.

[00:39:01] MB: That’s really interesting. So the print newsletter, that’s kind of encompassed in the – Sorry, how much did you say per month? 15, 25?

[00:39:08] JF: 15 a month.

[00:39:09] MB: $15 a month. What is the value proposition? Because we haven’t done anything like that with our audience, but I’ve always been fascinated by that kind of model and whether there’s actually value in it. What is the value proposition to the audience and is the print newsletter included as part of that?

[00:39:25] JF: It is. It started off with just the print. So we know our cost is about – We ship all over the world. So it’s one flat rate. So it’s around $8 per person. Obviously, not a lot of profit there. The idea is to get folks to really see the repetition and set ourselves up with the affiliate income, sponsorship income and all of that stuff.

The value prop is typically the folks hearing our offers, seen the offers, hearing us on our podcast and they want to just dive deeper. They want to get a higher touch with us. We have a whole community in there. They can ask questions of us or other people. A lot of our guests will actually go into that community as well, because their content lives there. So they have the option to dive deeper with them, with their training. Actually ask them questions.

Maybe purchase their product if they want to. But all the way from – I mentioned that we take notes and all of our podcast episodes. What we do is we compile all those notes into a monthly booklet more or less, and this thing ranges from 24 pages to 30-ish pages. Essentially, it’s a way that a lot of folks really love the physical aspect, which is crazy, because there’re a lot of magazines from startups now. They’re starting to get made. It’s almost like this.

We’re seeing a little bit of a shift back into physical mailings of newsletters and magazines. It’s just to take people away from the distractions that we’re all getting, the phones ringing or another notification on our computer. A lot of folks really love that physical. They can highlight stuff, dog-ear, and it’s just a time savings. The idea is to save their time but also allow them to dive deeper with us.

Is the value prop mainly to the listeners? We have monthly calls as well with extra training and experiments that we’re up to and what others are up to on our show. It’s a way for folks to really just stay tapped in for a low dollar amount. From there, it opens up all sorts of opportunities for us, of course, like I was mentioning. Yeah, it’s an interesting model and we’re still tweaking little things here and there.

If you kind of compare it to, say, Blinkist for reading books, or all these summary guides you see on Amazon. Everyone is just trying to save time. They’re digesting content. They want to be in the know, but maybe it’s just like a handful of things they want to take away from an episode. Not listen to a full-hour or the thing twice a week. That’s a huge commitment. We’re trying to kind of bridge that gap there.

[00:41:57] MB: Yeah, it’s really fascinating, and I don’t know if you follow Tim Ferriss or his stuff at all, but he just recently in the last couple of weeks rolled out a similar test of his monetization. He actually I think is going no ads and he’s doing pay what you think it’s worth starting with $10 a month kind of model and testing that for a couple of weeks to see how that compares to his monetization strategy of just sponsorships.

[00:42:19] JF: Yeah. It’s super smart too, because the podcasting world – CPM, it’s basically the earnings per download. It’s around $20 of the sponsorship opportunity came your way as a podcaster. I just heard earlier today, it used to be $60. So it keeps going down unfortunately for podcasters. But the way they circumvent that is to create buckets of your own and a value prop to sponsors, like we did, where a software company came to us and they just wanted podcast sponsorship.

But what I did, I kind of flipped it. I’m like, “Hey! Well, we have these other buckets. I know they’re going to return, give you much better returns than just podcast sponsorship,” and they agreed to it and I was able to take them away from the CPM model and then give them just a one flat fee for that period of time, the sponsorship. It’s way more profitable for us, but I know the benefit to them is going to be much higher as well. It’s interesting, and there are a lot of things you can kind of manipulate. Once you have this media company in these different little buckets that you have influence over. It’s just another way to create value. That’s what we’re trying to do here.

[00:43:31] MB: How do you think about the – What is the audience that you guys are targeting or serving? Did you intentionally set out to serve a specific niche or a specific set of customers? How did you select that and begin to focus around targeting that niche and who is it?

[00:43:47] JF: Yeah. It’s interesting, because we’ve started off with just talking to mainly digital marketers, people in our circle. That’s kind of the crew that we’ve always had and had influence over. We did that just because it’s kind of the language we spoke and that’s the network that we can leverage to kick-start the show.

Now it’s starting to extend into – Because I think it’s really the guests we’re bringing on. That’s going to attract the different audience. So now we’re getting a lot more high-level companies. It’s interesting, a bunch of lawyers. There are different associations. I mean, the target is essentially any business who is around a million dollars a year who has a team, minimal team as a starting point. But they’re looking to take action. They want to not only get the tactics, but they want to see what’s behind the hood and really dig into like the stories and the why and the struggles even. We’re trying to always pull out the shit that every entrepreneur has to go through.

Our idea is to try to unpack stories and things that are really making our guest tick that aren’t normally seen on the stages or on any other business podcast out there. It’s almost like we’re shooting to try to be like the Joe Rogan approach of business, which is interesting. It’s long-form, which most business shows, marketing shows are not. They’re usually very tactical, which we kind of start it off that way, but we quickly got bored of that

We wanted to kind of like what you guys do, is get to the root of what is it that makes this thing work or tick. Yeah, there are always some practical things that people can apply, kind of like what we’ve been talking about here. Also, what’s the why behind all of these stuff? It’s interesting, man, we’re now getting – We do some independent shows too. Matt and I, my cohost, we’ll do these things called therapy sessions. It’s just the two of us and we’ll just lay everything out there, the good, the bad, the ugly. We don’t care. There’s no censorship. We don’t edit anything. We’ll talk about experiments we’re doing, what we failed, what we succeeded, all that stuff, future plans. People absolutely love them.

I feel like those have really helped us grow a better brand. It may not attract more people. I think the bigger names in our show, attract the audiences that we’re serving now. But it’s the ones that really key people are these therapy sessions, because I feel like it’s almost like it’s therapy for us. That’s what we named it, because we’re all struggling with similar things. We just lay it out there and then people email us all the time. They’re like, “Do more of those things. More of you is what we want.”

We feel like it strengthens our brand. That’s what get people’s reaching out, asking about partnership or advising deals. We do a lot of those now. That usually comes directly from the podcast. I mean, you guys reached out straight form the podcast after listening to Roland. That’s kind of proving point right there.

[00:46:45] MB: Yeah, that’s really fascinating. I’m curious, what’s one of the most common pitfalls or mistakes that you see people making when they’re getting started with generating traffic or beginning with digital marketing?

[00:46:59] JF: I would say it goes back to content for us, and then also trying to get the conversion, like a sales conversation or whatever that end result way too quickly. The traffic process that we have, it’s a longer term process and it’s kind of what I mapped out with the dollar a day strategy and Facebook and also that Google strategy where we’re trying to mine these keywords.

The idea that we’re trying to do is we have a long-term strategy. We don’t like the launch and then the drop-off, because I don’t know if you’re familiar with the Launch Model, but that was prevalent maybe about 6+ years ago, and it was very good. It raised a lot of money for a company, but then right after that, there’s no strategy to retain that attention with something like retargeting fronts even follow-ups in an email. It’s kind of two things. Have a longer term mindset and know that the content you’re putting out in the world will live there for a very, very long time. Every piece of content you ever put online. Do your best in terms of creating amazing, valuable content that will last the test of time, even if it’s tactically. You can always go back and update that.

But then always try to follow-up. It’s all about the follow-up. Most of our money is made on the follow-up in all those different ways that we’re talking about. A lot of folks just try to rush it, man. They try to rush the sale or whatever it is they’re trying to do and they become too pushy and they’re not leaving with value. That’s where people kind of start going away, looking for other options, because you’re not quite resonating with where their needs are at.

[00:48:40] MB: What would one action item or a piece of homework be that you would give to listeners if they wanted to implement some of the things we’ve talked about today?

[00:48:48] JF: All right. A couple of ones. I would say if you don’t have an email list, definitely start an email list and create a good opt-in freebie to capture those folks. Figure out whatever it is that audiences you have and the intentions they’re seeking. Figure out their pains, their struggles, all that stuff and then try to come up with a good solution to at least poke them a little bit in the very beginning to give them – It’s all value obviously. You’re not trying to give them a little portion and then upsell them on the rest. That’s kind of – That’s not the best way to approach it.

Grow an email list, pair it up with a great valuable piece of content. It could be a good checklist, template, whatever it is, that’s easy to digest. The eBook thing, it’s not the best kind of opt-in freebie. So capture your folks with an email at minimum. If you do have that, set up this retargeting. I would say that’s the lowest barrier to entry to add is to set up simple Facebook retargeting and just bring people back to a landing page or maybe even just back to a sales page on your website if they visited anyone of your pages on your site.

There’s a lot of ways to learn that stuff. It’s just simple Facebook retargeting. You could set that up in – I don’t know, 30 minutes or so, an hour yourself even when learning. Those two things I would say to start with.

[00:50:12] MB: Well, Joe, thank you so much for coming on the show, for digging into all these insights. Lots of great strategies, tactics and tools for people who want to grow their businesses.

[00:50:20] JF: Awesome, Matt. No. It’s been really fun. Thanks for having me.

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October 29, 2019 /Lace Gilger
Career Development, Weapons of Influence
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Simple Career Advice To Get Your Dream Job and Thrive in Any Industry with Alex Grodnik

January 17, 2019 by Lace Gilger in Career Development

In this episode we discuss how to break into careers in tough industries, the skills it takes to succeed in difficult circumstances, how to deal with the difficulty of constant rejection, how to build the “muscle” of determination, a hack for switching your thinking that can make it much easier to face challenging situations and rejection and much more with our guest Alex Grodnik. 

Alex Grodnik is the COO at the fin-tech startup Payclub. Alex holds a finance degree from UCLA Anderson and has spent the past 9 years in investment banking, digital media, business development, and more. He is the host of the “Moving Up” podcast by Wall Street Oasis where he interviews business leaders to learn and share their secrets to success and life.

  • What does it take to get a job at one of the toughest industries in the world 

  • From sending out hundreds of resumes amidst the financial crisis - what does it take to really succeed in finding the career you desire?

  • Always be moving the ball forward - leverage any possible way you can to get into the door 

  • Be dogged, be determined, don’t take no for an answer

  • Unique outcomes, huge life changing moments, don’t come from your first trial or your first failure 

  • How do you deal with the challenges of constant rejection?

  • It’s all about practice and getting reps - getting reps getting rejected and building that muscle of determination 

  • Every no gets you one step closer to a yes 

  • If you’re afraid of something, exposing yourself to it will actually lessen that fear 

  • What’s the conversation rate of the activity you’re working on? It’s probably not 100% - Its probably really close to 5% or 10% 

  • Everyone is so caught up in themselves that they aren’t paying attention to you 

  • You have to expose yourself to discomfort to become stronger and to become anti-fragile 

  • Evolutionarily we’re programed to be risk averse - and yet the risks today are so much lower than they were thousands of years ago - and yet we constantly stay within what’s comfortable to us 

  • The benefits of being rejected - Confidence, Humility, Seeing the world in a positive light 

  • The goal is to reduce the fear of rejection by constantly exposing yourself to it

  •  The risk reward of rejection is massively in favor of getting rejected 

  • Homework: Start small and get rejected now

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Show Notes, Links, & Research

  • [SoS Episode] Stop Being Afraid To Be YOU - The Power of Bold Authenticity with Dr. Aziz Gazipura

  • [SoS Episode] Your Secret Weapon to Becoming Fearless with Jia Jiang

  • [SoS Episode] Three Dangerous Ideas That Are Putting Our Society At Risk with Dr. Jonathan Haidt

  • [SoS Episode] Embracing Discomfort with Matt Bodnar

  • [Book] The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Timothy Ferriss

  • [Podcast] Moving Up

Episode Transcript


[00:00:19.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success. Introducing your host, Matt Bodnar.

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In this episode, we discuss how to break into careers in tough industries, the skills it takes to succeed in difficult circumstances, how to deal with the difficulty of constant rejection, how to build the muscle of determination, a really cool hack for switching your thinking that can make it much easier to face challenging situations and rejection and much more with our guest, Alex Grodnik.

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In our previous episode, we looked at how to live a happy, healthy, successful life from the inside out. We explored what it means to have an integrated brain, looked at lessons across vastly different scientific disciplines and share the accessible, simple strategy you can use in 20 minutes to integrate the most important learnings from scientific research, to create an integrated brain, body and mind, to improve your health happiness well-being and success with our previous guest, Dr. Dan Siegel. If you want to have a healthy happy brain, listen to that episode.

Now for our interview with Alex.

[0:02:59.9] MB: Today, we have another exciting guest on the show, Alex Grodnik. Alex is the COO at the FinTech startup Paylub. He holds a degree in finance from UCLA Anderson. He spent more than nine years in the investment banking industry, digital media, business development and much more. He's the host of the Moving Up podcast by Wall Street Oasis, where he interviews business leaders to learn and share their secrets to success and life. Alex, welcome to the Science of Success.

[0:03:23.4] AG: Thanks so much for having me. Excited to be speaking with you.

[0:03:25.7] MB: Yeah. I think this will be a really interesting conversation and definitely relevant, especially to some of our younger listeners as they're formulating their careers and deciding what they want to do with their lives. I'd love to hear your story and your journey about how you got into the investment banking world and how the challenges around that presented themselves and how you overcame them and then ultimately, what some – of the lessons that came out of that would be.

[0:03:49.4] AG: Yeah. I grew up on the west coast, actually in a small ski town Park City, Utah. I didn't really know any investment bankers. That wasn't a thing that people did in Utah. For whatever reason, I knew that that was what I wanted to do. Maybe it was a prestigious job. There was something inside of me. I always wanted to go work at the top level of high finance. Everyone in my family was entrepreneurs, so no one had ever worked for anybody.

My parents and uncles and stuff would always say, “Oh, yeah. Wouldn't it be so great to go work for Goldman Sachs, or JP Morgan?” They always thought that was the glamorous side of the world. Fine, for my basically my entire childhood, I've always thought, “Okay, I'm going to go to a good school and then I'm going to go get one of these hard-to-get, prestigious banking jobs.”

I left Park City. I went to school in Pennsylvania to a small school, Lehigh University. They had a pretty good track record of placing people into Wall Street. Everything was going according to plan. Then as I was getting ready to graduate, it was also 2009 and the economy was melting down. It was a little bit more difficult to get that banking job than I had originally anticipated that it would be. I mean, our career fair was the day after Bear Stearns collapsed.

It wasn't the best time to be graduating, but this has been one of the through lines of my entire career in life is that you got to face head-on into rejection. That's when the interesting outcomes can happen. I said, “Okay, this is just another hurdle that I can overcome, a challenge.” I said, “Great, let's go see what I can do here.” I can't even remember how many resumes I sent out. I mean, multiple hundreds, and phone calls. I mean, no one was hiring. They didn't even know if their firm was going to be in existence.

I’m trying to get to – my first job was a little bit scary, but I was able to do it. I got a job at JPMorgan in their asset management group and they really beefed up the analyst program. There was a 150 people in 2009, because it turned out that that was a big piece of the bank's revenue in 2009. Everyone wanted to go to the safest bank and that was JPMorgan.

While it wasn't that investment banking job I thought, “Okay, this is great. I'm working for one of the top banks. I'm in their analyst training program. I got three months of training in New York and the job was originally supposed to be in New York.” I said, “This is great. I'll go do this and then I can transition into the investment bank, or I can go get my MBA, whatever it was.” It turned out that that was pretty much the case. I did that job for about two and a half years. I actually had to move to Detroit, because they didn't have a spot in the New York team, and so I moved to Detroit after three months of training.

Then I was able to move out to Los Angeles. I followed my now wife out here who's from LA, so I moved here for love. I did was a three-year analyst program. I did it. As I was finishing it up, I was still really focused on getting that hardcore investment banking job. I had my boss at JPMorgan. He helped make some calls around LA. I got a couple interviews. It just so happened that Houlihan Lokey and they're, what's called financial restructuring group, we can get into what that is, but they had a need. I stopped working at JPMorgan, moved a couple of buildings over in Century City, which is where all the finances in LA and went to work for Houlihan Lokey for about a year and a half; that hardcore analyst training program, working 100-hour plus weeks, getting yelled at at 3:00 in the morning and building pitch decks and Excel models and meeting with CEOs and working on buying and selling businesses; really the exact skill set and experience that I had wanted for my entire life.

Like I said, I did it for a year and a half. It's funny what happened while I was doing that, because that's – I mean, I think I was 23 when I got that job. For 23 years, that was a job I wanted. I got it. Then once I had it, a really strange thing happened. I realized that I don't really like this job. I don't know if this is what I'm meant to be doing. I was pretty lost, because basically everything in my life was always built up to that. That was who I was. If I wasn't going to do that job, who was I? What was I supposed to be doing?

After that, it was a couple years of soul-searching and business school to figure out what was right for me. Now we can get into it, but I'm on this entrepreneurial path and I can talk about how I came to that. Basically, I'm fairly certain, very, very highly certain that this is what's right for me.

[0:08:18.8] MB: There's a lot of themes to unpack from that, especially what happens when you get to the peak and realize you don't necessarily like it there. Before we get into any of that, I want to go all the way back. I want to come back to the trenches of being a senior in college, trying to figure out – you have this career path that you've set out for yourself. I actually had a very similar experience, because I graduated I think the same year as you, right in the midst of the financial crisis. It was really, really tough to find a job.

When you were going through that, what did it take and how did you deal with that uncertainty, the challenge of trying to get a job in one of the toughest industries in the world in the middle of the largest financial crisis in the last 100 years?

[0:08:59.8] AG: Yeah. I didn't know this going into school, or really even coming out of school, but there's what's called target schools. If you want to work in investment banking, there's five or 10 schools that these investment banks recruit at every single year. If you go to one of those schools, great, you've got super lucky. All you have to do is submit a resume. The bank comes to your school, they interview people and you can get the job.

If you don't go to one of those target schools, it is an extreme uphill battle trying to just to get the interview. Then once you get the interview, it's pretty level set. You can sell yourself there and try to get the job. The only interview from non-target school is if they don't hire someone from one of their 10 target schools.

Like I said, I didn't know that. I had no idea how the process worked, and so I just was determined to get one of these jobs. I think that naiveness, naivety, whatever it is, that's required, and you look at startups. You just don't know any better. You don't know how the world works, how things are supposed to be and just put your head down and just hustle and go until it happens for yourself.

Like I said, hundreds and hundreds of e-mails and finding ways to get to people and asking people for introductions and combing through LinkedIn and trying to see who works where and sending them a little personalized e-mail and saying, “Hey, can we grab a call for 15 minutes?” Or someone that went to my school, or someone that – just any type of warm introduction you can get. Then you go through the process. You have an e-mail exchange, you try to get a call. From the call, you try to get an in-person meeting. Then from that in-person meeting, you try to get an interview. From that in-person meeting or interview, you try to get – you're always moving the ball forward. That's what it took.

I had so many calls, so many interviews. It's all just learning and process as you go. I mean, the success rates are not high, Matt. I mean, you're going to get sub 5%. If you're lucky, if you're doing everything, great. 95% of the time you're going to get told no, or just not even responded to. You got to develop a pretty thick skin for it.

[0:10:56.0] MB: Were you at one of those target schools, or did you have to create the job interview from outside of the system?

[0:11:02.5] AG: Yeah. No, Lehigh is a good school, but no it's not a target school from the investment banking perspective. This is like a bunch of the Ivy League schools, University of Pennsylvania probably being the best one. Then out in LA, USC and UCLA are both schools. Yeah. No, I was an outsider. Like I said, it's dog in this, it's hustle, it's finding a way just to not accept no for an answer.

If you have that determinist, you're just not going to hear no, you're not going to accept that no, then hearing no doesn't get you down. My brother, he's an actor out here in LA. I can tell you in his profession, he gets told no more than anyone I ever know. He's had to develop a de-sensitivity to it, because if you let all these nos seep past your skin, you're going to start to question, “Well, is this what I should be doing? Am I even good at this? What if I never get a yes? That's what stops a great outcome.

A great outcome never comes from, “Yeah, I applied for a job. I got a yes. Now my life is easy.” There's no easiness to life. You're going to hear hundreds and hundreds and if not thousands of nos. The unique outcomes, the huge life-changing moments, they don't come from your first trial and success and failure. You need hundreds of failures to hone your pitch and hone your strategy and get to the right place and get to the right people. That's just how it works. That's life, Matt.

[0:12:24.6] MB: I think that's a really critical point, which is this idea that greatness or achievement or whatever the big outcomes you're looking for in your life don't come from the first trial and the first failure, right? It's usually like – it's like 10, 20, 30, a 100 plus failures down the road before you really start to crack through and start to really find those actual opportunities.

[0:12:45.7] AG: Well yeah. I mean, some people probably get lucky and their very first startup they do turns into Facebook. That's not the case. I mean, you look at the founders of Uber and the founders of most startups, they have several unsuccessful – several failures that took years and years of their life and hard-work and probably gray hair and divorces and everything else, before you get to that outsized outcome.

If it was easy to get to that outsized outcome, it happened on your first or second try, then everyone would do it. That's why the rewards are so great. They reward the people that are able to hear no 10,000 times and persist and persist. That's the way that the universe is set up.

[0:13:23.5] MB: How did you cultivate that persistence? How did you deal with the constant rejection and the challenges of just trying to even get an interview, let alone, then succeed in the interview and then succeed in the job, etc.?

[0:13:37.1] AG: Yeah. It's a great question. I've since put a name and a process around what I had at the time. I now refer to it as rejection therapy. During the time, I had no idea what I was doing. It was just practice. It was getting reps, like you would if you were a quarterback of a football team, they talk about you need reps with the offense and you need to see actual game time. As you get that practice, your brain matures and you're able to see things differently and feel differently.

Yeah, in business school I really – I came to the realization of what it was inside of me. At the time, I just I just called it determination and that I just wasn't going to accept no for an answer. I think my dad instilled that idea in me. Like I said, he's been a serial entrepreneur, just failure after failure, went after the next. I mean, now he's had some good successes, but he's 60-years-old, so it took however long, I mean, 40 years of working to get to that point. That's a long time, but he always told me, “You just can't take no for an answer.” If you hear no, that just gets you – I viewed it as every time that that just got me one step closer to a yes. I just learned a little bit and maybe I expanded my network. I kept pushing forward.

Now this process of rejection therapy, which I call it as – it's the same thing as really anything else in life. If you're afraid of something, then exposing yourself to it is going to desensitize yourself to that fear. I have a buddy that I actually worked in banking with. He just took some time off to go travel the world with his fiancé, and they spent a lot of time in South America and they were camping and they were in the forest. He said, “Alex, I was so afraid of spiders before I went on this trip. Now I've lived in the rainforest and I've seen spiders the size of my face, that a little spider back here in LA it doesn't even faze me.”

I thought, “Wow, that's – You're right, that's interesting.” Rejection is no different from spiders, from germs, from whatever you're afraid of. If you expose yourself to being rejected all the time, eventually and not even after that long of time, you're just not going to care about it anymore. You're not going to be afraid of it. You're going to put yourself out there in life and just not be afraid to hear no, which is unique. Most people don't have that.

[0:15:53.4] MB: I love the idea of getting reps in and practicing to build that muscle of dealing with discomfort and rejection.

[0:16:02.0] AG: Yeah. If you look at the conversion rates, like you have a job, you work in sales and you work at a retail store, or a software company or something and you're calling people and selling to people and you're going door-to-door selling stuff. You hear these great stories, like Mark Cuban famously started off his career selling garbage bags door-to-door. I mean, think about how many times the doors were closed at him, like who's buying garbage bags from a door-to-door person?

Think about someone coming to your house and trying to sell you something, some orange cleaner or something, which they came to my house the other day. They probably have to be getting told no. I would think at least 99 out of a 100 times. The willingness to go forward after getting the door closed on you 99 times, that instills something in you. When you get that success, how good does that feel? How great is it? You realize that you're able to do this.

If you look at the conversion rates across industries and from nonprofit, financial services whatever it is, they're all sub 10%. These people are making a hundred calls and getting 90 rejections. What is it that keeps them going? It's that they've had this practice, these repetitions in doing it and they're not afraid of it anymore.

You are at your high school dance and you're standing on the other side of the room of a girl, or a guy and you don't want to go up to them and ask them, that's just because you haven't asked a 100 people. Have you already asked a 100 people to dance and 90 of them have told you no, you would really not care by going up to that 91st person saying, “Hey, do you want to dance?” Because you're just desensitized to the fear of it.

[0:17:36.8] MB: I like that idea as well, the idea that once you understand and I mean, sometimes you may not have perfectly clear data around what it is, but once you understand the conversion rate, it really clarifies things and you realize that in order to get the 10 people to say yes, you need to have 90 people say no. You have to churn through those, your conversion rate on really almost any activity is very rarely going to be a 100%. Yet, so many people often have the expectation that when they do something, if it doesn't work out the first time, or the second time, or the third time, they give up, or they think, “Oh, I can't do that, or I'm not good at that, or that's not for me.”

[0:18:11.8] AG: Right. Back to my brother the actor, he sends e-mails to people and tries to get jobs and coffee and whatever he can. He says, “Alex, yeah Joe Schmo didn't respond to my e-mail.” I say, “Okay, Jake. You sent one e-mail. You need to send two, three, four e-mails and then you can move on.” Just getting told no once and saying, “All right, that's dead,” I mean, that's crazy. You have to persist.

Getting to this rejection therapy framework, what's really cool about it is just like the school dance analogy is the first piece of it is you're going to get a huge amount of confidence. You're going to start to realize that, “Okay, I've got to hit my numbers. I got to be able to get my whatever it is, 50, 60, 70, 80, 90, 99, nos before I get this yes.”

As I'm going through this, probably at no 10, I'm not going to care anymore. I'm just going to have this extreme amount of confidence to go through life and just start asking people for whatever I want. That's one of the cool byproducts of it is is the first one is you get this great confidence to start going through life with. The second piece is this humility. We haven't really discussed this yet, but you start to see the world in a really positive life. This humility comes from the fact that like, think about when I was in business school, I'd be sitting in a class and I think of a question to ask and then I would say, “Oh, well. Is this a good question? What are my classmates going to think about this? Should I raise my hand? Should I put myself out there?”

What you realize is that no one cares about your question. It could be the dumbest question, it could be the smartest question, but everyone is so caught up in thinking about themselves and if they should be asking a question and what they should be doing, that you asking some question in class or the way your hair looks, or what you're doing is no one really cares. Once you start to go through this, yes you get the confidence, but you get the sense of humbleness that like, “Hey, I'm not the center of the universe. I'm just someone here and no one's judging me and caring about me the way that I'm caring about myself.”

Then the last piece of it is I alluded to, is you start to see the world in a positive light, because as you're going through this rejection therapy process, so we can get into how you can actually do it, but as you're looking for no’s, I'm saying,  “Hey, can I have a discount on this? Hey, can I borrow a dollar?” If you get that no, then boom, you got the rejection and you win for the day. You start to get a lot of yess’s. People want to help you. People go out of their way to help you.

As you're going through saying, “Hey, can I have this? Can I have that?” Then you're expecting no, you get a lot of yess’s. You're like, “Wow, the world really is a great place.” People want to help you. There's some pretty cool byproducts of also just wanting to get this – your numbers and hit these rejection therapy marks.

[0:20:58.0] MB: I want to get into some practical strategies for implementing rejection therapy. Before we touch on that, I think I wanted to just echo one of the things that you said, which is when we're following up on trying to get a guest on the show, for example, and oftentimes it is somebody like a big-name guest; Carol Dweck for example, is one of the guests that we'd really wanted to get on the show for a long time. We followed up – I mean, we have a strategy, a minimum strategy that we followed 13 times before we'll give up on a prospect.

I think we followed up like 17 or 18 times with her before we were able to get her on the show. Finding new angles, new ways, whatever it takes, and I would just echo that same thing that if you're giving up after one or two tries, you're missing out on a huge, huge array of opportunities. There's magic on the other side of that rejection and that discomfort once you break through it.

[0:21:46.2] AG: Yeah, absolutely. Sending 17 e-mails you might be thinking, “Oh, am I annoying this person? Is this bad when I'm doing?” I can guarantee you that most of the time, the other person is not thinking about what you're doing. They're busy in their lives and they didn't respond to the first 10 e-mails. When you send them that 11th or whatever is, 12th, 13th, 18th, 17th e-mail they're like, “Oh, yeah. Look how persistent this person is. I like that. Maybe there is something interesting here. Sure, I'll send them a quick note back and we can jump on a call and get this ball moving.”

Sometimes that's just what it takes. You're right, these outcomes on the other side, nothing good happens without hard work. If there's something there, it's worth working hard for. I have the same process. I use an e-mail tool and a calendar tool that keeps me abreast of like, I'll send an e-mail. If I don't get a response in 10 days, I get that e-mail back in my inbox so I can send a follow-up and I can send another follow-up and another follow-up. You just have to keep pushing forward. You have to keep that persistence, because that's – nothing great is ever built without persistence.

[0:22:51.2] MB: It's funny, we had a couple weeks ago, we had Jonathan Hyde on the show and he talked about the importance of being anti-fragile. Even looking at it from a biological perspective, he used the example of peanut allergies in the immune system and basically said peanut allergies are on the rise, because for a long time people didn't introduce their children to peanuts at an early enough age, right? When you try to shelter, when you try to protect yourself, you end up becoming more fragile and weaker. When you expose yourself the things that are difficult, things that make you uncomfortable, that's how you – as you put it Alex, you get those reps in.

The first time, the fifth time, maybe in the 10th time you play with a spider, or make a sales call or whatever, it's really scary. The 100th time, or the 300th time you do it, it's getting pretty easy. The 1000th time you do it, it's boring, right?

[0:23:42.7] AG: Yeah. That's how humans are programmed. We’re programmed to survive. We don't like putting ourselves outside of our comfort zone, because think about how many thousand years ago, you get eaten by a dinosaur, or crushed by a lion. Those things were dangerous. Now that the outcomes are much less severe, but our brains perceive them as the exact same; we like staying inside of our comfort zones and going to see a spider, or touching the thing that has germs all over it, or getting rejected, all those things our brains tell us, “No, don't do that, don't do that, don't do that.”

You have to evolve. You have to change your wiring to not be afraid of those things, because if you do, the outcomes can be so incredible. If you don't and you stay in your house and you don't ask that person out on a date, or you don't ask for more money at your job, or you don't ask to have someone on your podcast 17 times, then you're never going to. It's just not going to happen.

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[0:26:01.1] MB: Let's get into some specific strategies for practicing, getting those reps and practicing, implementing rejection therapy into our lives.

[0:26:10.4] AG: Yeah. Really, the goal of it is very simple. It's to reduce the fear of rejection by exposing yourself to it. We've been through the benefits, the confidence, the humility, seeing the world in a really positive light. Fine, that all sounds great. How do I go do that? I talked about the timeframe for this. The timeframe is you can do it for 30 days. By day five, six, something like that for the first week, it starts to just be formulaic. It's not difficult at all. It doesn't it doesn't take a hundred reps of this.

The way you do it is you got to put yourself out there and you have to ask for things. You have to say, “Hey, can I have a discount when I'm buying my sandwich at lunch?” The funny thing is when you ask for that discount, I can tell you so many times, probably half the time, “Yeah, sure. I can give you 10%.” You’re like, “Wow, I just saved a dollar off my sandwich. Cool.”

Then I still got to go find some other way to get rejected, but can I borrow a dollar? Will you take a picture with me? I've asked, can I play just the first hole on a golf course? I like golf. Can I cut you in line? I mean, I've had a story. I cut a three-hour long line for this ice cream pop-up in LA just by asking. You're still going to get that that no. You end up getting all these yess’s. Basically for 30 days, every day, at least once per day, you got to hear a no. You got to be rejected. That's the way it works. That's the therapy.

[0:27:30.9] MB: Yeah, it's such a great tactic. The funny thing about it – I mean, I've practiced rejection therapy a number of times and it starts to get really fun and exciting. It seems really scary. Then after two or three instances, or a couple days of really building that muscle, it starts to become really fun. As you were talking about, you start to see the world in a completely different way, where there's so much positive optionality. There's so many exciting things that could happen. All you have to do is just find out if it's possible.

[0:27:59.7] AG: Yeah, absolutely. I mean, you start getting all these things too, which is cool. You're getting extra patties on your hamburger to go see the kitchen at a restaurant. I yell to action on a film set. All these cool stuff, but along the way you're also getting those projections and you’re desensitizing yourself to the fear of it. It's a reoccurring cycle. You're getting more and more yess’s and you're gaining and building that confidence to just ask for anything.

The way it works is you start out asking for small things; a high five, to borrow a dollar, whatever it is, but you build up to asking for much more meaningful things in your life; promotion at work, or a raise at work, or for someone to go on a date with you. By asking for a discount on your dinner every night, when the time comes to ask for a raise at work, you have confidence to go do that. When the time comes to ask someone on a date cold at a bar, you can go right up and do it. It's really cool how it works.

The 30-day process, you probably – peaks somewhere around day 14, day 15, and you can just ride that wave, and then it lasts for a little bit after you finished the 30 days. You got to keep it up, because like I know now, I go through periods of this in my life, but I haven't been actively seeking this out recently. I'm probably afraid to go ask for stuff. It's a curve. Definitely, you got to keep practicing, keep getting those reps. Oh, I said deteriorates.

[0:29:29.2] MB: I think it comes back to as well, what you talked about a second ago, which is this idea that for many perspectives, we're evolutionarily programmed to be afraid of lots of different things, right? Because if you eat the wrong berries, or if whatever else from an evolutionary standpoint thousands of years ago, there's so many risks that you constantly have to be aware of that we're very naturally risk-averse. The reality is the risks today are so much lower than they were.

The downside of the vast majority of these things is literally just someone says no, and nothing has changed other than you weren't going to get whatever you were asking for before and they said no, and now you're still not going to get it. That's the disaster scenario. The upside is tremendous. There's just a massive risk reward and yet, the evolutionary programming in our minds can really mess with us and make it challenging to overcome that barrier.

[0:30:21.0] AG: Right. We think that if we ask someone for a hug and they say no, then they're going to rip our heads off. That's the way that our brains work. Not only will they just say no, but literally five seconds after you ask them that, they're going to forget about it. They're not going to come back to you in six months and say, “Hey, remember that time that you were stupid and you asked me for a hug, or you asked that dumb question in a class?” Nobody remembers, or you had a bad hair day, no one remembers any of these things about you, because they're all focused on their lives and their processes and trying to get what they want out of the world. You're totally right. The risk/reward is all screwed up. We have to reprogram our brains to desensitize ourselves to these fears that really don't make sense in today's world.

[0:31:04.4] MB: The beauty of rejection therapy, and this comes back to Josh Waitzkin, who's one of my all-time favorite thinkers and performers. For listeners who aren't familiar, he's a multi time national chess champion, chess master, and then went on to win the World Championship in tai chi push hands, which is a form of martial arts, and wrote this seminal book called The Art of Learning, which integrates these two things together; just phenomenal read, probably one of my all-time favorite books.

He talks about how this skill set of being comfortable with discomfort is really built in the small moments of your life, right? It's not built in the really tense, high-risk situations where you're asking for that promotion, or you're dealing with a tough negotiation. That muscle is cultivated when you're getting those reps in in the small moments every day. Then those big moments come along and that's really when the opportunity to flex that muscle really shines.

[0:31:58.0] AG: Yeah, absolutely. Like I said, you start asking for small things, you move up to big things. For me, I thought this is what I like. I like trying to solve these hard problems, get rejected, find creative ways to go around them and get that yes. That's what feels the best for me. How can I make money off that? How can I start businesses off of that? How can I incorporate that as much as I possibly can into my life?

For me, it meant starting a podcast, starting a FinTech company. Just like you said with your podcast guests, sometimes you have to send 17 e-mails, I've found the same thing. When you get that yes, on my podcast I've had cofounders of Facebook and huge big time venture capitalists come on talk about their lives, their stories, their ups and downs, their key secrets to their success. To get them, it requires so much persistence, e-mail after e-mail after e-mail. They don't respond, why haven't they responded?

You can't incorporate that into, “Oh, this person doesn't want to be on my podcast. This person's busy. I got a convince them. I got to find a creative way. I got to go see them. I got to go meet them. I got to bump into them. I got to go to a conference where they're speaking, get another touch point and get them on my podcast,” because then all of those things that I've done, those creative means to get around the know, culminate in a yes, culminate them coming on my podcast. Lots of people listening to the podcast, me feeling good, that's the best feeling.

The same thing with my startup; we're trying to attack this huge, huge problem. Basically for a startup, the world's against you. You have no money, existing companies don't want you to exist, no one believes what you're talking about doing, until you actually go do it. You have to find a way to go do it with no money, while everyone is rooting against you and doesn't want you to succeed. If you are able to accomplish those things, then yeah, you better believe there's going to be a pretty huge return outcome on the other side of it for you, but most people would give up in the face of all of that adversity. They wouldn't be able to push through and triumph. That's what separates the huge outcomes from just the regular outcomes, the regular lives, if you're able to persist and just not care about getting rejected all day every day.

[0:34:08.2] MB: I think another really important point is that it's not about the people who said no. I mean, we've had hundreds of guests who've said no, or have never responded, or haven't been on the show and it would have been awesome to have them, but the show exists because of all the people who said yes, not because of the people who said no. We've been able to create something really compelling, because even a few people who say yes overtime really adds up to something massive in aggregate.

[0:34:33.1] AG: That's the numbers, that's the reps. Yeah, it's so funny. As I'm sitting here with my podcast sometimes, when I'm speaking with someone that I've wanted to get so badly and they have said they've had so more success in their life and I'm having this immensely interesting and thought-provoking conversation with them, I'm just thinking, “Wow, look what I've accomplished here.”

It's literally the best feeling. You feel so fulfilled when you're able to get to that point, because of the hill that you've had to climb to get there. If you didn't have to climb that hill, then would it mean anything to get those guests, to do those startups, to have those big outcomes in your life?

[0:35:06.9] MB: One of the other tools and I'm curious if you've had any experience with this that I've found to be really helpful around finding that. One of the other ways that I've seen is really useful to cultivate this is to notice moments in your life where you feel uncomfortable and you're pulling back from something and then be able to step into that and say, “You know what? I'm not talking to this person, or not interacting here because I'm feeling uncomfortable.” Recognizing that and then forcing yourself to do it at that moment. I found meditation to be a really useful tool to cultivate the awareness of those moments in your life. Have you had any experience with that?

[0:35:40.8] AG: Yeah. Like I mentioned, when I left investment banking I was a little lost. I didn't know what my path was supposed to be in life. I used the two years of business school to try to figure that out, figure out who I was, what I was meant to be doing in this world. The way that I did that was I just tried stuff that I would never ever have done before. I tried to put myself in the most uncomfortable situations and positions and new things to see who I was, what I was made of, what I liked, what I didn't liked.

I mean, you see a lot of things that you don't like, but I can remember a time when I was in business school, I was on a trip to New York with some buddies. I was Uber and we were driving past Madison Square Park and there was someone there that had a sign. He was just standing in the park and he had a cardboard sign and it said, “Free hugs.” I was looking at that and I said, “I can't think of anything in the world that I would like to do less, than go stand in that park with that guy and give away free hugs to strangers.”

I said, “Guys, hang on. I got to go do this for a minute.” I jumped out of the Uber and I gave that guy a hug and he was a little shady looking, but finally I gave him a hug. Then I stood there with him and gave a couple strangers hugs. I was so uncomfortable in the beginning. Then after two hugs I was like, “Oh, okay. This is no big deal, and I just did something cool. I learned something about myself.” I went and jumped back in the car with my buddies and we went about our day. That was the approach I took to business school was to try to put myself in the most uncomfortable situations and really just to learn about who I was.

[0:37:10.5] MB: You bring up something that I'd love to come back and explore a little bit, which is – and this is a departure from rejection therapy, but what happens when you spend your whole life focused on getting to this point of becoming an investment banker and then you realized that once you're on the mountaintop that you don't like it there?

[0:37:30.5] AG: It was such a strange feeling. Not just for myself. I mean, it was what my identity was. My friends, my family, everyone just knew me as this 100-hour working investment banker, feeling super self-important, feeling my life was valuable and I was doing all these great things. Then I got to the point where I said, “I don't like this. This isn't what I was put on earth to do, and so how do I tell my parents that? How do I tell my friends that? How I tell my girlfriend that? How do I tell myself that?” I didn't know any of those things.

It took a few years to figure it out. For me, really the – I could say the lightbulb moment happened in business school. Business school was a lot about meeting people and having these life-changing experiences and finding yourself. For me, I would say the most impactful moment happened inside of a classroom. I was in this communication, leadership type class one early morning and the professor had us write down on a piece of paper times and we had felt like we were being our authentic self.

He defined authentic self as feeling you're really just firing on all cylinders, using all of your facilities, really being true to who you are. Fine, I took a few minutes and I'm writing down all these instances. Great as I finished the exercise, I'm looking at these four or five things I wrote down and every single one of them was when I was doing something entrepreneurial. I was starting – growing up, I was the lemonade stand kid, selling stuff door-to-door. That was me. All of the times I wrote down, I was doing one of those things.

I was like, “Wow, why have I been chasing these jobs that other people put a tremendous amount of value on that translated to me putting a tremendous amount of value on, these prestigious jobs, this prestige trap of chasing these things? When really, I'm most happy and feeling most fulfilled when I'm selling lemonade, or washing someone's car, or getting a guest to come on my podcast.” That's what's a feeling to me.

Granted those things don't make tons of money in the very beginning, other people don't view them as really life-changing, or that great. They might be working for Goldman Sachs, or JP Morgan, but you got to do what's right for you and not what's right for other people. That was the moment I realized, “Okay, we're done chasing all these jobs that other people put a lot of value on. I'm going to go figure out how to do this for me.” I don't know how to start a business. I haven't really done that. That seems scary. I'm going to go do that. I'm going to start a podcast. I'm going to go find some other buddies, we're going to start a FinTech company.

Yeah, for the past 18 months I've been doing all those things. While I haven't been making the type of money that I was while I worked in an investment banking, the fulfillment that I have and the way that I'm excelling at these jobs and in these roles, it's so much – it's night and day compared to my job in investment banking. As I'm on this path, I'm learning about myself and I'm getting better.

Someone really said something very interesting on my podcast a few weeks ago. They said we're all going to live till were a 100-years-old. I tell my wife that I'm going to live until I’m 200-years-old. Fine, say I’ll live till I'm 100-years-old. How long are we going to be working for? What's a career length going to be? 60 years? 70 years? That's a long time.

To think about a career in a one or two or three-year period of, “Am I doing the right thing? Is this right for me? Am I maximizing? Am I doing what I'm supposed to be doing?” That's insane. If you look at the bigger picture of things, as long as you're learning every day and getting a little bit better every day and making more meaningful, authentic connections every single day that all of those things will pay dividends for you down the line in your career.

Just because I'm not making hundreds of thousands, or millions of dollars today, I'm setting myself up to have those big-time outcomes. Along the way, I'm finding fulfillment. That's the other thing. You can't say, “Oh, I'm going to go do investment banking for five years and be miserable, and then be happy once I'm done with that,” because if you're constantly deferring happiness, it's never going to come. You're never going to have happiness. You got to be happy along the journey. The journey is really everything.

[0:41:40.3] MB: Yeah. I think that's such a great perspective. I'm sure you probably read it as well, but 4-Hour Workweek obviously comes to mind is a book that is really eye-opening and was definitely transformational for me as well when I left The Wall Street world and decided to do something more entrepreneurial.

[0:41:57.3] AG: Yup, absolutely. It's a great book.

[0:41:59.8] MB: For listeners who want to concretely implement some of the ideas we've talked about, I think the answer is probably relatively self-evident, but what would you say, what would you give to them as one piece of homework to get started with some of these ideas?

[0:42:13.2] AG: Just start small. Go ask a friend for a high five, or go ask someone to take a selfie with you. These things literally require nothing. I mean, the risk reward is so minimal. Just the idea – I want to leave with the idea that you're never going to get what you don't ask for. You don't ask for a raise at work, they're not just going to give you a raise. If you don't ask someone 17 times to come on your podcast, they're not going to come on your podcast. If you're not out there taking what you want, asking for what you want, then nothing's ever going to happen for you.

Start small, ask for really miniscule things that don't seem like they're meaningful at all and work your way up very quickly. I might add it goes fast, to asking for meaningful things and having a fulfilled life and getting what you want out of it.

[0:42:59.6] MB: For listeners who want to learn more, who want to be able to find you and your work online, what's the best place for them to do that?

[0:43:06.8] AG: Yeah. I've got the podcast, it's called Moving Up. We have similar conversations, just like to what we're having now. I go into business leaders, a lot of investors and founders and CEO’s, about their journeys, how they got to where they are, what set them apart. You can find the podcast, you can find me alex@wallstreetoasis.com. That's where the podcast lives. Yeah, I would love if anyone would e-mail me and tell me they tried rejection therapy and how it worked for them.

[0:43:35.5] MB: Well Alex, thank you so much for coming on the show, sharing all this knowledge, rejection therapy; such a powerful framework for overcoming discomfort and achieving the goals that you want. Thank you for sharing with the audience.

[0:43:47.0] AG: Thanks so much for having me. This was a lot of fun speaking with you.

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January 17, 2019 /Lace Gilger
Career Development
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Master The Universal Skills To Become Awesome At Any Job And Succeed At Your Work with Pete Mockaitis

June 22, 2017 by Lace Gilger in Focus & Productivity, Career Development

In this episode we discuss how to master the universal skills required to succeed at work, the counter-intuitive truth of taking more responsibility for your own mistakes, flaws, and screw-ups can help you succeed more quickly, we look at how to cultivate and create accountability in your life, challenge yourself to rise to a higher level, and become more vulnerable, we talk about the Benjamin Franklin effect, and much more with Pete Mockaitis.

Pete Mockaitis is an award-winning trainer focusing primarily on helping professionals perform optimally at work. He’s delivered 1-on-1 coaching to over 700 clients across 50 countries, and every Ivy League school. He currently hosts the How to be Awesome at your Job podcast which has listeners in over 150 countries and has been ranked as a top 5 career podcast on iTunes.

We discuss:

  • The importance of reading to improving your knowledge

  • The book that has had the biggest impact on Pete’s life

  • How you can transform yourself into “peak state” so that you don’t feel scared or unmotivated

  • How to master the universal skills required to succeed at work

  • Grit - what it is, why its so important, and how you can cultivate

  • The concept that had the biggest impact on Pete’s life

  • Why its so important to take a hard look at yourself and your own shortcomings

  • What to do when your paralyzed by fear in your job

  • Why Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear

  • How to be a more effective communicator

  • “Answer first communication” and how it can transform how you speak and present

  • How “hypothesis driven testing” can make you a much better communicator

  • Why you should ask: “What things need to be true for this to be a good idea”

  • Numbers galvanize attention and focus for people listening to you

  • If you’re stressed out in your current role, you’re not ready to make the next move up

  • “The time to meet your neighbors is not when your house is on fire”

  • How to cultivate and develop better relationships

  • The power of making the ask and "ask not, have not”

  • The Benjamin Franklin Effect and how it can help you build a powerful network of mentors

  • You can achieve whatever you want in life, if you help enough other people achieve what they want in life

  • How to be courageous

  • How to ask for good feedback and how to give feedback

  • Ask for role models and ideal next steps when asking for feedback

  • Why you should never be afraid to ask for feedback and counterintuitively how demonstrating your weakensses can help you advance in your career

  • The counter intuitive truth of taking MORE responsibility for your own mistakes, flaws, and screw-ups can help you succeed more quickly

  • How to cultivate and create accountability in your life, challenge yourself to rise to a higher level, and become more vulnerable

  • What you should do when your unsatisfied with your career

Thank you so much for listening!

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SHOW NOTES, LINKS, & RESEARCH

  • [Audiobook] Goals by Zig Ziglar

  • [Book] Unlimited Power : The New Science Of Personal Achievement by Anthony Robbins

  • [Podcast] How to be Awesome at Your Job

  • [Website] How to be Awesome at Your Job

  • [Book] Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth

  • [Book] How to Work a Room, 25th Anniversary Edition by Susan RoAne

  • [Audiobook] The Mastermind by Napoleon Hill

Episode Transcript

 [00:00:06.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success with your host, Matt Bodnar.
 
[0:00:12.6] MB: Welcome to The Science of Success. I’m your host, Matt Bodnar. I’m an entrepreneur and investor in Nashville, Tennessee and I’m obsessed with the mindset of success and the psychology of performance. I’ve read hundreds of books, conducted countless hours of research and study and I am going to take you on a journey into the human mind and what makes peak performers tick with the focus on always having our discussion rooted in psychological research and scientific fact, not opinion.
 
In this episode, we discuss how to master the universal skills required to succeed at work. The counterintuitive truth of taking more responsibility for your own mistakes, flaws, and screw-ups and how that can help you succeed more quickly. We look at how to cultivate and create accountability in your life. Challenge yourself to rise to a higher level and become more vulnerable. We talk about the Benjamin Franklin effect, and much more, with our guest; Pete Mockaitis.
 
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In our previous episode, we asked can and should we set aside our emotions to make decisions in huge high-stakes environments. We looked at how to channel and listen to our emotions to make even better decisions. We talked about learning from negative emotions, how historical echoes in her life can create repeated behavior patterns and much more with our guest; Denise Shull. If you want to be able to make the right decision in high-pressure situations, listen to that episode. 
 
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[0:02:43.6] MB: Today, we have another great guest on the show; Pete Mockaitis. Pete is an award-winning trainer focused primarily on helping professionals perform optimally at work. He’s delivered one-on-one coaching to over 700 clients across 50 different countries and every Ivy League school. He currently hosts the How To Be Awesome At Your Job Podcast, which has listeners in over 150 countries and has been ranked as a top-five career podcast on iTunes. 
 
Pete, welcome to The Science of Success. 
 
[0:03:13.5] PM: Thanks, Matt. I’m thrilled to be here. 
 
[0:03:16.3] MB: We’re very excited to have you on here today. For listeners who might not be familiar with you and your podcast, tells about your story. 
 
[0:03:26.2] PM: Oh, my story. Yes. It begins as a youngster in the Danville Public Library in Illinois where I grew up, and my dad would always take me there when I knew I wanted to sort of escape the home, getting a little bit of cabin fever. What parent can resist a child saying, “I want to go to the library, daddy.” And so we went. 
 
I got into a little bit of a groove where I would take an interest in a topic, maybe it's photography, maybe it's chess. I would read numerous books on that topic and suddenly I discovered, “Hey, I’m taking better photos.” “Hey, I am suddenly beating my dad at chess.” That kind of cemented this notion early on about books, that knowledge, make you better at stuff and then I discovered this realm of books associated with success and positive psychology stuff. I'm so digging your show and delighted to be on here. I thought, “Whoa! These are books that just make you better at living life.” 
 
That interest sort of stuck forever, and I went on to college and then strategy consulting at Bain and then I left Bain thinking, “You know? What I really want to do is the people development things.” I've been doing training and coaching, and then over the last year, getting going with the How To Be Awesome At Your Job podcast. 
 
[0:04:46.0] MB: When you were a kid or you’ve been maybe a little bit older than that, what was the book that you stumbled upon or read that kind of set you off on this course and really opened your eyes? 
 
[0:04:58.9] PM: It’s funny, I don’t think I can give credit to just one, but I also remember a lot of it was audio. It was in their audiocassette tapes at the time. You could get the CD or the cassette which libraries are often a little behind with some of the latest stuff. I would have a little boombox cassette tape player strapped into the passenger seat of my Chevrolet Celebrity vehicle that I was driving at the time. I think I remember one about goals from Zig Ziglar and he had that southern accent. He’d talked about goals and I was into it. It’s like, “Yeah, that make a lot of sense. I should write them down. I should focus on some things.” Then we get the Stephen Covey and Tony Robbins and it just kept going. 
 
[0:05:45.9] MB: The old Zig Ziglar stuff, and you can actually still find a bunch of it on Audible. It’s just amazing. You can read his books, but it's so much better. He’s such a fascinating speaker and a really interesting guy. I feel like you really get a lot more out of it. Actually, kind of hearing him speak and tell the stories. 
 
[0:06:04.6] PM: Yes, and his voices is just so musical and fun to listen to. It's like, “What else do you got Zig? Let’s keep it going.”
 
[0:06:13.2] MB: You kind of got in to some of these books and they really opened your eyes. What were some of those initial lessons that you said kind of, “Wow! This is really something that has some meat to it.” 
 
[0:06:26.2] PM: I think one of my favorite lessons came from Tony Robbins in his book Unlimited Power. He talked about your emotions are not so much something that just happened, that you're just a victim of your emotions that you can actually exert a degree of control over how you feel in a given moment by holding your body differently, taking up more space and being confident and shoulders back, straight up instead of compressed, by what you're thinking about or visualizing in terms of if you're think about success or terrible memories of failure, and how you're talking to yourself from, “Let's do this. Bring it on. Oh, yeah!” Tony would smack his chest and all the antiques there, or like, “Oh, this is going to be so lame.” 
 
I think I just used that set of tactics probably hundreds of times in high school or college like, “Oh, I’m kind of tired. I'm kind of bored. This is going to be lame.” It’s like, “Well, I don't feel like feeling that way. It’d be more helpful to be pumped up about this, so I'm going to choose to feel pumped up about this.” I was able to kind of pour myself into a lot of stuff and get better results in those things. 
 
[0:07:37.8] MB: What are some of the — I've been to UPW, one of Tony’s events — 
 
[0:07:42.1] PM: Oh, yeah. The Fire Walker. 
 
[0:07:44.0] MB: Yeah, oh yeah. Exactly. What were some of those — For listeners who might not be familiar, what are some of those activities you can do to kind of shift yourself from a state of being disempowered or upset or unmotivated to sort of high-energy state. I forget the exact term that he uses for it. Pig steak. 
 
[0:08:04.7] PM: Yeah, pig steak. It’s funny. If you check out some of those videos from the events and unleash the power within. I mean, Tony got some notoriety from doing a fire walker like over hot coals. It's funny, when I did that, I remember it’s actually raining a lot, so my feet were chilly and I was like refreshing, like, “Oh, that’s nice. Can I just chill here for a second?” because my feet are freezing as opposed to some mighty mind over matter thing. 
 
His take would be to sort of be active and in motion, so maybe jumping up and down, may pounding your chest. He’s going to say things like, “Make your move,” like a power move and have air gushing past. 
 
If you stumble into a video of this, it looks a little bit nuts, like, “Whoa! What is going on here? Is this some sort of cult activity?” It's not. It's just sort of a series of professional personal development tricks to kind of snap your body into a peak state as he would call it. It doesn't have to be outrageous. It can happen a little bit subtly in terms of, “Oh, I’m slumping forward. I’m going to bring shoulders back and take a breath here. I’m going to stretch my neck out a little bit. I am focusing on what I'm afraid is going to happen from doing this thing. I’m going to shift my focus toward what I'd love to see happen with this thing.” Suddenly, you feel better. 
 
I don't know if this has happened you, Matt, but sometimes I just cannot imagine a conversation and how it might go awry with someone. Then I'm almost like having a debate or a fight in my mind with this imaginary conversation like, “If he says this, then I'm going to say that. But if he comes back at this, I’m like, “Oh, no!” I’m going to come back with that.” Suddenly I’m getting worked up. I’m getting anxious about a conversation that isn’t even real just because I am visualizing. You could just take a breath and say, “Timeout. Let's refocus here.” 
 
[0:10:00.2] MB: Let's dig into your podcast. What is the podcast about and what led you to create it? 
 
[0:10:07.7] PM: Oh, sure thing. The title is How To Be Awesome At Your Job. It’s funny, it started out as a little bit of a tagline talking to some branding design people and some prospective listeners such that it was sharpening the universal skills required to flourish at work. I thought, “That’s kind of catchy. That's what I'm up to. I want to produce a show that’ll be useful for anyone who's interested in flourishing in their career. whether they work in sales or accounting or marketing or finance, as supposed to being focused in on a narrow spot.” 
 
As I discovered, looking at the landscape of podcasts, a lot of the development type stuff — Matt, you probably saw the same thing as you’re lunching yours. Had a focus toward entrepreneurship, side hustle, sort of do your thing, live your dream, escape the cubicle world. I thought, “Well, I think a lot of people like their jobs and find meaning and rewards from it and would just like to do them better and to navigate their career well.” 
 
That actually turned out to be a key point of differentiation, and most of the pitches I reject tend to be like from an entrepreneurial story, like find out how so-and-so grew their business from 1 million to 8 million in just 18 months. It’s like, “That’s really cool, but unless we’re focused on some particular skills that apply to folks with “real or normal jobs”, then it's not quite fit.” 
 
I love to talk to people about things like grit, or purpose, or communication, or feedback, or having a good a presence, developing relationships that are mutually advantageous, and those sorts of things. Whether you're working in an high-tech or mining or in finance or marketing, you’re going to need to know that stuff to do well. 
 
[0:12:02.6] MB: It’s such a point, and I feel like both of our shows to some degree are kind of in a different camp. Some of the pitches we kind of turn away from as well are those same entrepreneurial stories. As an entrepreneur, I’m really interested in them. At the same time, I want to really focus on these deeper lessons and these kind of skills that transcend one particular activity and can really be life skills that can help you across the board live a healthier, happier, more successful life. 
 
[0:12:30.4] PM: I agree. I'm into those, and you did a heck of a job sharing those on my show, thanks again for that, when it comes to decision-making. That's something that everyone's got to do and it's very high leveraged as you’d say. 
 
[0:12:44.5] MB: It’s so important to be high leverage. I’d love to dig in to some of these universal skills. Tell me about the first one you mentioned; grit. I think that's something that's so important. 
 
[0:12:54.7] PM: Grit is just this notion that you're going to stick with something. Sort of maybe it's uncomfortable. Maybe it's unpleasant for a period of time. Grit is just the capacity to step up and endure and work through some of that. 
 
We had a guest; Linda Kaplan Taylor, who spoke about this, and Angela Duckworth is kind of the top thinker on the field right now with her TED talk and such. It’s just sort of an undervalued, sort of a capability when many folks would say, “Well, no. It's about your IQ,” or “It’s about your talent. That's what's going to take you far.” 
 
A lot of the studies suggest that it's the capability to pick yourself up one more time to persist, to learn from your mistakes and adjust. That's really going to get the job done more so than being an exceptionally brilliant, a coder or a salesperson. 
 
[0:13:49.7] MB: That’s something that I’ve fundamentally believe in. We’ve had Carol Dweck on the show in the past. She's one of the other kind of people that is not necessarily directly grit, but the lessons of mindset are so vital and so important to developing the ability to bounce back from failure and not let it define you and learn that it's an okay and necessary part of the journey towards whatever you want to achieve. 
 
[0:14:18.0] PM: It certainly. Another thing that I think is related to that is just the courage required to take a hard look at yourself, your skills, your strengths, your shortcomings and to ask for that feedback and to see what's going well, what’s going not so well, and how can you learn and grow and develop. 
 
One theme that’s really popped up across many guests is a lot of folks in their careers, they’re sort of paralyzed by fear. It's like the elephant is in the room and folks, they’re afraid to maybe challenge a manager or a leader if that idea doesn't quite sit right to them. They’re afraid to ask where they can improve or what it takes to win and grow and flourish within this career. They're afraid to step into some conflict with someone in terms of — They say, “Hey, did you do what you said you were going to do? What happened there?” and to go there. 
 
I think there's just massive value being destroyed because folks there — Their natural kind of lizard brain limbic system survival mechanisms are running the show when, ideally, we would take a breath and go to some places conversationally that may require a bit extra dose of courage but can just unlock tremendous opportunity. 
 
[0:15:39.4] MB: There's a quote, this is one of my favorite quotes, and it’s “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” 
 
[0:15:44.9] PM: Oh, yes. Well said. 
 
[0:15:47.2] MB: I don't. I don’t remember who that quote is from, but that one was always to me just been so powerful. 
 
[0:15:53.3] PM: I buy it. What’s was fascinating is that this fear is not just for folks maybe at the individual contributor level, but also managers and some upper leaders. There is often fear associated with telling an employee a direct report what kinds of behavior needs to change, and so folks just live with having the same your mistakes crop up over and over again and then kind of fixing or redoing work that are direct report has to offer. Instead of just being able to head on, say, “Hey, I want to have a chat about some things that I’ve been noticing and their impact on us and our team,” and just be able to go there. It’s like, “When you do this, these are the implications of that, and are you up for changing that?” 
 
It could be like a two-minute conversation that just illuminates folks like, “Oh, wow! I had no idea,” or “You’re right. I’m sorry. That’s something that's always been a weakness of mine.” Now you're in an empowered place to go to work and see what you can do to develop, and it's a much more positive fun work experience for everybody. 
 
[0:17:02.1] MB: That example really highlights one of the other themes that talked about, which is communication. It’s so important, and I feel like many people sort of take it for granted or don't even really think about it or think that they’re communicating effectively when they’re really really struggling to communicate. What have you see in terms of some the lessons you've drawn about how to be a more effective communicator? 
 
[0:17:25.3] PM: There are many, and I teach a good number of them in my training programs. I'm going to start with some strategy consulting tools, if I may. One piece of that I’m thinking is just about answer first to communication. The difference is whereas most of us tend to communicate in sort of a chronological fashion. Let's just say that I was doing some customer research and exploring some market stuff, and that's part of my job. I might convey what happened from that research by saying, “You know what? I opened up our customer relationship management database and I ran some filters associated with over the last couple of years where most of our sales have been coming from as supposed to where our marketing spend has been flowing. What was kind of Interesting is the ratios are really all over the place in terms of marketing spend, about revenue retrieved. Ultimately, it seems like it's the mom segment that seems to overwhelmingly give us the biggest return on our marketing dollar investment.” 
 
I’ve told a chronological story of what I did, which is natural, because we’re humans and we like to function with stories. The first part of that, you and listeners might have said, “Okay, where are we going with this? Wait, do I care? What’s the story?” As supposed to if it were answer first you would say,” “Overwhelmingly, our marketing spend toward mothers is the most efficient. I say so for three key reasons. First;” and then you sort of lay it out. That just has an effect to just sort of galvanize folk’s attention and they’re kind of locked in. 
 
If you happen to have a super compelling, engaging, intriguing story with a twist or something, that could be kind of fun to build tension in kind of like a cinematic way. Most the time, when you’re just sort of conveying day-in, day-out business insights, that’s a better way to go. Same thing with your — If you got some PowerPoint in the mix, having compelling slide headlines that just say what's the point as supposed to just labeling the data that are there such as overview of marketing spend and consumer reaction. A better headline would read; mothers are the most efficient segment we should market to, and then they go, “Oh! Interesting. Now I am oriented to what I should be looking at,” and then you sort of cut through a lot of the ambiguity of, “Wait, what am I looking for? What's the take away here?” You get right to the heart of matter in a hurry. 
 
[0:19:58.3] MB: It's a focus on kind of getting to the point much more quickly instead of wasting a lot of time and energy with fluff, essentially. 
 
[0:20:07.6] PM: Certainly. Often, if it's if it's vague, what your point is in a set of data, everyone could just sort of look at it and talk around it. Maybe that's interesting if you’re kind of exploring new ways and new directions and trying to spark a kind of intriguing innovation, but if you're just trying to get the sense for, “Hey, how did our call centers perform last month?” Just go ahead and say it, strong and proud and clear, “Our handle time exceeded all expectations over the last month.” “Okay, got it,” and so we can move on from that slide as supposed to everyone leaning in and squinting for a little bit to see, “What are we trying to say here?” 
 
[0:20:50.1] MB: What are some of the other communication strategies that you've seen or havehave kind of uncovered that have been really effective? 
 
[0:20:57.3] PM: Oh, sure thing. I think part of it kind of flows from what I would call sort of hypothesis-driven thinking within your communication so that rather than just sort of taking a look around and seeing what you see, you sort of convey right up front, “If I want to take an action,” so let's say acquire a company or something. You have in a big strategic meeting about that sort of thing. Well than, it’s often more efficient means of communicating if you just sort of layout right up front, “Okay, well, what things need to be true for this to be a good idea?” Then we get really focused on those things. 
 
Thing one is that the target we’re looking at, it's healthy in terms of profit sales, a growth market position. Thing two is that we can get a reasonable price in terms of the acquisition of it. Think three is that it’ll fit nice complementarily with the other things that we’re doing in this business. By doing that right up front, one; you’d use numbers, which tend to galvanize attention. It's wild if say, “There are three key things to discuss.” Pens click and people write, “Oh, okay. 1, 2, 3.” I’m implicating employees to hear what that is, and that you’ve identified that these are like the key drivers upon which this will hinge, like yes, no, good, or bad news on these will determine if it's a go or no go, then you’ve done a great job of more efficiently communicating as well as more efficiently planning how you’re going to go about thinking and researching this move. 
 
[0:22:33.0] MB: I think that's a great point, and I love the question; what things need to be true for this to be a good idea. I've never heard that before, and it’s definitely something I’m going to implement in my own thought process to sort of clarify what we should be focusing on. 
 
[0:22:47.2] PM: It’s so funny, and now it's so baked into how I think and operate about everything. As we speak, I am standing at my sit to stand desk, and before I purchased it I thought, “Okay, geez. That sounds cool, but I don't want part with $600-ish just for a cool toy. I want this to work out.” There are sort of two key phases as like, “What needs to be true in order for this to be true,” and so I thought through it in and laid those things out like, “Well, one. I’d say the cost of this thing would need to be overshadowed by the benefits. That's got to be true. Two; my space has to be able to work for it, to fit it in just nice, just right and nicely. Three; buying this desk will need to be superior to my alternative options from stacking boxes on my existing desk or just remaining seated.” 
 
So that I say, “Okay, if I could prove those three things, that I’ll know that this is a sensible move, and then I think, “Well, how would I go about approving those?” “Well, for the space, just get a tape measure. For the benefits and costs —” You might dig this science of success, “I went deep in terms of looking at studies that showed worker performance with sit to stand desks and what that meant.” I saw some pretty cool things associated with less fatigue and better mood. I thought, “Shocks! That will just free me up to do a little bit more work which will create more than 600 bucks. That's a great benefit exceeded the cost.” 
 
Then just Googling around for other options. I could see how those stacked up and that this one indeed look like the best. I recommended with folks who are trying to develop some of these thought processes. I’d say anytime you're about to make a purchase, stop and go through those steps and say, “What needs to be true for this purchase to be great?” Then I like amazon.com a lot, and it's like my entire order history represents a series of hypothesis-driven thinking moves. It’s like, “Yes, I proved out the key things I needed, and so that's why I have this bamboo diffuser and limit essential oil, or whatever I’ve bought off Amazon. It really adds up. 
 
[0:25:04.4] MB: Yeah, I totally understand that and I’m on the same page. I feel like I have Amazon boxes arriving my house on almost daily basis. 
 
[0:25:13.0] PM: Totally. 
 
[0:25:15.5] MB: It’s just so much more convenient. Anyway, back on communication. One of the best pieces of advice I've ever heard about communication is really simple. Basically, there's three types of communication; no communication, miscommunication, and over-communication. Somebody once told me that piece of advice and it really stuck out to me and kind of helped me think about, “Okay, a lot of times when you think you've told someone something or you think that they know something. It doesn't hurt to kind of go back and tell them again or reach out and over-communicate, because a lot of times things you think you’ve done or think you’ve said, they didn't really hear what you were saying or they didn't quite get it or they missed it or whatever might be. 
 
[0:26:03.1] PM: Yes, that’s an interesting set up in terms of categories because I noticed none of them were a perfect communication. 
 
[0:26:12.4] MB: Yeah, exactly. You’re either on the spectrum of not communicating, miscommunicating, or you’re on the total other end, which is over-communicating. The reality is a lot of times when you — If you don't feel like you're over-communicating, you're probably not communicating enough, and there's probably wires getting crossed, there’s probably things getting missed. That something we really try to drive home on our teams is you have to constantly be over-communicating, sharing information, telling people what you're up to because it's really easy to kind of get lost in your own world and miss out on those key things you needed to find out or tell somebody about. 
 
[0:26:51.6] PM: Absolutely. I think this also comes back to the courage point in terms of the over-communicating in terms of just understanding what is on each person’s plate, and is it acceptable to say, “No,” or, “Well, in order to do that, I’m going to have to give up A, B, C or D. is that worthwhile, and because this is really the focus.” 
 
What often happens instead is that folks just say, “Yes to everything and then balls get dropped, promises become unkept and you’re kind of rolling the dice with, “Did the really important thing get done?” “We hope so.” Whereas if folks could courageously and openly communicate well in terms of, “These are the demands, and this is the capacity we have to meet those demands,” then you're hitting the right stuff. 
 
[0:27:40.6] MB: That's something that I'm absolutely ruthless about is trying to be as efficient as possible — Or sorry. Trying to be as effective as possible. Key distinction in the sort of the Tim Ferris or kind of essentialism way of thinking about it where it's all about, “How can I do the most important things? The most high leveraged things and kind of let go of all of the minutia that's distracting me?” 
 
[0:28:08.3] PM: Oh, absolutely. To the point, there's something that has really been sticking with me. It was a recent guest. It was my buddy Shannon Clark, and she has very quickly risen to be one of the world's foremost experts in sort of usability human factors design for medical devices before 30, which is cool. 
 
Shannon said that what she's been chewing on lately is this notion that if you are stressed out currently in your role or career, then you will not be able to make the next step up. I thought, “Whoa! That’s a strong statement.” The more I think about it, the more I think it is mostly true. It's like, if you're stressed, that suggests that maybe it's minutia or sort of the totality of demands upon your capacity, your time, energy, attention is such that you’re tapped out. You’re just meeting your demands or you're falling slightly behind on those demands, and that means you don't have the capacity to develop to jump to the next level whether that's building the key relationships, whether that's having the space to have a good fun innovative thoughts, whether that's being able to invest in your own learning growth developments which takes a toll in terms of changing and growing on yourself. If all of your time and energy is zapped just kind of meeting the demands of what's in front of you, in a day, well then you’re going to sort of stay there until you come up with a better way. 
 
[0:29:43.0] MB: That kind of makes me think about one of the other skill sets that you talked about was the ability to develop relationships. I think we both probably agree that that's one of the core components of being really successful, whether it’s in your career, whether you’re an entrepreneur, what it might be. That ability and skill set is so vital. 
 
What are some of the lessons that you’ve uncovered around that skill set? 
 
[0:30:11.1] PM: Sure thing. There’re numerous ones. I’d say the first thing is to start now. I had a guest; Michael Watkins, who had a great quip. I don’t know if he made it up, but he said; the time to meet your neighbors is not when your house is on fire. Well said and visceral. I think that's a common mistake is that sometimes we get caught up in doing stuff. You don't take the time to proactively develop those relationships that you’re going to need until it may be a little bit too late. Then it seems inauthentic. It's desperate. You can’s sort of give them maybe the time they need to help you out in a way that works for them and is fun and uplifting. That’d be the first one is to just start quickly. 
 
Another one is that people actually enjoy helping people, and I think sometimes folks think that networking might be a dirty word in the sense that, “Oh, what can I do for them? I don't want to sort of just take take take. I don’t want to be a bother or inconvenience them.” 
 
Often, if you have a specific targeted request, especially one that is easy to fulfill and can make a big impact, people generally love helping out with that. I love it. One time, I introduced two people. It took me three minutes. They’re good friends. They've done business deals together. They were at each other's weddings. It was like, “Cool. I got to make a difference with such a tiny bit of effort and it feels fantastic to do that.” People really do enjoy helping one another, and there's no shame in making that request. 
 
I had a fascinating observation just a couple of weeks ago, and I think it was — I don't know. Maybe I got to write a blog post about this. I had a friend who just posted on Facebook, “Hey, I'm checking out Facebook's algorithm. Can you tell me what time it is right now where you are.” 
 
Okay, that’s not a very interesting thing to put on Facebook; what time is it? Yet, this person received over 100 commented replies where each person sharing what time it was that I thought, “Oh, this is so brilliant, and it's because it's so easy to do to that. It’s like I could help someone out in less than three seconds by noting the time and typing it in here and pushing enter, I'm in. That’d be the other point, is people do — That they like to help, and it's good. 
 
One time, I had someone reach out to me for some advice about consulting. We chatted, and it was a good worthwhile chat, but I noticed he had an extensive notebook. It says with all the people that he reached out to to get advice about consulting careers. I said, “Whoa! Tell me, how many folks like me said sure?” He’s like, “Well, I could take a look for you.” I said, “Yes, please do.” He crunched the numbers he determined that 28% of folks he reached out to completely cold on LinkedIn were willing to say yes and have a short chat with him about what a career in management consulting could be like. 28% cold. Reach out to four people, odds are one of them will help you. That's awesome. 
 
[0:33:36.6] MB: Just shows you the power of being willing to ask and kind of putting yourself out there, making that ask. You missed 100% of the shots you don't take, and so there’s no downside to just saying reaching out to people whether they’re mentors or people you admire or whatever it is and just saying, “Hey, can I get some advice on this? 
 
[0:33:58.5] PM: Absolutely. What’s interesting, and I think they call it the Benjamin Franklin effect, is when you ask for advice and someone offers you advice, they actually tend to become more invested in you and your success. It's like they've got some skin in the game now and they want know how to go, “Is there anything else I could do to help?” 
 
It’s interesting, you’d think by doing a favor for someone, that would make them like you more. In fact, it goes the other way too. Asking for a favor from someone who then does it makes them like you more.
 
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Find Your Dream Job, Pivot Your Career, and Take Smart Risks with Jenny Blake

March 09, 2017 by Lace Gilger in Career Development

In this episode we discuss what to do if you feel like you’re having a mid-life crisis every two years, the importance of staying grounded while you make big changes in your life, how to pivot your career and take “smart risks,” how to discover your strengths, and the right way to make big, exciting changes in your career with Jenny Blake.

Jenny Blake is a bestselling author, career and business strategist. Jenny began in the startup world and went on to work in Training and Career Development at Google before pivoting to pursue her own projects full time. She’s the author of Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One: and has been featured on TED, CNBC, Forbes, US World & News, and more!

We discuss: 

  • What to do if you feel like you’re having a mid-life crisis every two years

  • The importance of learning, growing, and making an impact

  • How to find “pivot points” in your life and what to do when you find them

  • The importance of staying grounded while you pivot and while you make big changes in your life

  • The 4 stages of pivoting & how to take "smart risks”

  • The comfort zone, the panic zone, and the stagnation zone

  • The critical importance of finding your strengths

  • Exercises that help you truly find your strengths

  • The risk of “self assessment” strength tests and what you can do to find your strengths more effectively

  • The critical importance of bolstering your bench

  • “Frentors” and how they can create accountability and help you achieve your goals

  • How finding people who are a few steps ahead of you can help you

  • The “perpetual newbie state” and the critical importance of learning and growing

  • Think of your career like a smartphone, not a ladder

  • Why you don’t have to know what direction you’re heading in next, but you can try many directions and double down on the ones that are working the best

  • The importance of "10% projects” and how you can find them either within your career or in entirely new spaces

  • The “15 for 30” challenge and how you can transform your options

  • Why you should revel in what others reject

  • How someone else’s grunt work can be your area of genius

  • The “3 Es” of Testing a new idea and how they can help you pick the right direction to move in

  • How you can “flip failure”

  • How defining failure can help you overcome the fear of it

  • And much more!

Thank you so much for listening!

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SHOW NOTES, LINKS, & RESEARCH

  • [Book] Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One by Jenny Blake

  • [Website] Pivot Method

  • [Book Site] StrengthsFinder

  • [Personal Site] Jenny Blake

  • [Website] Pivot Coaching

  • [Website] RescueTime

  • [Website] The Momentum Crew

  • [Website] 16 Personalities - Free Personality Test

Episode Transcript

[00:00:06.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Science of Success with your host, Matt Bodnar.

[00:00:12.4] MB: Welcome to The Science of Success. I’m your host, Matt Bodnar. I’m an entrepreneur and investor in Nashville, Tennessee and I’m obsessed with the mindset of success and the psychology of performance. I’ve read hundreds of books, conducted countless hours of research and study and I am going to take you on a journey into the human mind in what makes peak performance tick, with the focus on always having our discussion rooted in psychological research and scientific fact, not opinion.

In this episode, we discuss what to do if you feel like you’re having a midlife crisis every two years. The importance of staying grounded while you make big changes in your life. How to pivot your career and take smart risks, how to discover your strengths and the right way to make big, exciting changes in your career with Jenny Blake.

The science of success continues to grow with more with more than 800,000 downloads. Listeners in over 100 countries, hitting number one in New and Noteworthy and more. I get listener comments and emails all the time asking me, “Matt, how do you organize and remember all this incredible information?” A lot of our listeners are curious about how I keep track of all the incredible knowledge you get from reading hundreds of books, interviewing amazing experts, listening to podcast and more.

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In our previous episode, we talked about emotional intelligence. What is emotional intelligence and why does it matter so much? We looked at how science demonstrates that emotional intelligence matters far more than your IQ and what you can do to develop and improve your EQ as well as how to build the muscle of focus, and much more with Dr. Daniel Goldman. If you want to improve your emotional intelligence, which is highly important, listen to that episode.

[0:02:24.4] MB: Today, we have another amazing guest on the show, Jenny Blake. Jenny is a bestselling author, career and business strategist, she began in the startup world and went on to work in training and career development at Google before pivoting to pursue her own projects full-time. She’s the author of pivot, the only move that matters is your next one and has been featured on Ted, CNBC, Forbes, US world and News and much more.

Jenny, welcome to the science of success.

[0:02:49.0] JB: Matt, thank you so much for having me, it’s great to be here.

[0:02:52.7] MB: Well we’re very excited to have you on here. For listeners who may not be familiar with you and the book, tell us a little bit about kind of your background and your story?

[0:02:59.8] JB: Although I have worked in various forms of career development for the last 10 years, the book really came from feeling like I was going through a quarter life or midlife crises every two years. I remember leaving college early to work at a startup, as you mentioned, after two years, hit a plateau, moved over to Google, almost left Google within two years and ended up pivoting internally to coaching and career development and when I left Google, this is now almost six years ago, but I remember thinking, that was the hardest career decision I probably ever have to make. 

People thought I was crazy. I joked that it was like breaking up with Brad Pitt. “You really think can do better than Google? Why on earth would you try and start your own business let alone moving from san Francisco to New York, the most expensive city in the country at that time? I thought that was tough and I rode the adrenaline of trying to do my own thing for the first year and a half and then once again, hit this pivot point where I wasn’t sure what was next. This time I didn’t have a steady paycheck to fund that exploration. 

As my bank account balance dwindled, pretty much down to zero. I felt like there has got to be a better way and there’s either something really wrong with me that I am destined to never be happy. I mean, if I wasn’t happy at Google where would I be? If I couldn’t make it on my own, what’s left? The other hypothesis was that this midlife, quarter life crisis feeling is actually accelerating and that because of all the changes in our economy with technology and automation and outsourcing, we’re all going to have to get better at it.

As I started to do research and try and solve this for myself, I realized that the latter is really the case. It was only when I started to double down on what had been working for me that I kind of pulled myself out of the business, whirlwind of what’s next and I ended up tripling my income that year and hit six figures I have since.

I kind of saw close-up the mistake that so many of us make when it comes to our career and we put pressure on ourselves. We feel bad, we often take it personally when we hit pivot points but so often a product of our success more than anything else.

That’s what inspired the book and now I have to say, having launched the book, I’m at another pivot point, who knows what’s next but I feel much calmer and clearer amidst that uncertainty, which was really the goal the whole time because none of us can predict the future but I would love for everybody listening to this to feel calmer in the face of that uncertainty.

[0:05:32.5] MB: I’d love to dig into the point you made about kind of having a midlife crisis every couple of years. That’s something that I feel like a lot of millennials, especially, deal with and I’m curious kind of to hear your thoughts on it.

[0:05:44.6] JB: There’s so much shame and blame in the media on millennials. Like, “Oh those millennials, they can’t stay put, they’re job hoppers.” I think that it’s a whole generation and by the way, not just limited to millennials. It’s everybody who is looking and saying, “If I’m not engaged at my work and if I’m not making an impact and I’m not learning and growing then I’m going to be out of a job pretty soon.”

But those kinds of the jobs that are sustainable anymore. I don’t believe that it’s just one generation who Is just entitled to have whatever they want. I think that millennials have seen how tough the job market is and saw many parents and family members get laid off in 2008 and re-orged and now, both sides of the equation. Millennials are asking and again, even people turning 65 are saying, I’m not ready to retire.

You know, work, I want work to have meaning and I call them in the book, not growth individuals, these are people who money is important but it is certainly not everything and when their needs were being, for growth are being met, they turn toward making an impact and so people of all ages and all stages and all bank account balances are saying, how can I learn and grow? How can I truly make an impact? That’s what I want to spend my time doing.

We’re such a huge container for our lives, that’s such a huge part of where we spend our time. I’m all for people. Pivoting to continue learning and growing and making sure that there is a place for them in the world and so of course, there’s this tiny percentage of people who are truly entitled and I also think that can happen at any age but for the most part, I mean, companies are not so loyal anymore either. 

Everybody’s having to adjust to this new landscape where yeah, every few years, by the way, not all pivots have to be huge drastic career changes. Pivot, the way that I wrote the book, this four stage method for mapping what’s next, it can even be within one’s existing role or business but it’s a way to unpack what’s already working, what success looks like and then how to run small experiments to get there.

[0:07:47.8] MB:You talked about the idea of a pivot point? What exactly is a pivot point?

[0:07:51.9] JB: I define a pivot point as that recognition that you’re ready for change. Sometimes it starts as a small whisper to something in your gut saying, “I think there’s more out there for you,” and it can be kind of scary to first hear that call. If we don’t pay attention, the signs get louder and louder and often will manifest physically.

I have a friend who is getting panic attacks every time she got off the subway on her way to work. A pivot point is, the reason I kind of hijack to the term pivot from Silicon Valley because I really wanted something that was judgment neutral and gender neutral that a pivot point is not… it doesn’t have to be a crisis you know? Up till now, that’s the only language that we’ve really had for that existential searching of who am I and what do I really want and what’s next?

I want to move it out of the crisis zone because it is happening more often and so pivot point is a way to just describe, “Okay, I’ve kind of outgrown whatever it is that I was doing previously. There’s nothing wrong with that?”There’s nothing wrong with you.

Now, it’s just a matter of looking how can you shift very methodically from that point into a new related direction or into growing again within your current role or business.

[0:09:09.0] MB: You touched on the — or you mentioned a four stage method that you described in the book, I’d love to kind of break out each of those components and talk about them.

[0:09:18.2] JB: Sure, yeah. The metaphor that came to me and this was really when I was figuring out how the heck I was going to pay rent, in two weeks, this was when all my money had kind of run dry is that of a basketball player. When a basketball player stops dribbling, they ground down in their plant foot and then they scan for passing options with their pivot foot.

The mistake I had been making was running around the basketball court like a crazy person, there was nothing grounding me, there was nothing holding me in place. I was so focused on what I didn’t want, what I didn’t know, what I didn’t have, what wasn’t working. None of that propelled me forward. 

So, like the basketball player, the first stage is planned. What’s already working, what are your known variables? What are your biggest strengths, what are your values and what does success look like a year from now, even if you don‘t know exact specifics, how do you want to feel every day?

What is your ideal average day look like? Who would you love to be surrounded by? What kind of impact do you want to be making? These are questions that you can start to unravel. Again, even if you don’t know all the specifics, now, from that grounded place, it’s much more effective and efficient when you move into scanning.

The scan stage is about people’s skills and projects that are based on what you already identified and planned, what’s already working. From then, from there, the third stage, pilot is like passing the ball around the court, seeing where you have the best opportunity to make a shot and a good career pilot will help you answer three E’s.

One, do I enjoy this new area, two, can I become an expert at it? And three, is there room to expand in the market? A pilot is a Google people often hear about the 10 and 20% projects. There really 110, 120%, they’re kind of tacked on to whatever we were already doing but those were things that we were passionate about, have an interest in wanted to experiment with and if those pilots were successful, they often for many people turned into full time roles within the company.

You can repeat that plot process, plant skin pilot over and over for months if not years, be perfectly satisfied and then every now and then, there’s the fourth stage launch which is about going all in on a new direction.

If you’re going to move teams at work or quit your job and move to a new company or start your own business, that’s the launch moment and ideally, pivot is about reducing risk until you get to that pint. Nowhere in the book do I say take great leaps, leap of faith, this isn’t about that, pivot is for people who are more pragmatic and it’s not to say that people haven’t done great things when making what I call 180’s like if I had quit Google to become a full time yoga teacher, that’s more of a 180. 

The pivot method is really a way to reduce risk and learn through those small experiments, doubling back on your strengths, continuing that loop until you feel really clear and clear enough in your launch decision. Because we can never remove all uncertainty and that’s what makes those big moves very exciting. We can feel more clear and confident going into them.

[0:12:26.1] MB: I think the mistake that so many people make is taking this giant leaps or thinking that it’s necessary to kind of take this huge leap without you risking it first.

[0:12:37.4] JB: Yeah, absolutely. In the book, every time I use the word risk, I put the word “smart” in front of it, smart risks. Because, when we try and pivot too sharply, too drastically from where we are right now, that’s what tends to send us in to what I call the panic zone.

We have our comfort zone, stretch zone and panic zone and if we’re really not making any change, stagnation zone. Where people tend to get tripped up is they pick moves or next steps that are in their panic zone. They end up feeling paralyzed and it’s a feeling of a lot of compare and despair or not taking action, analysis paralysis, these terms you’ve probably all heard before. 

That’s the signal that there’s too much risk. How can you break your next steps down — even exploratory steps —  much smaller so that you actually feel, even if there’s still little edgy, they’re within your stretch zones. They feel doable and so keep breaking them down until yeah, it’s no longer that untested risk, like you mentioned.

[0:13:39.4] MB: All the different stages obviously has a lot to kind of unpack, I’d love to start maybe some of the early stages. One of the ideas you talk about is starting from your strengths, I’d love to explore that.

[0:13:51.5] JB: This is the foundation of so much positive psychology movement, there’s the book, Strength Finder 2.0 and assessment that goes with it. I can only just say for me that as a solopreneur, self-employed, it just didn’t work when I was looking too far outside myself or too far down the road.

At projects that would have taken six months to get off the ground. I needed to, in order to get myself out of the pickle I was in, I needed to really look at what was already working in that moment and what my strengths were.

This is my second book, my first book, Life After College, came out in 2011. I had a book, I had speaking engagements, I had a coaching clients and I had been ignoring a lot of those strengths because I was not wanting to talk about life after college for the rest of my career or life after Google, I become known on podcast as the girl who left things. I didn’t know what I was going toward. 

It wasn’t until I started to call my former coaching clients and say, what are you looking for help with? What can I create for you? I had an idea for a program called Brilliance Barter, which was kind of a group private community mastermind, giving and receiving feedback and those previous clients who had already hired me in the past were instrumental in giving feedback.

Now it’s the program called Momentum, it has shifted, but launching that is what helped me regain traction. That came from people who had already hired me and things I was already good at. That then gave me the freedom and the pivot runway to take on longer term projects like writing a book, which took three years from start to finish.

[0:15:33.5] MB: For somebody who is listening and may not have a good idea. How do we find our strengths?

[0:15:40.0] JB: I do recommend that book, Strength Finder 2.0, I would also look at, it sounds cliché and you probably all heard it before but truly, what you like to do as a kid and in the book, I have an exercise that breaks it down into a table of if you can remember or ask your parents, let’s say, preschool to five or six or seven years old. Then let’s say eight years old to middle school. Okay, then what did you like in high school?

Because the games and projects will probably have shifted and obviously grown in sophistication but there are common threads throughout. For example, I used to play business a lot as a kid and I used to play school. My poor younger brother, I would make him worksheets and wanted him to teach him what I was learning and want him to feel like get ahead of his class based on what I was learning. 

That’s not much different than what I do now. Speaking, I read a ton of books and then I make worksheets and templates that I post online and make it in to the book to help people figure things out and I think everybody can reverse engineer their own strengths and also, when do you feel the most in the zone? Within your current work, even if it’s only 10% of the time, when does time fly? What do people most often come to you for advice on? That’s often very instructive too, whether personally or professionally. That’s just what they come to you for but what they end up leaving with beyond what they sought you out for.

Sometimes let’s say people will come to me for advice and I give advice but then they’ll often say, “Thank you, I always feel so optimistic after I talk to you.” Or they’ll says some adjective that I might not have thought of was a strength and so, be an observer in your own life over this next weeks and months and it will start to come together. It’s not that you have to know everything but you can start to take those clues and then figure out, “Okay, what would feel really exciting? What experiments could I setup that don’t involve betting the farm, that don’t involve me trying to make a drastic move but it’s just maybe even taking a class that’s interesting?”

[0:17:52.3] MB: I love the advice to talk to other people and kind of get their perspective because the thing that I found and I’ve taken a lot of these strength finders and all the stuff. I feel like self-assessments always kind of miss a piece of the puzzle and when you get the perspective of someone else or maybe multiple other people, they can shine a light on things that you don’t even realize that you’re good at.

[0:18:13.0] JB: Yeah, absolutely. Definitely.

[0:18:14.7] MB: Another concept that you touch on is the idea of bolstering your bench. Tell me a little bit about that?

[0:18:19.9] JB: This is the people side of the equation and even the term networking kind of gives people hives. I know people don’t like it and so, what the bolster your bench section of the book is really about, how can you create a supportive network that feels good, it’s not about networking but what are the people’s strategies that have worked for me and for others?

A bit one is debunking the idea that you need to have a mentor. I find that very awkward but try and ask a stranger, “Will you be my mentor?” Often people will offer, if they want to play that role for you. I’m a big proponent of “friendtors”, people who are at your level, who you can setup shared accountability with and shared support. It’s okay if they don’t know more than you, it’s about checking in, sharing wins, setting up regular calls. 

A friend and I do 30, 30, 30 calls. We catch up for 30 minutes and then we’ll do 30 minutes of brainstorming for his business and then 30 minutes for mine. Another friend and I have, accountability email threads. We just start an email threat at the beginning of the month and we check in about what our goals are and what we’re getting done as we go.

Then there’s another technique I talked about in the book drafting, which is about finding people who are a few steps ahead in whatever it is that you want to do. Either shadowing or apprenticing or if your skills are at such a level, you can say, “If you have any overflow work that you can’t handle, I’d be happy to help out.”

Finding people who you can learn from, think about the Tour de France or birds flying in formation where they’re kind of in the lead and so you get reduced tail wind but you can still — there’s still benefit to both of you, it’s not about leeching off of another person but there’s benefit to both of you about being in the same ecosystem. You can draft behind people you’ve never met. 

Everybody who is listening to your podcast, Matt, it’s a form of drafting, of learning from other people even from afar. Through podcast and books and I’ve learned so much from people who I may never meet in real life and some of that is very brass tax, tactical business stuff and other’s people I admire who it doesn’t seem like their work relates to mine but then there are clues.

For example, Amy Schumer. You know, I don’t ever see myself being a standup comedian but there are things about her and her style and her work ethic and her projects that really resonate. What can I learn? What can I unpack from that?

[0:20:52.8] MB: I’m curious, what did you learn from Amy Schumer?

[0:20:55.7] JB: Well, humor is important to me. When I’m speaking, I do always like to make people life and I realize that I feel the best when I can come down from a talk and I’ve like, not just inspired people and hopefully empower them and given them practical tips but made them laugh a little bit.

I love Amy Schumer’s honesty. I love how just authentic she is of telling it like it is and kind of revealing herself for the service of shared laughter and understanding. Even though I’m not a comedian, it’s also important to me to just be open, be vulnerable, really say what’s up.

I think Truth with a capital T is very helpful for people to hear and it’s the people that I’m the most drawn to. Then I just respect her work ethic, she is a hustler, she’s producing so much, so it’s been really fun to see her career just rise and thrive.

[0:21:54.5] MB: On the subject of learning, which you touched on a little bit, one of the things you mentioned is the idea of learning how to learn and we talked a little bit about kind of the importance of reading and I think everybody listening to the show knows how important it is to read widely and study and learn from other people but I’m curious when you kind of talk about the idea of learning how to learn, what does that mean to you?

[0:22:15.5] JB: This is about what Kevin Kelly, he’s the cofounder of Wired and I interviewed him for my Pivot podcast. He calls it the “perpetual newbie state” that there’s no end to learning. Some would say are purpose on this planet is to learn and grow that’s why we’re here.

Especially now with how rapidly the economy is changing in technology, we do best to be in a perpetual newbie state where we don’t know what’s coming down the pike and so to learn how to learn, to really be open to learning new things and be willing to apply yourself to learning new things, to be willing to be bad at something for a while until you get the hang of it is really critical. This is a key skill to stay relevant and to stay engaged. 

He shares the example of even our phones when new update gets pushed, we don’t always know exactly how to use it and we have to relearn, even we think we know, “Oh yeah, I know how to use my phone.” But the apps change their interface very regularly with the OS upgrades pretty regularly. Even that is a dynamic entity now. Much more so than it ever has been in the past.

[0:23:25.7] MB: One of the interesting things about kind of the idea of focusing on learning new things, I think this is actually something Kevin might have talked about in the past is kind of how do you strike that balance between focusing in on what you're already good at and really leveraging that to thrive versus carving out time and energy to improve in areas or learn new things. How do you balance those two things?

[0:23:50.5] JB: I think just like you said, it’s not all or nothing and doesn’t have to be one or the other. I’m really big on thinking of your career like a smart phone, not a ladder. It’s not this linear thing where you just climb from step to step. Your smart phone, your education and your upbringing is your out of the box model and then it’s up to you to download apps for different skills, experiences, interests.

Some of our apps are big ones like our day job or running my own business but then within that, there are all this smaller apps, things I’m learning and doing, podcasting for me was an app that I thought, “Oh okay, I’ll just do this as a side project to make the book more dynamic so when the book comes out, people can also hear audio interviews.” 

It turned out, I started in a really scrappy way, just recording using my iPhone headphones and uploading to Sound Cloud. It wasn’t an iTunes for a year that I was doing it. Then I realized, “I really love this.” It’s so joyful to get to talk to some of my author heroes and experiment with this format and going back to something I love to do as a kid, I was always making video broadcasts, I liked doing things like that and so it was so joyful and I taught myself Garage Band, I taught myself audio editing.

By no means is it perfect but that’s not the goal, I really try and just get things out even if it’s an 80% good enough state and because of how much fun I was having, I started investing more and more into it. That’s part of how to know, how to spend one’s time is you don’t upfront but if you think about pilots to switch metaphors for a moment like race horses at the Kentucky derby, you just kind of say go and you see which one of your pilots pulls out ahead.

Podcasting was one that pulled out ahead for me and I had no idea but then once you see that, you feel it happening with that sense of joy and excitement and motivation, then you can look, “Okay, well how can I grow even further in this area?”

[0:25:46.8] MB: I think that’s really the fundamental genius of this whole framework is kind of the idea that instead of taking this massive leaps of faith, you can put out a lot of feelers and kind of small projects and from there, really find which ones are working the best and then double down on those or triple down on those and really invest in them.

[0:26:07.9] JB: Yeah, exactly. Then again, taking the pressure off that we’re supposed to know this upfront. I think a lot of people feel hesitant that, “Oh no, I’m looking for something new,” and you don’t know what it is and then we immediately beat ourselves up. I know I did.

I felt I wasted a lot of time wondering, “Am I delusional, is the jig up? Am I done with entrepreneurship, were all the people who told me I was crazy, were they right and was my inner critic right that because I don’t know what’s next, I shouldn’t be doing this?” Really, it was just a matter of separating those two things.

It’s okay that you’re at a pivot point and then not to know what’s next. To be in the phase of setting up several experiments and then looking, okay, which one’s going to circle back to and double down on?

[0:26:56.1] MB: You talk about kind of carving out a portion of your time for this new test projects. I’d love to explore that idea a little bit more.

[0:27:04.5] JB: Yeah, what would be most helpful?

[0:27:06.4] MB: I guess just kind of digging in to the concept of for somebody let’s say that’s in a full-time job right now, how much time should they be spending or how are they going to figure out how to allocate their time in terms of this kind of test projects versus their existing day job?

[0:27:24.4] JB: Yeah, well within a day job is two options. One is you start experimenting with something on the side or two, as you pitch a 10% project at work. When I was at Google, when I was very fairly in the company, I started an office book club. Once again, I love books and I love interesting conversation about this books, that was really fun and it had nothing to do with my job. Kind of, I was on a training team so it was helpful for us to be well read. That was really fun and I didn’t need it to be anything more than that. 

Sometimes we expect our “day job” to provide this ultimate fulfillment and self-actualization and maybe it’s good enough and if you just add one little app or 10% sort of team or interest thing that you do at work, that’s good enough. I also did coach training on nights and weekends in 2008. Later, when a career development team was formed, there was not one at the time that I did that. My manager didn’t want to approve it at first and I really fought for it. 

But a year later when a career development team was formed, I was perfectly positioned to move on to it because I had downloaded that app of coach training. On my own time. I had also started a 10% team with a  group of other people wanting to make drop in coaching as widely available to Googlers as on the side. Drop in coaching to talk about thing that are really important. 

Now, that program, Career Guru, is still around 10 years later, it grew into something where there’s a full time person managing it, my friend Becky and it’s on the cover of my book. Who could have known that that 10% project would have evolved into what it is now. For people who don’t want to do something like that at work then it’s about just not making it all or nothing, once again, as far as your time.

I’ve been really amazed by the progress I can make when I dedicate 15 minutes today to something or one hour a week. When I was working full-time and working on my blog and book on the side, I was often only able to carve out about three to four hours every Sunday afternoon because I was too tired during the week and that was it. I started the Life After College blog in 2005 and it’s still around today.

It’s now 11 years later just from making it work on the side and I’ve done writing the second book, Pivot, you would think it’s easier on being self-employed. But actually it was a challenge because I still had to pay the bills. This time I didn’t — although I technically had more time and more freedom to allocate my time. I really had to stay focused on earning income. 

It’s not like I had just free reign that gloriously sit and drink tea and write all day. Actually, in the end, I think those creative constraints help us be more motivated and more productive with the time that we do have. My book really got done — I use Rescue Time, the extension for the computer and when I looked backwards, really, on average, it got done with about an hour a day of work. 

Now a lot of days I wasn’t able to touch it at all. Some days it was just 20 minutes in the morning and then in some weekends I would power through and do two 10 hour days. But those weren’t as often as one might think. So I would encourage everybody listening, do your own 15 — I call it 15 for 30 challenge. 15 minutes a day for 30 days and you will be so shocked at how much you actually end up accomplishing at the end of that time.

[0:30:52.8] MB: I think that’s a great piece of advice, and again, it doesn’t have to be something major. It can be really simple just 15 minutes a day and, you know, after a month’s work, you can really put together something fascinating.

One of the things you touched on is the concept of reveling and what other reject. I’d love to explore that.

[0:31:10.7] JB: Yeah, this is about the story, someone named Amy who was doing social media and PR in her company. No, she wasn’t doing social media but it was a public relations company and nobody wanted the social media accounts, working with bloggers and so she said, “I’ll do it.”

As we all no know, blogging, Instagram, Twitter, these things have become so huge as far as media strategy and so she was then quickly promoted because she took on this work that nobody wanted. I think it can be really interesting to know that somebody else’s grunt work is your zone of genius.

I’ll give an example. My coworker Becky, anyone who has done Myers Briggs, you’ll know the last letter of a Myers Briggs profiles either a J or a P. P’s tend to be more spontaneous, free roaming, they thrive on deadlines, J’s are super organized, they love to do lists, they are very structured. It’s usually really good if a J and a P can partner up. Because the P’s can be a pretty creative and far ranging and the J’s help create structures. 

My coworker Becky and I, we’ve worked together since the one who is still at Google and she just calls me her J, and I say in the back of the book, I love being the J to her P. When we were doing projects together, I love being the one to create the notes or create the work, the model that we’re going to use. Ways in my brain works about conceptualizing complex things, her just doesn’t do. The work that she doesn’t like, I love and it’s like candy to me to get to do. If you can find those things that other people reject but you’re secretly great at. That’s a really good thing.

Yeah, for me, I love spreadsheets and templates, who knew? I create spreadsheets for complex things kind of life questions and I’ll create models. That’s a really nuanced way to think about strengths, but I encourage you to kind of look for those hidden pockets and just even on a macro level to know that the works someone else hates is going to be the work you love. Keep looking or those pockets.

[0:33:24.9] MB: Let’s dig into the concept of the three E’s that you talked about earlier. You touched on it briefly, but I’m curious, what are those and how did those apply to what we’ve been talking about?

[0:33:35.1] JB: The three E’s are linear testing a new direction or a pilot, do you enjoy it, can you become an expert at it and is there room to expand either within your company or within the marketplace? Think about a pilot, it’s like a test episode of a TV show. It’s one episode meant to help a network assess whether they should pick it up for the full series or not. 

In order for you to know what these experiments, if they’re working or not, it’s the three E’s that are going to help you assess. When I did coach training, did I enjoy it? 100%. I loved it. Nothing made me become more alive. I had been doing AdWords product training and I really enjoyed the aspect of working with people but I didn’t want to talk about how to place analytics tracking code for the rest of my career. I loved it. 

Could I become an expert at it? We never really know but is this something you’re naturally good at and drawn to and how is it going so far? It took me years to really find my sea legs as a coach, but it was always felt worth doing and worth investing in. Then expansion; is there room to expand? Again, it’s not that you have to know 100% but yes, there were opportunities for me to do coaching and pitch coaching and create coaching programs within Google and then when I pivoted, when I left Google, I was doing coaching and career development within the company and then pivoted to do it in my own business.

Coaching has been the most steady “bridge income” that I’ve had since. So in almost six years of running my business, the one thing that has most consistently paid the bills is one-on-one coaching. Clearly there was room, both within the broader marketplace but me personally in my career in my business, to do even more of that. It’s not to say that I only want to do coaching. It’s one of many apps on my phone amidst speaking and my private Momentum community and the podcast and the books. It’s certainly a fulfilling one. 

That’s always what I’m trying to understand and if you’re an entrepreneur or even a side hustler, it’s fun to just be piloting different streams of income or pricing models. For so long I tried to run my business like an online marketer. This people had seen really successful doing online courses and programs and while I love facilitating, I hated the launch process. I changed my business model because of it, because of how I felt running those experiments.
 
[0:36:03.0] MB: You talk about the idea and the book of flipping failure. I’d love to dig into that.

[0:36:07.9] JB: Yeah, a lot of people are afraid to pivot because there is this fear of failure, “What if I fail?” Really. Ask yourself, “What does failure mean to you?” I’m not saying that like a rhetorical question, there’s no such thing. What does it mean? For some people failure is, “I make the wrong move and I regret it.” Or, “I make a move or I quit my job and then I run out of money and then I have to go find another job.”

If you follow most failure scenarios, they’re never a failure. Decisions are data, they always move us forward, nobody I interviewed regretted their launch decision, regretted their pivot even when it didn’t work out as planned, even when they had to pivot again a year or two later.

So many people got pivoted, things changed that were beyond their control and still, for high net growth individuals, we pretty much almost always see this for the blessings in disguise that they are, that, “I’m actually so glad this happened, I learned so much,” and so if we start to unpack failure and then whatever remnants of your fear of failure are left and are real, you can create contingency plans and worst case scenario plans for. 

If it really is that, you know, you lose all your money and your destitute and you have to move back home. Okay, well are you willing to move back home and if not, what benchmarks would you put in place to correct course before that has to happen? In doing that, we separate what are just internal concerns versus external kind of process based steps that we can actually take. 

So internal concerns of I’m not cut out for this, “I’m too young, I’m too old, I’m too dumb, I’m too smart.” I mean, I’ve heard them all myself and those we can usually keep going, acknowledge the fear. Career change in general tends to bring up a lot of fear because it seems to threaten our ability to provide for our self in our most basic needs on Maslow’s hierarchy food, clothing and shelter. But if we can just say, “Okay, I guess, I’m afraid, yes I am feeling insecure, yes, I’m unsure,” and keep taking those small steps forward anyway, that’s success. 

[0:38:19.4] MB: One of the things you mentioned there is the idea of people kind of getting pivoted, which I’m assuming means sort of the world changes despite the fact that you didn’t necessarily want the change. I think that’s another really important point of this whole kind of methodology is that in many cases, often yes, millennials or people who want to kind of explore new opportunities can benefit from this and being proactive about it. But oftentimes, the world is changing very rapidly and learning the skill set and this framework can be incredibly valuable in the face of so much rapid change.

[0:38:54.5] JB: Definitely. Again, just not take it personally that I saw so many people who their company got acquired and then they were fired or then the company collapsed. There is just so much going on although in those moments, if you get pivoted, it’s not a choice that you proactively made, of course, it’s very shocking. So just allowing that, having self-compassion that it’s okay that this happened and processing. But then, you know, once you have done some processing to really say okay, where can I go from here?

One of my favorite coaching exercises is, if you were the main character in a movie, why is this scene, this moment happening right now in this exact way to you? Why are this exact people involved, this exact timing? What are you meant to learn and do differently on the other side or to get to the other side?

If we see ourselves, that’s such an empowering question because it’s like life isn’t just happening to me. So many self-help gurus use this line but “life isn’t happening to me, it’s happening for me”. How can you see those moments of unexpected change as actually in your best interest and for your highest evolution and learning and growth.

[0:40:09.0] MB: For someone who is listening and wants to concretely implement some of this ideas, what’s kind of one piece of homework you would give for listeners to get started?

[0:40:16.9] JB: based on everything we talked about, what jumped out for you? What little sparks of interest are excitement were there? What are you wildly curious about? And even if it’s nothing that I specifically said, just one idea that it jogged or sparked for you.

The two questions I love to ask as far as really getting practical are what’s one small step you can take this week and what one next step would make the biggest impact? Often, those are two different things. But the one little tiny thing that you can do right after you stop listening to this podcast and then one thing that would really make a big impact.

If bonus, the vision, the one year vision is one of the most helpful parts of a pivot and the one so many people skip. Really sit with what does success look like a year from now? Get down all the known variables that you can even if there are still plenty of unknowns left. That’s going to be your guiding light and motivate you when you hit bumps in the road.

[0:41:17.3] MB: Where can people find you and the book online?

[0:41:21.0] JB: That’s at pivotmethod.com and I have a podcast called The Pivot Podcast. I also have a blog at jennyblake.me and from there, they’ll point you everywhere, Momentum from the Pivot Method website, if you go to /toolkit, there’s a ton of free resources, /momentum is the private community that I mentioned, and then for anybody who wants private one-on-one pivot coaching, I have an amazing team of six pivot coaches and we do two session jump starts. So you can sign up with any of them to just get two sessions in with email in between and really kind of light the fire under your next move.

[0:41:57.7] MB: Well Jenny, thank you so much for being on the show. I know listeners are really going to get a lot out of this and I think it’s a really important framework for anybody who is thinking about “what’s my next move, what direction do I want to go in?” This is a great methodology and one that is very worthwhile to implement.

[0:42:13.9] JB: Awesome. Thank you so much, Matt, for having me and big thanks to everybody for who’s here listening.

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March 09, 2017 /Lace Gilger
Career Development
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Why You Shouldn’t Follow Your Passion & The Rare Value of Deep Work with Cal Newport

December 29, 2016 by Lace Gilger in Career Development, Focus & Productivity

In this episode we discuss why you should not follow your passion, the two biggest pitfalls people struggle with trying to build a career they love, the incredible importance of DEEP WORK, why deep work is so valuable and how we can cultivate it, as well as how you can structure your lifestyle to attain autonomy and mastery with Cal Newport.

Cal is an Associate Professor of Computer Science at Georgetown University, He previously earned his Ph.D. from MIT in 2009. Cal has authored several bestselling books including “So Good They Can’t Ignore You” and “Deep Work” both of which have received deep praise from The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Economist, and many more. 

If you’re looking for some guidance as you plan your new year, listen to this episode! 

We discuss:

  • Why following your passion is bad advice

  • The 2 fundamental flaws of the idea that you should follow your passion

  • There’s a huge difference between what makes you enjoy a hobby and what makes you enjoy a profession

  • The core components of having a happy professional life

  • If we don't follow our passions, how do we end up with a job we are passionate about?

  • The simple, but not easy, path to having a passionate career

  • Importance of building up rare and valuable skills by pursuing an apprecenticeship phase

  • How to cultivate skills to attain leverage to get the autonomy and mastery that will make your work meaningful

  • The right question you should ask if you are unsatisfied with your job

  • The 2 biggest pitfalls people run into trying to find and build a career they are passionate about

  • Why you need career capital and how to cultivate it

  • There are many many paths you can take that could lead to a passionate career

  • We go deep on the concept of DEEP WORK

  • We discuss why deep work is increasingly both valuable and rare

  • How you can produce at an elite level while working fewer total hours

  • How Deep Work is a meta skill that fuels other skills

  • Attention residue and how it can crush your cognitive ability

  • Why Deep work requires zero distraction. A single glance at an inbox or social media account can disrupt an entire deep work session

  • The importance of scheduling deep work far in advance on your calendar

  • Why everyone is an artist, and how that changes what work you should focus on

  • The danger of focuses on “taxes and paint”

  • Deep work is a SKILL not a HABIT and it gets better with practice

  • How to stretch your ability to concrete

  • Lifestyle changes you can implement that create the foundation for deep focus and deep work

  • How to break the cycle of addiction to novel stimuli

  • Why you should schedule all your deep work on your calendar ahead of time

  • Exercises that you can implement right now to train your concentration

  • Why Cal recommends that you should embrace boredom

  • Your deep mental addiction to new stimulus and how you can break it

  • And much more!

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SHOW NOTES, LINKS, & RESEARCH

  • [Book] Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World by Adam Grant and Sheryl Sandberg

  • [Book] Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam M. Grant

  • [Website] calnewport.com

  • [Book] Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT

[00:00:06.4] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to the Science of Success with your host, Matt Bodnar.

[00:00:12.4] MB: Welcome to The Science of Success with your host Matt Bodner. Welcome to the Science of Success. I’m your host, Matt Bodnar. I’m an entrepreneur and investor in Nashville, Tennessee and I’m obsessed with the mindset of success and the psychology of performance. I’ve read hundreds of books, conducted countless hours of research and study and I am going to take you on a journey into the human mind in what makes peak performers tick with the focus on always having our discussion rooted in psychological research and scientific fact, not opinion.

In this episode, we discuss why you should not follow your passion. The two biggest pitfalls people struggle with trying to build a career they love. The incredible importance of deep work, why deep work is so valuable, and how we can cultivate it, as well as how you can structure your lifestyle to obtain autonomy and mastery with Cal Newport. 

The Science of Success continues to grow with nearly 700,000 downloads. Listeners in over a hundred countries, hitting number one New Noteworthy and more. A lot of our listeners are curious about how to organize and remember everything. I get tons of listener emails and comments asking me how I keep track of all the incredible knowledge I get from reading hundreds of books, interviewing amazing experts, listening to podcast, and much more.

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In our previous episode, we discussed the incredible power of kindness, showed how kindness triggers the helper’s high and causes dopamine and oxytocin to flow through your brain. Looked at study data from a 136 countries showing the science behind why kindness is so powerful. We walked through several concrete examples you can use right now to take action and be kind to someone today, and much more, with John Wang. If you want to take small, immediate action to make the world a better place today, listen to that episode now.


[0:02:31.5] MB: Today, we have another amazing guest on the show, Cal Newport. Cal is an associate professor of computer science, at Georgetown University. He previously earned his PhD. from MIT in 2009. He’s authored several bestselling books including So Good They Can’t Ignore You and Deep Work. Both of which have received incredible praise form the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Economist and much more. 

Cal, welcome to the science of success.

[0:02:53.7] CN: Hi Matt, thanks for having me on.

[0:02:54.6] MB: We’re so excited to have you on here today. Before we dig in to some of the topics that you’ve written about, for listeners who may not be familiar, tell us a little bit about you?

[0:03:02.9] CN: My day job is I’m a computer science professor. I study sort of the mathematics behind the algorithms that run a lot of the computer systems at the heart of our digital life today and then my sort of side gig, as you might call it, is to actually write books and that’s where I tackle these type of issues around this technologies affect our life and how people can thrive and succeed in this sort of new world.

[0:03:26.0] MB: In one of your earlier books, So Good They Can’t Ignore You, you talk about the concept of sort of pursuing mastery versus pursuing your passion and finding your passion. I’d love to kind of share that with the listeners and for those who haven’t read it, sort of explain to them kind of the core premise of that book.

[0:03:40.6] CN: Yeah, the core idea, which is an idea that got me in some trouble and I like that is that follow your passion is bad advice. That if your goal it to end up passionate about what you do for a living, that advice that you should follow your passion is probably going to reduce the probability that you end up succeeding with the goal. That that career advice that we’re told almost ubiquitously, at least in recent American career conversations and culture, is actually way too simplistic and quite flawed and doesn’t capture the more complicated and more interesting reality of how people actually build careers that are satisfying, that are motivating, that generated a true source of passion.

[0:04:16.0] MB: Why do you say that it’s bad advice to follow your passion?

[0:04:19.5] CN: Well, this idea that you should follow your passion is dependent on two core assumptions being true for it to work. The first assumption that has to be true for this advice to actually make sense is the idea that most people have an identifiable, preexisting passion that they can then use as a foundation for career choices. If you don’t have this clear passion that exist in advance, the advice makes no sense because there’s no passion to follow. 

And it turns out we don’t have a lot of evidence that his is really common, especially for younger people. We don’t have a lot of evidence that most people should be expected, to be hard wired with an identifiable passion that’s somehow relevant to the jobs that happen to be available in the 21st century knowledge economy. That first premise is required for this advice to be true, it’s something that doesn’t necessarily hold up.

The second premise that has to be true, the second assumption that has to be true for this advice to make sense is that if you really like something and then you do that thing for your job then you will really like your job, that sort of passion or interest in a subject will transfer over to a professional engagement in the subject and again we don’t have a lot of evidence that that’s true either. It’s one of these syllogisms that kind of makes intuitive sense when you first hear it, “Oh yeah, I really love this so if I’m kind of doing that for my job, I’ll really love my job.” 

But we don’t actually have a lot of evidence that that’s true. In fact, think about all the clichéd stories we hear about the passionate amateur photographer, or the passionate amateur baker who ends up miserable when they open a professional photography studio or a bakery. Those type of stories alone tells us that what leads people to be satisfied in their work is much more complicated. 

So with those assumptions destabilized, this idea that “oh just figure out what your passion is and do it for your job, and you’ll love your job” goes from seeming like self-evident, great advice to instead being something that seems simplistic and not supported. I think we need to move on to something that’s a little bit more sophisticated if we’re serious about actually crafting meaningful careers.

[0:06:01.5] MB: You know, the second assumption especially kind of rings so true to me that that’s fundamentally flawed. One of my favorite things, one of my favorite kind of hobbies is to play video games. And you know, if I thought about it, if I was forced to play those 12 hours a day and I had to do that in order to kind of earn an income, I think eventually you kind of reach a place where you sort of resent what used to be something that you’re really passionate about and really enjoyed.

[0:06:23.7] CN: Yeah, that’s absolutely true. Because there’s a big difference between what makes you enjoy an activity that you do in your leisure time and what makes people enjoy a profession. What makes you enjoy an activity in your leisure time is its’ own sort of thing, but we have a lot of research on what leads people to find motivation, passion or satisfaction in professional endeavors and it has nothing to do with matching that activity to preexisting interest.

The things we know matter in the professional world is for example, a sense of autonomy. You control what you do, how you do it, when you do it. A sense of mastery is also important. You’re good at what you do, you have a craft that you’re respected for. A sense of impact on the world is very important. A sense of connection to other people on things that matter. These types of traits are what consistently lead people to say, “I’m passionate about what I’ll do,” and you’ll notice that none of those traits have anything to do with you match the job to some sort of preexisting, intrinsic trait you had before you chose the job.

Again, this idea that we’re wired to do something and if you get a job that matches it, you’ll really like that job, it makes sense, it’s intuitive, it’s easy but it really couldn’t be further from the sort of the reality, the psychology of how people actually develop this passionate motivations for their professional endeavors.

[0:07:32.2] MB: I’d love to dig a little bit more into that and kind of the idea of instead of following our passions, I’d love to explore kind of the concepts that you said, what can we do to end up with a job that we’re passionate about?

[0:07:42.1] CN: Once you understand, okay, the types of traits that lead people to love their work or things like autonomy, like mastery, like impact, like relationships and connections, the question then is, “What is the most effective and time efficient way to get those traits in your career?” Now we have a much more specific question that we can actually tackle more technically. If you study this, you study people who have succeeded in obtaining those traits and building passion in their career, you see there are many ways that people get there. 

There’s one path in particular that comes up the most often and is probably the most consistently replicate-able and it’s a pretty simple path, though it’s hard to execute, and it basically says, “Skills are your currency.” Those types of traits that make your job great, the type of traits that make people love their work are rare and valuable. If you want them in your career, no one cares that you want them, it’s not enough to say, “That would be great, how can I get them?” You have to have something valuable to offer in return in a job market that’s almost always going to be rare and valuable skills.

So the most consistent path to building passion your career is to go through an aggressive and intense apprenticeship phase, where you are trying to build up rare and valuable skills, things that are unambiguously valued by the marketplace. Step two is you then use those skills as your currency or as your leverage to obtain in your work, these highly desirable traits that lead people to great satisfaction; the autonomy, the impact, the mastery, the connection with other people and so on. 

So it’s really this kind of two step process. You build skills and then you invest those skills to try to gain more control of your career and steer it towards this traits that we know you really enjoy. So if someone says, “I really don’t like my work,” the right question is not, “Well, let’s do some introspection and see if this is your true passion. If not, you need to switch your job.” The right question is, “Well how much rare and valuable skills do you have? How valuable are you to your field of your marketplace?” 

If your answer is “a lot”, then go out and use that stuff as leverage and if the answer is, “Well, I’m not really that valuable, I don’t have any rare and valuable skills,” then the right answer is not “Switch your job and follow your passion.” It’s, “Well we got to build up that capital quick, we need to get you good at what you do, we need to get you some leverage and authority in the job market place as quickly as possible.” So it’s really a focus on not what does this job or the world offer me, it’s instead a focus on what am I offering to the job, what am I offering to the world of value?

[0:09:52.1] MB: I think that’s such a critical distinction and you hit the nail in the head in the sense that people are often asking the completely wrong question. Sitting there thinking, “Well what about this job that I’m not passionate about, should I be changing?” When in reality, what they really should focus on is, “What can I do to better serve this job so that I can then build leverage and create a job that will give me autonomy and mastery and the things that truly lead to a living and passionate life?”

[0:10:15.6] CN: Yeah, and the hard part about it, the reason why a lot of people fall short is that there is two pitfalls in actually executing the strategy and a lot of people who are sort of aspirational to have a really meaningful job falling to at least one of these two pitfalls. The first pitfall is trying to make a move to get these great traits in your life before you have the skills, or what I sometimes call the “career capital”, to back it up. If you say, “Okay, I want autonomy in my life I want a ton of mastery and connection and impact,” and you’re 21 years old, you have no particular skills built up and you quite your job and go start an ill faded online business venture or some such, without anything to back it up.

Well you say, “If I was really successful at this, I’d have all these traits,” that’s a pitfall. You haven’t built the skill yet, you haven’t built the career capital. On the other hand, something you see just as commonly, is people who build up a lot of really rare skills or invaluable skills but they never step back and use it as leverage. We have how many sort of miserable workaholic lawyers you know for example who are actually incredibly valuable to the world and to the job market place. They have this very valuable skills they built up, but they never stepped back and used them as leverage. They’re good without actually using that to build a good job.

So I think what’s hard about it is avoiding both pitfalls. It’s first of all making sure you have enough skill to actually have real leverage before making the big changes. But then two, when you get there, having the courage to actually pull the trigger on that and use the skills and take them out for a spin and so if you can navigate both those pitfalls then I think you have a pretty consistent path to passion.

[0:11:41.2] MB: So for somebody who is listening now that feels stuck in a job that they kind of feel like they’re not passionate about, your advice would be focus first on developing a truly valuable skill set before you think about kind of getting to the next step of building the pillars of what actually, create a passion and career?

[0:11:58.1] CN: Yeah, that’s right. There are two things you have to have, you have the career capital, which is again my metaphor for these rare and valuable skills; the more skills you have, the more career capital you have. You have to make good investments on the capital once you have it. Those are the two questions you have to ask if you're unhappy in a position, “What are my career capital stores look like and am I ready to be making investments?”

If you have good career capital, you need to start thinking about investments, which is, “How do I use my skills as leverage to change my situation in the way that resonates?” If you don’t have good career capital skill stores, the question is, “What can I do to build those up as quickly as possible?” Now of course, I’ll give you the caveat; it’s not the case that every person can be passionate in every job, but I think the threshold is much lower than we like to think. We like to think right now in our current culture conversation that there’s one job in which you can be passionate. That’s what I think is nonsense. 

I think for most people, there’s many different paths in which if they build and invest career capital, they could be very passionate. That being said, there’s obviously some that aren’t going to be, right? If there’s a job where you hate the people, you’re not going to be able to go passion in that no matter how much per capital you get. If there’s a job that is doing something that is actively against your values. You’re not going to be happy in that no matter how much career capital you have. 

If you have a job in an industry that is not going to allow you to invest career capital, they say, “I don’t care how good you get, this is the path you have to follow and you have no flexibility. There is no investment that you can make in your skills to change things.” You’re probably not going to be able to build passion in it. So not every job is going to be a source of passion but many jobs will. 

So you first kind of want to do this filtering, “Hey, is this a position where if I got really good and use that skill as leverage, I could see a lot of opportunities for me to build compelling paths?” If the answer is yes, that’s good enough. Now you can buckle down and execute this strategy, which is assess your career capital stores, get them large and then start making investments.

[0:13:45.3] MB: So we’ve talked a lot about building skills and developing career capital, I’d love to transition into talking about a skill that you’ve written extensively about, which is deep work. I’d love to kind of begin with how do you define deep work?

[0:13:57.9] CN: Deep work, which is a concept that came in part out of this conversation we just had, sort of a reaction to people asking, “How do I build up career capital really fast?” It is a very specific activity, which is when you’re focusing without distraction for a long period of time on a cognitively demanding task. So you’re giving something hard, your full, completely unbroken mental attention. If you’re doing that, you are executing deep work.

[0:14:23.0] MB: You write about the idea that deep work is both rare and valuable, tell us a little bit about that?

[0:14:27.6] CN: What’s interesting about this activity of deep work in our current moment is that, I think there’s a strong argument to be made that is becoming increasingly valuable in our economy. That is, the better you are at performing deep work, the more intense levels of concentration you can obtain, the more time you’re able to spend in these states of concentration, the more valuable you’re going to be to the economy, especially in the knowledge sector.

The term the economists used was “deep work is like the killer app for the knowledge economy”. At the same time, it’s becoming more rare. People are becoming worse at performing deep work. People’s ability to concentrate is diminishing, people’s tolerance or scheduling ability to actually have long bits of unbroken time is also rapidly going away. So we have an economic mismatch. 

A skill that is becoming more valuable at exactly the same time that it’s actually becoming more rare, which any economist will tell you, means that it’s going to be really, really valued in the marketplace. So I see it as an opportunity that if you’re one of the few to systematically cultivate your ability to do deep work, you’re going to have huge value in the marketplace just like if you’re back in the early 1980’s and getting out ahead of I’m going to really learn computer programming and advanced level.

You’d have a lot of value in the marketplace. You’d be out in front of a trend. I think deep work is that sort of killer app of our current moment. That those who systematically train that skill can take advantage of that economic mismatch and find themselves with a whole bunch of career capital in the marketplace.

[0:15:50.5] MB: So, the implications of this are that for the fact that it’s both increasingly rare and increasingly valuable, it’s something that’s going to become really in demand and people who focus on kind of developing this ability to focus on deep work are going to be rewarded substantially?

[0:16:07.4] CN: Yeah, I believe that to be true. 

[0:16:08.8] MB: So for a listener who kind of thinks about this and says, “Oh, you know, he’s kind of a luddite, he doesn’t really get the importance of social media and staying connected and being plugged in to everything,” how would you respond to somebody like that?

[0:16:20.5] CN: The marketplace is pretty simple. It rewards things that are rare and valuable. If you can do something that people value and not a lot of people can do it, it will reward you. If you can’t, it won’t. There really is no shortcut around it. There really is no way to take something that’s kind of fun and easily replicatable and if you just do a lot of it that it’s going to somehow make you very valuable to the marketplace. 

This, for example, is my issue with social media as being seen as some sort of key to your career. Being on social media, doing hash tags, retweeting things, putting things on the Facebook wall is fundamentally and easily replicatable, low value activity. There is no hard earned skill involved in doing that and you can wave around a lot of terms like network effect and connectivity and serendipity and connection and opportunity.

But it doesn’t change the underlying fact that it’s just an easily replicatable, low value activity and that cannot be the foundation of the marketplace really rewarding you. My observation, especially when I was researching So Good They Can’t Ignore You, I was going out there in all sorts of different industries, all sorts of different fields, to find people who were very passionate about their work who were at the top of their game is that the way they got there is that they built up, systematically and deliberately, a craft or a skill that was very valuable.

As they built up the skill, there is plenty of opportunities, a lot of interesting things happened in their life, they were connected to interesting people, a lot of things came across to trans them. That was not the issue. The hard part was building up the skill and if being on social media is getting in the way of doing that, you have the equation entirely backwards.

Rare and valuable skills is what’s rewarded. Building a craft, applying a craft, that’s what the market wants to see. that’s the foundation of a life of passion and meaning and satisfaction and anything else, it could be fun, it could be diverting, but it’s not going to be at the core of that success.

[0:18:02.9] MB: I’d love to dig into some of the data about why deep work is so valuable.

[0:18:08.2] CN: There’s really two big reasons why deep work has this growing value, the first reason has to do with learning complicated things. So in order to learn something that’s new or complicated, you have to enter a state of deliberate practice. A state in which you’re giving intense concentration to the task at hand because we now know from decades of psychology research that to learn something new, you essentially have to stretch your comfort level with that information just like you would have to stretch your muscle past where it’s comfortable to actually get muscle growth.

That’s a state of deep work. So the better you are at concentrating intensely and maintaining intense concentration, the easier it will be for you to master cognitively demanded or complicated to do things. Now, the ability to quickly adapt and learn complicated new things is crucial in the increasingly competitive knowledge economy. If you can’t keep up with the new systems and ideas, you're going to fall behind. So that’s one where deep work is really becoming more valuable. 

The other is, it helps you produce higher quality work in less time. The amount you produce per hour spent in deep work and the quality of what you produce can be significantly more than if you’re working in a more fragmented state or a state with lots of just checks of inboxes and phones. So if you’re very comfortable concentrating intensely on something, giving something your full or cognitive attention for long periods of time with no distraction, you can produce at an elite level. 

This too is becoming very valuable in the increasingly competitive knowledge economy because if you’re not producing at an elite level and whatever field you happen to be in, you’re going to be at increased danger of being automated, outsourced, or replaced. So deep work is like this meta skill. The meta skill that fuels the more concrete skills that are necessary to stay on the right part of the sort of growing my modal divide in our increasingly competitive knowledge economy, if you want to be on the winning side of this increasing divide, you’ve got to be able to pick up parts quickly, you’ve got to be able to produce an elite level. The better you are deep worked, the more you prioritize it, the better you're going to be at those two things, which we know are going to be crucial to staying ahead.
 
[0:19:58.5] MB: So the idea that you can produce higher quality work in less time, is deep work the kind of thing that you need to be working for 12, 15 hours a day, totally concentrated? Or can it work in shorter bursts?

[0:20:10.6] CN: 90 minutes is about the lower limit where you’re going to start to get a lot of use out of deep work. The reason is that what deep work helps combat is an effect called attention residue, which says when you shift your attention to another target and then back to your original piece of focus, that new target can leave a residue in your head that actually reduces your cognitive performance for a non-trivial amount of time before it clears out.

This is especially true for sort of open loop style targets. So if you shift real quickly and see an email in your email inbox or you know you need to answer and it’s semi-urgent but you don’t want to answer it right now and then you shift back to the hard thing you're trying to do, that’s going to be a sort of a very strong layer of attention residue which is going to, we now know from studies, is going to really significantly decrease your cognitive performance. Your brain is going to be operating at a lower level. You’ll produce less and it’s going to take you longer to produce things and this can take a while to clear out. 

So if you aside 90 minutes for deep work, for example, you might spend the first 20 or 30 kind of clearing out every last vestige of that attention residue and then the next 60 minutes you’re really operating at a high level and actually getting some things done. That attention residue effect, however, is also why deep work requires by definition zero distraction. A glance to an inbox, a glance at a social media feed invalidates that period of work is being deep work, it’s no longer deep work and the reason is, as we know, those quick glances can have an impact for 15, 20 minutes. 

So if you’re glancing like most knowledge workers do, you say, “No, I’m single tasking. I’m just trying to write this thing, I’m giving it my full attention and I’m only just glancing at my inbox every 10 minutes just to make sure nothing important is in there or just glancing at Twitter just to give my brain a little bit of a break,” You’re essentially keeping yourself in a sustained state of reduced cognitive performance. 

It’s like taking an antineurotropic. A drug that’s optimized to make your mind worse or perform at a lower level. So that does it all to keep work, you're not going to get the benefits of high level production. For those reasons, you need at least 90 minutes to do deep work but certainly 15 hours. You absolutely have to be completely distraction free for a period of time to actually count this step and get the true benefits of that.

[0:22:12.0] MB: Personally, how much time do you schedule either sort of daily or weekly for deep work and how do you escape all of the kind of the myriad of distractions, everything from phone notifications, to emails, to colleagues coming down the hallway and asking you a question?

[0:22:27.5] CN: I spend two and a half to three days in a five day work week doing deep work on a typical week. The way I make that happen is I actually schedule my deep work on my calendar about one month in advance. So it’s on their far enough in advance, that time will be protected before people start asking, “Hey, can you do a meeting, can you jump on a call, can you do an interview?” So I know that time is protected but before people are going to start requesting for that time. 

I used to just try to schedule it the week of, but the problem is, by the time you actually got to the week, you would have agreed to a lot of things, each of which is reasonable by itself but spread out enough that you have no unfragmented pieces left in your schedule. So I like to do at least one or two full deep work days where it’s essentially that’s all I’m doing and maybe get another half day of deep work in there as well.

When I’m doing deep work, I’m doing deep work. If someone tries to contact me, they don’t get through to me until I’m done with the deep work and if someone’s like, “Hey, I couldn’t get through to you.” It’s like, “Yeah, I was in a thing and now I’m not. Now I can get back in touch with you.” That’s okay. It could be annoying for some people who are used to working in this sort of reactive way where everyone’s available all the time and you can have these back and forth conversations, too bad.

I guess if that’s your work flow that you require this sort of ad hoc, on demand communication with everyone you work with, you’re not going to work well with me. That’s how I do it. I protect it very seriously. I see it at the core of succeeding on what I do and it makes other things clear. How do I schedule meetings, how do I schedule this other things? Well, if today is not set aside for deep work then it’s fair game for that. So I have plenty of time still available for meetings or for interviews like we’re doing right now or for calls or coffee. I’m not cut off from the world, but it’s a clear division for me. This is when I’m doing deep work, this day is open game for other types of things.

[0:24:06.1] MB: I’d love to look at some sort of successful people who have used deep work and some examples that you talk about in the book of kind of people who leveraged deep work to produce incredible outcomes. Are there any particular stories from the book that jump out at you as kind of some of your favorites?

[0:24:20.6] CN: Well one of my favorites, because it’s kind of close to what I do, is the work habits of the professor and author Adam Grant. He’s a business professor at Wharton but your audience probably knows him from his more popular books like Give and Take and Originals is his current book. The thing about Adam is, in addition to being a very successful and bestselling writer, he’s also a very successful academic.

He became a full professor at a very young age and was the youngest full professor at Wharton and one of the youngest full professors in the history of Wharton. If you wonder how did he do this, how did he become the youngest full professor at the best business school in the country, l at the same time he’s also this bestselling writer? It turns out if you ask him that deep work is at the core of his strategy that he leverages deep work and by doing so is able to produce a lot more than his peers. In particular what he does is at the high granularity level, that’s sort of the high level, he puts all of his courses into one semester. 

So instead of teaching some in the fall and some in the spring, he puts all of his courses typically in the fall. When he’s in the fall, he says, “I’m teaching, I’m there, my door is open, I’m focusing on my classes, my students can come in.” He’s won best teacher award at least once at Wharton, which is very hard to do so it works fine. Then that means the spring and summer that follows can be dedicated much more purely to working on his research, which is the key obviously to success at a school like Wharton.

Within those research periods, what he then does is he’ll put aside periods of time that will be multi days in length where he’ll go deep with zero distraction on whatever the cognitive task is required to make progress on his current research projects. So, “I’m going to go deep, I’m going to figure out this data or I’m just going to write the whole paper. One, two, three, maybe four days in a row.”

During those periods, he puts an out of office responder on his email so that his colleagues will see it as if he’s overseas. “Look, I’m out of office until Thursday, I’ll get back to you then.” So he’s completely unreachable and he just goes deep when he’s working on his research. Now if you actually count up the total number of hours that Adam Grant spends in those sessions working on research, I don’t think it would be more than what sort of his average peer spends on research year round at a competitive or comparable elite business institution. Yet, if you look at Adam Grant’s CV, he’s publishing almost the factor of two more peer view journal articles in the typical professor at a typical elite business university. This is how he became a full professor at such a young age. 

So what’s happening is, because he’s prioritizing deep work, long sessions of completely undistracted time, he is producing more quality and more output per hour spent working? In the same number of hours that one of his peers works, he is producing almost twice as many papers and because he’s focusing on deep work, he wants to concentrate intensely, he protects his ability to concentrate, he does it for long periods of time. He’s getting a lot more out of his time.

[0:27:02.3] MB: The kind of opposite of deep work, you talk about the concept of shallow work. How would you define that?

[0:27:07.8] CN: I just define shallow work to be anything that’s not deep work. So if it doesn’t match the definition of deep work, it is shallow work. There is nothing intrinsically bad with shallow work and obviously almost every job requires different degrees of shallow work just for your position to operate. You don’t do shallow work, you’re going to lose your job. But I think it’s important to make a distinction between deep work and shallow work because they’re not the same thing.
So it’s not just enough to say, “I’m busy. I’m working all the time.” The real question is how much your work is keep work versus shallow work because the right way to look at it is if you work for someone else, shallow work is what’s going to keep you from getting fired, deep work is what’s going to get you promoted. So if you’re busy, that means nothing if what you’re mainly doing is shallow work because you’re actually not doing a type of stuff that’s going to get you ahead. 

If you run your own business, it’s the same sort of idea. Shallow work might be what keeps you from going bankrupt in the next few months, but deep work is what’s going to 10X your revenue over the next year. So the distinction is important not because shallow is pejorative or shallow work is bad, but it’s because you have to treat both type of efforts differently and recognize that shallow work might be necessary but deep work is the whole ball game in terms of moving ahead.

It’s where you master new skills, it’s where you produce those skills in elite level to produce things that are valuable. The stuff that gets you noticed, the stuff that gets you promoted, the stuff that gets your company to grow. So the question is not how busy you are, how much work you're doing. The question is, how much deep work are you able to do in your typical week, because that’s really what’s going to move the needle.

[0:28:29.3] MB: In many ways, that seems very aligned to me, of kind of the concept of urgency versus importance and the idea of that in many cases the kind of not urgent but important items are often the biggest, most high leveraged items that can have the most substantial impact on your life and in your career.

[0:28:46.2] CN: Yeah, it’s the same type of idea that’s come up before. This is actually just getting more specific about what the actual work activities feel like. For an artist, this is obvious. An artist knows the time he or she spends at the canvas is the time that matters, right? Producing art, trying to produce better art, that creative struggle is everything in terms of the artists success. And the other stuff, like doing their taxes or sitting with the catalogs and order new paints and canvass, it’s obviously something, though a necessary evil, is something that they know clearly, “This not helping my career. If I spent all day doing my taxes and ordering new paints and easels I’m not going to get anywhere.”

The reality in the competitive knowledge economy is essentially everyone’s an artist and so you really have to worry how much time am I actually spending struggling with a blank canvass and how much time I’m spending in doing my taxes and ordering the paints? And I think for a huge segment of the knowledge economy, people are spending all of their time on a proverbial taxes and paint ordering side of things. 

Email, meetings, PowerPoint, social media post, engaging with people in social media, that’s all the equivalent of the artist doing their taxes and ordering new paints and brushes. You’ve got to do it at some, but it’s the time that you spend at the canvass the only time that’s actually going to help you produce value, succeed, to grow, to make money, all the stuff that you actually care about. 

[0:29:59.9] MB: And I think you use a phrase in the book where you talk about the comfort of the artificial busyness of shallow work of sitting in your inbox and firing off emails. When in reality, that’s not really creating a lot of value. 

[0:30:11.6] CN: Yeah, it’s not rare and valuable. Anyone can CC an email, anyone can reply to an email, everyone does it. There is over a trillion sent each year. There’s no way that sending emails is going to ultimately lead you to more value or producing more advancements in your career or in your company’s growth. It’s producing things that are valuable require a sort of sustained, intense concentration and the knowledge economy, your brain is the tool you have.  

So using that at a high level is absolutely the biggest return activity you can do and I think our cultural conversation has veered away from this too much and we really love secondary benefits. “Well but if I connect with this person on Facebook and then it could turn out down the road that they become a client and that client becomes a big source of revenue,” and then from that observation suddenly you are spending 99% of your time on Facebook connecting to people, doing things on Facebook and not actually producing things of value. 

I think that focus on secondary benefits is a real issue because their value is being way over emphasized and it way under emphasizes the value of actually producing stuff that requires skill and that pushed your brain to it’s limit. That’s 90% of the whole thing. That’s the whole ballgame in some sense. There’s no amount of seeking out the secondary effects of connectivity and networking and communication and opportunities and all these sort of things. None of that is going to even hold a candle to the value that is produced by doing things that are rare and valuable. Honing your skill, applying your skill that produce things that are valuable. 

So I think we’re in this moment right now where inspired by advances and network technology that we’ve adopted a lot of that terminology in the business world and we are focusing way too much attention on the importance of connections and serendipity and out there selling your services and letting people know what you are and not nearly enough attention on the thing that we’ve known for millennial of skilled labor, like the core to success and satisfaction, which is actually honing the skill and applying it to the produce things that people care about. No amount of social media posting in the world can compensate for “I don’t really have something to offer that is all that rare in value”. 

[0:32:09.1] MB: For somebody who’s listening that is caught up in the world of shallow work and busyness, is it possible for them to train themselves to transition to a world of deep work? 

[0:32:21.3] CN: It is possible and I think the keyword is “train”, because this is something that people often get wrong. People often think about deep work as a habit like flossing their teeth. Something they know how to do is they need to make more time to do it. They’re like, “I should probably turn off my devices more. Do some detoxing, spend more time doing deep work.” The reality is that deep work is a skill much more like playing the guitar. It’s something that gets better with practice, and if you haven’t been practicing it pretty seriously you’re not going to be very good at it. 

So if you take the average American knowledge worker who spends very little time in a state of intense concentration and you whisk them away and you put them in a Faraday cage in a cave somewhere where no electronic signal can possibly penetrate it and you give them, “Here, you’re going to do this one hard thing and you have no possibility of distraction. You’re going to be here all day.” They would probably struggle and probably not produce much because they haven’t actually developed their ability to do deep work. Just like if you took someone off the street and put them on stage with a guitar and said, “Okay play a concert,” they would struggle to do that too because they haven’t practiced the guitar yet. They don’t have any skill at it. 

That distinction is important to make because a lot of people who don’t recognize that dabble with deep work and then it doesn’t go well. It’s uncomfortable. They don’t like it, their attention is fragmented and they say, “I must not be a deep work person,” and they give up on it all together. But if you recognize that it’s a skill that you have to train, then you say, “Well yeah, of course this is uncomfortable and didn’t go well, I’m new to it. How do I get better?” So a long preface to my answer, but you’re asking the right question when you say, “How do you transition or train into deep work?”

And I can tell you the very high level there’s two things involved. One is the active efforts you can do to actively stretch your ability to concentrate. So there’s actual activities you can do such as Pomodoros focused on intense focus. You start at a small amount of time and gradually move them up productive meditation or you go on walks and try to hold a single problem in your head and make progress on it and so on. 

There’s also passive things you have to do, which is changes you make to your lifestyle the sort of set the foundation where it’s possible for you to develop a deep focus ability. So just like if you wanted to be a professional athlete, let’s say you want to be a professional triathlete, there’d be active things you do. Particular training runs, training rides, training swims you do to increase your athletic ability. But there would also be changes you did to your lifestyle so that you would be more generally fit. You would eat well, you would get a lot of sleep, you won’t smoke, for example. 

The same split holds we’re getting better at deep work. The active stuff is important but so is the passive stuff and to me that means restructuring your lifestyle in particular so that you don’t live in this constant exposure to novel stimuli. You have to structure your lifestyle such that you’re bored more often and that you break the cycle of addiction that at the slightest hint of boredom you whip out a phone or a computer screen to get yourself bathed in some sort of quick novel stimuli so you’re not bored for a moment. 

If you do that, if you’re bathing yourselves in this distractions, your keeping these addictions going. It’s like drinking milkshakes or smoking if you’re the professional athlete. It’s the things that you are doing outside of work are making it much harder to succeed with the sort of active things you’re trying to do inside work. So you’ve got to train your ability to do deep work. It’s going to require active activities to stretch your ability but it’s also going to require passive activities, changes to your lifestyle that set the foundation for it to be possible for you to use your brain at a high level. 

[0:35:26.9] MB: What are a few of those active activities? I know you mentioned Pomodoro, what are some of the things for somebody who’s listening that wants to start training their concentration? 

[0:35:35.9] CN: Yeah, so a couple of things I would suggest. One, start scheduling some times on your calendar for doing this deep work training. Don’t just count on the time being right, don’t just count on being, “Hey, I think I don’t have too much to do and I’m in the mood to concentrate.” Don’t count on that. Schedule it in your calendar. At first it doesn’t have to be much. Do two or three hours a week, one or two sessions, put on your calendar, treat it like a meeting or appointment. 

So if someone tries to schedule something during that time, treat it like you have a doctor’s appointment, “Oh, I have a thing from one to 3:30, but we could do it after that or before it.” People already understand the semantics of appointments and schedules and they’ll respect that. Two, during those times you can do a variety of different exercises. The Pomodoro thing is important. The key thing there is increasing the amount of time and during the Pomodoro itself, giving as intense concentration as you can on what you’re doing. 

A key caveat is that even a slightest glance of at inbox means that Pomodoro doesn’t count. That was a failed deep work session and so what you want to see is that you’re having consistent success with a given timeframe. That you are able to do Pomodoros of that duration that are non-failed with no glancing at distraction and which you also kept your concentration high. Once you are regularly succeeding at a given time interval, then add 10 or 15 minutes to it. 

So you might want to start with 20 minutes. If you’re new to it, it might take you a couple of weeks to get comfortable with that and then you go to 30, then you go to 45 and so on. Productive meditation I mentioned, that’s about you go for a walk and you try to hold a single professional challenge in your brain and make progress on it, just in your head. The meditation pieces are referenced to mindfulness meditation, which says if you notice your attention wondering off the problem you are trying to solve, which it will do, you just notice it and bring it back. Notice it and bring it back. It’s pull ups for your brain. Do it for three weeks, you will be surprised by how much more steadier you are able to keep your concentration. 

The final thing I will mention is essentially any activity, whether it’s professional or not, that requires sustained concentration and that you get immediate negative feedback if you are concentration slips, is also like calisthenics for your brain. So playing a musical instrument, playing a skilled sport, playing a skilled board game or card game, anything where you have to really concentrate and if you let your attention slip, you’re going to miss your chord on the guitar or miss the pass in the touch football game, or make a bad bet in the poker game, that’s also training. 

You are training, you are giving your mind practice with focus on something hard, and if you slip your concentration at all, you are going to know about it. So those are three examples of many that I think could actually just like pushups, like pull ups, like going for sprints but for your brain you can see pretty quick improvements to your abilities to sustain concentration. 

[0:38:11.3] MB: So potentially something like a video game could actually be a tool that could help you maintain concentration if it really draws you in and creates a lot of focus? 

[0:38:20.1] CN: Yeah, even a video game could be, right? If it was a cognitively demanding game and you get clear feedback, which you often you do in these games, right? If your attention slips bad things happen. You get killed or your ship crashes or — you can tell I don’t play video games but absolutely. So all of those things can help you actually train your ability to concentrate. 

[0:38:36.5] MB: You touched on the idea of cultivating or embracing boredom. I love to dig into that a little bit more. 

[0:38:40.5] CN: Yeah, so this comes back to this general cognitive fitness idea that you have to set the general background capability for your brain to succeed and perform at a high level and to me, embracing boredom is the cognitive equivalent of living a generally healthy lifestyle in the world of sports and what I mean by embracing boredom is that you need on a regular basis every single day occasions where you’re bored, you would like to see other stimuli and you don’t. So you don’t look at your phone, you don't look at the computer screen you just keep doing what you’re doing and you’re bored. 

Why this is important is that if you don’t do this, your brain will build up this addiction in which it demands and expects stimuli at the slightest hint of boredom. The reason I care about that is because deep work is boring. At least in the technical definition of the term of being an absence of novel stimuli, if you’re focusing on one thing for a long period of time, it’s not novel after the first 15 to 20 minutes. 

So if your brain has learned, it gets a shiny treat when it gets bored when the stimuli gets boring, it’s not going to tolerate deep work. It’s not going to keep its focus on something. It’s just going to refuse. It’s just going to say, “Well, wait a second, we get a cigarette every 15 minutes. Where’s my cigarette? No, I am not going to concentrate on this, give me my tweet or internet break,” and so you have to break that addiction. 

You have to break that addiction if you’re going to succeed with using your brain at the elite level and the best way to do it to give yourself plenty of opportunities to be bored during the day, then your brain loses this association that it always gets stimuli. So it doesn’t necessarily mean that you get rid of your technology. What it means it that your technology no longer gets to be ubiquitous in your life. If, for example, you really like Facebook then great but say when are you going to use Facebook. 

“I really like it and tonight at seven I’m going to go on it and I’m going to check out on what’s going on, I’m going to check up on people, check in on my groups but until I get there, I don’t check it.” If you really like Twitter say, “Okay I’m going to put aside some time in the day to go through my Twitter feed and see what’s going on and check in with people and tweet some stuff,” that’s fine but it is not a background ubiquitous activity. 

If you like web surfing or MLB Trade room or some type of thing that keeps people like me occupied these days, that’s fine but there’s a particular time in which you do it. So it’s not necessarily embracing boredom about rejecting technology but about rejecting the premise that it gets to be ubiquitous presence in your life and say, “I will decide when I’m going to use technology just like I don’t keep a TV with me at all times during the day and turn it on at the slightest hint of boredom. It’s a completely reasonable thing to do and it has very positive consequences. 

[0:41:00.5] MB: Yeah, I think that is something so important and it’s so easy to get trapped in a mental addiction of, “Oh I need to look at my phone. I need to click the newest thing on Reddit. I need to see who’s messaging me.” It’s so easy to, you know, your brain really develops an addiction to these new shiny objects and I think taking a detox from that is something that would benefit everybody. 

[0:41:21.2] CN: Yeah and the key thing here is it’s not about occasionally taking a break from it. In fact I switched the script there. Because imagine we’re talking about losing weight and imagine I said, “Okay, here’s the key. The reason you’re gaining weight is because you are eating all this terrible food and you are not exercising enough. So here’s my plan, you’re going to take one day a week and on that day, you’re going to eat healthy and you’re going to exercise.” 

People say, “Okay, I’m still going to gain weight,” right? It’s like six days out of seven I’m eating crappily and not exercising. It’s the same thing with the addiction of the stimuli. If you say, “Well, every once in a while I want to put away my technology. I’ll take the Sabbath, on Saturday and not use my technology.” That’s not going to cure the problem. You have to flip it and you have to say, “I’m occasionally take breaks from not having all of these stimuli to expose myself to it.” 

So I don’t like the detox term or the digital Sabbath term because it means your standard state is exposing yourself to these addictive stimuli and then you occasionally take a break. That’s not going to change digital addiction any more than taking one day a week to eat healthily is going to change weight gain. It really needs to be your default state is one in which you are not exposing yourself to the stimuli and then like sweets or drinking whisky or something like that, it’s a scheduled activity you do occasionally. It’s the thing that you occasionally do not the thing you occasionally take a break from. 

[0:42:32.0] MB: Putting in that context makes it so clear that it’s so easy to delude ourselves and think it’s okay to constantly be in these mental addiction loops. But when you put it in the context of food and dieting, it becomes fairly obvious that it really is a transition that almost everybody listening would benefit from making. 

[0:42:49.6] CN: Yeah and once you see it that way, I think it becomes a lot more clear but it’s very hard to see these things when they’re new and I think this is the issue. The addiction is strong and I’ve noticed this, it’s the same thing you see when people have addictions in other parts of their lives when you start to push back on it, you sometimes get defensiveness and “it’s not about this, it’s about that” and it’s exactly the reaction I often get when I’ll say like I did recently in the New York Times column, “Hey, I don’t think social media is helping your career as much as you think it is. More people should quit.” 

A lot of people got upset and it reminded me a lot about, you are telling the smoker, “I don’t know if you should be really smoking the cigarettes.” They’re like, “Ah, it’s about this and that and liberty and freedom,” and really it’s “don’t take away my cigarettes”. The same thing happened when I said, “I haven’t seen a lot of evidence that this is helping people’s careers as much as they say it is, and I know the distraction is hurting it, so I really think a lot more people should quit.” 

I got a lot of pushback but very little of the pushback was, “Let me tell you particularly where you’re wrong. Here are the ways in which this is massively helping my career and massively helping other people’s careers.” It was more just sort of “You don’t understand social media and it’s the future and you’ll never know and people are on it and I know this guy who got a book deal,” and it was this frenzy of anger and response. That’s typical with an addiction. I think we should be more scared of this stuff than we are. We’re not going to leave technology behind. I’m a computer scientist for god sakes, but I think we can absolutely say, “I get to determine how I use it and not the other way around”. 

[0:44:07.5] MB: The crux of this argument in many ways is that we’re going through sort of economic transition and a technical transition and we’re still learning how to adapt to it. What groups do you think will be the biggest beneficiaries from this transition and the rising importance of deep work? 

[0:44:26.6] CN: Well certainly people who have embraced deep work is going to be the group that benefits. Now are you asking for where we are going to see like what types of groups are we going to see that split the deepers and non deep happens sort of more pronounced or first? 

[0:44:39.5] MB: Yeah, for sure. 

[0:44:40.6] CN: Yeah, well I don’t know for sure. It’s very hard to predict economic trends but there’s a couple of places where we are going to see this divide happen quickly and I think one of those is going to be in the world of computer programming and software development. Right now, there is not a major emphasis on protecting and cultivating people’s ability to do deep work, especially computer programmers, which are essentially brains your hiring to do this highly skilled thing at the highest possible level they can do it. 

My prediction is we’re going to see a split in the next 10 years or so where there’s going to be a leading edge of companies that really aggressively start to prioritize deep work. Forget open offices and we’re starting to see now. Like Fog Creek Software is really good about this. They build these individual offices that are optimized to increase your ability to concentrate but I think we’re going to see more companies like that. 

And maybe some of the big Silicon Valley companies will make the first shift where they’ll say, “Forget open offices, it’s going to be incredibly quiet private offices, and you know what? Maybe our programmer shouldn’t have email addresses. We can hire someone for your team to handle all incoming messages and they can tell you once a day what you need to know. I don’t want that distraction and forget Slack. I certainly don’t want my programmer with a Slack thing going, right? 

That’s like buying a piece of expensive factory equipment and running it at 10% of it’s capacity because it makes your life a little easier. And a couple of companies I think in that place first are going to make the shift first because you really see, in computer programming in particular, giant differences in ROI depending on how skilled the output is. Really great code is really much better than okay code in terms of the value of the software. That’s where I think we’re going to see this split first. There will be some small companies and followed by a couple of big companies that really push towards more of a deep work-centric approach. 

Suddenly, they’re going to have a much easier time hiring people. They’re going to become much more productive. They’re going to produce more innovative software. They’re going to do so in smaller teams and then there’s going to be this tipping point where 10 years after that, everyone in that industry is going to be better. So that’s the bell weather I am looking through right now is where we’re first going to see some people get huge advantages by embracing these ideas. 

[0:46:36.8] MB: What roles or positions do you think might kind of be the exception to deep work hypothesis? 

[0:46:42.6] CN: Basically any role where honing and applying a cognitively demanding craft is not at the core of the value that you offer. So there’s a bunch of different things that fall into this category. There are a lot of, for example, entry level jobs that fall into this category where you are not hired — right out of college we hire you, you’re an assistant for this group or something like that. You are not hired for a hard one skill that they want you to apply to produce craft. You are there to make everyone else’s life easier. 

So that’s a case where long periods of time spent in deep concentration is actually not bringing any value. However, if you are in one of those positions you should be trying to build up rare and valuable skills on your own time so they can move out of that as quickly as possible. I think high level management positions, it’s debatable the value with deep work. I’ve argued, for example, in the book that CEO’s of large companies are better understood as decision engines.

The right way to understand the role of a CEO in a valuable company is that they have a lot of experience so they have a large base of experience but also they have a consistent vision for the company and then other people bring them decisions, should we do this or should we do that? And based on those experience and that consistent vision they make decisions and that’s probably a more effective use of their time than them actually trying to do the deep work behind the decisions by themselves or spend 10 hours thinking deeply on a consistent basis. 

Also of course, I think people that are in primarily communication oriented roles. I mean if you’re in sales, you’re schedule is going to be fragmented in the sense that it actually calls and touches and contacts the core. Now you can do that deeply in the sense of, “I want to do this as well as possible and really study up on sale success,” but you’re not going to have long periods of unbroken time. There’s other areas as well. There’s a lot of people who do social media professionally. 

All they do all day is social media on behalf of brands. I mean obviously it’s a position in which you’re best serving people by actually just being on social media communicating with people to go on these tools. So there’s certainly jobs where deep work doesn’t help but I think it’s much more rare than people imagine and essentially, the key question is, is the biggest value you can offer to yourself or your organization you applying a hard one craft that produce things that are rare and valuable? If the answer is yes then the more deep work you do, the better. 

[0:48:52.0] MB: What’s one piece of homework that you would give our listeners to implement some of the ideas we’ve talked about today? 

[0:48:57.1] CN: I always tell people to do two things. The first is to drop on your calendar for the next few weeks, those deep work blocks I talked about. Make it like a doctor’s appointment, protect them and just get some practice, two to three hours a week doing deep work. Two, make some passive lifestyle changes and I think one of the most important easiest changes you can make is start scheduling the time that you’re going to spend receiving entertainment or distraction from the internet. 

Maybe at first you are scheduling a lot of time for that, fine. But have some autonomy over it and start scheduling when you’re going to look at social media, when you’re going to look at the internet, when you’re going to stream entertainment and start to gain some control about when you do that, when you don’t. So make that lifestyle change, drop two to three to four hours of deep work into your weekly schedule in your calendar. 

Do that for a month, I think you will lay a good preliminary foundation from which first of all to judge whether you really do want to get serious about deep work and two, you are well suited to actually act on that decision if you decide yes. 

[0:49:50.9] MB: And where can people find you and your books online? 

[0:49:54.5] CN: So I have a website, calnewport.com and you can find about the books there. Also I blog on there about a lot of these ideas. So if you want to explore some of these ideas, you can there. The books themselves are available anywhere books are sold, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and so on. The one place you won’t find me is on social media because I’ve never had an account. 

[0:50:13.6] MB: Well that makes sense. Well, Cal, thank you so much for coming on here and sharing your wisdom. This was a fascinating conversation and I think listeners who really apply deep work will see huge dividends from focusing on it. 

[0:50:25.7] CN: Well thanks, Matt. I really enjoyed the opportunity to talk about it. 

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December 29, 2016 /Lace Gilger
Career Development, Focus & Productivity
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Seven Catalysts To Creating Progress and Becoming A More Effective Leader with Dr. Teresa Amabile

November 03, 2016 by Lace Gilger in Career Development, Influence & Communication

In this episode we look at the single biggest factor that impacts your performance at work, the 7 major catalysts for creating progress in your life, we dig deep into the data to look closely at the correlations between mental states and actual performance in terms of creativity, technical skill, productivity and much more with Dr. Teresa Amabile.

Dr. Amabile is a Professor and Director of Research at Harvard Business School. She received her Ph.D. in psychology from Stanford. Her research investigates how life inside organizations can influence people and their performance. She has published over 100 articles in top scholarly journal and is the co-author of The Progress Principle: Using Small Wins to Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work, as well as Creativity in Context and Growing up Creative.

We discuss:

  • How offering a reward can undermine people’s intrinsic motivation to do something

  • We dig deep into the nearly 12,000 daily diary entries from over 200 professionals inside organizations that formed the foundation of Teresa’s research

  • We look closely at the correlations between mental states and actual performance in terms of creativity, technical skill, productivity and more

  • How positive and negative work environments arise within organizations

  • Your “inner work life” and why its so important (and you may not even be aware of it)

  • How external motivators can accidentally wipe out your true motive for working and achieving your goals

  • Why “Making Progress on Meaningful Work” is the single biggest factor impacting performance

  • An important and powerful tool that managers can use to help people do better in their work and have better experiences every day

  • The "intrinsic motivation principle of creativity” and why it matters to you!

  • The largest disconnect between what managers think motivates their employees and what the research actually shows that motivates them

  • The 7 catalysts to creating progress in your life

  • The importance of having clear goals (what you’re doing and why it matters)

  • Why creating a culture where people learn from problems, failures, and mistakes is vital to success

  • The importance of control and autonomy in your work

  • How to create emotional support for your employees and coworkers

  • How small words of kindness and understanding can make a huge impact on productivity

  • The importance of setting daily goals for yourself - something you want to get done that is really core to your work

  • The importance of measurement and tracking your progress with a daily progress journal

  • The enormous impact of even a tiny win on your day

  • And much more!

If you want to master motivation for yourself and others, listen to this episode!

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SHOW NOTES, LINKS, & RESEARCH

  • [Book] The Progress Principle by Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer

  • [Article] The Power of Small Wins by Teresa Amabile and Steven J. Kramer

  • [Checklist] Daily Progress Checklist

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT

Today, we have another incredible guest on the show, Teresa Amabile. Teresa is a professor and director of research at Harvard business school. She received her PhD in psychology from Stanford. Her research investigates how life inside organizations can influence people and their performance. She has published over a hundred articles in top scholarly journals and is the coauthor of The Progress Principle: Using small wins to ignite joy, engagement, and creativity at work, as well as Creativity in Context and Growing Up Creative.

Teresa, welcome to the science of success.

[0:02:54.2] TA: Hey Matt, I’m really happy to be here.

[0:02:56.2] MB: Well we’re very excited to have you on. So for audience members who may not be familiar with you, tell us a little bit about yourself, your background, and how you kind of got into this field of research.

[0:03:06.4] TA: I actually started my adult life as a chemist and made my way fairly quickly after working as a chemist for only about a year, made my way to a PhD in psychology and I’m really glad that I did. The thing is, I’ve always loved science from the time I was a little kid. I didn’t know that psychology was a science though until I got halfway through college as a chemistry major and I realized I was a whole lot more interested in the behavior of humans than the behavior of molecules. So that’s how I ended up doing the psychology degree and it was in grad school that I got some of the initial ideas for my research that I’m actually still playing out all these years later.

I was lucky enough at Stanford to be able to work with a professor named Mark Leper. He was at that point doing some of the earliest research on what’s called “intrinsic motivation” and that’s the motivation to do something because you’re passionate about it because you find it interesting, enjoyable, personally satisfying, personally challenging. Mark had discovered, paradoxically, that rewarding people for doing something that they were already intrinsically interested in doing without a reward, offering them a reward to do it could undermine their intrinsic motivation. Could make them actually less interested in doing it later on when the reward was removed.

This caused a huge hubbub in the field of psychology and I was absolutely fascinated by it and it occurred to me that not only might things like reward and other kinds of external motivators, not only could they possibly have a negative effect on people’s subsequent interest in doing something, but they might also have a negative impact on how people do whatever it is they’re doing, whatever the task is that they’ve been rewarded for. And I was interested in particular in how reward and other external motivators, external constraints, how those things could influence the creativity of someone’s performance.

So I began doing some experiments, with children and with adults, while I was in grad school and I discovered what I called the “intrinsic motivation principle of creativity”. That is that people are more creative when they’re interested primarily in doing the work out of their own enjoyment of it, their own interest in it, their own sense of personal challenge and personal satisfaction rather than doing it because of extrinsic motivators, something that someone is holding out there as a carrot, or external constraints, something that someone is telling them to do.

That intrinsic motivation principle has held up through dozens of experiments that I’ve done, that other researchers have done and it’s even held up in situations like business organizations where people are trying to do creative work on a day by day basis. So that was really the beginning of my research. It’s gone off into many directions, looking at the environments in classrooms and in homes that can best support children’s creativity, versus the classroom and home environments that can undermine it. As well as the business environments, the organizational environments that can be most conducive to people’s intrinsic motivation and creativity as well as looking at those obstacles that can get in the way of creativity at work.

So that was the foundation of my research. The research that I did for The Progress Principle took off from there and began looking at things outside of creativities. Certainly including creativity, but that research looked at other aspects of performance. Including productivity, commitment to the work, collegiality, how people treat each other and it looked at psychological states beyond intrinsic motivation. Including emotions and perceptions that people have while they’re doing their work.

[0:07:41.7] MB: That’s a fascinating journey and a very counterintuitive conclusion to some of the kind of common sense wisdom of how we think we should motivate people.

[0:07:52.4] TA: Absolutely. That’s why I was so excited about these results when they first came out.

[0:07:58.2] MB: I’m curious tell me as little bit more about Progress Principle and kind of some of the research that went into writing it.

[0:08:04.8] TA: My collaborators and I wanted to understand how this positive and negative work environments for creativity at how they arise inside organizations we decided that it was really going to be important to look at what was going on inside people’s hearts and minds, if you will, day by day as they were working in order to get some real insight into what influenced people at that micro level. Because that’s where it all starts. That’s where creative ideas occur or die or never fail to come out, never come out at all, that’s where people can become more motivated or less motivated. On a day by day, and even maybe a moment by moment basis.

So we were really interested in that very microscopic level, what are people thinking, what are they feeling, how motivated are they in their work, and ultimately does this influence their creativity? How does it influence their creativity and their productivity and those other aspects of performance? We called those internal psychological states of emotions, perceptions and motivations, we call that an inner work life. Everybody has inner work life all the time while they’re working, whether they’re conscious of it or not.

So we all have a continuous stream of thoughts and perceptions. That’s just really the impressions that we form of our work our colleagues, coworkers, our managers, our organization, what’s going on and what it means. So that’s perceptions. It’s also the ongoing stream of emotions that we have. So at any given moment, we could be experiencing mild positive emotion, extreme positive emotion, mild or extreme negative emotion, we could be in a more or less neutral emotional state but most of us have some sort of motivation, emotion going on most of the time that we’re at work. Again, even if we’re not aware of it and positive and negative emotions can actually coexist.

That third component, motivation. We all have some degree of motivation for our work and every moment that we’re working and we have both intrinsic and extrinsic motives for doing most of what we do. If we’re working in an organization or even working as a freelancer, we all have extrinsic motivations. Of course we all want to get paid, equitably and generously, for the work that we do. That’s always there as a baselines. We also have extrinsic motivators like deadlines very often and other rewards and bonuses that we might stand to gain. We all have the extrinsic motivator of wanting to look good and wanting other people to evaluate our work well.

Many of us are extrinsically motivated by competition, wanting to do better than other people. Those extrinsic motivations are usually there for almost all of us, almost all of the time, they’re usually kind of in the background. We also have intrinsic motivation for what we’re doing, hopefully, most of us, much of the time and that is that feeling of real interest and engagement in the work itself. What my early experiment showed is that if those extrinsic motivators become too prominent, if they become the focus of why we feel like we’re doing what we’re doing, they can wipe out that intrinsic motivation, they can undermine it.

Ideally, we’re going to be in an intrinsically motivated state most of the time because that’s a state that’s most conducive to creativity and we found, to the other dimensions of performance as well. But ten we face the really hard question. All right, we’re interested in a work life for such as emotions and motivations, how do we look at it? We called it an inner work life because it’s hidden most of the time. It’s not something that an observer can just see, it’s not something we reveal to other people at work much of the time. In fact, we’ve been kind of trained at least in this culture to hide our emotions when we’re at work. “Put on a professional face.”

So this was a tricky problem for us methodologically, how do we get in this? We decided the best way to do it would be to ask people to fill out a daily confidential electronic diary, toward the end of each work day. Short but piffy in terms of getting at their inner work life for that day specifically. So this little diary form that we emailed to everyone who participated in our study, toward the end of their work day, had a few numerical scale questions on it, getting at their inner work life that day.

So there were flow survey questions on, “Today at work, did you perceive that you had support from your coworkers that you’d had support from your managers? Did you perceive support from the organization at large for the work that you were doing? Did you feel emotionally supported in your work day? How much time pressure did you have today? To what extent did you have access to the resources you needed?” So these are all perceptions and they were about half a dozen other questions about people’s perceptions of the work and their team, their manager, the organization that day.

We also had some numerical questions on their motivations. Intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, and we had scale rated questions on their emotions that they experienced that day. That was a very quick sort of numerical, taking of the person’s inner work life temperature that day, if you will. Then, we did the x-ray, if you will, of what your work day was like. In particular, what stood out in their mind as being a significant event from the day, or at least something that they recalled when they thought back on their day. Something that stood out in their mind.

So we had an open ended question at the end of the diary form and it simply said, “Briefly describe one event that occurred today that stands out in your mind. It can be anything at all, as long as it’s relevant to the work or the project that your work is part of. Please describe in detail what happened and who was involved.” They got that same question every day so they knew it was coming. We sent them these diary forms every day through the entire course of an important creativity project that they were working on.

So we recruited people in seven companies in three industries to participate in the study. There were a total of 26 project teams across this seven companies and each project team was doing an important innovation project for its company and these people were more or less 100% dedicated to this projects. So we thought, “All right, we’re going to be able to find out day by day what’s happening in this people’s work lives as those work lives unfold day by day through the entire course of an important project that requires creativity to be successful.”

We assumed that some of this 26 projects would indeed be successful and some of them would not. We wanted to see if we could understand something about why creativity happened in some of these projects, didn’t happen in others. Why some of this people were able to creative in their work and be productive but others were not. Wanted to see if there was something going on in those work days that would allow us to make those predictions. So we followed this people 238 of them, they were professionals, we followed them every day through the entire course of their project. On average, these projects were four and a half months long. That’s a lot of weeks for people to be getting this diary every day, Monday through Friday.

It was quick, it took them only about five to eight minutes to fill out but the data were incredibly fascinating and we had a lot of data. We ended up with nearly 12,000 of this individual dairy diaries being sent back to us. That’s 75% of the diaries that we sent to this people. We had an astonishing 75% response rate. These people filled out this diary form and sent it back to us. When we analyzed these diaries, we felt it was really important to correlate them with the actual performance of this people. We wanted to know what was going on inside their heads, their hearts and minds, during the work day, was that in any way related to their performance? This is the prediction that we wanted to make.

So we had to have good measures of their performance, and we decided not to trust what they said about their own performance. We decided to ask people who knew their work well and that was their supervisors and their close colleagues. Monthly, during the study and by the way, there were some teams that were in the study for eight months, even nine months if they had a long-ish project. Monthly during the study, we asked every participant, close colleagues and supervisors to make a quick rating of them on a little questionnaire that just asked for assessments on four items, for each person who is participating in the study. The person’s creative contributions to the project over the previous year, their technical contributions to the productivity of the work, they demonstrated commitment to the work and their collegiality, how they treated the other people on their team.

When we analyzed those data, those performance data against the inner work life ratings that we got from this people every day, we made an astonishing discovery. We found that on most days and most weeks and those months. When people were having the most positive perceptions of their organizations, their coworkers, their managers, even themselves, when they were having the strongest, intrinsic motivation for their work and they’re experiencing the most positive emotions, it was on most days and weeks and months that they were most likely to produce work that was creative.

Not only that, they were more likely to be productive in their work, demonstrate commitment to it and be better colleagues to each other, which of course raises the level of everyone else’s performance in the team. This was a really important discovery. This means that inner work life does predict performance, including creativity. At that point, we backed up and we said, “All right, if inner work life is so important for performance, what happens day by day that can influence inner work life? What is it that makes people have more positive emotions? Have stronger intrinsic motivations at their work? Have those positive perceptions?”

So we went back into the diaries and we analyzed everything what this people reported as an event in their day, in those open ended responses that they wrote, those on average 50 to 60 word paragraphs that they wrote about one event from their day. We categorized all these events using a very long and complex coding scheme and we wanted to see, are there certain events that show up repeatedly on people’s very best inner work life days?

Are there other events that show up repeatedly on people’s very worst inner work life days? We thought, “Those would be the likely suspect for distinguishing between positive inner work life and negative inner work life. Those are the likely suspects for the events that make the biggest difference.” We found that if all the positive events that people reported, on their very best inner work life days, the single most prominent was simply making progress in meaningful work. I want to just explain a little bit about what we mean there. Making progress means moving forward, feeling like you’re getting somewhere in solving a problem or coming up with new ideas.

Meaningful work means that the person feels that they’re contributing to something that they value in the work that they’re doing. Occasionally we found that people felt that they had made a lot of progress on work that they didn’t hear about, occasionally they felt that they were doing something that wasn’t really central to this important innovation project, that we’re doing something that they considered go for work or they didn’t know why they were doing this or they were stuck in a boring meeting all day that wasn’t really about the project.

On those days, even though people thought they got a lot done maybe, they made progress, they didn’t have particularly good inner work life. But most of the time, because they were doing this important innovation projects, most of the time, most of this people did find meaning in their work, they felt they were contributing to something that really mattered to the company, to the customers, maybe even to society at large because of the things that they were inventing in this projects.

When they felt that they were doing meaningful work, if they move forward in that work, they were more likely to have positive perceptions of the environment, the organization, their colleagues, their team, they were more likely to be strongly intrinsically motivated in their work and they were more likely to have these positive emotions. So what we found here is important and powerful tool that managers can use to help people do better in their work and not only do better in their work but actually have more positive inner work life experiences, have better experiences day by day in their work and that is for managers to simply pay attention to supporting progress.

Supporting the progress that their people are trying to make in their most important work. We even found a carryover effect. We found that on those days when people are having progress events in their work, when they’re feeling happy in their work, not only are the more likely to come up with a creative idea or solve a problem creatively that day, they’re even more likely to come up with a creative idea the next day regardless of the next day’s mood.

So what this means is that there’s an incubation effect, there’s kind of a cognitive process that gets setup when people are having positive inner work life that allows them to make new connections between ideas that they might not have connected otherwise or to get insight into difficult and complex problems and they can result in a solution or a new idea that day but if it doesn’t, it can actually kind or marinate or cook or incubate overnight and show up this creative idea or a good solution to the problem the next day.

That’s a really powerful result and it means that managers would do well to pay close attention to what they could do to bolster people’s inner work lives day by day. I’ll be happy to talk a little bit more about what it is managers can do, if that’s a direction you’d like to go on the conversation.

[0:24:06.8] MB: I’m curious for somebody who is listening, who might be a manager or in some sort of organizational role? How can they support progress, which you said is kind of a critical component of enabling people to make progress on meaningful work and also what are some of the biggest disconnects between what people think motivated their employees and what the research actually shows, empowers them and motivates them.

[0:24:31.3] TA: Yeah, those are great questions. Matt, I’m going to actually answer your first question, your second question first. Managers are taught and they see, in this culture at least, that the way to motivate employees is to offer them rewards for the work, to have a bonus structure for example that will keep them motivated, keep them engaged, keep them plugging away at their work. Well we found through this day by day diaries, 12,000 of them, 12,000 days of people’s experiences was that they rarely were thinking about rewards and other extrinsic motivators during their work day.

They rarely felt that that was motivating them in their work and we asked about it every day in the diary form. What really motivated them, it turned out, was feeling that they were getting somewhere, that they were making progress and also feeling that they were in a work environment that cared about them as people, that supported them as people and I hadn’t been emphasizing that because it turned out to not be quite as important as the progress factor but it actually is pretty important, this feeling that you are valued as a human being.

So let me talk about the two sides of that. One is the progress side, the other is almost as important, the human side. We discovered when we went back into the diaries and looked at what kinds of things managers were doing, what kind of events people reported before they had this progress events. We discovered that there were a small set of things that managers did consistently that did support progress. We call this the catalyst to progress. There are seven of them. First, maybe most fundamentally, it’s very important for people to have clear goals in their work. To have a sense of what they’re doing and why it matters. That why it matters part is the meaningfulness part. But they need to have a sense of what it is they’re trying to achieve with the project, with this work that they’re doing.

The second very important catalyst is autonomy in the work. People feeling that they do have autonomy, control over how to achieve these goals in their work so they’re not micro managed. So that they can actually make decisions for themselves about the best route for solving this problem, for taking care of this part of the project. So if you think about these two catalyst, clear goals and autonomy, they may seem like they’re opposing but they’re not really. In setting clear goals, the manager, the leader is saying, “This is the mountain we’re trying to climb.” But in giving the autonomy, they’re saying, “It’s up to you to figure out how to climb it. We want you to use your skills, your creativity, your own ideas to figure out how to climb this mountain.” That’s very motivating for people. Both the clear goal that aspiration of what they’re trying to achieve and the autonomy, “I’m in control of my work. I can figure out the best way to do this.”

Other catalyst include sufficient resources for getting the work done, not lavish but sufficient to do the work so the people aren’t scrambling constantly and you then expending all their creativity, just getting the resources that they need, the funding, the materials and so on, the information, that they need to get the work done. Having sufficient time for the work. Again, not lavish amounts of time, there actually should be some sense of urgency in the work. Otherwise it will seem meaningless and unimportant if nobody cares about when the work is done, there should be some sense of urgency but the time pressure should not be extreme. We found that that can kill creativity. So sufficient resources, sufficient time.

Help with the work when it gets difficult. I’m very aware, by the way, that these are entirely mundane. These sound like basic management 101. Bu the thing is, managers don’t pay attention to this things nearly as often as they should. If people in doing an important innovation project, if they’re struggling with something that’s really difficult, get help for them. Either by connecting them to others in the organization and what it would be able to help out or helping them out yourself. That can make a huge difference in getting people past the home and helping them to continue making progress in difficult work.

This next one is really important and that’s something that very few managers do well, that is having an atmosphere, a culture where people learn from problems and failures and mistakes. As well as from successes. We found that in most of these seven organizations, most of these 26 teams, when there was something new that was tried, a new experiment maybe that failed, the usual response of the team leader, often of team members themselves certainly of higher level managers, the immediate response was to either castigate the people who did the work, “How could you have been so stupid?” Or, sweep it under the rug, “We’re going to pretend that didn’t happen, ignore it.”

The organization, the teams that did the best were those where people talked about the mistakes, talked about the failures, they called them out themselves. You know, “I did an experiment this week,” they would say, in the team meeting for example, “that failed and I’m having a hard time figuring out why.” Then the whole team would do a debrief. “All right, let’s talk about the steps you followed, what did you do here, what did you do there? All right, looks like maybe this is the reason that it didn’t work out.” So the whole team, including the individuals who did this failed experiment, the whole team extracted failure value from that thing that didn’t work.

There was one organization out of the seven that we followed that did spectacularly well and they in fact are still doing very well, they’re at the top of their industry. In their organization, people almost as a reflex, when something went wrong, would talk about it. Very quickly, very matter of factly, without pointing fingers, “Oh, this person was an idiot,” but just, “How can we learn from this?” There was this wonderful diary where the people in this company said, “I told the manager today that the experiment that I did failed and he said, “That’s all right, as long as we know what we did.”

And then the debrief happened right away and they were able to move on from that and that team actually had one of the very true breakthroughs of any of the 26 teams that we followed during our study. So learning from problems is extremely important and the atmosphere that helps people do that is called “psychological safety” where you know it’s safe to speak up about things that are going wrong about failures and you’re not going to get ridiculed, you’re not going to get blamed. But people are going to actually deal with it and appreciate your bringing it up.

[0:31:55.2] MB: That’s something we’re huge fans of on Science of Success in general is the idea of embracing failure, embracing mistakes and not casting blame or making excuses and we have a number of previous episodes about things like the fixed mindset, things like accepting reality, not making excuses. So I love to hear that some of the most successful companies in your study focused on that.

[0:32:18.5] TA: That’s right. In fact, it was only one unfortunately out of the seven that was that successful. But there were other teams here and there that where we would see psychological safety and those teams did tend to do much better even when they were in other companies. There are other catalyst that we discovered that people couldn’t see, they look at the book. I did want to mention something about the people support. The emotional support for people, as human beings, is so important.

Managers can do this by paying attention to first of all, basically respect in recognition for the value that each employee brings to the work. It’s really disheartening to see how seldom managers, from team leaders all the way up to top level leaders in an organization, how seldom they think to make a word of appreciation to someone, either in private or even better, in public. Just a simple way of noting what someone has done, let them know that they’re appreciated, to show them basic civility and respect.

It’s really important also to have an environment where people are encouraged when the work is difficult or they have a sense that there’s confidence that they can overcome this obstacle and get the work done. It’s important for people to feel that they have emotional support. If they’re having difficulty in their professional life or their personal life and sometimes all that requires is a simple acknowledgement. Even if you can’t say, “What can I do to help, let me help? At least say, “I know that you’re going through a tough time right now and I’m sorry for that, I understand that things are really stressful for you.” That makes a huge difference.

Comments like that from leaders made their way into the diaries when they happened, they had a huge positive effect on people’s emotions and perceptions that day. Finally a sense of camaraderie in a team, how can people feel that they’re in a group that can trust each other, where there’s mutual support, mutual understanding. Not that they don’t challenge each other, they should be open to each other’s ideas and that means challenging each other’s ideas too and really looking at them and trying to make them better. That sense of camaraderie can get people through a lot of difficult times in a project.

[0:34:35.1] MB: So for somebody who is listening, and I know your research focuses primarily on organizational dynamics. For somebody who is listening that maybe works form home or works by themselves, how can they kind of create this progress principle for themselves?

[0:34:50.5] TA: It’s not easy, but if you think about it, you can set a plan for yourself and it is doable, I’ve talked with many people who have tried this for themselves. First of all, set daily goals for yourself, not a lot of them. Maybe it’s one goal of something that you want to get done that’s really core to your work, that you feel is allowing you to get somewhere on what you consider most important in your work. Second, try to protect some time in your day to actually work on that goal. Even if it’s only half an hour, I know many of us get to work and we find that our work day ends up being pulled in a million directions that we didn’t anticipate.

Depending on your role in an organization, that may be part of what you need to do is help put out the fires that are going on each day. But ideally you will be able to protect some time even if it’s only at the very beginning of the day before most people are there to focus on that most important part of your work, the thing that you care about the most, it’s more intrinsically motivating to you and allow yourself to dig into it and make at least a bit of progress on it. The third thing is to track your progress. I recommend and we talk about this in The Progress Principle.

We recommend a daily progress journal where you spent not even more than two or three minutes at the end of the day noting what progress you did make in your work that day. If there were set backs to mention those and to see if you can get some insight into what caused those setbacks and what you might be able to do to overcome that obstacle. I’ve been keeping a progress journal myself in the last five and a half years or so, and I found that it really does make a difference. It helps me to stay tuned into my goals, I think it does help me to make more progress in my work and it certainly uplifts my inner work life to note what progress I made during the day, even if it was a small thing, because many days feel pretty frustrating at the end and it’s great to have that little boost in your inner work life.

[0:37:00.5] MB: We’ve obviously gone in depth into some of the lessons and much of the research behind Progress Principle. What are some additional resources you would recommend for somebody who wants to do some research or kind of dig in a little bit more about this topic?

[0:37:14.8] TA: Well, I would recommend looking at my website because I do have some resources there. In fact, I do have a daily progress check list that managers can use and I have a diary form that individuals can use for themselves. This daily progress checklist overcomes, I think, the most important barrier to managers and supporting progress and that is, they don’t pay attention to this seemingly ordinary things like, “Do people have clear goals? Do they know actually what it is they’re trying to achieve?”

Do they have sufficient resources, do they have the help that they need? So just going through that checklist, daily or even weekly, can help manage you stay tuned in to what people need and help them figure out ways of supporting progress and the daily diary form is something that people can use to do what I was just talking about, to keep track of those goals and their progress against those goals. We found that even the small wind that is a small step forward can have an enormous impact, positive impact, on people’s inner work life every day. Let me give you the website, it is simply progressprinciple.com.

[0:38:36.6] MB: Got it, and is that where people can find you online?

[0:38:39.1] TA: That’s right.

[0:38:40.2] MB: Perfect, and what is one piece of homework that you would give to our listeners?

[0:38:44.9] TA: Wow, I would ask your listeners to try this out today, write down one or two important goals that you have in your work for the next couple of weeks and make a plan to protect some time in your day today and tomorrow to make progress against those goals. Just for this two days, at the end of the day, spend a couple of minutes writing out what progress you felt you did make in the goals and if you had setbacks, you weren’t able to get much movement on those goals, what you might be able to do to remove those obstacles.

[0:39:22.8] MB: That’s a great piece of homework and I think something that I may implement myself.

[0:39:27.0] TA: Great.

[0:39:27.7] MB: Well, Teresa, this has been fascinating and I loved really going deep into some of the research and the astounding amount of data that you collected and the findings from that data. Thank you so much for coming on the show and sharing all these incredible insights.

[0:39:42.4] TA: It was my pleasure Matt. I wish you and your listeners as well.

[0:39:45.3] MB: Thank you. 

November 03, 2016 /Lace Gilger
Career Development, Influence & Communication
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How To Execute on Huge Goals, Take Action, and Create The Results You Want with Neil Patel

October 13, 2016 by Lace Gilger in Focus & Productivity, Career Development

In this episode we talk about execution, how to break down big goals into actionable steps, how and why Neil hired a “mama” for himself, the “ten minute rule” that could help you achieve big productivity gains and how to optimize your life to free up huge amounts of time with entrepreneur Neil Patel.

Neil is the co-founder of Crazy Egg, Hello Bar and KISSmetrics. The Wall Street Journal calls him a top influencer on the web, Forbes says he is one of the top 10 online marketers, and Entrepreneur Magazine says he created one of the 100 most brilliant companies in the world. He was recognized as a top 100 entrepreneur under the age of 30 by President Obama and one of the top 100 entrepreneurs under the age of 35 by the United Nations. Neil has also been awarded Congressional Recognition from the United States House of Representatives.

We discuss:

  • How to break huge goals into small bite sized tasks that you can quickly and easily execute

  • How Neil defines success and why money wont make you happy

  • The "10 minute rule" and how it can help you achieve big results

  • “Hacks” that Neil recommends for those who want to climb the corporate ladder

  • How to go from A to Z by skipping B, C, D etc and getting straight to the result

  • Why you don’t have to take the traditional path the everyone else does to get what you want in life

  • The strategy Neil uses to pitch huge deals to corporate executives

  • How to optimize your life to save time and free your time up

  • The rules that Neil uses to improve and use his time more efficiently

  • How Neil hired a “mom” to cook him breakfast and do his laundry (and why!)

  • How to manufacture and generate luck for yourself

  • Why shouldn’t “rent your dreams"

  • How to take action on the things that matter and actually create results, so you can stop spinning your wheels

  • And much more!

Thank you so much for listening!

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[00:00:12.4] MB: Welcome to The Science of Success. I’m your host, Matt Bodnar. I’m an entrepreneur and investor in Nashville Tennessee and I’m obsessed with the mindset of success and the psychology of performance. I’ve read hundreds of books, conducted countless hours of research and study and I’m going to take you on a journey into the human mind and what makes peak performers tick, with a focus on always having our discussions rooted in psychological research and scientific fact. Not opinion.

In this episode, we talk about execution, how to break down big goals into actionable steps. How and why Neil Patel hired a mom up for himself, the 10 minute rule that could help you achieve huge productivity gains, and how to optimize your life to free up huge amounts of time with entrepreneur Neil Patel. Because the Science of Success has spread across the globe with more than 550,000 downloads, listeners in over a hundred countries, hitting number one in New and Noteworthy and more, I give away something awesome to my listeners every single month. 

This month I’m giving away $100 Amazon gift card to one lucky listener. All you have to do to be entered to win is to text the word “smarter” to the number 44222. Again, that’s “smarter” to 44222 and if you want 10, yes 10 extra entries into the giveaway, leave a positive review on iTunes and email me a screenshot of that review to matt@scienceofsuccess.co. 

In our previous episode, we explore the link between trauma, mental health, learning disabilities and genius. Looked at a number of historical figures and how they harnessed struggles like depression and ADHD to achieve world changing results and examine the practical steps to overcome your struggles today with Dr. Gale Saltz. If you think you have a challenge you can’t overcome, listen to that episode. 

[INTERIVEW]

[0:02:08.1] MB: Today, we have another awesome guest on the show, Neil Patel. Neil is the cofounder of Crazy Egg, Hello Bar and Kissmetrics. The Wall Street Journal called him “a top influencer on the web”. Forbes says he is one of the top 10 online marketers, entrepreneur magazine says he created one of the hundred most brilliant companies in the world. He was recognized as a top 100 entrepreneur under the age of 30 by president Obama and as one of the top 100 entrepreneurs under the age of 35 by the United Nations. Neil has also been awarded congressional recognition form the United States House of Representatives. 

Neil, welcome to the science of success.

[0:02:45.4] NP: Thanks for having me.

[0:02:47.1] MB: Well we’re very excited to have you on here. To kind of get started, obviously have an amazing background. For listeners who may not be familiar, tell us a little bit about you and your story?

[0:02:57.2] NP: Sure, just a serial entrepreneur, started off at the age of 16 looking for a job, couldn’t find one, decided to create my own job. Failed miserably for many reasons but one of the main reasons was I didn’t know how to get traffic to the site. So eventually I learned how to drive traffic to the site, still couldn’t figure out how to make money but I decided that, “You know what? It’s just better if I do consulting from marketing perspective for other people.” 

Got good at it, got value, they referred me to more clients. Eventually started a consulting agency, then from there I realized I hate it but through the whole process I learned that these companies don’t know how to optimize their site for conversions and sales and they don’t know how to look at metrics and that’s how I started my software journey and started focusing on optimizing for conversions and SAS sales, et cetera.

So that’s pretty much the gamut of my entrepreneurial journey. I also blog too, right? Which some people know, some people don’t, at Quick Sprout and neilpatel.com.

[0:03:54.4] MB: So in a recent interview, Tai Lopez asked you, "What are you the best in the world at?” What was your answer?

[0:04:00.7] NP: I don’t remember. That was, I did that interview a while ago.

[0:04:03.3] MB: All right, that’s fine.

[0:04:05.1] NP: I’m good at driving traffic to a website. I don’t know if that’s what I said but that’s probably what I’m really good at, driving traffic to a website. I’m good at converting those visitors into customers and I’m really good at learning from mistakes and executing really fast.

[0:04:17.9] MB: Yeah, so executing was the answer that you gave him. And I’m curious, how do you execute and for people who are struggling with execution, what do you think they could do to improve?

[0:04:29.8] NP: The biggest problem with execution is people look at these big giant tasks and they’re like, “Okay, we’re going to get this done.” It’s too big. But what I found is when people on small bite sized tasks, like I want to just purely focus on hypothetically let’s say you’re trying to build a bigger audience. Then you break that down to smaller tasks. Okay, SEO could be one of them, social media could be one of them, and blogging could be another one. And then you’re like, “Okay, let’s tackle blogging.”

Well what’s the first step of blogging? Write a blog post. What’s the first step of writing a blog post? Come up with some ideas, right?  And I’m not breaking down as granular as they could be, you could just be for your task, “All right, today I want to focus on coming up with ideas for a blogpost, picking one, creating the draft. And then another task could be to write it, another task could be after I write it, publish it. After I publish it, promote it,” right? I’m breaking this down to such small task that it’s much easier to complete them and when you do that, you're more productive and you typically get way more done.

[0:05:37.5] MB: People who struggle often have this big goals but they fail to connect that to specific actions they can start taking right now.

[0:05:47.0] NP: That’s correct, yes.

[0:05:49.2] MB: What are some of the things you might be able to do or listeners to this podcast could potentially do in terms of sort of chunking down those tasks into day to day actionable steps?

[0:06:02.2] NP: I use task lists or like to-do lists, I think that helps a lot. I don’t think there’s much more that you really need to do other than just break down the task into small things, do your to-do list and then each day go over, did it work? Did it not work? Did you accomplish what you wanted to? If so great, how so? If not, why? What would you change to fix that?

[0:06:24.5] MB: That makes a lot of sense. Let’s change directions a little bit, how do you define success or what makes somebody successful to you?

[0:06:33.3] NP: What makes someone successful to me is them loving what they’re doing in life and doing great at it. That’s really it, right? Because if you’re happy, then you’re good to go. In my eyes, you're successful. If you’re not happy then something’s off. It doesn’t matter how much money you make. If you don’t love what you're doing, you’re not enjoying it then something’s off.

[0:06:50.7] MB: Why do you think people fall into the trap of constantly sort of seeking out more money or more whatever it might be? 

[0:06:58.7] NP: That’s what they think will make them happy and eventually people learn as they make more money that money doesn’t really make you happy. 

[0:07:05.7] MB: Did you learn that lesson from personal experience?

[0:07:09.4] NP: I did in which I would just, I started my first business because I wanted to make money, and as I started to make it and as I started to make it and I started buying useless things that I didn’t even care for but not too many useless things. Eventually I figured out that hey, none of this really matters. But what I really do enjoy is just focusing on businesses that I love.

[0:07:28.4] MB: Let’s segue into discussing your recent book Hustle. Tell me a little bit about that book?

[0:07:34.7] NP: Sure, if you look at the world right now, the people who are really rich are extremely rich, the poor, poor and the middle class is depleting, right? It’s not just me that thinks have the stats show that as well. A lot of the people who aren’t successful, which is the majority, feel that, “Hey, I wasn’t born with wealth, I didn’t’ grow with silver spoon I don’t have that Harvard degree, you know, all hope is lost.” 

We know that’s not the case because a lot of this entrepreneurs are doing successful even people who are going to the works force and climbing up the ranks, a lot of them didn’t come from the best education, it didn’t come from a family that just give them tons of money and what we ended up our goal, what we wanted to do was to teach this people concepts and strategies that they can use to increase their odds of succeeding when the odds are stacked against you.

[0:08:27.5] MB: You, in the book, kind of break things into what you called a three part framework of hustle. What are each of those components?

[0:08:34.0] NP: Yeah, the components of hustle. So it depends on where you want to start, right? The biggest thing that we end up breaking down into the book, there’s four main ways that we teach you how to grow but we try to break down everything in the book under the main concepts of money, meaning and momentum, right? There’s subsections within each of them. We teach you a lot of different concepts, for example, one of the concepts we teach you is a 10 minute rule in which if you have goals in life, how can you focus just for 10 minutes out of your time?

The reason I say 10 minutes and this is really important is, most people when they’re trying to achieve something they’re like, “Okay I want to create XY and Z company or I want to work for myself and be financially independent,” that’s their goal. But how do you get there? So we teach you how to break down these goals, these tasks into small little 10 minute chunks, you try something out for 10 minutes, does it help you achieve what you’re trying to go through in life, right? If it does, great. If it doesn’t then you should redo something else for 10 minutes. 

Then we also teach you other concepts on how to grow. Some people you realize that hey, the corporate route is great for me and we teach you how to climb the corporate ranks. Or you may realize that you’re inside of a company and you don’t want to be inside, it’s best for you to do entrepreneurship. We break down concepts on how you can try entrepreneurship and go for it even when you’re within an organization, right?

Or we even break down that hey, you’re outside and you're trying to figure out how to get into the corporate world or get a job, right? We break down concepts like that. But we teach you many different concepts we call little “hacks” on how you can do the small bite sized things to succeed in life.

[0:10:22.2] MB: Let’s drill down into one of those categories, for example the corporate route. For somebody who’s listening to the podcast right now that is in a corporate job and wants to stay there and kind of succeed and thrive, what are some of the tops that you would give them or some of the hacks that you would give them?

[0:10:38.6] NP: Yeah, so if you’re in the corporate world and you’re trying to figure out the upside like how you can grow, there’s a few things. One, a lot of people who work in the corporate world, all they do is just try to focus on pleasing their boss. Don’t get me wrong, you can please your boss and you should, but you also have to think about yourself. Is what you're doing only helping your boss succeed? Are you focusing on helping them achieve their goals? Or are some of the things that you’re doing also helping you achieve your goals, right? 

One simple thing that you can do is if you're in the corporate world, once you figure out, “All right, am I focusing on helping myself improve?” In many cases you’ll find that most people are just focus on pleasing their boss. That’s great and all, but why not have a conversation with your boss and say, “Hey, here’s where we’re at, right? I love this company I want to be here for life, I love what you’re doing and I want to follow in your footsteps. What are some things that I can do to make your life easier or to show the company or to help out the company,” right? 

In essence you want to put the company first, not just your boss but the company first. Not necessarily focusing on pleasing your boss but the companies calls an objective, right? Because even if some people hate you but you 3X the company’s revenue, someone’s going to notice. And if you can find out what those specific items are and you can help them achieve it and go above and beyond, people will start noticing and you’ll start realizing that you can start getting promotions within the organization or climbing up the corporate ladder.

[0:12:13.5] MB: So a moment ago you kind of threw out the term and I actually used it too without really thinking about it, the term “hacks”. You and I are probably familiar with what that means but for somebody who is listening that may not know what that is, can you explain kind of what a hack is or what it means to hack something?

[0:12:28.7] NP: Yeah, a hack is, think of it as a shortcut to get to the result. If you want to go from A to Z, most people think you have to go A, B, C, D, E, X, right? Why can’t you jump around? Who says you can’t go backwards and just go form A and then in the alphabet and go backwards all the way to Z, right? Let’s just say example of a hack, it changes in the corporate world or in life on what each hack is, but in general, the whole concept is you don’t have to take the traditional path that everyone that everyone else does to get to where you want in life. 

For example, in my dad’s age, you would go to high school then you go to college, you get your degree, you work at a job, you stay there forever, you may go back to school to do more further learning then you may get raises, you’re pretty much there for life. That’s how my parents were brought up, that’s how they were taught. The world doesn’t necessarily work that way. Just because you go to college, you got a good degree even from Harvard and then you go back and then you get your Harvard MBA, it doesn’t mean that you’re going to get promotions or raises or do better, right?

There’s no guarantee, and that may not even be the most optimal route. Sometimes a person who does the best as a guy who is closing the most amount of deals or most well network or the guy who is going above and beyond and then being really creative with the strategies, whatever it may be. But we teach you that, “Hey, think outside the box. There’s a lot of quicker solutions to get to where you want and just taking their traditional route.”

[0:13:51.2] MB: I love that and it’s something that I’m a huge fan of as well, is the idea of kind of thinking nontraditionally, thinking outside the box and shunning conventional wisdom and figuring out, “All right, is there a shorter path from where I am today to where I need to get that defies the conventional wisdom of you need to do XY and Z?”

[0:14:09.9] NP: Exactly.

[0:14:11.4] MB: So you have some really fascinating stories from your background of how you’ve applied that concept. Everything from sort of hacking the idea of a personal driver to hacking some of your college course work. Could you tell a few of those stories or share some of those examples?

[0:14:26.4] NP: Sure. I’ve done everything, the driving one I’ve done quite a few. I’ve done driving ones where I leased a car and then I took the leased car, gave it to people for free but they would have to drive me around and then I didn’t have to pay for gas and maintenance. I’ve even done stuff for different things like where I don’t have a car and people drive me around and I give them advice, right? They can pick my brain, drive me to the airport and wherever I need to go.

I’ve done a ton of hacks, just questions is, what category or industry? Yeah, I always look for creative solutions. Nowadays, I mainly just use Uber, it’s so convenient, right? It’s a big time saver, I actually optimized most things for saving time in life. I’ve done a lot of other hacks too in business that are really creative like if you want to get to someone in a high position and get a deal done, instead of emailing I’d be like, “I want to apply for this job or this contracting position,” I’ll just email them saying everything that they’re doing and how to fix it and I would give it away to them for free. As crazy as it may sound, what happens is some of these people are like, “Okay, we’ll hire you.” Like that’s the best resume ever, right? You’re telling them what they’re doing wrong and what you would fix.

[0:15:37.8] MB: That’s a great example. So what are some of the ways that either somebody listening or even I personally could optimize my life to save time or how have you applied that lesson because I think everybody could use some more free time or use more time in general.

[0:15:51.8] NP: I use a program called Rescue Time, it’s the most optimal thing that I’ve ever done in my life, what Rescue Time does is, it just tells you where you're spending time and where you’re wasting it. From there you can just optimize. Like it will tell me, “You’re spending too much time on Facebook,” for example.

[0:16:07.5] MB: What about outside of kind of the digital context, are there any tools or hacks that you use to free up your time?

[0:16:13.9] NP: Outside, I mainly use an assistant, you can try virtual assistant or personal assistant. I also go by certain rules, like if I tell someone I’m going to do something, I do it right then and there. Or I send myself a note or reminder, because it makes you more efficient . If I open up an email I make sure I answer it right then and there or else I won’t open it because if you don’t then you have to reread it.

When I’m also doing task or driving around or whatever it may be or in meetings, I always analyze it after just for like a quick 30 seconds. Like, “How did it go? Could I have got to the point quicker? Where am I wasting time? Where was the pitch weak?” Whatever it may be, “Where were we inefficient as a group? Where was it a miscommunication? How can we set it up to be more efficient?” 

And it usually revolves around communication because if everyone was on the same page beforehand, everyone would save much more time right? So we just look a lot of little things like that and then you optimize from there. It’s just creating that right mindset mentality.

[0:17:07.3] MB: So it sounds like mindset is a huge piece of it. The next piece with a tool similar to Rescue Time is perhaps kind of measuring where you are in the status quo and then from there, taking that information and optimizing sort of your life and your workflow around time efficiency.

[0:17:23.1] NP: That’s correct, yes.

[0:17:25.7] MB: Do you use some of the things you just mentioned about kind of your productivity framework, only touching things once, et cetera, is that derived from something like GTD or what is sort of your productivity framework that you use?

[0:17:38.5] NP: I don’t really use any framework. I just naturally — so my personality trait, when we took like a personality quiz, I don’t feel happy unless I feel like I’m getting stuff done, which is weird but that’s just how I am. Most people aren’t like that. In general, what I would tell people is, I like doing task list and breaking down into small task and just focus on accomplishing them each and every single day.

[0:18:03.7] MB: That makes a ton of sense. One of the other ways that I remember a story about you kind of outsourcing something in a nontraditional way was hiring a mom. Can you tell that story?

[0:18:13.8] NP: Yeah. I have a mama, I still have her, her name is Jackie, I love her to death, I call her mama though. Mama gets all my stuff done. I put out a Craigslist ad looking for a mama. She does everything from packing for me to cooking to cleaning like whatever it may be and it just helps make my life so much more efficient so I can focus on work.

[0:18:33.6] MB: Some people listening might think that it’s ridiculous to hire somebody to cook your breakfast or do your laundry or whatever. Why do you think that that is a prudent investment?

[0:18:43.6] NP: It helps you focus on what’s most valuable for you, right? I believe in optimizing for time so why not just focus on what you're good at and I found out I can do my own laundry but it takes me forever to do it compared to other people and I lose way more money compared to just focusing on just getting one thing done which is my work, growing the business.

[0:19:03.7] MB: You touched on something there that I think that a lot of really highly productive people think differently about this particular concept, which is the idea that whatever your “hourly rate” is or whatever you value your time at, if their activities, you’re performing hat are sort of under that hourly rate, regardless of how silly it may seem on the surface to hire somebody to do that, it’s actually really efficient to pay somebody say 10 or $15 an hour if you view your time as being worth a couple of hundred dollars an hour to do all of these tasks for you.

[0:19:37.9] NP: Exactly, you got it right.

[0:19:40.6] MB: Yeah, I’m a huge fan of that whole concept as well and I have things like a virtual assistant and focus on trying to optimize my time in a similar fashion. Changing gears or actually touching on something you talked about a second ago, you mentioned a personality test around sort of what are your biggest strengths or what are you kind of focusing on or what do you like to do that makes you feel productive. What is that test, and is that something that you think is really important in terms of optimizing around people’s strengths as supposed to focusing on fixing weaknesses?

[0:20:09.1] NP: It is. I don’t know the exact name of the test, it’s the one Intuit uses as an organization and we hired some consulting years ago, I forgot his name. Good guy. And we just copied the same person who test that Intuit use and the reason being is you can tell who people are in an organization and how they are and how they prefer to get work done and then you can just align up and try to do similar things, right? Like if you know how certain people, what motivates them and what makes them happy, then you know what you should be focusing on to try and help them accomplish goals or help the company become more productive.

[0:20:44.6] MB: I think in many ways, that same principle of kind of, leveraging or focusing on strength as opposed to trying to repair weakness, kind of dovetails back into the same concept of focus on the skill sets and the things that you’re really good at in terms of making money or doing what you love and then outsource or find somebody to do the other stuff, whether it’s driving you around, whether it’s cooking your breakfast or whatever it might be, right? It’s kind of the same two sides of the same coin in many ways.

[0:21:12.5] NP: Exactly, you got it right.

[0:21:15.0] MB: Another concept that I know you’re a big fan of and you’ve studied deeply is psychology and how to kind of leverage that. Obviously this podcast is focused deeply in psychology. Tell me some of the ways that you’ve leveraged psychology to help you be more productive, to influence people, and to kind of drive some of the results that you’ve achieved in your life?

[0:21:34.9] NP: Yeah, for me, we’re all humans, right? You have to figure out what makes people tick. Now you don’t want to use it like abuse them and manipulate. But in essence, by studying psychology and understanding it, you can get a much better understanding of what you should be doing or the messaging you can put on a website or what to use within meanings, et cetera. Just try to close more deals. What we end up doing our base of psychology is just how can you use the right words and phrases that correlates with people to make them understand what you’re trying to convey? So then that way you’re wasting less time and you’re going to the point and hopefully you’re causing more sales and creating a better experience for both people.

[0:22:18.8] MB: For someone listening that’s interested in whether it’s driving more business, sales, leads, whatever it might be, obviously you’re a deep marketing expert. How could they embark on that journey in terms of starting to understand some of the psychology pieces of that?

[0:22:33.4] NP: You’re asking, how can someone go about understanding psychology and learning it when they’re starting off?

[0:22:40.1] MB: Generally yes, but specifically within the context of kind of applying that to a marketing.

[0:22:45.3] NP: Sure, she have a Definitive Guide to Psychology on my blog, quickspot.com. It pretty much breaks down all the necessities, it’s like around 30,000 words all for free.

[0:22:55.2] MB: That’s awesome, well we’ll definitely include that in the show notes so that people can access that. What are one or two of those take away for listeners that might be driving or can’t access it right now.

[0:23:07.0] NP: Sure. So a few tips is, psychology is all about understanding people, right? The mind of the person, how you can get them to what makes them tick in essence. So one little simple tip is, don’t just assume that making some changes with your website copy or colors will affect sales. Why not survey people to really truly understand who your buyers are, who your customers are, what makes a certain people happy, love your product or service and what makes the people who are disappointed hate it.

Because if you can find out that hey, the people who love my product love it because XY and Z reason, you now know you can focus your messaging, your copy, et cetera just around those people. 

[0:23:50.2] MB: That’s a great tip. Circling back a little bit to some of the lessons from Hustle, there were a few terms or kind of ideas from the book that really resonated with me that I’d love to touch on. Tell me about the idea of “don’t rent your dreams”?

[0:24:05.6] NP: Yeah, the biggest problem right now is people and we discuss this a bit earlier, they’re not doing what they want in life, right? They’re working for someone else and not just working at a corporate job, but think about it, that barista at Starbucks, do you think they’re really doing what’s making them happy? No, they’re helping their manager, the company, achieve their dreams and their goals but not theirs. 

That’s what it comes down to is in an organization, whether you're doing your own business or whatever it may be, you need to make sure that you’re accomplishing what you want as well. It’s not just about helping the other person like your boss fulfill their destiny, their dreams, their goals. What about you, right? As an individual. You need to make sure that whatever you’re doing also benefits you as well.

[0:24:52.4] MB: What about the idea of manufacturing luck? I love that concept.

[0:24:57.7] NP: Yes, so the problem with most people is or the problem out there, most people feel that the people who are lucky or do well is like, “Oh they have good luck.” I myself don’t have a lot of luck. Well, that’s not always the case, a lot of times, you’re not feeling lucky because you’re not doing something that can help you generate luck, what I mean by that is if you don’t take action, you’ll never be luckier, the right things won’t happen. So Patrick, one of my coauthors, his son wanted to go find fish in Little Pond Creek, whatever you want to you want to call it.

So his son’s like, “Daddy, let’s go find some fish.” Dad looks down at the water and be like, “Shane, let’s go, there’s nothing there.” Shane looks back up at his dad, doesn’t say anything, jumps into the water like it’s shallow, right? Shuffles his feet, next thing you know, fish pop up. In essence, he manufactured his own luck, right? If you take action, you’re much more likely to get lucky. If you don’t take any action, how are you ever going to get lucky?

[0:25:58.2] MB: There’s a great quote that I think dovetails with that, which is, “Luck, this is where preparation meets opportunity.”

[0:26:03.7] NP: That’s an amazing quote, yup.

[0:26:06.0] MB: I think many people can often get stuck kind of feeling like things aren’t going their way or they’re never getting a lucky break. But the reality is, you can always find a way to take action and create results out of the world.

[0:26:19.0] NP: Yeah, no, totally. The biggest thing that we’ve learned with the whole process, especially writing the book, most people have it in them to do well. They just need the principles, the concepts that can help them take action in the right place and focus their energy on what matters versus just spinning their wheels and feeling like they’re stuck.

[0:26:40.3] MB: How does somebody differentiate between taking action on the things that really sort of drive results versus things that don’t matter?

[0:26:49.6] NP: It comes down to if you spend 10 minute just focusing on something that you think will help you accomplish your goals, your dreams, and if you end up feeling, after about 10 minutes if you feel like it’s helping you accomplish your goals and dreams, great. But if it doesn’t then you need to go back to the drawing board and try something else. It’s that simple, just do something for 10 minutes and you’ll know if it has a chance of helping you accomplish your goal.

[0:27:16.3] MB: So I know we’re ended on time and you’ve got to go. Tell me, where can people find you online?

[0:27:21.1] NP: Neilpatel.com.

[0:27:22.7] MB: Awesome. Well Neil, thank you very much for being a guest on the show and we really enjoyed hearing from you.
 
[0:27:27.0] NP: Thanks for having me.

October 13, 2016 /Lace Gilger
Focus & Productivity, Career Development